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Words...
It's good to say things out... But words is not a best way to convey feelings.
Ok, both of you have taken the first to tell each other your problems. That's really good. But does that help to cure the problem?
I feel, it doesn't help at all. It doesn't.
Find a close friend between you both. Someone you both can trust. Talk to him/her and convey the how you feel to each other.
It's not both of your love has died down. It's both have met a barrier. A barrier that can be overcome through communication and compromise.
Feel to love.
Please cherish what you both have now... How many people in this world hate and regret themselves for not cherishing...
There are no right or wrong in a relationship.
To independent girl : It seems that you are the "right" in this problem. I have no comments to say for you. I feel about what i read. I don't really understand how both of you are feeling.
To biskiti82 : Don't say you don't have a life. I feel you choose not to have a life. You can continue to do what you normally do for independent girl. Life is miserable? It's your attitude towards life. Change it.
Biskiti82, be happy towards life. Have a Positive Attitude. We are your friends, you can ask us to come out, have a chat, kopi, watch movie or whatever. You are not alone.
I think if i did not see wrongly, nike has this commercial : Impossible is a small word used by small men.........
Nothing is impossible, it just whether you want to do it or not. -
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Hahaha...feeling quite freaked out with your grim reaper avatar...especially when it comes with a smile like that.
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hi biskiti82,
i think u have abt the same problem as mine.(see my topic: overseas relationship) we expect our partnerto spend time with us whenever posssible. but for my case is a bit further. we are married.
i've realised my mistake after i came to uk. i had to learn how to "let go" i guess i "control" my wife much more than u. so i think both of u can still work things out. do not jump into conclusion. if need to know anything.. ask. not demand! trust me.. if both of u still have love for each other. work things out; peacefully. dun be like me.. regreting here alone in uk. imagine what would u do if u were far away too. helpless right? so learn to "let go" now..i see relationship as flying a kite. occasionally letting go to let it fly higher.. happier. both party will enjoy the relationship.
it's good that both of u realised this before it's too late. like for my case. weeping alone without anyone to lean on..
never live to regret. do what u think is good for both.
best of luck. wish u both happiness. -
Originally posted by itroubled:hi biskiti82,
i think u have abt the same problem as mine.(see my topic: overseas relationship) we expect our partnerto spend time with us whenever posssible. but for my case is a bit further. we are married.
i've realised my mistake after i came to uk. i had to learn how to "let go" i guess i "control" my wife much more than u. so i think both of u can still work things out. do not jump into conclusion. if need to know anything.. ask. not demand! trust me.. if both of u still have love for each other. work things out; peacefully. dun be like me.. regreting here alone in uk. imagine what would u do if u were far away too. helpless right? so learn to "let go" now..i see relationship as flying a kite. occasionally letting go to let it fly higher.. happier. both party will enjoy the relationship.
it's good that both of u realised this before it's too late. like for my case. weeping alone without anyone to lean on..
never live to regret. do what u think is good for both.
best of luck. wish u both happiness. ......