quarter life crisis....
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no im not.Originally posted by loudmonkey:R u a Piscean? -
go get mistress?Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
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Oei, at 25? Is'nt that a tad bit young to have a mistress?Originally posted by gaoyue:go get mistress?
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Try going church, maybe can seek God's help
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eh sorry, i blur.Originally posted by :Oei, at 25? Is'nt that a tad bit young to have a mistress? 
go get a healthy gf? or join church lor, i can intro you to my cell group. -
im happy with my religion now thanks...
as for gfs.. well.. they will certainly help one missing portion in my life, but they will also introduce another set of problems too...
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That is so true. Relationships can be a chore sometimes cos it means having to take care of that person and be sensitive to his/her feelings as well. Think you should make more friends instead of having a relationship to divert your attention fm the sorrow you are currently feeling.
Why dont you take up a sport or, yoga?
Life is dark sometimes. Otherwise it wouldnt be interesting should it remain monotonous. It just depends on how you want to reach the end of the tunnel.
Be strong. -
prob just find a focus (be it gf or work or money) and work on it?
me reaching 1/4 century pretty soon too....
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Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis? 
You did meaningful things for the sake of doing them, thinking that it will make you feel better. Maybe it did, but your soul is still empty. Using Maslow theory, I suggest you seek out a goal that could help you attain self actualization. The things you are doing now is for yourself, not for your soul. Sure volunteering is a good cause, but which kind of volunteering more suitable to assist you to have a more fulfilling life? Or is it something outside charity work?
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No. What you want in a relationship is for the other person to make you feel good, and likewise you to her. It does not call for you to elope with her, neither does it mean you gotta see her every day lol.Originally posted by wuming78:im happy with my religion now thanks...
as for gfs.. well.. they will certainly help one missing portion in my life, but they will also introduce another set of problems too...
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Hey Wuming, wanna do something perhaps more meaningful? Join me in the future when i become a freedom-fighter and hi-jack 2 NASA space shuttles and fly to MArs to begin a new life and claim a New world for myself
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Originally posted by wuming78:
... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
What sort of meaningful things do you do now adays though? -
this i am sure is NOT the case. i engaged in them because i feel strongly about wat i was doing. happiness was not my main motivation - well there r many ways i can seek happiness using the same amount of time i have spent. and i went in prepared for the roughs in it.Originally posted by Yunhaier: You did meaningful things for the sake of doing them, thinking that it will make you feel better. Maybe it did, but your soul is still empty. Using Maslow theory, I suggest you seek out a goal that could help you attain self actualization. The things you are doing now is for yourself, not for your soul. Sure volunteering is a good cause, but which kind of volunteering more suitable to assist you to have a more fulfilling life? Or is it something outside charity work?
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well.. let's say there are areas in life tt i am not satisfied with now.. some within my control, others not.Originally posted by men_@_arms:No. What you want in a relationship is for the other person to make you feel good, and likewise you to her. It does not call for you to elope with her, neither does it mean you gotta see her every day lol.
What exactly is da problem wuming? U just feeling depressed?
the routines of day to day living sometimes distracts us from these underlying issues which are latent but unresolved.
and whenever something goes awry, it drags out the whole mess.
i know wat went awry, and yes, it dragged out the whole mess again.
perhaps i always procrastinated looking at those issues in the face. and also, i havent dwelled too much into the real causes of these issues.
are what i ranted on the symptoms? or the real problems?
guess i just need to force myself to reflect on them.
but im sure once this current problem blow over, and life returns to normal, i will forget about dealing with them again.
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Originally posted by wuming78:this i am sure is NOT the case. i engaged in them because i feel strongly about wat i was doing. happiness was not my main motivation - well there r many ways i can seek happiness using the same amount of time i have spent. and i went in prepared for the roughs in it. Your birthday coming right?
/me count fingers.
What I meant is simply if are aggressive sort who wants the finest things in life, you should have some form of goal to work for and ease your emptiness. But I doubt so for cancer are generally not aggressive, therefore you probably lack emotional protection, dependancy and love.
