quarter life crisis....
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... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
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Cheer up....
If you feel horrible...life will be horrible...I know its neva easy to cheer yourself up at times when you are really down......but hey....everyone has days when they are really down...... -
eh... i only know that qtr life crisis is caused by us not being able to achieve things in life...Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
like when we were younger, we have this dream abt achieving this and that... but when we have grown up, we realise that it's not the same and feels short charged...
hmm.. this is the only part that i remembered.. think last itme i had an email about this.... dunno whether i can still find it or not.. if i managed to find it, will post it here ba....
but then it will be good if u can find a fren to talk over it with... think a lot of ppl had gone thru it b4.. so did i... but it will pass over one lor.... take care, yah?
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ai yo yo..... see open abit lah... just take one day at a time.......i have that kind of feeling for yrs.....
i think it's time for u to start a family..... and have kids... that i guess may change ur life forever....then u will not be so sianz already.........
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*ponders the first para*... mabbe mabbe...Originally posted by coolger03:eh... i only know that qtr life crisis is caused by us not being able to achieve things in life...
like when we were younger, we have this dream abt achieving this and that... but when we have grown up, we realise that it's not the same and feels short charged...
but then it will be good if u can find a fren to talk over it with... think a lot of ppl had gone thru it b4.. so did i... but it will pass over one lor.... take care, yah?
as for talking with someone else, well, i rather not bother someone else wif my own problems - for all i noe they may be facing the same problems too. wont be fair and nice to make them handle twice the load.
hence i posted here lor...
dunno.. mabbe i need to understand wat is causing all these... but it may take quite some time. or mabbe i will jus grow used to it..
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this must be a guy's thing... seems like most of my guy frens are like that also...Originally posted by wuming78:*ponders the first para*... mabbe mabbe...
as for talking with someone else, well, i rather not bother someone else wif my own problems - for all i noe they may be facing the same problems too. wont be fair and nice to make them handle twice the load.
hence i posted here lor...
dunno.. mabbe i need to understand wat is causing all these... but it may take quite some time. or mabbe i will jus grow used to it..
hmm... but then as frens, they wil be more than willing to share ur problems and happiness also mah.... that's what frens are for, rite?
dun always carry the problem on ur shoulder... will only make u shorter and shorter nia...
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ah ming ....be cheerful and look at the positive things in life.Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis? 
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Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
cheer up man.
sick of job switch line lor.
wat meaningful things u doin?
i hope not go clubbing or a drink?
better go SPCA or do some social work better?
makes life meaningful.
now still young go for ambition...but see many
grow old already instead of promotion, transfer or ambitions, become hloding on to ricebowl scared ppl snatch it away man.
its a funny world out there.
tey learning new stuff or pick up a part time course lor.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis? -
yes i am doing volunteer work now.Originally posted by 'm back:cheer up man.
sick of job switch line lor.
wat meaningful things u doin?
i hope not go clubbing or a drink?
better go SPCA or do some social work better?
makes life meaningful.
now still young go for ambition...but see many
grow old already instead of promotion, transfer or ambitions, become hloding on to ricebowl scared ppl snatch it away man.
its a funny world out there.
tey learning new stuff or pick up a part time course lor. :mrgreen
i jus hope my eventual change in job will be the solution. but then again tt cannot be guaranteed. i myself am not sure..
yah.. mabbe i should go back to school... -
awwwww....man i have lived for a quarter of a century n i still hasn't step out to the werking society b4....btw is there relli a quarter life crisis?? how come i nv felt it b4....Originally posted by wuming78:yes i am doing volunteer work now.
i jus hope my eventual change in job will be the solution. but then again tt cannot be guaranteed. i myself am not sure..
yah.. mabbe i should go back to school... -
lucki / unlucki u!Originally posted by nww16:awwwww....man i have lived for a quarter of a century n i still hasn't step out to the werking society b4....btw is there relli a quarter life crisis?? how come i nv felt it b4....
i dunno.. mabbe u tell me after u start working? i am wondering if its cos i just started work and hence not having adapted fully to the sian-ness of working life yet. -
do other things when u knock off? close friends....girl friend....?Originally posted by wuming78:lucki / unlucki u!
i dunno.. mabbe u tell me after u start working? i am wondering if its cos i just started work and hence not having adapted fully to the sian-ness of working life yet. -
Knew someone who managed to overcome probably her 1/4 life crisis. Fell sick, hospitalised, fiance left because of this, no job, so-called friends left... Now almost healthy, single and contented, employed and knows who the real friends are. And knowing the fact that the family will always be there for her regardless of what state she is in.
