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although i may have passed the "be urself" and "be confident" stage, yesterday i gt rejected =( .. first time i've felt so bad in such a long time .. haha .. dunnoe leh, u noe those feeling, can't realli describe.
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First rejection.
If it isn't drastic. It's good news.
Continue working on it.
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hey mc ur on .. =(
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Rejected as in?
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said no lo even though she herself said ok?
we were talking thru sms and she said ok, when i got home, she told me no,i not her type bla bla
can't do anything abt it now, and i'm not gonna whine.
i'm just looking for an output to forget all this, and prob advice from u guys, u guys r the best .. -
Yes i am. Wanna post your full account?Originally posted by beagle:hey mc ur on .. =( -
Try again , Beagle.
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Ok....then as i've said.
Your case isn't a drastic rejection.
Take time to recover and date again?
Remember lah, don't ever date girls like you want them to be your gf. It doesn't work that way.
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actually over the past few days when i initiated the qn, she started behaving in those "very close to me" action, ya?
then today she said yeah, but when i got back home, she started telling me everything else, direct opposite of what she had said ..
accepted and rejected on the same day ..
dunnoe la .. -
Originally posted by M©+square:
don't quite get that
Ok....then as i've said.
Your case isn't a drastic rejection.
Take time to recover and date again?
Remember lah, [b]don't ever date girls like you want them to be your gf. It doesn't work that way.
They only see you as despo [/b] -
You're still vague in your accounts. Nevermind, i believe you'll get better next round.Originally posted by beagle:actually over the past few days when i initiated the qn, she started behaving in those "very close to me" action, ya?
then today she said yeah, but when i got back home, she started telling me everything else, direct opposite of what she had said ..
accepted and rejected on the same day ..
dunnoe la ..
Since she's frickle, let her be.
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this kind of girls very gay, what not her type, she thinks she damn good izzit must be a certain type, just tell her "you are not anyone's type, Bitch"Originally posted by beagle:said no lo even though she herself said ok?
we were talking thru sms and she said ok, when i got home, she told me no,i not her type bla bla
can't do anything abt it now, and i'm not gonna whine.
i'm just looking for an output to forget all this, and prob advice from u guys, u guys r the best .. -
How many dates have you gone out with her before u popped the question. And another thing, how long have you known this girl?
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Let me rephrase - Don't chase them when you just got to know them.Originally posted by beagle:don't quite get that
Let them feel comfortable with you first. Then allow them to be attracted to you. -
probably 2 mths, and thruout the 2 mths i've went out with her?
almost everyday -
like this --->Originally posted by M©+square:Let me rephrase - Don't chase them when you just got to know them.
Let them feel comfortable with you first. Then allow them to be attracted to you.
i noe this girl, A, maybe from my class or smthing, den what? ask her out? till she gets comfy? b4 i pop the qn? -
you're investing too much onto her.Originally posted by beagle:probably 2 mths, and thruout the 2 mths i've went out with her?
almost everyday
She may feel attached to you.....not attracted. Understand? -
not realli ...Originally posted by M©+square:you're investing too much onto her.
She may feel attached to you.....not attracted. Understand? -
Ok, next question.Originally posted by beagle:probably 2 mths, and thruout the 2 mths i've went out with her?
almost everyday
What is your objective in winning her heart? What is it that you want from this relationship other than her company? -
you know, i don't quite get u .. but i'll answer my best ..Originally posted by ditzy:Ok, next question.
What is your objective in winning her heart? What is it that you want from this relationship other than her company?
dunnoe somehow i seem attracted to her ? yeah .. -
Pop simmi qns?Originally posted by beagle:like this --->
i noe this girl, A, maybe from my class or smthing, den what? ask her out? till she gets comfy? b4 i pop the qn?
My point here is not to ask you to get gf leh.
GEtting a gf now will destroy the confidence you've built up...
You're not ready to get into relationship. *I wish i could type out the reasons why* but i'm damn tired liaoz.
What you have to do is to open up to PEOPLE and get them to feel comfy with you. Built a social rapport, circle.
Strenghten your infrastructure and boost further confidence and esteem.
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Is it a crush type of feeling or is it something like you ready to spend your lifetime with her?Originally posted by beagle:you know, i don't quite get u .. but i'll answer my best ..
dunnoe somehow i seem attracted to her ? yeah .. -
You shouldn't have gotten attracted so early. It just proves that you're still very green in this area. Emotionally swayed.Originally posted by beagle:you know, i don't quite get u .. but i'll answer my best ..
dunnoe somehow i seem attracted to her ? yeah ..
If i'm a girl....you're my sucker.
A ideal/normal guy should be able to control himself. So that he also sends the signal to the gal that he's in control. -
initially it was a cush .. but then as i started to go out with her more often, perhaps it's not one alr ..Originally posted by ditzy:Is it a crush type of feeling or is it something like you ready to spend your lifetime with her? -
hey tt made sense .. lol ^^Originally posted by M©+square:You shouldn't have gotten attracted so early. It just proves that you're still very green in this area. Emotionally swayed.
If i'm a girl....you're my sucker.
A ideal/normal guy should be able to control himself. So that he also sends the signal to the gal that he's in control.