affairs of the heart...
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Dont do unto others.. wad u dun wan others to do unto u..
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Originally posted by tir4misu:
How do u measure mature enough???
well... she is young [b]but very matured in her thoughts....
thx alot all of u for the advice given i will continue to fight BUT of course into consideration that she has a bf too... and take things as they come...
like wad Imperfect said.. If u go after the gal when she is still with her bf, and she lets u into her heart, somehow it maybe she dont know what she really wants... she maybe always looking for 'better' guys... so even when u are with her in the future, same thing may happen...
i seroiusly wont wan that to happen..[/b]
there are no absolutes in this world... one gal dumping her bf for a better guys doesnt mean all gals will do the same... one gal not knowing what she wants doesnt mean all gals dont know, so if u never try u will never know which kind is she unless u take your time to understand her but that doesnt mean she will stay with u coz she may find u two not compatible after getting more intimate with you... but just get prepared if you wanna try... -
I would say don't wait for things to happen. Like YunHaiEr said, Fight!
Just be normal self. Continue to express your good intentions for her but don't push it too far. I feel you MUST not go into the extend that the whole world knows that you like her.
Must give some space for her to think and feel. Show her that you are one that can give her happiness.
It's hard to satisfy all parties in any relationship. You could get yourself prepared now if she choose her boyfriend instead of you.
Follow your heart...
There are so many different cases in love that i don't know which is the best route for you or for me to take.
Just follow your heart and hope no regrets...
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well... i would say that she is a person who knows wad she wans seroiusly and is calm when it comes to the matters of the heart.. 
she does not lack suitors and hence her attitude towards BGR is (i think) very relaxed... good thing to haf not a bad thing without mindset... saying that she will 2time... i do not believe that would actually happen... and to say tat i will be a 3rd party in this relationship will not be substantial... cause.... im plainly a passer-by in this story a by stander who simply has a crush on the main actress... 
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thx WuGui well...Originally posted by WuGuiDan:I would say don't wait for things to happen. Like YunHaiEr said, Fight!
Just be normal self. Continue to express your good intentions for her but don't push it too far. I feel you MUST not go into the extend that the whole world knows that you like her.
Must give some space for her to think and feel. Show her that you are one that can give her happiness.
It's hard to satisfy all parties in any relationship. You could get yourself prepared now if she choose her boyfriend instead of you.
Follow your heart...
There are so many different cases in love that i don't know which is the best route for you or for me to take.
Just follow your heart and hope no regrets...
I'm still learning...
im trying my best now in any event to be natural and myself and not awkward.. BUT the not letting the whole word know part... cannot be undone... cause.. i juz realised tat once u tell a person that u like someone... u must be prepared that everyone around u will soon know about it. frankly speaking like wad YunHaiEr said.... im not even considered a close/good friend of hers... merely a hi bye frend which on the phone told her of what i felt towards her.. and believe me.... the only time i get to kinda conversat wif her is when she comes online... tts it... ( pathetic huh... ) im not sure if im able to supply her wif any happiness... (in fact... this is kinda.. my first try in a relationship) juz wan to see her happy and "xing fu" in wadever she does..
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are u a plain passer-by... only she knows and u will only find out if u do something and not just wait...Originally posted by tir4misu: well... i would say that she is a person who knows wad she wans seroiusly and is calm when it comes to the matters of the heart.. she does not lack suitors and hence her attitude towards BGR is (i think) very relaxed... good thing to haf not a bad thing without mindset... saying that she will 2time... i do not believe that would actually happen... and to say tat i will be a 3rd party in this relationship will not be substantial... cause.... im plainly a passer-by in this story a by stander who simply has a crush on the main actress... -
I dunno abt u pple but I dun like how the girl answered. I dun think anyone here will like to her reply if she were to give the same answer to some dork keen on her if ur her bf.
tir4misu ur a passive person, all thoughts little action. That's not gonna help. Whether in love or in life, happiness and success dun come if u dun try hard enuff. If u really like the girl, u should shelf ur reservations, cut loose the mental baggages weighing u down and get to know the girl better first. Thereafter u can assess the situation better b4 u proceed.
Even if things dun turn ur way, at least u won't be pondering over the "what-ifs". Take it like a man and move on. U'll get stronger and better each time if u keep a positive attitude. And when the next girl comes along (and she definitely will), your chances of success will increases if u learn from ur experience.
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I agree... all thoughts and no actions will bring you nowhere...Originally posted by Boy Next Door => []:I dunno abt u pple but I dun like how the girl answered. I dun think anyone here will like to her reply if she were to give the same answer to some dork keen on her if ur her bf.
tir4misu ur a passive person, all thoughts little action. That's not gonna help. Whether in love or in life, happiness and success dun come if u dun try hard enuff. If u really like the girl, u should shelf ur reservations, cut loose the mental baggages weighing u down and get to know the girl better first. Thereafter u can assess the situation better b4 u proceed.
