Hard to understand guyz
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Wud like to hear some views about how guyz think.
How is it that guyz are able to forget abt a relationship much more easily than girls? Most guys behave so differently the moment a break up is mentioned. How is it that they are able to forget about what had happened in the past and moved on so fast?? And then girls spent dayz thinking abt the relationship before being able to move on with their lives.
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not all guys lidat one.
once it took me two years to start the next relationship....
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x 2Originally posted by starcom:not all guys lidat one.
once it took me two years to start the next relationship....
me still havent got the courage to accept another r/s yet..
its been soo many yrs already..
not all guys are tt bad...
at least i`m not... -
>pat pat BaByBoY<Originally posted by BaByBoY:x 2
me still havent got the courage to accept another r/s yet..
its been soo many yrs already..
not all guys are tt bad...
at least i`m not... -
thx..Originally posted by starcom:>pat pat BaByBoY<
but don be too nice to me...
i`m scared... -
Guys just 'appear/act' strong..
We're not very expressive creatures -
think guys many more things in life apart from love...hence, once hurt, he may just focus on doing other things instead, but doesnt mean he's not hurt inside..
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Juz my luck that I've met quite a few guyz who treat me like that. Sighz. So sweet one moment, and the next, they dun give a hoot abt anything that concerns u. One of my guy frenz said, he broke up with his gf once, and the moment he stepped out of her house, he was calling his frens and thinking of where to haf fun. Most guyz are able to get on with their lives so easily hey. Amazed.
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I guess u've got a point... or maybe guyz will focus on other girlsOriginally posted by Inzaghi:think guys many more things in life apart from love...hence, once hurt, he may just focus on doing other things instead, but doesnt mean he's not hurt inside..
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Originally posted by BaByBoY:thx..
but don be too nice to me...
i`m scared... me no gay lah.
cheer up. you will get over it... someday. -
hopefully u only mean most of the guy u KNOW...Originally posted by aivlis:Juz my luck that I've met quite a few guyz who treat me like that. Sighz. So sweet one moment, and the next, they dun give a hoot abt anything that concerns u. One of my guy frenz said, he broke up with his gf once, and the moment he stepped out of her house, he was calling his frens and thinking of where to haf fun. Most guyz are able to get on with their lives so easily hey. Amazed.
as i said..
many r as fragile as gals can be too..
only they nv show it.. -
well i wont comment on the issue of focusing on other gers. but generally guys are more practical when come to r/s or wooing fater a gal.once he deemed tat nothing can be 'gained' from the r/s or courtship, he will just vanish into thin air..Originally posted by aivlis:I guess u've got a point... or maybe guyz will focus on other girls 
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I know wat u mean....Originally posted by Inzaghi:well i wont comment on the issue of focusing on other gers. but generally guys are more practical when come to r/s or wooing fater a gal.once he deemed tat nothing can be 'gained' from the r/s or courtship, he will just vanish into thin air.. my resolution for next year is to become more practical towards courtship. -
x2 on this point.Originally posted by marlboro:Guys just 'appear/act' strong..
We're not very expressive creatures -
Originally posted by starcom:not all guys lidat one.
once it took me two years to start the next relationship.... 
2 yrs? wow!! i took 1 month to get over my last relationship. I feel so stupid for wasting tat one month. But now, i'm too contented with my life now to commit into a relationship. 
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hmm..how practical is tat??.can share with us here??.Originally posted by aivlis:I know wat u mean.... my resolution for next year is to become more practical towards courtship. -
x2 on this point.Originally posted by marlboro:Guys just 'appear/act' strong..
We're not very expressive creatures
and precisely because guys are generally not expressive, once they suffer a heartbreak (assuming that it is the gf that inititate the breakup), guys are not any less hurt and scarred by the breakup as women you know?
In reality, a guy appearing nonchalant after a breakup doesn't signify anything at all. It is the society and pride that has wired them to react the 'appropriate way' in front of others, no?
Quit the stereotyping lah.... -
2 possibilities :-Originally posted by aivlis:Juz my luck that I've met quite a few guyz who treat me like that. Sighz. So sweet one moment, and the next, they dun give a hoot abt anything that concerns u. One of my guy frenz said, he broke up with his gf once, and the moment he stepped out of her house, he was calling his frens and thinking of where to haf fun. Most guyz are able to get on with their lives so easily hey. Amazed.
a) his interest in the relationship was long gone anyway
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b) he was bleeding inside him...and he needed to rid himself of the shock, if not pain, by going out to have "fun" with his friends.
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That really depends on case by case basis.
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Practical meaning I shall learn to stop dwelling in the past, and letting it go. Focus on other stuff like studies, frens, family, etc. ...and maybe other possible relationships.....Originally posted by Inzaghi:hmm..how practical is tat??.can share with us here??. Juz kidding. Until i'm ready, i think any relationships i get into now will juz be a rebound. -
Very wise desicion here. Good for you.Originally posted by aivlis:Practical meaning I shall learn to stop dwelling in the past, and letting it go. Focus on other stuff like studies, frens, family, etc. ...and maybe other possible relationships..... Juz kidding. Until i'm ready, i think any relationships i get into now will juz be a rebound. -
The story goes like this:
I used to date this guy, and things were going really well. I even flew back to Spore for a week juz to see him. Wasted my money. I din even bother to go clubbing. Wasted my time and opportunities to meet other pple. Anywayz, during tat week in spore, he asked for a break up. it's like we din even quarrel once before. and I even cooked dinner for him the day before the breakup. And after the mention of the break up, it took like 20missed calls to receive an sms from him. He asked me why i called so many times. So i said, if u answered the call the 1st time, I wouldn't need to call so many times rite?!!! Tsktsk. and the night before i was leaving spore, i asked if he could come over, he said OK. I waited the whole nite and he din come. Told me the next day that he fell asleep. wat the?!!! and i had to plead with him to send me off at the airport ok. another wt??!!! Feel so pathetic when I come to think of it. And I still haf no idea what went wrong. Maybe my cooking was really bad... hehehe.. -
I know not all guyz are like tat.... juz trying to understand how that particular ex-bf of mine can behave like tat.
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me scare wanna go in relationship... But it's all right... Life still goes on... I still have better things to do in life... Maybe when i'm more mature, then i will fall in love again...
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I want to point that not every guys like are that. Guys got a stronger pride and they have the tendency to put up a strong front. Take me for instant, i broke up with my girlfriend not long back and i still couldnt get over her a single bit, i try to put up a strong front and deep down i'm lost and defeated..