i heartless meh?
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haiz.. share my own little wif u guys...
abt a yr agao i met a new collouegus ..
that time i was abot to get married..
personally speaking i dun really like my husband..
i was going steady wif hi for 4 yrs .. b4 i was wif him i love a guy for 8yrs... that guy left me wifout giving me a reason.. n thru out the 8 yrs i was always hving him in m y heart...n i was leading a terrible life.. then i gt to met my husband .. he came into my life when its was the the rock bottom...n becos of his care n love showered onto me.. i start to hv a relationship wif him... y i married him.. becos of a bo liao reason...
he brouht me to a condo showroom n out of a thorough thinking i agreed wif him to gt the flat.. n then from there our marriage plan grew...
the month b4 i gt married i was feeling very very lousy.. i wanted very much to b a run away bride but becos my timid character n my parents pressure... i keep the plan to myself...
my this new colloegues then came into the pic...
he was a very confident n cute guy.. he brought a lot of laughter to my life...but still i jus regards him as a good friend
the day b4 i gt married i was feeling soooooooo lousy ..
i dun wan this guy to b my husband..
i always hv a very beautiful pic of marriage life.. i thnk a lady should married to some1 she love but nw.. this guy im going to married to is not really the 1 i love...
i muster up enuf courage n went to look for the ex i truely love... i told him hw i feel..
i was wishing he would say he love me.. if he said that.. im willing to b a run away bribe.. even ni will b accuse to b a wanton woman ... but i dun care....
still b4 4 hrs of my marriage this guy still never say anything..
in the end i gave up...
i went home i told myself since the 1 i love most is nt going to married me . well then whom i going to married will never make any difference...
b4 i reach home.. that new collegues of mine.., A called me n comfort me.. i really appreciate his concern... but was too grieve to thanks him..
the next morning wif a num heart i carry out the wedding ...
after my husband put the ring into my finger i burst out in tears..........................................
A pat my shoulder.. n gave me a very concern look.. i tell him im ok..
but to my horror.. A utter the word " i love you " to my ear..
i was stunned..
i wrap up the whole wedding feeling confuse..
that nite my hubby was drunk... n cant do anything funny.. n phew i feel so relieve.... -
If u dun love him, u gotto tell him - Adopted from movie.Originally posted by xiao chui:haiz.. share my own little wif u guys...
abt a yr agao i met a new collouegus ..
that time i was abot to get married..
personally speaking i dun really like my husband..
i was going steady wif hi for 4 yrs .. b4 i was wif him i love a guy for 8yrs... that guy left me wifout giving me a reason.. n thru out the 8 yrs i was always hving him in m y heart...n i was leading a terrible life.. then i gt to met my husband .. he came into my life when its was the the rock bottom...n becos of his care n love showered onto me.. i start to hv a relationship wif him... y i married him.. becos of a bo liao reason...
he brouht me to a condo showroom n out of a thorough thinking i agreed wif him to gt the flat.. n then from there our marriage plan grew...
the month b4 i gt married i was feeling very very lousy.. i wanted very much to b a run away bride but becos my timid character n my parents pressure... i keep the plan to myself...
my this new colloegues then came into the pic...
he was a very confident n cute guy.. he brought a lot of laughter to my life...but still i jus regards him as a good friend
the day b4 i gt married i was feeling soooooooo lousy ..
i dun wan this guy to b my husband..
i always hv a very beautiful pic of marriage life.. i thnk a lady should married to some1 she love but nw.. this guy im going to married to is not really the 1 i love...
i muster up enuf courage n went to look for the ex i truely love... i told him hw i feel..
i was wishing he would say he love me.. if he said that.. im willing to b a run away bribe.. even ni will b accuse to b a wanton woman ... but i dun care....
still b4 4 hrs of my marriage this guy still never say anything..
in the end i gave up...
i went home i told myself since the 1 i love most is nt going to married me . well then whom i going to married will never make any difference...
b4 i reach home.. that new collegues of mine.., A called me n comfort me.. i really appreciate his concern... but was too grieve to thanks him..
the next morning wif a num heart i carry out the wedding ...
after my husband put the ring into my finger i burst out in tears..........................................
A pat my shoulder.. n gave me a very concern look.. i tell him im ok..
but to my horror.. A utter the word " i love you " to my ear..
i was stunned..
i wrap up the whole wedding feeling confuse..
that nite my hubby was drunk... n cant do anything funny.. n phew i feel so relieve....
I guess that sums it all up.
Alternatively, juz have kids...lots of them. At least, u are helping the govt.
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it's a question that must be asked:
why get married if not for love? -
A pat my shoulder.. n gave me a very concern look.. i tell him im ok..
