is it okie for a gal to feed a guy???
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there is once a guy who meet a gal and eventually they got together... initially this guy is quite rich because he won quite alot in stock and soccer bets....
he spent money like tap water.... at first he brought many things for this gal... and everytime they dine out they eat very good food always go restaurant and hotel eat....
this guy thought that money will kept on coming in and he continues to gamble.....
luck changes overnight....
he kept losing his soccer bets and stock made him burnt his fingers...
financial problem arised....
he could even lost 7-8k a night...
as time pass by he lose everything and on top of that he owe people many debts....
this gal had adviced him to stop gambling but he did not heed her advice and continue to do so....
this gal endure and endure.....
but she didnt leave him cos she really love him not because of anything.....
now this guy got no $ liao..... she is still by his side to help him financially.....
overnight, she had so much burden land on her back
this gal had to pay for his car, PUB bills, daily meals, hp bills...... etc etc.... she is not earning much and she had to work part time in a pub to support this bf of hers...
she had her day job and had to work in the night... nearly 18 hours a day non stop...
the guy could not do anything because he is a government servant and if he is caught for working part time, there goes his rice bowl ....
as time pass by, this gal is tired and sick of everything...
this guy kept complaining over small thing and find mistake in her...
she gave him $ automatically when she knows that he had finished spending the money.. this guy isnt satisfied...........
one fine day this guy went to her pub and look for her and because she need to entertain customer and she neglected him....
he was very angry and left that pub angrily.... he said that the gal never cared about his feelings and only know how to entertain customer..... do u think he should be angry over such thing???
why he wont think in a positive way that the gal is earning money to support him and that's why she ended up in the pub....
the next day they quarrel furiously and that everything linked is thrown out to talk about.....
this guy said that the gal is not good enough to him and never cared his feelings and wad she know is to give him money money money.... the gal was very sad after hearing all these because wad she did for him... he not only didnt appreciated and turn back to blame her....
the guy didnt think that when the gal work part time in the night is for whose sake???
she wasted her time in such places, all her efforts down the drain, she couldnt concentrate in her morning job, her health is bad and she had asthma and still had to work in such a smokey place....
she realised that wad she did was useless and she decided to leave him ....
this time is for sure... they used to quarrel for thousands of times and in the end they still patch back... but this time is a different thing there is no turning back...
cos when a gal's heart dies... no matter how u beg her how u please her... nothing can be done to change her again....
but when she leave her, u still care for him as he do not have $ to eat, and got thousands of bill to pay, he had to support his family.... and also a car to pay every month... if this gal leave him, he will sure die one.....
do u think this gal is right to leave him at this critical moment? -
did your bf do this to u, dear ???
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don worry about this...
what do u think about this gal and should she leave him?
its someone's experience onli.... -
if a guy do depend on a gal for her to support n feedhim
he is not man at all he useless n hopeless -
in normal sense, pple will advise her to leave him.
But the matter of the heart is not as simple as that, esp when a gal has accepted the guy... it takes a lot for her to get him out of her mind, esp when she loved him so dearly.
At the end of the day, if the guy repents, there is still hope, else, the girl will one day gets tired and move out and move on with life.
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it's ok for ger to pay for her share
it's ok if ger wanna pamper guy sometimes
but it's not ok for guy to eat soft rice -
u are very right....
that guy is now very sad that he didnt cherish her....
i think the guy also learnt his mistake liao....
should the gal give him a chance?
if she continue to be with him she will suffered even more...
do u know that everytime they quarrel, its all because of $$$ issue..
but if the gal leave him, he will had a hard time cos he got so much things to support.. and the gal also don bear to see him in this bad state.... -
Strange that you're bringing this up... Is this event of a past or a present?Originally posted by miki gal:u are very right....
that guy is now very sad that he didnt cherish her....
i think the guy also learnt his mistake liao....
should the gal give him a chance?
if she continue to be with him she will suffered even more...
do u know that everytime they quarrel, its all because of $$$ issue..
but if the gal leave him, he will had a hard time cos he got so much things to support.. and the gal also don bear to see him in this bad state....
How about selling the car to repay his debts and such? Have he given that a thought before? -
yes.Originally posted by miki gal:do u think this gal is right to leave him at this critical moment? -
sighz... another case of little white face.....why why why some gal are so stupid to feed this kind of useless sissy???
pls.. cannot be soft heart.. leave him NOW... if he die... it's his problem... not urs...he asked for it....if he really will change.. ask him change already then come jio u back.. if not FO.....
oh man.... gamble, play stock, high life, nice car....sighz.. typical case of brainless CB kia.....
pui!!! throw away guys face!! -
He shouldn't have gambled nor depend his lifehood on that, nor he had the wisdom to save. The girl should leave, but if in the future he got over it, and turn over a new leaf and situation turn for the better, why not get together again.
