he no longer....*sobz* *sobz*
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he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair. -
r u all married??
seems that something drastic haf taken place.
did something went rong?
plz tell us more of urself.. -
complain to him about it lor... tell him dun take u for granted if not.. u will run away one... i think that will wake him up...
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we've been together for more then a yr, the initial periods of us being togther was sweet, leaving great memories, everything he does to & for me has such sensitivity. so its like honeymoon periodsOriginally posted by BaByBoY:r u all married??
seems that something drastic haf taken place.
did something went rong?
plz tell us more of urself..
but now, we go out seldom hold hands, no more hands on waist, no more i feed-u-u-feed me liao...
i have to take the first move always to hold his hands etc.. -
can anybody gv me advise???
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i did but u ignore mi.. so.. nvm lorOriginally posted by bEaNspRoUt:can anybody gv me advise??? -
Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair.
Wah liew.....i dink jialat liaoz....i smel trouble
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sorry didnt see it...Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):i did but u ignore mi.. so.. nvm lor
i mention to him before, he said those are honeymoon periods, den after it is called wat?
seperation periods?? -
few reason lah...Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:sorry didnt see it...
i mention to him before, he said those are honeymoon periods, den after it is called wat?
seperation periods??
1) he just giving excuses to force u to dump him
2) he already got what he wanted...
3) he is really born like that and dun treasure what he have
solution...if u are really not happy with the way he is treating u.. just dump him lah.. guy will really wake up when gf say that one... but if he dun... that mean u not important to him anymore what... -
Go read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Lots of insight into different stages of a relationship. If you really love him, then you must go and find the solution yourself
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i hope its no the first.Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):few reason lah...
1) he just giving excuses to force u to dump him
2) he already got what he wanted...
3) he is really born like that and dun treasure what he have
solution...if u are really not happy with the way he is treating u.. just dump him lah.. guy will really wake up when gf say that one... but if he dun... that mean u not important to him anymore what...
i dun wish to put the word "dump" infront.. if everytime quarrels den use this, he wll get used to it n will not take it seriously. eventually he gets tired n said okie, wont it make matters worse?? -
i'm not asking u to use it everytime... i'm saying u to settle ur problem with him once and for all... so if cannot settle just change bf, dun drag already....... and if can settle why will quarrel everytime????Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:i hope its no the first.
i dun wish to put the word "dump" infront.. if everytime quarrels den use this, he wll get used to it n will not take it seriously. eventually he gets tired n said okie, wont it make matters worse??
quarrel for fun one is ok in a relationship but if it's always quarreling till like so bad one.. then what for in the relationship??? if not happy together then love so much also no use right??? u 2 really have to sit down and talk and understand why u 2 always quarrel?? right??? -
cant believe hold hand is oso considered "honeymoon period"... this is sad news but he sound like mcp ah pek in the making... how old is he? mayb next time he will walk infront of u liao... well this kind of thing is best to let him know it, tell him tat u like the intimate stuff he did even after his so call "honeymoon period"... mayb he didnt felt appreciated or he sian of u liao?... go try to understand y he reali doesnt do it... cheers...Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:we've been together for more then a yr, the initial periods of us being togther was sweet, leaving great memories, everything he does to & for me has such sensitivity. so its like honeymoon periods
but now, we go out seldom hold hands, no more hands on waist, no more i feed-u-u-feed me liao...
i have to take the first move always to hold his hands etc.. -
Then can you like him as a friend as well? Return him back his cold receptions and see how he reacts. If still no effect on him, then maybe you should start planning for the worst.Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair.
Hmm....I cannot make him love you again, and I also don't want you to make yourself desperate for him. So...best is to be a mirror and reflect the same treatment back to him. May he is having some internal struggle with himself....family problems, work problems...and worse...he like another girl. But all these is just an assumption, so don't take them seriously. In fact, you should be doing something to cheer yourself up.
Good luck and stay happy. -
somethings not rite i feel.. u better haf a gd talk with him over dis matter... dun probe too much.. 1 thing at a time..Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair. -
Oh..wat honeymoon period over.. *Rubb|sh*Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair.
Everyday can be honeymoon period.. depending on how you sees your relationship.. or how you maintain your relationship... Both must COMPROMISE!
Suggest that you have a talk with him.. find out what's wrong.. What causes him to change suddenly?? There are many many reasons due to this.. YOu have to sit down and really think thoroughly.. is it something that you have done that makes him treat you this way??
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it seems to me that he`s suffered a BIG impact for him to change like that out of a sudden as u haf claimed.Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:we've been together for more then a yr, the initial periods of us being togther was sweet, leaving great memories, everything he does to & for me has such sensitivity. so its like honeymoon periods
but now, we go out seldom hold hands, no more hands on waist, no more i feed-u-u-feed me liao...
i have to take the first move always to hold his hands etc..
w him givin u the cold shoulder doesnt mean he don like u anymore.
have u asked him if he`s facing any prob?
family prob financial prob or frendship prob?
sometime he tries u let u leave him becuz he ACTUALLY wans u to be happy. ( aka assumption that u`ll be better wo him )
the least u muz do is to ask him and show him care and concern at this permissable period..