Who patted you? Husband or that colleage? And why do you think you are heartless? You married that guy what, you never let him down.
but to my horror.. A utter the word " i love you " to my ear..
i was stunned..
i wrap up the whole wedding feeling confuse..
that nite my hubby was drunk... n cant do anything funny.. n phew i feel so relieve.... -
Love is self-fish but in this problem,u feel gulity because your *husband* pick u up from the depths and u also feel a sense of debt to him,what u felt was not love but a good person to rely on,the moment your heart turn away from your supposed marriage,u know that its very clear who u wanted to be.
But as for your *husband*,it hurts alot and to him,u have broke his heart thousand times over than u could count.At this point u cannot do anything but only two choices
1)sacrifice your happiness and make your husband happy
2)sacrifice his happiness and make yourself happy
I would choose 2) as times go on,cracks will eventually show and its might just shatter. -
all are by-gone...no point talking abt why this and why tat now... u hav to face life in the face now... u have married him.
How is your marriage life now? Is it ok? -
not heartless, just stupid
know a new colleague of months
and you're confident that he's perfect husband material?
you'll end up taken for a ride by him
the way he acted at your wedding
probably just wants you for sex
and doesn't have your welfare in mind
get married! at least can live comfortably in condo -
Originally posted by no_speeding:At least, u are helping the govt.
baby bonus.....idea but must have CPF stand by and partner assests,isurance policy and Bank funds just for own incase tunderstorm comes 
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What done is done.
Ask yourself this? Do you really have no feeling for your husband? Will you be happier if you were to divorce him?
I had came across some people thinking that he/she does not love his/hers ex, but think otherwise when the are really separted. -
i din go to honeymoon wif my hubby.. cos i dun see the point of going...
i went bk to work 3 days later...
my mood hv never been good after that day..
A came to me n shower me alot of concern n care...
n after that almost everyday after work he will acompany me to dinner n walk me home...
my hubby was a workaholic..he never hv time to dine wif me...
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as time went by.. A n me start to grow in relationship..
he was really nice to me..
finally 1 fine day.. he kissed me in the car while sending me home.. n told me he love me.....i was again in a confuse state...
after dat nite... A n i start to get rather close.. but i will stop him when he went too far...but still i never tell him i love him.. cos i really dun think so
thing went on in this sick manner for some time...
untill 1 day when i was at home wif my hubby.. i read a msg from his hp dat really shock me...
my hubby was seeing another ger..
i gt very mix feeling.. i was feeling cheated n lousy the other side i feel so relieve...
finally i decided to blew it big...
n finally i gt my parent support n moved bk to my house... -
Sounds to me like we got another storyteller in Sgforums. Where got so many happenings one? Some people life are just so dramatic. Oh and of course, he go find another girl lah, who ask you don't give him. Like my uncle like that wife don't give him in the end divorce and marry China women.Originally posted by xiao chui:i din go to honeymoon wif my hubby.. cos i dun see the point of going...
i went bk to work 3 days later...
my mood hv never been good after that day..
A came to me n shower me alot of concern n care...
n after that almost everyday after work he will acompany me to dinner n walk me home...
my hubby was a workaholic..he never hv time to dine wif me...
...
as time went by.. A n me start to grow in relationship..
he was really nice to me..
finally 1 fine day.. he kissed me in the car while sending me home.. n told me he love me.....i was again in a confuse state...
after dat nite... A n i start to get rather close.. but i will stop him when he went too far...but still i never tell him i love him.. cos i really dun think so
thing went on in this sick manner for some time...
untill 1 day when i was at home wif my hubby.. i read a msg from his hp dat really shock me...
my hubby was seeing another ger..
i gt very mix feeling.. i was feeling cheated n lousy the other side i feel so relieve...
finally i decided to blew it big...
n finally i gt my parent support n moved bk to my house...
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ANother stupid hobbit's story is it? The events are happening too fast....Sounds familiar....I'm wondering are you NEXT!!!Originally posted by xiao chui:i din go to honeymoon wif my hubby.. cos i dun see the point of going...
i went bk to work 3 days later...
my mood hv never been good after that day..
A came to me n shower me alot of concern n care...
n after that almost everyday after work he will acompany me to dinner n walk me home...
my hubby was a workaholic..he never hv time to dine wif me...
...
as time went by.. A n me start to grow in relationship..
he was really nice to me..
finally 1 fine day.. he kissed me in the car while sending me home.. n told me he love me.....i was again in a confuse state...
after dat nite... A n i start to get rather close.. but i will stop him when he went too far...but still i never tell him i love him.. cos i really dun think so
thing went on in this sick manner for some time...
untill 1 day when i was at home wif my hubby.. i read a msg from his hp dat really shock me...
my hubby was seeing another ger..
i gt very mix feeling.. i was feeling cheated n lousy the other side i feel so relieve...
finally i decided to blew it big...
n finally i gt my parent support n moved bk to my house...