Its okie for gal to provide or be the breadwinner, since some women are more successful in life, but for this case, its not okay because the guy did no contribution at all. -
This guy sounds like a fren of mine....except that my fren might not have a car....but than again he vanish so liao...dunno wat is happening in his life also.... which brings me to e point...y r most civil servants always like that?Horrible investors...always bet on soccer n 4d ,toto that kind of stuff...that after that get burned liao than in horrible debt.....wats with our civil servants?we pay them too well is it?i have seen some many cases around me liao
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Leave. No buts ifs or what... I think this girl deserves more. Which i am sure is u urself...
Juz leave n dun look back. Let go n move on. This guy is useless. Can't stand on his 2 feet n feed himself. It's very humiliating for a guy to be supported by his girl because of gambling. Juz leave. This is logical. For once do the logical thing n leave such kinds of guys.
'A man is judged not for how he looks but for what he has achieved' -
thats what i call the power of love, the power of love makes u do watever u can do for the 1 u love... but yet if the other party dun appreciate it, it makes it hurtful for the 1 who is giving...
sigh, its a contradicting problem.. if let say ask the gal leave the guy, ya the gal will be freed from the "torture" but yet, her deep love for him cant bear to leave him in the lurch...
its up to the girl to decide, watever we said, dun think it will work.. -
Why is it not alright for a guy to live off a girl during a crisis ?
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Originally posted by miki gal:there is once a guy who meet a gal and eventually they got together... initially this guy is quite rich because he won quite alot in stock and soccer bets....
he spent money like tap water.... at first he brought many things for this gal... and everytime they dine out they eat very good food always go restaurant and hotel eat....
this guy thought that money will kept on coming in and he continues to gamble.....
luck changes overnight....
he kept losing his soccer bets and stock made him burnt his fingers...
financial problem arised....
he could even lost 7-8k a night...
as time pass by he lose everything and on top of that he owe people many debts....
this gal had adviced him to stop gambling but he did not heed her advice and continue to do so....
this gal endure and endure.....
but she didnt leave him cos she really love him not because of anything.....
now this guy got no $ liao..... she is still by his side to help him financially.....
overnight, she had so much burden land on her back
this gal had to pay for his car, PUB bills, daily meals, hp bills...... etc etc.... she is not earning much and she had to work part time in a pub to support this bf of hers...
she had her day job and had to work in the night... nearly 18 hours a day non stop...
the guy could not do anything because he is a government servant and if he is caught for working part time, there goes his rice bowl ....
as time pass by, this gal is tired and sick of everything...
this guy kept complaining over small thing and find mistake in her...
she gave him $ automatically when she knows that he had finished spending the money.. this guy isnt satisfied...........
one fine day this guy went to her pub and look for her and because she need to entertain customer and she neglected him....
he was very angry and left that pub angrily.... he said that the gal never cared about his feelings and only know how to entertain customer..... do u think he should be angry over such thing???
why he wont think in a positive way that the gal is earning money to support him and that's why she ended up in the pub....
the next day they quarrel furiously and that everything linked is thrown out to talk about.....
this guy said that the gal is not good enough to him and never cared his feelings and wad she know is to give him money money money.... the gal was very sad after hearing all these because wad she did for him... he not only didnt appreciated and turn back to blame her....
the guy didnt think that when the gal work part time in the night is for whose sake???
she wasted her time in such places, all her efforts down the drain, she couldnt concentrate in her morning job, her health is bad and she had asthma and still had to work in such a smokey place....
she realised that wad she did was useless and she decided to leave him ....
this time is for sure... they used to quarrel for thousands of times and in the end they still patch back... but this time is a different thing there is no turning back...
cos when a gal's heart dies... no matter how u beg her how u please her... nothing can be done to change her again....
but when she leave her, u still care for him as he do not have $ to eat, and got thousands of bill to pay, he had to support his family.... and also a car to pay every month... if this gal leave him, he will sure die one.....
do u think this gal is right to leave him at this critical moment?
To leave or not to leave; we always ask ourselves what is the reason to stay - is it for love or is it for responsibility.
