had too much to drink
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recently, i went clubbing with a bunch of colleagues.
as the party slows down, all the gers went home. i was asked to stay by the big boss, on the reason tat he had not met a gal with can hold her liquor well for a long time, so i should stay and liven up the party. so i stayed. drank a little more and soon i was pretty stoned.
eventually everyone went back, left 2 of us. i couldnt walk in a straight line, so he held me while we made our way out. my mind is pretty sober. i know i am leaning on him. if i dun, i will never be able to make it out of the place alone.
when we reached the carpark at my house, we got out of the car. i was really dizzy. so he came round to hug me. then he sent me up my house. before he left, he hugged me again. said something he is really happy tat i was sporting enough to accompany him till the last drink. said its a long time since he has felt this way. (god knows wat he meant?) so we hugged for a while until i regained my balance. then he sent me up.
i went into the house. then looked back to ask him to go back. i didnt see him there, so i went to the lift to make sure he is gone.
that's when i saw him sitting at the stairs, head in his hands. so i asked him why is he still there, go home now! he turned to me and said this is a most freaking experience for him. he dunno what's happening. he said: this is very hot (literally hot or what? god knows). then darn he hugged me again. and started to grind himself into me (erm... is the term dry hump? not sure). i was like, oh my gosh, is he mad? he is my big boss!
i dun wan to offend him, so i jus lightly push him away and kept reminding him, it's late, you should be going back to your wife now. this continued for a while. then i dun really recall how, but he eventually went back.
shucks! so malu-ing!!!! wonder if he know what he is doing? does he always takes advantage of the situation like this? should i have been offended and show him so? or was i the bad one, who led him on?
i hope he is real drunk and he dun remember a single thing. (but if he were drunk, how could he drive?) if not, how to face him when i go back to work? darn, it feels like a mini "love affair"
what say you? couldn't sleep well... the scenes keep coming back... -
>puts Saturday classifieds on table<
new job..............
if u feel disturbed by this incident and feel awkward facing boss........ -
i can't. i can't find a job better than my current one.
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Some men are real jerks lah. They always interpret the wrong signals.
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then i guess u shouldnt have accompany him n drink ...
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yeah. maybe i am gullible. to me, he is a man of high & respectable position. thought he would have known his limits. afterall he is a good drinker.
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after a few drinks...man have e excuse of doing anything n can say it's e drinks's fault...very normal...Originally posted by expression:yeah. maybe i am gullible. to me, he is a man of high & respectable position. thought he would have known his limits. afterall he is a good drinker. -
yea. i guessed it's pretty normal. it's just that i am not a clubbing person so these things are foreign to me.
considering that it is normal, i guess there is nothing awkward in this? i mean when i see him at work again, things should be fine right? i bet he either forgot about it or will pretend nothing happened right? -
pretend nothing happened. U 2 were juz to drunk to do anything properly. That's why I dun club or drink at all. When u drunk u do stupid things, stupid things which would make u regret later on. If drinking is a must for social reasons. Control the speed of drinking to lessen the alcoholic effects.
Just pretend nothing happened. Keep things strictly business/professional r/s from now on. This is not only for ur safety but also for his family too. -
i'm sure it's going to be a one-time freak incident. it's probably so common for him - to be doing similar things to any gal.
call me silly, but until now i cannot put the incident out of my mind. keeps feeling i'm letting my bf down. those images keep flashing through my head.
please dun say i am making a fuss out of nothing. because the truth is i have never been close with any other guy other than my bf.
if only i know what he was thinking, what he is thinking now. but i will never know (cos it will be stupid to ask)
now just hoping that he won't end my career because of the incident. -
Originally posted by expression:recently, i went clubbing with a bunch of colleagues.
as the party slows down, all the gers went home. i was asked to stay by the big boss, on the reason tat he had not met a gal with can hold her liquor well for a long time, so i should stay and liven up the party. so i stayed. drank a little more and soon i was pretty stoned.
eventually everyone went back, left 2 of us. i couldnt walk in a straight line, so he held me while we made our way out. my mind is pretty sober. i know i am leaning on him. if i dun, i will never be able to make it out of the place alone.
when we reached the carpark at my house, we got out of the car. i was really dizzy. so he came round to hug me. then he sent me up my house. before he left, he hugged me again. said something he is really happy tat i was sporting enough to accompany him till the last drink. said its a long time since he has felt this way. (god knows wat he meant?) so we hugged for a while until i regained my balance. then he sent me up.
i went into the house. then looked back to ask him to go back. i didnt see him there, so i went to the lift to make sure he is gone.
that's when i saw him sitting at the stairs, head in his hands. so i asked him why is he still there, go home now! he turned to me and said this is a most freaking experience for him. he dunno what's happening. he said: this is very hot (literally hot or what? god knows). then darn he hugged me again. and started to grind himself into me (erm... is the term dry hump? not sure). i was like, oh my gosh, is he mad? he is my big boss!
i dun wan to offend him, so i jus lightly push him away and kept reminding him, it's late, you should be going back to your wife now. this continued for a while. then i dun really recall how, but he eventually went back.
shucks! so malu-ing!!!! wonder if he know what he is doing? does he always takes advantage of the situation like this? should i have been offended and show him so? or was i the bad one, who led him on?
i hope he is real drunk and he dun remember a single thing. (but if he were drunk, how could he drive?) if not, how to face him when i go back to work? darn, it feels like a mini "love affair"
what say you? couldn't sleep well... the scenes keep coming back... There is nothing wrong with you; your womanly instinct kicks in and made you do the appropriate thing.