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Dramatic, crazy, and selfish.
A mess. One big mess.
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*speechless* -
Yawnz......another fake nehs nehs story in Aunt Agony.
*parn goes back to sleep again...... -
For a moment, i thought i was reading a poorly written MediaCock script sia.
(WHO'S NEXT TO WRITE A SCRIPT?! ) -
BIG MISTAKES!!! haiz..
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I really have nothing to say except: "Do whatever will make you happy..."
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Originally posted by xiao chui:haiz.. share my own little wif u guys...
abt a yr agao i met a new collouegus ..
that time i was abot to get married..
personally speaking i dun really like my husband..
i was going steady wif hi for 4 yrs .. b4 i was wif him i love a guy for 8yrs... that guy left me wifout giving me a reason.. n thru out the 8 yrs i was always hving him in m y heart...n i was leading a terrible life.. then i gt to met my husband .. he came into my life when its was the the rock bottom...n becos of his care n love showered onto me.. i start to hv a relationship wif him... y i married him.. becos of a bo liao reason...
he brouht me to a condo showroom n out of a thorough thinking i agreed wif him to gt the flat.. n then from there our marriage plan grew...
the month b4 i gt married i was feeling very very lousy.. i wanted very much to b a run away bride but becos my timid character n my parents pressure... i keep the plan to myself...
my this new colloegues then came into the pic...
he was a very confident n cute guy.. he brought a lot of laughter to my life...but still i jus regards him as a good friend
the day b4 i gt married i was feeling soooooooo lousy ..
i dun wan this guy to b my husband..
i always hv a very beautiful pic of marriage life.. i thnk a lady should married to some1 she love but nw.. this guy im going to married to is not really the 1 i love...
i muster up enuf courage n went to look for the ex i truely love... i told him hw i feel..
i was wishing he would say he love me.. if he said that.. im willing to b a run away bribe.. even ni will b accuse to b a wanton woman ... but i dun care....
still b4 4 hrs of my marriage this guy still never say anything..
in the end i gave up...
i went home i told myself since the 1 i love most is nt going to married me . well then whom i going to married will never make any difference...
b4 i reach home.. that new collegues of mine.., A called me n comfort me.. i really appreciate his concern... but was too grieve to thanks him..
the next morning wif a num heart i carry out the wedding ...
after my husband put the ring into my finger i burst out in tears..........................................
A pat my shoulder.. n gave me a very concern look.. i tell him im ok..
but to my horror.. A utter the word " i love you " to my ear..
i was stunned..
i wrap up the whole wedding feeling confuse..
that nite my hubby was drunk... n cant do anything funny.. n phew i feel so relieve....
You married for the wrong reasons and because you made your first mistake - the following decisions were ran on wrong tracks.
In the past, your heart only had one person, until your ex-bf of 8 years left you. You panic and your emotional structure collapse violently, leaving you nothing but a piece of wasteland. Even if wasn't stated, I am pretty sure that this 8-years relationship was a very difficult one. By love itself, it wasn't substantial - many other factors shaped and affected your attitude towards love.
When you hit the lowest stage of your life; someone came and you immediately cling onto him to salvage whatever fatal damage done to you. From there, you pick yourself up and at the same time, gain a relationship. Your outlook on love and relationship seriously need to revise and re-package if you wished to achieve fulfillment from it.
Parental pressure? Condo? These are crap reasons for you to accept marriage. Love doesn't run like a school - doesn't mean if you date for 4 years means you will be married eventually and everything else (in consideration of age, etc). You could be dating for 8 years and this man doesn't end up with you - So what's the big deal with 4 years? Nothing in fact.
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT and end up trying to employ the same psychological method to get out of your mess - the clingy style, which saved you previously. Its real strange and ironic that you are willing to contact your ex and be a runaway bride, than to stand like a rock and reject this marriage proposal, which is much easier. Your attitude towards love bends on making you suffer and adopt the destructive habit of avoidance.
Ah ha! Your colleague came into the picture and he is able to satisfy this emptiness cum dis-satisfaction in you. He is your 'savior' and the entire cycle repeats itself - you start to cling onto him and repeated your own history.
You think your colleague loves you? This is highly questionable and his character is getting dubious, considering he saw through your days of getting married and now accepting an affair with you. This affairs WILL be a sexual one and now at the back of your head, you are wondering if he would be a good choice and not something like your current husband again. You are playing with fire and would be burn to certain death eventually. I can see the root of problem lies with you and it will take more than just a post to let you understand or change your fate.