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wah. u can even rem i am cancer?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Your birthday coming right?
/me count fingers.
What I meant is simply if are aggressive sort who wants the finest things in life, you should have some form of goal to work for and ease your emptiness. But I doubt so for cancer are generally not aggressive, therefore you probably lack emotional protection, dependancy and love.
Cheers
well.. its true i lack love. not so sure about emotional protection and dependancy... i am very independent.
and cancerians are not aggressive - as u mentioned. -
Originally posted by wuming78:well.. let's say there are areas in life tt i am not satisfied with now.. some within my control, others not.
the routines of day to day living sometimes distracts us from these underlying issues which are latent but unresolved.
and whenever something goes awry, it drags out the whole mess.
i know wat went awry, and yes, it dragged out the whole mess again.
perhaps i always procrastinated looking at those issues in the face. and also, i havent dwelled too much into the real causes of these issues.
are what i ranted on the symptoms? or the real problems?
guess i just need to force myself to reflect on them.
but im sure once this current problem blow over, and life returns to normal, i will forget about dealing with them again.
oh well....
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Originally posted by wuming78:wah. u can even rem i am cancer?
well.. its true i lack love. not so sure about emotional protection and dependancy... i am very independent.
and cancerians are not aggressive - as u mentioned. Independent people still do need emotional support and protection and generally cancer often display the strong-outside-weak-inside front.
Of course I remembered... si xiang...
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for wuming >>>Originally posted by Yunhaier: Independent people still do need emotional support and protection and generally cancer often display the strong-outside-weak-inside front.
Of course I remembered... si xiang...
Cheers
WAI PIAO kan Qi Lai heng Jian QIang.. Jing de Qi feng CUi yu Ta..
Dan Xin Li.. Qi shi Heng Cui Ruo... <<-- very cancer..
Emotions play a great part in your life rather than using your mind/ brain..
you tend to follow your heart.. not your mind..
Like what you says.. you dun wan to bother anyone about your problems.. or wat.. but rather keep it to yourself..
Jus like the Crab hiding back to itself..
You should open up more to ppl.. better than to keep it to yourself.. -
si xiang?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Independent people still do need emotional support and protection and generally cancer often display the strong-outside-weak-inside front.
Of course I remembered... si xiang...
Cheers
and yes, i agree on the strong outside weak inside. but mus qualify tt only applies to the emotional realm! -
well.. sometimes your emotions rule over your mind.. you don't even notice it..
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Quarter life crisis is natural and is actually quite common in cities. Here's a website to know more about quarter life crisis, aptly named
http://www.quarterlifecrisis.com/ -
your mind is an emotional mind in the first place, people will always be emotional.Originally posted by SunRisE:well.. sometimes your emotions rule over your mind.. you don't even notice it.. -
1/4-life crisis doesn't come to you...the problems are within yourself.Originally posted by wuming78:... wat is it? wat are the signs and symptoms?
i have only worked for a little more than one year and i am already sick of my job and working in general...
i am tired of the monotone of life even though i am doing things to make it less so - but soon these ECAs i have done become routinised to me too...
i am doing meaningful things, things i like after work, but somehow they still do not make me happy.
no change in the other aspects of life.. still single. still same lousy relation with family.
1/4-life crisis leading to these, or these causing 1/4-life crisis?
only you yourself can change your life.
to kickstart, challenge and redeem yourself, e.g. break your daily routines....e.g. do something crazy wic u never dare to do (nt crime).....e.g. do or say something to your family wic u wun dare or too embarrass to do it(arrgghhh).
its may take a lot of effort n courage to do tt. -
u are not the only one....
most people will experinece it too, jus that they have not feel it..
or some people just delude themselves that life is okay and fine .
such que ususally links to the que of the meaning of life which is an extremely difficult difficult que.. i doubt few in the world can answer it well, even i am trying to answer it myself during the hols....
the single advice posted are generally true but following them is probably not going help you solve your crisis...
because life is too complex to be summarised by few quotes herre and there...
in conclusion.... there is no conlusion...