Even if things dun turn ur way, at least u won't be pondering over the "what-ifs". Take it like a man and move on. U'll get stronger and better each time if u keep a positive attitude. And when the next girl comes along (and she definitely will), your chances of success will increases if u learn from ur experience.
All the best.
esp if u are held back by all the what-ifs... and you may just lose a chance... still same words... u need to explore and act on the object to find out more abt it... eg. a black box, by looking at it only u wont know what is inside... u need to physically open it up to see... there mayb nothing, more boxes, or anything...
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hmmm.... any tips??
cause i cant juz suddenly sms her rite... its too absurd.. talking to her online is more "normal" but shr hasnt been logging in lately... i will only get to see her in person on weekends when we haf classes...
is there any tips on how to get onto closer terms wif her?
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x2!!Originally posted by Accela:erm.. how bout sms her when you don't see her online for long period of time, asking how is she, etc. normally, even out of courtesy, she will reply de, just don't overdo it, very irritating. weekend right, see you can join her for a meal or something. a lil chit chat can go a long way.
its a start, good luck dude! i wish you all the best!
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thx thx thx thx thx all for this informations^^
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You only talk to her when both of you are online? And you want her to be your galfriend? I am sure you are attracted to her beauty. When a person is in love, he/she sees another party as perfect. I wonder how the boyfriend felt when he knew about it. When she hinted you that you might be her future bf, she is just giving you some hope. In her line, there might be some other guys queuing. Why seeing a tree and miss the forest?
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well...Originally posted by dreamykite:You only talk to her when both of you are online? And you want her to be your galfriend? I am sure you are attracted to her beauty. When a person is in love, he/she sees another party as perfect. I wonder how the boyfriend felt when he knew about it. When she hinted you that you might be her future bf, she is just giving you some hope. In her line, there might be some other guys queuing. Why seeing a tree and miss the forest? .... cause i havnt seen another tree which makes me so crazy over as yet... -
Are there no better gal around already? Why do you have to covet on others' girlfriend? Like WrX_STi mentioned in his posting before, she will definitely dump you in the future when better guys come along and expresses interest in her.Originally posted by tir4misu:ok... this is the scenerio of me and this gal called A...
i have been liking her for about a couple of months already... at first i only told my gd frend about it... but as times goes by more and more ppl knew abt it... and apparently... she knows it too...
she did not shun away frm me neither did she act awkwardly towards me when we met in class...
i did not haf the courage to tell her how i felt for her till now... she has a bf..
upon the advice of my frend i decided to tell her wad i feel.. and i did.... when i asked her do you think we will ever develope into a relationship her answer was... sure... but not now... and tat concludes our conversation...
wad shld i do now.. as in i will still see her when she comes from classes i know i cannot afford to act awkward and stuff but is there anything which i can do to improve on this situation?
I will not help you to gain your own selfish happiness in the expense of another guy's demise. But I can tell you one thing, if you really like or love her heaps....go ahead and woo her. Do not worry too much because if you really love her, you must be ready to face all the consequences in your own future. Nothing comes free, no action not counted.
Remember....what goes around, comes around.
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hey parn rest assure this.... i will try my best to fight for her BUT also note this.... in any case where i will break her and her bf up THAT i will NOT do....Originally posted by parn:Are there no better gal around already? Why do you have to covet on others' girlfriend? Like WrX_STi mentioned in his posting before, she will definitely dump you in the future when better guys come along and expresses interest in her.
I will not help you to gain your own selfish happiness in the expense of another guy's demise. But I can tell you one thing, if you really like or love her heaps....go ahead and woo her. Do not worry too much because if you really love her, you must be ready to face all the consequences in your own future. Nothing comes free, no action not counted.
Remember....what goes around, comes around. it may sound ironic fight for her but not spoil her relationship wif a current bf i dun know how to explain this in words but its juz... i dunno how to say... she aint no fickle minded gal who changes bf every now and den seroiusly... trusth me she isnt... i do not know how to explain this to u all and try to make u guys accept wad im trying to sae but... i know tat being a 3rd party... spoilling a relationship for others.. this i know i wont one to happen to me myself too.... maybe.... maybe wad im doing now is juz to get to know her better as a frend tts it..... -
Originally posted by tir4misu:
hey parn rest assure this.... i [b]will try my best to fight for her BUT also note this.... in any case where i will break her and her bf up THAT i will NOT do.... it may sound ironic fight for her but not spoil her relationship wif a current bf i dun know how to explain this in words but its juz... i dunno how to say... she aint no fickle minded gal who changes bf every now and den seroiusly... trusth me she isnt... i do not know how to explain this to u all and try to make u guys accept wad im trying to sae but... i know tat being a 3rd party... spoilling a relationship for others.. this i know i wont one to happen to me myself too.... maybe.... maybe wad im doing now is juz to get to know her better as a frend tts it.....
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