DON EVER GIVE HIM THE COLD SHOLDER!!
a gd R/S requires effort from both parties..
now that if u know he`s down, bring him up again
tt`ll bring ur R/S to the nxt lv...
good luck to ur relationship
to be honest to urself and him
haf he or u done anything to bring ur R/S to this stage..
only u know best -
Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair.
Even though love eco-cycle does have different phrases in a relationship; to use it as a reason to explain his behavior is like what Sunrise has mentioned: rubbish.
So what now? Since he has claim that 'honeymoon' is over - then the question is: WHAT is he going to do about it? If there are informing and sharing of situations between the relationship - why isn't there a mutual effort in trying to maintain them? So what now? To say that 'honeymoon' is over and sit around - does it justify his bad attitude towards the relationship? Don't buy that crap.
How old is the both of you?
P.S: There are more than meets the eye; he may be observing elsewhere that capture his interest, much more than his relationship.
Cheers -
Sorry if i hav to repeat what the others hav said.. but it really sound like rubbishOriginally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair. -
it seems a common mistake of many ppl-- nv appreciating what they hav.
i am.. no, i was one of such idiots too.
To beansprout: u can, perhaps, return him the cold attitude & see how he reacts. That perhaps may jolt him out of the "take for granted" mode, somethk prevelant in many ppl in a relationship.
But if he seems nochalent, then u be prepared for the worst & realised maybe its time to let go.
Best is still have a heart to heart talk with him.. based on what u described abt him, he rely sound like someone quite F** up.
sorry if i sound harsh, but i'd rely seen many of such ppl ard ..
Anway all the best to u & tissue -
sorry, didn't read this earlier.. well, think u now have some rely opposing advices ( paiseh, didn't mean to confuse u)Originally posted by BaByBoY:it seems to me that he`s suffered a BIG impact for him to change like that out of a sudden as u haf claimed.
w him givin u the cold shoulder doesnt mean he don like u anymore.
have u asked him if he`s facing any prob?
family prob financial prob or frendship prob?
sometime he tries u let u leave him becuz he ACTUALLY wans u to be happy. ( aka assumption that u`ll be better wo him )
the least u muz do is to ask him and show him care and concern at this permissable period..
DON EVER GIVE HIM THE COLD SHOLDER!!
a gd R/S requires effort from both parties..
now that if u know he`s down, bring him up again
tt`ll bring ur R/S to the nxt lv...
good luck to ur relationship
to be honest to urself and him
haf he or u done anything to bring ur R/S to this stage..
only u know best
Actually, we know nothing of him other than what u hav described, so ultimately u are the best person to detemine what approach to take..
If u believed that somethk cld be causing him to react like that, then perhaps hav a talk with him & stand by him.
The greatest regret i hav in life (til now..) is ... not havin someone willing to stand by me regardless of cirsumstances.
When i sunk in depression earlier on, my gf left me at the time i needed her most.
IT not only worsen my situation & but diminished my self-worth; am i in someway inferior that's why i dun hav someone willing to stand by me?
Thats why if i ever find someone willing to stand by me... i be so dammed touch, die for her also can
But if that's not the case, be brave & make a wise decision (use head, not heart in this case) -
IMO, 2 rongs don make a rite..Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:it seems a common mistake of many ppl-- nv appreciating what they hav.
i am.. no, i was one of such idiots too.
To beansprout: u can, perhaps, return him the cold attitude & see how he reacts. That perhaps may jolt him out of the "take for granted" mode, somethk prevelant in many ppl in a relationship.
But if he seems nochalent, then u be prepared for the worst & realised maybe its time to let go.
Best is still have a heart to heart talk with him.. based on what u described abt him, he rely sound like someone quite F** up.
sorry if i sound harsh, but i'd rely seen many of such ppl ard ..
Anway all the best to u & tissue
hope u all get my pt.. -
TO bean sprout: read the colored words..Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:sorry, didn't read this earlier.. well, think u now have some rely opposing advices ( paiseh, didn't mean to confuse u)
Actually, we know nothing of him other than what u hav described, so ultimately u are the best person to detemine what approach to take..
If u believed that somethk cld be causing him to react like that, then perhaps hav a talk with him & stand by him.
The greatest regret i hav in life (til now..) is ... not havin someone willing to stand by me regardless of cirsumstances.
When i sunk in depression earlier on, my gf left me at the time i needed her most.IT not only worsen my situation & but diminished my self-worth; am i in someway inferior that's why i dun hav someone willing to stand by me?
Thats why if i ever find someone willing to stand by me... i be so dammed touch, die for her also can
But if that's not the case, be brave & make a wise decision (use head, not heart in this case)
u don wan to see ur BF suffer do u?
ASK HIM wat`s the prob..
and be by his side when he needs u most..
he`ll be very very touched -
Ya, I don't buy that also. A guy should remain loving even after marriage, he should still hold hands, give hugs, take food for u, fetch u etc. If he doesn't do any of the above, then dump him. Don't settle for lousy behaviour
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is all these important ? dn let it affect ur r/s... most impt is his heart nt all these hold hands & hugs...mus trust him~Originally posted by bEaNspRoUt:he longer holds my hands when we go out
he longer hugs me though in public
he longer gv sweet thoughts
he claimed all were becoz we are in honeymoon periods
isit so?
even if its so, holding hands also in honey moon periods?
i really miss those times, though we are still a couple now, but i find that we are more like friends, then a pair.