had too much to drink
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Originally posted by M©+square:assumption kills. So don't practice. Even if you do, don't show it or tell others. It's sick to know of such person.
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Don't think too much... Thinking too much might leads to quite unhealthy effects... What done cannot be undone.. Look forward...Originally posted by expression:yeah. maybe i am gullible. to me, he is a man of high & respectable position. thought he would have known his limits. afterall he is a good drinker.
It seems quite unlikely that he'll sack you or anything if you just pretend that nothing has happened... (though there's a chance that he might, but no point worrying about that for now as it's slim chance and not much within your control...)
Just be careful next time when you out partying... Take necessary precautions if you have to... Afterall, you're a lady... And it seems for now, quite a vulnerable one in a certain way?
If he don't make advances, it's ok... If he does, better job or not... It's always advisable for you to change your job... Or alternatively, you can just show no interest in him (but avoid a direct rejection)...
If his advances continues, then it's time for you to step up... Find a new job... Turn the table if you have to.... -
thanks for all the replies. Just want to give an update...
i went back to office today. felt very nervous, not sure what to do when i see him. thank goodness he was in a meeting. i thought i won't have to meet him face to face. but his meeting ended. then he called me into his room. was very friendly to me and asked me why am i back in office. i was kinda stunned. but i replied him in a smiling manner and left his room.
abt half hour later, he asked me into his room again, to talk about work. he was uncharacteristically cheerful. usually he is stern when he talk about work. i don't wish to read too much into this. hopefully he acts differently only because he is in an exceptionally good mood today.
when he left for the day, i told my very close n trusted colleague aboutt the incident. she told me that on that day, he told her he will send me home (my colleague was supposed to send me home). my colleague agreed because she always thought he was exceptionally nice to me and she thought he likes me as a younger sister, hence he will take care of me. (he loved to give me friendly pats on my head when we were out drinking in the past)
now she thinks she has misread him and she feels he actually do like me in the more romantic sense. and he was taking advantage of the situation that night. she feels it was preplanned (otherwise he would not have insisted to send me home - there are many other colleagues who lived nearer to me)
well, i hope not. but whatever it is, since he does not show any recollections of that incident and he is still friendly towards me, i will try my best to forget the whole incident. though frankly speaking, having my colleague telling me she thinks that he really likes me, makes me quite apprehensive. but i guess there is nothing i can do about it. -
Not a very wise move... Make doubly SURE that your 'trusted' colleague is someone who can really keep things to herself... Else, she might just land you in a situation you don't wanna be indirectly....Originally posted by expression:when he left for the day, i told my very close n trusted colleague aboutt the incident. she told me that on that day, he told her he will send me home (my colleague was supposed to send me home). my colleague agreed because she always thought he was exceptionally nice to me and she thought he likes me as a younger sister, hence he will take care of me. (he loved to give me friendly pats on my head when we were out drinking in the past) -
A teacher gave her fifth grade class an assignment:
Get their parents to tell them a story with a moral at the end of it.
The next day the kids came back and one by one began to tell their stories.
Ashley said, "My father's a farmer and we have a lot of egg laying hens.
One time we were taking our eggs to market in a basket on the front seat of
the car when we hit a big bump in the road and all the eggs went flying and
broke and made a mess."
"What's the moral of the story?" asked the teacher.
"Don't put all your eggs in one basket!"
"Very good," said the teacher.
Next little Sarah raised her hand and said, "Our family are farmers too.
But we raise chickens for the meat market. We had a dozen eggs one time, but
when they hatched we only got ten live chicks, and the moral to this story
is, "don't count your chickens before they're hatched."
"That was a fine story Sarah. Michael, do you have a story to share?"
"Yes, my daddy told me this story about my Aunt Karen.
Aunt Karen was a flight engineer in the Gulf War and her plane got hit.
She had to bail out over enemy territory and all she had was a bottle of
whiskey, a machine gun and a machete. She drank the whiskey on the way down
so it wouldn't break and then she landed right in the middle of 100 enemy
troops. She killed seventy of them with the machine gun until she ran out of
bullets. Then she killed twenty more with the machete until the blade broke.
And then she killed the last ten with her bare hands."
"Good heavens," said the horrified teacher,
"what kind of moral did your daddy tell you from that horrible story?"
"Stay away from Aunt Karen when she's been drinking." -
I am shocked that you actually told your colleague! You have very poor judgement. If you really value ur career in ur firm, you should not tell anyone about the incident esp those working in the same firm as you.Originally posted by Devil1976:Not a very wise move... Make doubly SURE that your 'trusted' colleague is someone who can really keep things to herself... Else, she might just land you in a situation you don't wanna be indirectly.... -
How do you actually feel about him? have a feeling that he might think that he may get a chance with you 'coz to him, you didn't seem to mind what happened that night... like it was mutual or something ? however i totally understand the situation you were caught in. Guess if I would had reacted the same as you. Guess all i can say is, shit happens?
I'm dating my big boss and all i can say is, it's isn't a good thing to eat and shit at the place ? -
Probably he think you are meek. He will ask for seconds..beware.Originally posted by expression:...was very friendly to me and asked me why am i back in office. i was kinda stunned.. -
hmm... i admit i am gullible and easily influeneced. hence my bad judgement to confide in my colleague. i trust my colleague but now i understand you can never take chances with such sensitive topics. whatever it is, it has been done, cannot be undone. i can only pray that they are really trustworthy and will not breathe a single word to anyone else. otherwise, i only have myself to blame and i have no choice but to accept it. in that case, at least it's a lesson learnt.
he is still not his usual self - overly friendly today. well, i have decided to put all these behind me. i don't care about his true intentions - whether he was too lusty, whether he really has some feelings for me, whether he is going to do anything to me again, whether he is going to sack me.
at the end of the day, what has happened has happened. whatever is going to happen in the future, there is no point for me to worry about it now. i will just ensure that i do not allow future similar opportunities for him. meanwhile i will just do my work as it is.
to all the people who responded, thanks for taking time. appreciate them... & wish me good luck! -
Good move...Originally posted by expression:hmm... i admit i am gullible and easily influeneced. hence my bad judgement to confide in my colleague. i trust my colleague but now i understand you can never take chances with such sensitive topics. whatever it is, it has been done, cannot be undone. i can only pray that they are really trustworthy and will not breathe a single word to anyone else. otherwise, i only have myself to blame and i have no choice but to accept it. in that case, at least it's a lesson learnt.
he is still not his usual self - overly friendly today. well, i have decided to put all these behind me. i don't care about his true intentions - whether he was too lusty, whether he really has some feelings for me, whether he is going to do anything to me again, whether he is going to sack me.
at the end of the day, what has happened has happened. whatever is going to happen in the future, there is no point for me to worry about it now. i will just ensure that i do not allow future similar opportunities for him. meanwhile i will just do my work as it is.
to all the people who responded, thanks for taking time. appreciate them... & wish me good luck! -
Well... You can say that again....Originally posted by springtime:How do you actually feel about him? have a feeling that he might think that he may get a chance with you 'coz to him, you didn't seem to mind what happened that night... like it was mutual or something ? however i totally understand the situation you were caught in. Guess if I would had reacted the same as you. Guess all i can say is, shit happens?
I'm dating my big boss and all i can say is, it's isn't a good thing to eat and shit at the place ?