Be more +ve. Volunteering is good, it lets you render much-needed support to the less fortunate but you must also be mentally strong in order to be able to help them.
Hope you will feel better soon. -
Hi ppl, i'm 25 too, facing the same crisis.
i used to think at this age, i would be driving fast car with pretty babe and that i would be happy.
even though i have been working for few years, i think it still a fantasy :p
i think i'm a pathetic snob, taking the toll for getting all these money in this world. -
sigh..Originally posted by Phoebeng:Be more +ve. Volunteering is good, it lets you render much-needed support to the less fortunate but you must also be mentally strong in order to be able to help them.
as i do my volunteer work, i begin to know myself more, and also know more about how dark life can be, and how miserable people can get, the darker side of singaporean society - the poor, the less fortunate, the forgotten..
and i begin to doubt myself too..
i begin to wonder if i am actually suitable for i am doing... -
Wuming. What you need is for Ratnam *cough* Morpheus to come and unplug you, so that you can join the resistance against the machines *cough* PAP *cough*. I know how you feel, that there is something wrong with the world here in SG.. FOllow the White Bunny.
Ok that was 2 cheer u up a bit hehe. ALrighty Wuming. What you gotta do is find some faith in religion. Otherwise, what u gotta do is get your friends together (assuming u have some) and go out and meet some babes EIther way get outside and have fun in a social group. -
haa.. tat seems usual...
esp 4 one who suddently realise tat e current routine Sucks big time & got nothin valuable achieved/gain financially/mentally/physically
i hve tat abt 3 yrs bk...
depending wat izit tat u REALLY WANT to HAVE in tis Lifetime,
mayb gotta spend some quality time to sort it out?
if hve a mentor / parents / gd pals 2 help u will b better?
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OR here's a few questions u can ask urself?
1. wat m i doin tis for?
2. is this job satisfactory? [got promotion prospects? got increment?]
3. is my life njoyable? [family/frens?]
4. do i've any control over how much i earn / do / njoy / spend?
5. can wat i'm doing now help make my DREAM come true at all?
6. if not do i've other alternatives?
Hope they're useful... 2 a certain extent... 4 anyone in here
if tink u need ta tok 2 a stranger abt it?
i'm most willing 2 offer a huge listening ear 93679065
btw i'm selina 27/f/ch[/size]
Life is but journey of experience. Njoy the process & benefit from it.
Everything U Want Is Outside of Your Comfort Zone.
The Only SUCCESS = to be able to spend Your Life in Your Own Way.
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Quit yr job and go backpack to see the world ,open up yr mind and u will realise more important things and yr aims! Short one-6months,long one-2yrs
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Originally posted by zyrix:
i don't have any positive answers for the above questions.
haa.. tat seems usual...
esp 4 one who suddently realise tat e current routine Sucks big time & got nothin valuable achieved/gain financially/mentally/physically
i hve tat abt 3 yrs bk...
depending wat izit tat u REALLY WANT to HAVE in tis Lifetime,
mayb gotta spend some quality time to sort it out?
if hve a mentor / parents / gd pals 2 help u will b better?
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OR here's a few questions u can ask urself?
1. wat m i doin tis for?
2. is this job satisfactory? [got promotion prospects? got increment?]
3. is my life njoyable? [family/frens?]
4. do i've any control over how much i earn / do / njoy / spend?
5. can wat i'm doing now help make my DREAM come true at all?
6. if not do i've other alternatives?