You hold high respect for your boss professionally and I can completely understand how this image can shatter within one night. Don't worry, there shouldn't be any complication with your boss - just that this awkwardness in you has to dissolve gradually with time.
Behave, act and remain the usual way you always do. This is NOT a mini love affairs - you are merely expose to how vulnerable a man is when his relationship has weak foundation or when he is avoiding certain problems or simply plain lust.
We learn new things everyday.
We make new discovery everyday.
P.S: You are still you - do not let negative circumstance tell you otherwise. You still retain the same personal value, same status, same psychological position. Keep it this way.
Cheers -
Yunhaier: Thanks! Your words are really comforting.
i was afraid some forumers will actually say i deserved it cos i am a loose woman?? -
You did no wrong, just be xtra careful next time and avoid these kind of situations - even with guy friends u have known for long time.
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opsss..you have crush on your boss..and still thinking of the incident again and again? This is the first time you had close contact with a guy beside your bf, hahah...so it must be some special feeling and something new...and guess what!! you like it!!
good luck to your bf...
just my assumption -
assumption kills. So don't practice. Even if you do, don't show it or tell others. It's sick to know of such person.Originally posted by chguy:opsss..you have crush on your boss..and still thinking of the incident again and again? This is the first time you had close contact with a guy beside your bf, hahah...so it must be some special feeling and something new...and guess what!! you like it!!
good luck to your bf...
just my assumption
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seems like he tried to get you drunk so that he could advance on you..... oldest trick in the book with guys. Good to see you were strong enough to resist....
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jie jiu xing xiong?
use drunk as an excuse to take your advantage? -
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well..how would u know actually whats happening..maybe he just pretend as if hes drunk but actually not ?
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this is lame. you assume way too much. why don't you assume that i was the one who plotted everything and i had so much charm to seduce him?????Originally posted by chguy:opsss..you have crush on your boss..and still thinking of the incident again and again? This is the first time you had close contact with a guy beside your bf, hahah...so it must be some special feeling and something new...and guess what!! you like it!!
good luck to your bf...
just my assumption
if a rape victim can't help it but recalls the incident, it means that she has fallen in love with her rapist? lame lame lame... tsk tsk... -
man... for some stupid reason i thot it was a guy typing this problem and i was like
then i realised u're probably female. took me a while. must be my severe lack of sleep...
anyway, back to the problem, keep your job, but stop going out with him. unless of course, you want to develop a reln with him (for wat ever reason, none of our business...) and if so, do it while both are sober!
seems pretty obvious which choise u will choose out of the above two lar.
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Originally posted by jOhO:man... for some stupid reason i thot it was a guy typing this problem and i was like
then i realised u're probably female. took me a while. must be my severe lack of sleep...
anyway, back to the problem, keep your job, but stop going out with him. unless of course, you want to develop a reln with him (for wat ever reason, none of our business...) and if so, do it while both are sober!
seems pretty obvious which choise u will choose out of the above two lar. 
this is so hilarious. imagine two guys doing the things i described. haha. you must really have a terrible lack of sleep. then again, maybe i should i indicated in bold that i am a gal.
i will definitely keep my job. can't imagine myself landing another job that pays this well in the near future. i am only worried that his embarassment (if any) will result in me being sacked. hope he is professional enough not to do this. -
got ar? hmm didn't notice.. anyway sometimes something wierd just gives a (wrong) impression and it sticks there until it's really obviously wrong then the impression changes. that's why first impressions are always so strong.Originally posted by expression:
this is so hilarious. imagine two guys doing the things i described. haha. you must really have a terrible lack of sleep. then again, maybe i should i indicated in bold that i am a gal.
i will definitely keep my job. can't imagine myself landing another job that pays this well in the near future. i am only worried that his embarassment (if any) will result in me being sacked. hope he is professional enough not to do this.
anywayzz.. i dunno how to ans ur qn. i dunno how prefessional he is, or wat type of work u do that u have to hold on to it. but the situation now i guess is under control as long as u dun see him outside the office lor. -
the good thing is, i won't get to see him until 2 weeks later because i will be out of office for a while. hopefully, by then i would have forgotten all about it. meanwhile, i will get my colleagues to help me 'listen' up - on whether he spread any rumours about me.
my work is nothing spectacular. just that considering i am only less than 2 years working experience, i am paid way ahead of my peers. so it is almost impossible that i find another job as well paid as the current one.
funny thing is, when he was still sober, he told me i should stay in his company and let him prove to me that my prospects will be good. hahaha... sounds cryptic? -
stay on and see how things go...
dun think too much on ur part...