wHat wiLL u dO?
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last time when i was in sec my form tutor told me theres a special monastery or something that helps u raise your child if u still studying and then after u study finish liao will bring the child back to u or something like that(not sure about the exact details)Originally posted by [ r 0 y s t 0 n ]:So what would you suggest then? -
Kekekekek...there is a C_boliao also ah..Originally posted by C_boliao:First how old are u 2 first??.. If it's time to get married, then be marry la.. But on the other hand, if he choose to break up if u, or already have the thought of breaking up, then it's no point to keep the baby too.. For mi, i will choose abortion... i know it's very cruel.. but think of it, if u give birth to it.. u are even more cruel to the baby and to yourself. So might as well end it and start afresh. Maybe i am very heartless or coward or whatever, But with all due respect, i really respect those single mothers..
I respect wat he say,very true... But with all due respect, i really respect those single mothersas i hv a chio bu god sis who is also a single mother,working in Kabuki....in case some dun know where kabuki is, its in crown prince hotel...really respect, work for the child....too bad she 3 yrs older den me & her heart already numb liao, if not, i 100% take her as wife....
From the way u post,ling_er,mayb i tink..sorry 1st,if its really happening to you, hv a clear mind, think wat u wan to do 1st, keep or abort?ask yourself...
u wan the child or u wan ur future...do u hv the courage to carry the burden in time to come for ur child, can u tahan the views from ur relatives....if everything can,u love ur child inside you, den born it.
If cannot, den abort it lor...really no choice....i ever gone through tis thing wid my 5 yr ex...
All i can say is,as i posted in my eariler post,if baby is bigger, is not aborted in operation theather ,is put pill into ur there den baby come out on the bed u lying on,it will be very sad if u see te BB come out but dead...the feeling is really KNN.(u also must be mentally prepared)baby is so cute but dead,<<>>....so as wat i'm saying, if it is happening to u, ur bf really farking leaving you but u love him yet he do tis type of thing to you, ask him sit beside you throughout the whole proceder(provided ur baby is more den 3+ mths lah)let ur bf see, he will remember u & his dead baby for life,trust me, very hard to 4get it.Unless he no heart at all...
mayb if after he see liao, his heart melt, den he may tresure u back....
Sorry to say so much if u really nothing to do den start tis topic but i dun think so,from my point of view or i too sensitive.....but anyway....
Remember, think b4 u do anything,its a life u know. dun lik me choose a wrong option, which i regreted till today.... -
Fully agree ! Too many implications and too many uncertainty. If you think of bringing the child into the world, you must also consider if you can fully provide for the child and bring the child up well. Dun hate yourself or the child in the future and bring up a dysfunctional family.Originally posted by aivlis:If the girl is still studying and has a great future ahead, i would suggest abortion. It may be a cruel thing but if u keep the baby, how are you going to bring up the kid? The girl can't even support herself. She has to borrow money from her family and friends, and if they refuse to lend, how?? And also, is she able to give up her social life to take care of the baby?? Parenting is for a lifetime... She can't just leave her baby at home, then go out with her friends rite? She might end up detesting the baby for destroying her life.
She might face another problem if she finds a new boyfriend. Not all guys are able to accept a woman with a kid that is not his. How will his parents think of her??
It's really a personal choice. Whether abortion is right or wrong, depends on the individual. Doesn't mean a girl who has had an abortion is a cruel person. It's juz a choice that she has made.
Yes there is adoption but when you have made the decision to bring that kid into the world, your first maternal instinct when you see the newborn after all the labour pain etc is to KEEP the BABY and refuse adoption. Giving away a baby isn't as easy as just giving away a favourite toy. So in the midst of uncertainty and being financially unstable etc, you will still wanna keep the baby even though you are not able to provide for him or her.
Neverthelss, i must add, those teenage girls who bring the baby to term and managed to give him/her up for adoption have my respect. However, I dun think it's cruel or self fish to go through an abortion, it takes alot of courage and emotional pain to go through with it, especially when you are going through it alone. -
tell him to take up the responsibility, if he refuse, then ask your girlfriends all come one day ambush him and beat him up, then undress him and tie him up, take nude photos of him and black mail him.Originally posted by [L]inG_eR:still awake in the middle of the night, nothing to do, so i suddenly pop out a question.
wat will u do if u happened to find urself pregnant and ur bf is abt to breakup with u?
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hahaha later the orphan come back as some kung fu masterOriginally posted by X k:last time when i was in sec my form tutor told me theres a special monastery or something that helps u raise your child if u still studying and then after u study finish liao will bring the child back to u or something like that(not sure about the exact details) -
Originally posted by bo liao:From the way u post,ling_er,mayb i tink..sorry 1st,if its really happening to you, hv a clear mind, think wat u wan to do 1st, keep or abort?ask yourself...
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firstly, i'll let him abt it and find out if he's taking his responsibility. If not, i would advise for abortion. Thou i can't agree more that it's unfair to the child and harmful effect done to her body. Think about the possibilities that she will be able to get into another true relationship carrying that child around. Be sensible. Face the reality. Made a mistake, do not let that mistake drag her for life. correct it then move on.
The final decision to make depends on her circumstances that she's in.
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X2..Originally posted by itroubled:firstly, i'll let him abt it and find out if he's taking his responsibility. If not, i would advise for abortion. Thou i can't agree more that it's unfair to the child and harmful effect done to her body. Think about the possibilities that she will be able to get into another true relationship carrying that child around. Be sensible. Face the reality. Made a mistake, do not let that mistake drag her for life. correct it then move on.
The final decision to make depends on her circumstances that she's in.
last word; do not make the same mistake again.
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Orphanage? It would also be cruel to da child to abandon him to let other ppl look after right? Afterall babies needs motherly care..Originally posted by X k:last time when i was in sec my form tutor told me theres a special monastery or something that helps u raise your child if u still studying and then after u study finish liao will bring the child back to u or something like that(not sure about the exact details) -
it differs on case to case basis..
i would say abortion is a last resort...
cos of all the high risk involved..
even the mother is risking her chance of ever having another child..
or even risking her life doing an abortion...
1) have a good talk wif him to talk things out..
2) if things dun work out.. family support is ur next option.. see wat ur family says...
3) you have to judge on ur case and see if you are able to suport the child as a single parent.. (best to have ur family support on this)
4) give child up for adoption (have to bear the pain of seperation at birth, better dun see ur child at all if u choose this option)
5) abortion. please find a reputable clinic/hospital to do this.. dun risk ur own life... -
Go KK ba...can use medisafe to pay, u no need to come out a single cent of cash.few hundred only.take class b2 ba...got 6 bed tat 1.if u wan higher class, hv to deposit $500 1st, can take back when u leave hospital, whole process take max 4 days....Originally posted by DevilAngel77:it differs on case to case basis..
i would say abortion is a last resort...
cos of all the high risk involved..
even the mother is risking her chance of ever having another child..
or even risking her life doing an abortion...
5) abortion. please find a reputable clinic/hospital to do this.. dun risk ur own life...
As abortion is last resort as said by many others.try to let him know,see his reaction,see wat he do,....but jus be mental prepared if u choose the last resort...cos physically pain still can endure, its te image or process if u see tat u cannot delete from ur brain....