Does a girl need to play hard to get?
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Does a girl need to play hard to get to make the guy remains attracted to her? See, I am trying to give B a chance but I dunno why, I can sense that he is kinda 'colder' towards me now...Maybe it is becos we are both busy with exams and stuff, but the truth is I need someone even more during this time. Maybe I am being too demanding, I dunno. Last time, before the exam, he used to call me all the time to ask me out for meals but now he didn't call anymore, and I am the one who is calling him now and he won't be in his room. I think I should just continue to play hard to get like last time...and then he will pay more attention to me again hehehehe
But anyway just need opinions here...feel free to comment...
i.c.y -
Don't try to play that game.
Try getting hold of your own life and stay independent.
You're being needy now. And that's not a good sign as you'll in the losing end.
Trust me. Don't play hard to get. Just be yourself and have control over it. -
You are so forgiving. I wouldn't do it if I were you. As for the playing hard to get, can't comment, guys can't take subtle hints need to be drilled thru their damn thick skulls. So it might all seem a waste. Just my views. Short and sharp.
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What do you mean when you said I am so forgiving? And you wouldn't do what? Pls explain furtherOriginally posted by ditzy:You are so forgiving. I wouldn't do it if I were you. As for the playing hard to get, can't comment, guys can't take subtle hints need to be drilled thru their damn thick skulls. So it might all seem a waste. Just my views. Short and sharp.
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Well, you said ur giving B another chance and dunno why. Just personal opinion, somethings need not be justified with a valid answer.Originally posted by icyprincess:What do you mean when you said I am so forgiving? And you wouldn't do what? Pls explain further -
Originally posted by ditzy:Well, you said ur giving B another chance and dunno why. Just personal opinion, somethings need not be justified with a valid answer.
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Anyway, you do know that B is the one who treats me nicer one right? Not the one who broke my heart, that one is unforgiveable oledi hahahaOriginally posted by ditzy:Well, you said ur giving B another chance and dunno why. Just personal opinion, somethings need not be justified with a valid answer. -
Are both you couples?Originally posted by icyprincess:Does a girl need to play hard to get to make the guy remains attracted to her? See, I am trying to give B a chance but I dunno why, I can sense that he is kinda 'colder' towards me now...Maybe it is becos we are both busy with exams and stuff, but the truth is I need someone even more during this time. Maybe I am being too demanding, I dunno. Last time, before the exam, he used to call me all the time to ask me out for meals but now he didn't call anymore, and I am the one who is calling him now and he won't be in his room. I think I should just continue to play hard to get like last time...and then he will pay more attention to me again hehehehe But anyway just need opinions here...feel free to comment...
i.c.y
if not, then you have to take a step backward....try to relax and take this matter easy by going in as a friend. Then you will not expect too much or think too much. If you want his attention, just be yourself(best!!) and approach him sincerely as a friend at this moment. Dun play games..especially hide-and-seek; even kids at void deck nowadays dun play tat anymore.
Have fun and stay cool..icyprincess. -
HAAAAOriginally posted by kaobeikaobu:Are both you couples?
if not, then you have to take a step backward....try to relax and take this matter easy by going in as a friend. Then you will not expect too much or think too much. If you want his attention, just be yourself(best!!) and approach him sincerely as a friend at this moment. Dun play games..especially hide-and-seek; even kids at void deck nowadays dun play tat anymore.
Have fun and stay cool..icyprincess. -
The starting is always nice one lah.Originally posted by icyprincess:Anyway, you do know that B is the one who treats me nicer one right? Not the one who broke my heart, that one is unforgiveable oledi hahaha -
If i'm the guy, i'll juz give up after a few tries if the gal keep on play hard to get bcoz i dunno is it u interested or not, so i'll not waste times for all this games n go on... For ur case, is the guy also trying to be a challenge n play hard to get??Originally posted by icyprincess:Does a girl need to play hard to get to make the guy remains attracted to her? See, I am trying to give B a chance but I dunno why, I can sense that he is kinda 'colder' towards me now...Maybe it is becos we are both busy with exams and stuff, but the truth is I need someone even more during this time. Maybe I am being too demanding, I dunno. Last time, before the exam, he used to call me all the time to ask me out for meals but now he didn't call anymore, and I am the one who is calling him now and he won't be in his room. I think I should just continue to play hard to get like last time...and then he will pay more attention to me again hehehehe But anyway just need opinions here...feel free to comment...
