affairs of the heart...
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ok... this is the scenerio of me and this gal called A...
i have been liking her for about a couple of months already... at first i only told my gd frend about it... but as times goes by more and more ppl knew abt it... and apparently... she knows it too...
she did not shun away frm me neither did she act awkwardly towards me when we met in class...
i did not haf the courage to tell her how i felt for her till now... she has a bf..
upon the advice of my frend i decided to tell her wad i feel.. and i did.... when i asked her do you think we will ever develope into a relationship her answer was... sure... but not now... and tat concludes our conversation...
wad shld i do now.. as in i will still see her when she comes from classes i know i cannot afford to act awkward and stuff but is there anything which i can do to improve on this situation? -
how old are u all??
if u still in lower sec i suggest u look into ur studies..
if not u can try to wait for her..
her `sure ` ans could men that she`s interested in u too..
budden she`s already got a bf.. so wat u can do now is to take the `wait and see` attitude for the time bin..
don try to tink too much..
when love comes it comes..
and when it comes, no force in the world can block it
cheer up my fren.. -
since she said "sure" then she hint hint to u already what.. dun wait already.. next.. ask her out.. then if she ok with it. then 2 time first till she dump her bf for u lor.. maybe she just want to confirm u better than her bf first then dump him what. haha
go go go!!!! -
got bf, means, hands off...
simple right? -
yeah... haf to wait til they naturally break..Originally posted by the Bear:got bf, means, hands off...
simple right?
don be the 3rd party..
u won like a 3rd party to come huanting u too rite?? -
if u really like her, u can just be around her lor... and if u want to have a fulfilling rship with her, u will need to give her time to end the previous one and get over it too...Originally posted by tir4misu:ok... this is the scenerio of me and this gal called A...
i have been liking her for about a couple of months already... at first i only told my gd frend about it... but as times goes by more and more ppl knew abt it... and apparently... she knows it too...
she did not shun away frm me neither did she act awkwardly towards me when we met in class...
i did not haf the courage to tell her how i felt for her till now... she has a bf..
upon the advice of my frend i decided to tell her wad i feel.. and i did.... when i asked her do you think we will ever develope into a relationship her answer was... sure... but not now... and tat concludes our conversation...
wad shld i do now.. as in i will still see her when she comes from classes i know i cannot afford to act awkward and stuff but is there anything which i can do to improve on this situation?
if u cant wait, u can move on and just be her friend... -
Originally posted by tir4misu:ok... this is the scenerio of me and this gal called A...
i have been liking her for about a couple of months already... at first i only told my gd frend about it... but as times goes by more and more ppl knew abt it... and apparently... she knows it too...
she did not shun away frm me neither did she act awkwardly towards me when we met in class...
i did not haf the courage to tell her how i felt for her till now... she has a bf..
upon the advice of my frend i decided to tell her wad i feel.. and i did.... when i asked her do you think we will ever develope into a relationship her answer was... sure... but not now... and tat concludes our conversation...
wad shld i do now.. as in i will still see her when she comes from classes i know i cannot afford to act awkward and stuff but is there anything which i can do to improve on this situation?
She has a bf; well it doesn't matter, if your original objective of this whole issue is merely to get her as your gf. All is fair in love and war; you could 'fight' but you didn't.
Obviously, you remain passive throughout your 'supposingly' chase and the news of your liking for her spread uncontrollably - you do happen to realise that when this happens, the odds of succeeding in having a relationship with her diminished greatly?
Why?
Think about this: if you did minimal in the chase and the whole world knows about your liking for her, there will be BOUND to be people who will tease her about it and if she has no feelings for you, think of the reaction? And if I were to throw you to someone whom you may not have good feelings/impression about in a match-making way - will you be awkward? Definitely.
And to some extend, some people avoids and behave differently. I encountered far too much cases similiar to yours. She may appear the same, but an invisible reaction did took place- you just didn't know what was it.
Next point: She will not see you as a friend anyone, she sees you as someone trying to chase her. Can you imagine anything you tried to do, even before doing it, she already knows your overall intention in trying to woo her? This kills seduction and raise defences. In gaming term: difficulty level increase by two.
Then what's next?
You wanna wait?
I learn this through experience: Wait cannot gain love - it only produce self pity at the end.
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You are someone I know.
What to do? I guess I spoke.
Rant to me if things are going tough for you emotionally - you will never walk alone.
P.S: Thank God you know me, you little tmd.
