Sex & Relationship
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Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now??
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Seriously, where are the both of you in the relationship scale?Originally posted by Vampiress:Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now?? -
Dun stay at the pl where u end up having sex. If he insist, aft sex say his sperm is getting lesser and thinner. Sure worried n stop one...Originally posted by Vampiress:Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now?? 
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sometimes we can even do it outdoors because he needs it...
Is he addicted??
Or is his behavior normal
of cause I do enjoy doing it with him but I want a healthy balanced relationship....
Maybe I should just start rejecting his sexual advances in future..
thk for replying
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toy, sperm will use fineesh one? me masterbed everyday oso no use finish. me one day masterbed seven times. me n ah hwa do it recently but me still very powderful. of cos me no more masterbed seven times a day cos at night we do it. me do six times now a days.
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Does he express long term relationship or any affection for you?Originally posted by Vampiress: sometimes we can even do it outdoors because he needs it...
Is he addicted??
Or is his behavior normal
of cause I do enjoy doing it with him but I want a healthy balanced relationship....
Maybe I should just start rejecting his sexual advances in future..
thk for replying -
sorely me mean me masterbed 6 times a day.
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yes, he dotes on me... and gives in to me but sometimes people say guys do this to get into your pantiesOriginally posted by M©+square:Does he express long term relationship or any affection for you?
Or maybe his sex drive is very high ... 
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mm... i also always get naughty and wan sex with my gf everytime we went out. (meet only on weekend due to work).
But i love her very much not because of sex.
Well, u mentioned do outdoors.... can elaborate more? where? how? -
Well, if he really need sex so much, then he might be juz fooling around with u... As u can see, relationship is not solely based on sex... It is based on ur feeling for the other party... Try to minimize the time u do it with him... Coz too much is bad for ur health...Originally posted by Vampiress:Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now?? 
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Originally posted by Van Ahseng:toy, sperm will use fineesh one? me masterbed everyday oso no use finish. me one day masterbed seven times. me n ah hwa do it recently but me still very powderful. of cos me no more masterbed seven times a day cos at night we do it. me do six times now a days.
U so fit ah?? masterbed so much still damn ***king strong...
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If u do it 6 times a day with ah hwa, confirm u both die sia...Originally posted by Van Ahseng:sorely me mean me masterbed 6 times a day. -
Sex = wearing socks. You change when you feel it's smelly.Originally posted by Vampiress: sometimes we can even do it outdoors because he needs it...
Is he addicted??
Or is his behavior normal
of cause I do enjoy doing it with him but I want a healthy balanced relationship....
Maybe I should just start rejecting his sexual advances in future..
thk for replying
I hope you get what I mean. -
V, 4 years is long time..
why don't u test him out by hinting marriage? to get it done by end of the year? And see his response.. -
We are too young to get married though he did mention before that he wants me to be his future wife but you know.. guys can be such sweet talkers at timesOriginally posted by Magnus:V, 4 years is long time..
why don't u test him out by hinting marriage? to get it done by end of the year? And see his response.. -
say straight in his face about marriage orOriginally posted by Accela:it shouldn't be purely on sex alone, like someone suggested, hint for marriage, if he seems happy, then its not bad, you can say no, or demand you can have sex only x times per week, for example.
too much of something is not good, that something may not be sex, can be anything else. i would suggest say straight in his face, and see his reaction, people caught by surprised aren't likely to lie or do anything fake. -
try not to give in to him lor... and be firm on your stand... if he really loves u he will respect your decision... u can talk to him abt how u feel also... at least let him know... if he wants to dump u coz he cannot have sex with u then dump him, coz eventually he will be sick and run... it will still happen... no point giving in to him no matter how much u love him... u can place your love in someone else that's more worthy of u...
Good Luck -
x2!Originally posted by Imperfect:try not to give in to him lor... and be firm on your stand... if he really loves u he will respect your decision... u can talk to him abt how u feel also... at least let him know... if he wants to dump u coz he cannot have sex with u then dump him, coz eventually he will be sick and run... it will still happen... no point giving in to him no matter how much u love him... u can place your love in someone else that's more worthy of u...