i.c.y -
See, that's why I want to play hard to get. It seems like once the guy knows I like him, he will start distancing himself from me. Now you know why I am sick of guys. I feel like I can't trust them. I feel like the moment I am ready to entrust them with my heart, they will just walk away. I just dun understand guys anymore. I should just stay single my whole life and then I wouldn't have such headache.Originally posted by ditzy:The starting is always nice one lah. -
If the guy really love u a lot n he know tat he stand a chance to be with u den why did he wanna distance himself?? If i'm the guy, tat will be the happiest moment in my life...Originally posted by icyprincess:See, that's why I want to play hard to get. It seems like once the guy knows I like him, he will start distancing himself from me -
Some guys are the sweetest things, others can be real jerks. Haiz, this world ain't good enough for all of us.Originally posted by icyprincess:See, that's why I want to play hard to get. It seems like once the guy knows I like him, he will start distancing himself from me. Now you know why I am sick of guys. I feel like I can't trust them. I feel like the moment I am ready to entrust them with my heart, they will just walk away. I just dun understand guys anymore. I should just stay single my whole life and then I wouldn't have such headache.
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i agree. i'm also sick of guys.
haiz.... why?!?!?!
but hor boss, u still young leh.
give urself more time to explore.Originally posted by icyprincess:See, that's why I want to play hard to get. It seems like once the guy knows I like him, he will start distancing himself from me. Now you know why I am sick of guys. I feel like I can't trust them. I feel like the moment I am ready to entrust them with my heart, they will just walk away. I just dun understand guys anymore. I should just stay single my whole life and then I wouldn't have such headache. -
lemme tell u why he start to distance himself from you .. not ebcause u showed him tt u like him liao , is because u played tt game (which i hate so much) and he probably feels tt u r not interested in the first place and now perhaps u brok wif A and just seeking refuge or smthing, and he's just a sub or smthin'
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could be...in short, dun play games...things are simpler than what you see...moreover, its just wasting your time, also mental draining.Originally posted by beagle:lemme tell u why he start to distance himself from you .. not ebcause u showed him tt u like him liao , is because u played tt game (which i hate so much) and he probably feels tt u r not interested in the first place and now perhaps u brok wif A and just seeking refuge or smthing, and he's just a sub or smthin'
There's my answer
just be friends first...develop from there...it's just harder to revert back to friendship status after confessing than first knowing what he feels towards you. I guess you are quite young so don't have to jump on any wagon too quickly, but cautiously...
As for your insecurity.You have two choice - either choose to believe that there's someone special out there who will give you security and devoted love. or you can just stick to your original nun plan - then you have to source for a temple that serves tasty veg meals... -
Hmm....good good.Originally posted by beagle:lemme tell u why he start to distance himself from you .. not ebcause u showed him tt u like him liao , is because u played tt game (which i hate so much) and he probably feels tt u r not interested in the first place and now perhaps u brok wif A and just seeking refuge or smthing, and he's just a sub or smthin'
There's my answer
Trying to post constructive comments.
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It's not about playing hard to get... it's about being smart. Sometimes you bait, other times you hunt.
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If I were u, I will talk to him & find out why he is so distant rather than guessing. He may have a change of heart that's why he is avoiding u. Better to be open & communicate with him, don't play games
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As you said it earlier, both of you are preparing for your exams!
Isn't that the main priority for students now?
Go back to your books and dun think so much! -
U said B seems colder. Probably exam fever. But it could possibly be some signal that u gave him before. Think back. Did u say anything or indicate to him that u like another guy then? It may be that u did and he decides to back off, because he respects your decision. He also will not want to be hurt himself if he believes u only have feelings for another person. That is normal. He may not know u are giving him a chance. DO NOT play hard to get or u may regret it later on! As i said before in the other forum, just ask him! It's the 21st century already!Originally posted by icyprincess:Does a girl need to play hard to get to make the guy remains attracted to her? See, I am trying to give B a chance but I dunno why, I can sense that he is kinda 'colder' towards me now...Maybe it is becos we are both busy with exams and stuff, but the truth is I need someone even more during this time. Maybe I am being too demanding, I dunno. Last time, before the exam, he used to call me all the time to ask me out for meals but now he didn't call anymore, and I am the one who is calling him now and he won't be in his room. I think I should just continue to play hard to get like last time...and then he will pay more attention to me again hehehehe But anyway just need opinions here...feel free to comment...
i.c.y -
Originally posted by The Endless:
tt`s rite!!!
U said B seems colder. Probably exam fever. But it could possibly be some signal that u gave him before. Think back. Did u say anything or indicate to him that u like another guy then? It may be that u did and he decides to back off, because he respects your decision. He also will not want to be hurt himself if he believes u only have feelings for another person. That is normal. He may not know u are giving him a chance. [b]DO NOT play hard to get or u may regret it later on! As i said before in the other forum, just ask him! It's the 21st century already![/b]
playin hard to get don always get u wat u want..
sometimes it may juz backfire and get u into deeper and more complex troubles..
kindly tell him how u felt abt him..
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Playing hard to get does not apply to every guy... Some get piss off by tat, i'm also one of them.