Cheers -
yunhaier pro~ last para speaks fully!
actions pls~ dun think anymore~! she know ur intentions~ -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
u said to fight cause wait will juz bring me self-pity... but she has a bf and wad do i haf to fight wif... be4 i even started i haf already lost half the war... in gaming terms: im "owned"... She has a bf; well it doesn't matter, if your original objective of this whole issue is merely to get her as your gf. All is fair in love and war; you could 'fight' but you didn't.
Obviously, you remain passive throughout your 'supposingly' chase and the news of your liking for her spread uncontrollably - you do happen to realise that when this happens, the odds of succeeding in having a relationship with her diminished greatly?
Why?
Think about this: if you did minimal in the chase and the whole world knows about your liking for her, there will be BOUND to be people who will tease her about it and if she has no feelings for you, do you think she will feel good about it? Generally no. If I were to throw you to someone whom you may not have good feelings/impression about in a match-making way - will you be awkward? Definitely.
And to some extend, some people avoids and behave differently. I encountered far too much cases similiar to yours.
Next point: She will not see you as a friend anyone, [b]she sees you as someone trying to chase her. Can you imagine anything you tried to do, even before doing it, she already knows your overall intention in trying wooing her? This kills seduction and raise defences. In gaming term, maybe it is known as: difficulty level increase by two.
Then what's next?
You wanna wait?
I learn this through experience: Wait cannot gain love - it only produce self pity at the end.
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You are someone I know.
What to do? I guess I spoke.
Rant to me if things are going tough for you emotionally - you will never walk alone.
P.S: Thank God you know me you little tmd.
Cheers [/b]
also.. i do not wish to be a 3rd party in this whole event of BGR.. wat i see in this relationship is juz plainly.... get to know her better be closer to her and if im lucky im able to be a frend of hers.. though i would honestly love to have developments in this "relationship"
ps... thx yun for tat piece of advice -
no.. didn't loseOriginally posted by tir4misu:u said to fight cause wait will juz bring me self-pity... but she has a bf and wad do i haf to fight wif... be4 i even started i haf already lost half the war... in gaming terms: im "owned"...
she have accepted u into part of her heart.
search for it yourself -
thats wad i thought and would like to believe but as time goes by... i seriously wonder is that true....Originally posted by ^sylvia^:no.. didn't lose
she have accepted u into part of her heart.
search for it yourself
i would choose the path of waiting and thus expressing to her again when the opportunity rises but is waiting deemed as losing... a slow wat to self suicide... -
usually will end up self destructing. but not imply that all's definite.Originally posted by tir4misu:thats wad i thought and would like to believe but as time goes by... i seriously wonder is that true....
i would choose the path of waiting and thus expressing to her again when the opportunity rises but is waiting deemed as losing... a slow wat to self suicide...
if you choose to wait and start more proposals, then mi gib u all mi support la haha~ pls.. u grab ur chance~ -
haha thx...Originally posted by ^sylvia^:usually will end up self destructing. but not imply that all's definite.
if you choose to wait and start more proposals, then mi gib u all mi support la haha~ pls.. u grab ur chance~
guess i will juz wait and play by ear..
although chances are slim but still... its my fault at the start how i treated and managed this "chase"...
hence... this shld be wad i get...
thx.. -
not slim actually.. mi boi just like u last time when wooing mi..Originally posted by tir4misu:haha thx...
guess i will juz wait and play by ear..
although chances are slim but still... its my fault at the start how i treated and managed this "chase"...
hence... this shld be wad i get...
thx..
im with mi ex actually, but due to his sincerity, i accepted him..
i blive u sure can make it de~
jia you oh~ hao le.. mi finish mi toktok.. go orhorh le
u too sleep early.. jia you~ -
Originally posted by tir4misu:u said to fight cause wait will juz bring me self-pity... but she has a bf and wad do i haf to fight wif... be4 i even started i haf already lost half the war... in gaming terms: im "owned"...
also.. i do not wish to be a 3rd party in this whole event of BGR.. wat i see in this relationship is juz plainly.... get to know her better be closer to her and if im lucky im able to be a frend of hers.. though i would honestly love to have developments in this "relationship"
ps... thx yun for tat piece of advice I said before 'Boyfriend doesn't matter if your objective is to get her as a gf.' But most people give up because they can't secure happiness from both side if that happens. They can't see themselves as an alternative source of happiness and they failed to muster enough courage.
Basically you got only two options: Fight if you want to get her - move on if you don't wished to interfere with their relationship. I told you before: expression of feelings has an intention irregardless of how you go about doing it. Everything has a timing and a place for it - since you randomly told her about it - you got to presume that you are merely expressing and not expecting. You can't expect to win over a girl when you have not won her emotionally first. Being a good friend is nothing; you are not even a close friend.