There is no love - then what kind of responsibility is there? Both of them are merely boyfriend-girlfriend, there is NOT even any vow duty for her to provide for him. Furthmore, with an unappreciative nature, no matter what she do, he will never be satisfied.
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This girl possess excellent characteristic of a girlfriend; when he is rich and shower her with material comfort, she did not turn away and run the minute the man suffered from financial difficulty. Instead, she took one further step ahead and is willing to divide his burden by carrying one side of the financial load on her shoulder.
This man's ego never left his own world the minute his dream world is crashed to nothingness. The reason why he didn't cease gambling is because he wished to fuel and return to his 'original world' - where his ego is high beyond the current level he is in. The only method of showering and demonstrating love in his dictionary, is only to spend money on his gf.
He knows nothing about simplicity and how love could still foster strongly without such act of expression. And the best part is that he never realise his gf had such good qualities - in which, if he has the wisdom to handle this crisis, this personal hurdle is one stage where their relationship would soar much higher and the bonds will steel stronger and deeper.
The man started picking arguement with the girls over minor issue because he would have thought that she would mind his current status and became very sensitive with regards to her change in mood and character. But he didn't realise why because when a girl has to firm up and maintain the mascline role in the relationship temporary - she will be drained emotionally and spiritually. ONLY APPRECIATION can recharge her. He didn't gave her that battery - sparks will be common.
The one that suppose to fight the financial battle retreated, leaving his right-hand woman to fend for him - if his cash flow is already shaky, why does he still have his car? If he can't make the money - he could have reduce expenses to ease financial tension.
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Love can be material pleasurable - love can also be simple. This guy stayed too long in his world of wealth that he never knew how fulfilling a relationship can still be when it is simple.
They always quarrel because of money? Two possible reasons:
I) If the relationship is born from money, it will end at money.
II) If both never realise the fruit of love is through the intention and behavior to overcome challenge as a couple - it will fall.
Now feelings has died and he has learn his mistake - does she wants to give him one final chance? Or move on with life after imparting the skills of appreciation and simplicity to him? She can only chose one of these options and not move and try to pull the truck - it will only hurt two parties.
Cheers -
Sounds like Edmund Chen's character in the Mediacorp 9pm show leh. Actually, it's pretty weird that they dun feel ashamed of themselves la, how come huh?
(WHO'S NEXT TO GET SOFT RICE?!
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the girl should have left him...
he is a jerk cuz he doesnt know how to cherish her even though the girl has sacrified so much for him. he's the worst jerk i have ever read.
it's acceptable for a gal to feed her guy but not to that extent. the guy muz at least have a job or do something(e.g.take care of her basic need)
i'm starting to afraid that my bf is becoming like tt (but as worse as the guy in the article)... he's in debt too.. and my money is beginning to merge with his.. -
gigolo...
disgrace to men...
ya eat soft rice...
not good...
even if bo bian...eat 1,2days den go out n earn money n repay liao...
got take muz return...else conscience not good feeling... -
ASK HIM TO TIU GAO SAI LEI*........
*CANTONESE* -
Not okiE!
i got this colleague..pay for her EX BF hp bills (which comes up to $100+ 200+ per month)..she don't earn a lot loh.take home abt less than $1k..den plus her bill..she have been paying for 2 months liao...by the first week, she alrdy say she broke..have to borrow money from her friends in the end.. -
Please tell her not to be too submissive but a bit soft is okay.......Originally posted by BufPuf:Not okiE!
i got this colleague..pay for her EX BF hp bills (which comes up to $100+ 200+ per month)..she don't earn a lot loh.take home abt less than $1k..den plus her bill..she have been paying for 2 months liao...by the first week, she alrdy say she broke..have to borrow money from her friends in the end.. -
it takes a crisis to know a person true colour...
not when he is very well off...
to me,he fail the test...
his true colour reveal when he is down and out... -
x2 agreed..wonder y har...Originally posted by harryryan:This guy sounds like a fren of mine....except that my fren might not have a car....but than again he vanish so liao...dunno wat is happening in his life also.... which brings me to e point...y r most civil servants always like that?Horrible investors...always bet on soccer n 4d ,toto that kind of stuff...that after that get burned liao than in horrible debt.....wats with our civil servants?we pay them too well is it?i have seen some many cases around me liao -
the situation quoted in the first post is not a crisis.its the guy refusing to pick himself up and improve on the situation.Originally posted by Sister:Why is it not alright for a guy to live off a girl during a crisis ?