P.S: Are you a pisces? (Scorpio or Cancer?)
Cheers -
the guy A is an idiot... people jus married not long nia wanan break them up...
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Well, some people find it exciting/thrilling going after another man's wife. Just to prove how charming he can be...Originally posted by skeujin:the guy A is an idiot... people jus married not long nia wanan break them up... -
life wasnt a bed of rose after i went home... my mom wasa typical chinese woman.. she believe that when a ger is married.. no matter wat u gt to live wif that man the whole life...
wif this mindset.. she n i will hv rows every 2 weeks... she will pass sacastic remarks n used hash words on me... my hubby also came n look for me n beg for forgiveness....,he also managed to gain the support of my family....
gt 1 nite he came to my house , n kneel dwn to ask me go bk wif him.... my heart sink when he kneel dwn,but at the same time im disgusted wif this man... he actually kneel n cried infront of all my family members...all my family members start to blame me for being heartlessn urged me go bk wif him.. but i was so ashame with this man... wat the hell is he doing?????trying to act sympahty???
i refuse to go bk.. i went into my room n locked it........
things went on as usual wif A..
he will cum n wait for me everyday after work at office..n accompany me bk home..
i live in the east n he live in the west...
i tried many ways to stop him from doing so.. cos i noe its very tidious for him..there was once when he came i jus turned n run away.. but he chase after me.. n using his words to cushion me.. n haiz in the end he still mangae to sent me home...
A is really too nice to b true...he was always there when im dwn.. he will put aside all this work n "look after" me..
most of the time we arguenot becos of wat but jus becos of him wan cum fetech me or sent me home...
to b frank i feel very comfy n happy whenever im wif him.. but every time when im bk home n think of my situation .. i feel im such a lousy person.. wat the hell am i doing am i i toying wif A's feeling..
so the next day i will behv very cold to A n used harsh words on him.. but he very duracell sia... he will not gt affected..
i shout,scold,giv him cold shoulders he also dun feel a thing..
n i was never fail to b touched by him...
so he was really hving a hard time...
i really dun wish to b like dat.. i also wan to b wif n him happily but i cant... the guilt came after the happiness he gave me...
i tok to my husband for a divorce.. he say he dun agreed... he say he still wana try... i told him its impossible buthe jus refuse..
i when to seek legal action on seperation... he came to me ... n ask me to pay him bk the renovation fees for the condo which is around 65k...cos the condo can oni resale after 5 yrs.. if we divorce or wat the house gt to gif bk to HDB
i dun hv.. yes i noe i can dun chap him.. but i dun wish to see him shoulder any debt jus becos of me...
im nw buying time hoping to gt some money to pay him bk..
A noe abt all this n wana to lend me the money.. but i simply refuse.. cos i dun wish to b wif him jus becos of money..i gt my pride...
my life was really in the mess nw...
i dun think i love A.. but im feeling very happy n comfy when im wif him..n he is so durecell in ....but i feel so guity n ashame to b wif him... was keep feeling ppl r thinking im a wanton woman...
i wana divorce but i wish to leave my husband wif pride.but quite difficult
my parents n relative was against me divorcing...they r giving me alot alot of pressure
most of my friends r my hubby's friends.. when i wif them they also exert the pressure on me...
im a very self concious woman.. i keep feeling ppl r mocking at me at my bk... divorce oni after 2 months of marriage..
haiz... i was very stress whenever i think n feel abt all this...
yesterday i decided to make it clean between me n A...i sent him an email at night telling him .. i no longer feel comfy wif him.. instead i feel suffocated wif him...i oni want a simple friendship wif him.. also alot of heart hurtings words to him...
jus nw i recieve his reply..
oni 3 words..." you are heartlesssss"
am i really heartless...i was really hving his intrest at heart cos i noe is rather impossible for us to b together.. n i dun wish to make him waste his time on me...
haiz.... i hv not reply him any of his msgs n answered his call till nw..
i noe he is jus dwnstair waiting for me.. i told myself i die die must hang on.. cos if i soften mu heart again... everything will repeat..
i 'm hopping nw... i can "endure" over it.........
btw ... im a virgo... -
Virgo... hm...
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Hey, its not easy to knee down and beg someone to come home.
Believe me, u're screwing his life..
He will most prob become gay after this experience.
Oh well, on the bright side, dun u feel powerful now?!?!
Life is good. Juz earn lots of money and maybe u can go get a boytoy somewhere down the road...
Sheese... Im a virgo too. -
yah...you are heartless by not being honest with yourself and your husband.