how sincere is sincere...
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in trying to win a girls heart??
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By behaving as yourself and not trying to be somebody you are not...in hope of impressing the girl.Originally posted by ETboy:in trying to win a girls heart?? -
if u're genuinely sincere, u dont need to prove it.
if she doesnt appreciate it, or doesnt want to appreciate it, how sincere also useless. -
try putting your story here and we see how sincere you've been?
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Do not boast abt ur actions and they wil become more noticeable.
Just be urself and see how things go. -
ok i make it short...
i like this ger for abt 1 yr already... 1 yr of age younger den me... everytime i ask her out, she rejected me.. i open chalet invite her to come, she reject me... i ask her out for movie , she rejected me... we just went out 1 time only... guess to her i might be a boring person... i ask her to be my steady for the first time but she rejected me.. i knw maybe she still dunno me well so i continue to court her.. not giving up... after few month ask her second time also got rejected... i ask her why but she nv tell me...just ask me to give up... 3 time ask her again she rejected me again... i tried my best to like make her happy all this... try not to disturb her when she is studying, be her alarm clock wake her up in the early morning when she cannot... i try to be myself act like myself..
den recently only... she told my fren i'm not her type... i scold bad words all this ( which guy don scold when they got aggitated ) i dunno her well enough. and simply she say she can't forget her 1st bf... who change her totally from a ah lian to a guai ger...
tats wwad she said.. maybe i not sincere enuff to win her heart.. maybe i not her type... -
Orh...this means you're sincere(benefit of doubt) but you're not her taste.Originally posted by ETboy:ok i make it short...
i like this ger for abt 1 yr already... 1 yr of age younger den me... everytime i ask her out, she rejected me.. i open chalet invite her to come, she reject me... i ask her out for movie , she rejected me... we just went out 1 time only... guess to her i might be a boring person... i ask her to be my steady for the first time but she rejected me.. i knw maybe she still dunno me well so i continue to court her.. not giving up... after few month ask her second time also got rejected... i ask her why but she nv tell me...just ask me to give up... 3 time ask her again she rejected me again... i tried my best to like make her happy all this... try not to disturb her when she is studying, be her alarm clock wake her up in the early morning when she cannot... i try to be myself act like myself..
den recently only... she told my fren i'm not her type... i scold bad words all this ( which guy don scold when they got aggitated ) i dunno her well enough. and simply she say she can't forget her 1st bf... who change her totally from a ah lian to a guai ger...
tats wwad she said.. maybe i not sincere enuff to win her heart.. maybe i not her type...
Many times, guys take rejection as failure on their part. Which isn't always the case.
There are many times when the reason lies with opposite sex.
-Not interested
-Not ready to get into relationship
-Healing process
-You're not her taste.
-etc.
Don't try to decipher your failures/her rejection, your maybes will only count to depress confidence on yourself.
Maybes only tells me that you didn't calculate properly your plans.
She likes attention and it's free anyway.
Asking a girl to get into relationship on the first time-outing is double edged effect.
-If she likes you....you got her.
-If she doesn't really know you....she'll activate shield amour/protective cloak over herself.
Unless she's slightly interested in you. She will not go defensive.
No matter how sincere, always make sure that rejections doesn't mean failure on your part. There's always lessons to learn and get better.
Cheers. -
well said..
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I guess you must have forgotten to check that if she feels comfortable enough with you first before you tried asking her out.Originally posted by ETboy:ok i make it short...
i like this ger for abt 1 yr already... 1 yr of age younger den me... everytime i ask her out, she rejected me.. i open chalet invite her to come, she reject me... i ask her out for movie , she rejected me... we just went out 1 time only... guess to her i might be a boring person... i ask her to be my steady for the first time but she rejected me.. i knw maybe she still dunno me well so i continue to court her.. not giving up... after few month ask her second time also got rejected... i ask her why but she nv tell me...just ask me to give up... 3 time ask her again she rejected me again... i tried my best to like make her happy all this... try not to disturb her when she is studying, be her alarm clock wake her up in the early morning when she cannot... i try to be myself act like myself..
den recently only... she told my fren i'm not her type... i scold bad words all this ( which guy don scold when they got aggitated ) i dunno her well enough. and simply she say she can't forget her 1st bf... who change her totally from a ah lian to a guai ger...
tats wwad she said.. maybe i not sincere enuff to win her heart.. maybe i not her type...
I'm sure if she feels comfortable enough with you, you would have succeed. Girls don't like guys to scold bad words, so don't do that when you are out with girls. Use those bad words when you are really really pissed off.
How to see if she is comfortable enough with you? You will know if you are attentive enough to her.
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How can u keep asking her to be your steady if she only go out with u only once?
How can she be your steady if she don't know you well, other than your negative behaviour?
You are scaring her off with your advances. -
thats wad i said in the other post.. screw things up in the begining... but oh well... she dun 1 me is her loss hehe
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but still wad is sincerity? got exact defination of it ?
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Do something, but don't ever expect anything in return.
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IF Sincerity you also don't know what it means. Then no wonder you failed. HaixOriginally posted by ETboy:but still wad is sincerity? got exact defination of it ? -
Hmm...I didn't know that I'm such a sincere person.Originally posted by ditzy:Do something, but don't ever expect anything in return.
Yes I am.
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but i put in my heart liao ma.. not sincere enuff?Originally posted by M©+square:IF Sincerity you also don't know what it means. Then no wonder you failed. Haix -
love is about giving EVERYTHING for the 1 u love while NOT expecting anything in return.....
u expect her to be ur gf when u ask her to b ur stead n tats not going to work. -
Sincere or not is not the issue. or does not arise at all.Originally posted by ETboy:thats wad i said in the other post.. screw things up in the begining... but oh well... she dun 1 me is her loss hehe
Your approach is wrong.
It's not her loss. It's yours. -
Sincerity is doing something from the bottom of your heart and doing it truthfully,because u want to.Not for the sake of doing it.Thats the literal meaning.
Sincerity in relationships is the level of seriousness you have for your partner.Its all about commitment man.But hey,shit happens,sincere guys dont always win. -
You have not put in your heart until you've put in your heart, because you will never know when you have truly put in your heart.Originally posted by ETboy:but i put in my heart liao ma.. not sincere enuff? -
be yourself, try to know her likings etc and etc. fate and affinity plays a part also...'mo qiang qiu'
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Be more graceful, be a gentlemen. These are the basics bah. Note that when girls dislike guys "who dun get their idea".
So when they are not interested (without saying it, you noe body languages etc), better leave them alone for a while.
But if they say they are not interested in your face! You better give up. Or else you ended as their irritant. Then, they wouldn't even be a relationship as being a simple friend.
So whose lost is greater? -
"First impressions last forever."
Good luck in trying to change her opinion of you.Some people live their lives thinking other people are assholes even though they know so little about the other person.A hearsay,an exagerrated story can change the image of a person instantly.All i can say is take things one step at a time. -
find another gal la. if the gal interested in u, normally will not disappoint u one. at least can kiss by 3rd date......Originally posted by thomas_the_devils:well said.. -
Kiss by third date?Originally posted by jaimeyeo:find another gal la. if the gal interested in u, normally will not disappoint u one. at least can kiss by 3rd date......
Err...how do you actually do that huh? Can teach me or tell me or not ah? I very shy leh...
