Originally posted by ETboy:
ok i make it short...
i like this ger for abt 1 yr already... 1 yr of age younger den me... everytime i ask her out, she rejected me.. i open chalet invite her to come, she reject me... i ask her out for movie , she rejected me... we just went out 1 time only... guess to her i might be a boring person... i ask her to be my steady for the first time but she rejected me.. i knw maybe she still dunno me well so i continue to court her.. not giving up... after few month ask her second time also got rejected... i ask her why but she nv tell me...just ask me to give up... 3 time ask her again she rejected me again... i tried my best to like make her happy all this... try not to disturb her when she is studying, be her alarm clock wake her up in the early morning when she cannot... i try to be myself act like myself..
den recently only... she told my fren i'm not her type... i scold bad words all this ( which guy don scold when they got aggitated ) i dunno her well enough. and simply she say she can't forget her 1st bf... who change her totally from a ah lian to a guai ger...
tats wwad she said.. maybe i not sincere enuff to win her heart.. maybe i not her type...
Orh...this means you're sincere(benefit of doubt) but you're not her taste.
Many times, guys take rejection as failure on their part. Which isn't always the case.
There are many times when the reason lies with opposite sex.
-Not interested
-Not ready to get into relationship
-Healing process
-You're not her taste.
-etc.
Don't try to decipher your failures/her rejection, your maybes will only count to depress confidence on yourself.
Maybes only tells me that you didn't calculate properly your plans.
She likes attention and it's free anyway.
Asking a girl to get into relationship on the first time-outing is double edged effect.
-If she likes you....you got her.
-If she doesn't really know you....she'll activate shield amour/protective cloak over herself.
Unless she's slightly interested in you. She will not go defensive.
No matter how sincere, always make sure that rejections doesn't mean failure on your part. There's always lessons to learn and get better.
Cheers.