Hope they're useful... 2 a certain extent... 4 anyone in here
if tink u need ta tok 2 a stranger abt it?
i'm most willing 2 offer a huge listening ear 93679065
btw i'm selina 27/f/ch[/size]
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just a note of advice, keep your contact private -
I wish i could, but it will bust my savings for this. isn't it travel like that lonesome?Originally posted by CannyOng:Quit yr job and go backpack to see the world ,open up yr mind and u will realise more important things and yr aims! Short one-6months,long one-2yrs -
hmmm... maybe switching a job where you feel you belong to..Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
Wider your social circles.. Doing meaningful things doesn't mean it will make you happy..
are you doing it for the sake of doing?? maybe you should do something you like that will make you even happier!
Now another thing.. is to look on a brighter side.. you keep dwelling in all these.. you feel worse as each day passes..
you feel so meaningless living like this... Change your lifestyle..
Go for classes.. like dancing.. learning to play some instrument you always wanted to learn.. rock climbing.. chill out with friends..
there's many things for you to do n learn.. in this lifetime.. jus find one that you really like.. and go for it..
Meet different ppl.. and make friends.. if you enjoy their compamy.. you feel much more happy than you are now..
for family.. er.. try to build up your relationship with them.. no matter what... they are still your parents.. and siblings..
had small talks with them at home.. if really cannot work out.. then maybe try other different matter.. like.. birthdays coming up.. get something that you knwo they sure like it.. give it them personally n say " HAppy birthday" i'm sure they will be touched.. -
become my friend and u will be very happyOriginally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis? -
wat an irony.Originally posted by SunRisE:hmmm... maybe switching a job where you feel you belong to..
Wider your social circles.. Doing meaningful things doesn't mean it will make you happy..
are you doing it for the sake of doing?? maybe you should do something you like that will make you even happier!
Now another thing.. is to look on a brighter side.. you keep dwelling in all these.. you feel worse as each day passes..
you feel so meaningless living like this... Change your lifestyle..
Go for classes.. like dancing.. learning to play some instrument you always wanted to learn.. rock climbing.. chill out with friends..
there's many things for you to do n learn.. in this lifetime.. jus find one that you really like.. and go for it..
Meet different ppl.. and make friends.. if you enjoy their compamy.. you feel much more happy than you are now..
for family.. er.. try to build up your relationship with them.. no matter what... they are still your parents.. and siblings..
had small talks with them at home.. if really cannot work out.. then maybe try other different matter.. like.. birthdays coming up.. get something that you knwo they sure like it.. give it them personally n say " HAppy birthday" i'm sure they will be touched..
i have given the same kind of advise to others.
and now someone else is giving them to me.
sigh...
in the end i mus find out the root of the problem, and the root of the trigger tt led to all these thoughts.
i realli like wat i am volunteering now. but i mus admit the ups and downs that come with it can be quite difficult to handle.
in the end, i think i worry too much too. and i think too pessimistically. perhaps its a conditioned response from all my past experiences of disappointments and all.
sometimes its a beauty not to think or plan too far, not to hear and not to see.... -
there's life.. you will tell ppl how to solve wat are the solutions.. but when it comes to yourself.. you are at loss..Originally posted by wuming78:wat an irony.
i have given the same kind of advise to others.
and now someone else is giving them to me.
sigh...
in the end i mus find out the root of the problem, and the root of the trigger tt led to all these thoughts.
i realli like wat i am volunteering now. but i mus admit the ups and downs that come with it can be quite difficult to handle.
in the end, i think i worry too much too. and i think too pessimistically. perhaps its a conditioned response from all my past experiences of disappointments and all.
sometimes its a beauty not to think or plan too far, not to hear and not to see....
"When you lose.. don't lose the lesson.. " -
R u a Piscean?Originally posted by wuming78:wat an irony.
i have given the same kind of advise to others.
and now someone else is giving them to me.
sigh...
in the end i mus find out the root of the problem, and the root of the trigger tt led to all these thoughts.
i realli like wat i am volunteering now. but i mus admit the ups and downs that come with it can be quite difficult to handle.
in the end, i think i worry too much too. and i think too pessimistically. perhaps its a conditioned response from all my past experiences of disappointments and all.
sometimes its a beauty not to think or plan too far, not to hear and not to see....