You can't be hanging in the air; trying to move on with life while sticking aroud the corner, hoping for a miracle. In love, you are bound to wound yourself. Longer you retain in that mode, longer you bleed without knowing.
P.S: In fact, I already knew you would slip into this mode; I read your birth chart remember? Libra Descendant will indirectly produce such effect - CloUdiSm Remix III state Libra Trap. Explain to you the next time I see you. Get hold of yourself because you are experiencing new emotions - learn to understand the dynamic of chase, expression and emotions. Grasp the hidden treasure beneath the idea and you will see why.
/me pat pat
Cheers -
Are you sure of your feelings?
A friend of mine left his girlfriend for another. In the end all three ended up hurt and left with nothing.
I suggest you let things remain status quo. -
hi tir4misu,
i feel that u shd juz try to stay fren with her, instead of trying to develop anything with her, becos she have a bf...
and whats more, if she can 2 timer u or shd i say so easily to be fight with, can u guarantee if u got her next time, she wont do the same to u? how will u feel if ur gf is being fought with others? or she is 2 timer u? think about it..
its hurtful, so beware... -
How old are the both of you?Originally posted by tir4misu:ok... this is the scenerio of me and this gal called A...
i have been liking her for about a couple of months already... at first i only told my gd frend about it... but as times goes by more and more ppl knew abt it... and apparently... she knows it too...
she did not shun away frm me neither did she act awkwardly towards me when we met in class...
i did not haf the courage to tell her how i felt for her till now... she has a bf..
upon the advice of my frend i decided to tell her wad i feel.. and i did.... when i asked her do you think we will ever develope into a relationship her answer was... sure... but not now... and tat concludes our conversation...
wad shld i do now.. as in i will still see her when she comes from classes i know i cannot afford to act awkward and stuff but is there anything which i can do to improve on this situation?
Though there can be alternatives to this scenerio, I would prefer to see her as a mature girl for now... So don't push your luck... And the 'alternative'? You could be going for an unstable immature gf?
~Good luck... -
I am not sure how pple look at this... but this is my own view...
If u go after the gal when she is still with her bf, and she lets u into her heart, somehow it maybe she dont know what she really wants... she maybe always looking for 'better' guys... so even when u are with her in the future, same thing may happen...
However, we can also look at this in another point of view... actually the gal knows what she want, and so when a better one comes along, she hop... as usual same thing can happen later on...
so i still feel that it is better for u to act only when she has already have a clean break with her ex... else pray that she is mature enuff to know what she wants... -
well... she is young but very matured in her thoughts....
thx alot all of u for the advice given i will continue to fight BUT of course into consideration that she has a bf too... and take things as they come...
like wad Imperfect said.. If u go after the gal when she is still with her bf, and she lets u into her heart, somehow it maybe she dont know what she really wants... she maybe always looking for 'better' guys... so even when u are with her in the future, same thing may happen...
i seroiusly wont wan that to happen.. -
Originally posted by tir4misu:
good points from imperfect that u've gain good thoughts of facts and reality. no matter what u do, u recieved mi support~
well... she is young [b]but very matured in her thoughts....
thx alot all of u for the advice given i will continue to fight BUT of course into consideration that she has a bf too... and take things as they come...
like wad Imperfect said.. If u go after the gal when she is still with her bf, and she lets u into her heart, somehow it maybe she dont know what she really wants... she maybe always looking for 'better' guys... so even when u are with her in the future, same thing may happen...
i seroiusly wont wan that to happen..[/b] -
thx all for ur helps and advice
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no problemssssSsssSsssss~
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Originally posted by tir4misu:
well... she is young [b]but very matured in her thoughts....
thx alot all of u for the advice given i will continue to fight BUT of course into consideration that she has a bf too... and take things as they come...
like wad Imperfect said.. If u go after the gal when she is still with her bf, and she lets u into her heart, somehow it maybe she dont know what she really wants... she maybe always looking for 'better' guys... so even when u are with her in the future, same thing may happen...
i seroiusly wont wan that to happen..[/b]
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if dis kind of girl able to two time for u and dump current bf.. muz get prepared she will do da same if she find some1 better den u ..Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):since she said "sure" then she hint hint to u already what.. dun wait already.. next.. ask her out.. then if she ok with it. then 2 time first till she dump her bf for u lor.. maybe she just want to confirm u better than her bf first then dump him what. haha go go go!!!!