Good Luck
if his love for you is going to be like sex everytime n cannot respect ur decision, it is not true love for you... if he care for you, he will care how you feel...let him know.. see wats his response... -
What's wrong with sex in a relationship if both of you enjoy it?
You don't know what you want. Maybe you should sort that out before anything else.Originally posted by Vampiress:Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now?? -
Talking from a girl's perspective, a lot of times, deep down inside, u do know if the guy truly loves u for who u r or if he is only with u for what u give him. Only u know it urself cos u r in the situation. It's juz whether u want to face up to reality and let him go, if he juz wants u for sex. But if u feel that he truly loves u, don't doubt him.
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Im confused, I do not know the answer...Originally posted by aivlis:Talking from a girl's perspective, a lot of times, deep down inside, u do know if the guy truly loves u for who u r or if he is only with u for what u give him. Only u know it urself cos u r in the situation. It's juz whether u want to face up to reality and let him go, if he juz wants u for sex. But if u feel that he truly loves u, don't doubt him. -
imperfect and devilangel...
OK i'll try that... -
Dunno why gals all think like tat...
I used to have an ex and we got along well, both enjoyed sex wif each other and everything was fine. One day she suddenly told me she wans a 'normal' relationship.. Honestly, a 'normal' relationship to me includes sex. I do love her and never thought of her as a sex object or anything..
Am I 'abnormal', or is she rite? I guess it all depends on individual perspective.. but if ur bf is anything like me, he'll only be confused, fustrated, and eventually strain the relationship... -
Originally posted by Vampiress:Everytime we meet up, we end up having sex.
It's becoming a routine-like lifestyle.
We have been together for four years.
I love him alot.
I am confused and I do not know what to type now actually...
Is too much sex no good? I think it makes me all the more confused and insecure...
I don't want to have a relationship based purely on sex alone.
What do I do now?? 
Sex can only be an activity enjoyed when certain emotional level in a relationship has reached and secured to prevent instability of relationship. Note: it has to be mutual, or sex will never be fulfilling to either one party.
Routine lifestyle of sex is mono and to make things worst: because this emotional level sinks below the original marking, causing much disturbance and doubt in the relationship. You start to wonder if this relationship has any other meaning outside sexual enjoyment and wonders if it could ever last if one day you declare there won't be any sex for the next 6 months or something.
In relationship, there are three form of sex.
- Causal Sex
- Good Sex
- Great Sex
In very simple summary of all three: you probably experience a fair share of causal sex, which gradually turn you off emotionally.
I suggest to gradually shift your relationship on an emotional basis. Your physical sex lack substance
I) Avoid meeting so often, especially at each other's house
II) Find other things to do mutually, apart from sex.
III) Tell him about this issue - and listen to what he has to say. Try to work out certain solution as a couple.
IV) If sex is inevitable - increase foreplay, play games and everything else and channel focus on making love and not plain screwing.
Cheers -
valuable piece of advice,thank uOriginally posted by Yunhaier: Sex can only be an activity enjoyed when certain emotional level in a relationship has reached and secured to prevent instability of relationship. Note: it has to be mutual, or sex will never be fulfilling to either one party.
Routine lifestyle of sex is mono and to make things worst: because this emotional level sinks below the original marking, causing much disturbance and doubt in the relationship. You start to wonder if this relationship has any other meaning outside sexual enjoyment and wonders if it could ever last if one day you declare there won't be any sex for the next 6 months or something.
In relationship, there are three form of sex.
- Causal Sex
- Good Sex
- Great Sex
In very simple summary of all three: you probably experience a fair share of causal sex, which gradually turn you off emotionally.
I suggest to gradually shift your relationship on an emotional basis. Your physical sex lack substance
I) Avoid meeting so often, especially at each other's house
II) Find other things to do mutually, apart from sex.
III) Tell him about this issue - and listen to what he has to say. Try to work out certain solution as a couple.
IV) If sex is inevitable - increase foreplay, play games and everything else and channel focus on making love and not plain screwing.
Cheers