Hi..I have never been involve in one like this actually...Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz..
Hi elmo:Originally posted by elmoloveyou:Hi..I have never been involve in one like this actually...
Personally, I think its pretty tedious. Imagine dat u r unable to c each other for dat long period of time b4 he comes back for his break. Its never guaranteed dat u guys will last till the end of his studies as well....stress, fun, gals, guys, may step into yr lives when u guys r at 2 different countries...
It may work as well but u will definitely need to put in lots of efforts
All the best![]()
Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz..
a LDR is loads and loads of hard work. main thing is, stay focus and trust. when you are not physically there for one another it gets hard to believe that you are actually attached to someone. it's especially so when everyone around you is attach and you are feeling lonely/down. people may come by to lend you that support, which you may need in work/studies, but your partner is unable to do so, 'coz he/she is in another country. it's loads of effort that will not work if it comes only from one party. Both party needs to stay really focus, be really independent and be prepared to make loads of sacrifices.Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz..
I get to know my gf online. Believe it or not, online chattingOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Perhaps you may like to share some details of your situations?
Cheers
There's a couple of things you need to clarify here for all of us to truly understand your situation:Originally posted by i_will_be_there:I get to know my gf online. Believe it or not, online chattingEven we been chatting for a short time, i always have the feeling that we have known each other for years (funny right?)
Our relationship has been a very stable one. We seldom quarrel, but we do have our fair shares of up and down. I do have my worries sometimes but i been used to that. I think she been to that too.
She is currently 25 and i am currently 24. Seriously speaking, i dun really want to settle down until i meet her. Currently i have a stable job. But i am worry for her when she come here to sg.
Her family is a rich one. My family isnt that rich. Cant help thinking that she might be suffering with me next time. Although she keeps saying she dun mind, i juz cant bear that thought.
The biggest problem is this:
religion:
My family is buddhists and her family are christians. I have actually thought of converting to chirstian so that we can be together, but still wondering over it. My parents have no objections on it, but i can see they are not happy.
My friend once tell me this : Dun marry a chatter
Chatters can spend half of the day online chatting. Wat ur views on this?
Although i dun like her to spend most of her time chatting, i cant stop her. To me, as long as she is happy, i m happy.
As to regard to phone bills, just get a fast internet connection at least cable, and use 'game voice'. No more $1000 phone bill!Originally posted by ing1:yo...i hve been thro and still staying on strong!! he came back for good now...planning to settle down next yr...
it takes lots n lots of faith n confidence n trust to make sure it works for u....we spent a bomb in phone bills...esp difficult if ur guy not in the same time zone as u are....but if u two makes an effort n v sure of urself....it will definately work for u..
hve faith...![]()
This is funny.Originally posted by i_will_be_there:My friend once tell me this : Dun marry a chatter
Chatters can spend half of the day online chatting. Wat ur views on this?
Although i dun like her to spend most of her time chatting, i cant stop her. To me, as long as she is happy, i m happy.
Hi BrutusOriginally posted by BrUtUs:so both of u r gf/bf but nv c/meet each other b4?
Hi nww..Originally posted by nww16:have u seen each other before?
Hi loud monkeyOriginally posted by loudmonkey:LDR.....
was in one until we "parted" a month back.
Now still "friends", but rather awkward friends...
I guess if u are one that needs physical connection and closeness, then a LDR is not for you. Phone calls and Webcams did not help too much, for me at least. After a while everything seemed too routine, but then the diffucult part must be that both of us cannot do things together.
I have tried and failed.![]()
Hi FireIce,Originally posted by FireIce:i have seen successful ones...
i have seen those tt failed w/in the first week....
definitely difficult in the beginning.......
there has to be alotta determination and faith for it to work...
communication is not relli a big prob as we have internet and hp now...jus tt the physical presence part have to endure.....
Hi ing1Originally posted by ing1:yo...i hve been thro and still staying on strong!! he came back for good now...planning to settle down next yr...
it takes lots n lots of faith n confidence n trust to make sure it works for u....we spent a bomb in phone bills...esp difficult if ur guy not in the same time zone as u are....but if u two makes an effort n v sure of urself....it will definately work for u..
hve faith...![]()
Hi skOriginally posted by :There's a couple of things you need to clarify here for all of us to truly understand your situation:
1) Highlighted in Blue, "Until you meet her" You have never met each other before?
2) That brings the 2nd question, have you ever traded Pictures?
3) That also brings the 3rd question, have you ever spoken to each other over the phone?
4) You pose to us that you are worrying about LDR? But, are'nt you having a LDR if she's away and you're in SG?
I can point out the problems you will face,
1) Age, she is older
2) Religion
3) Family - Yours and hers
4) Marriage, if so who wants to?
But why face all these problems if you or her are'nt thinking about marriage. This is more of a relationship problem.
but u 2 haben physically met each other and do those things tt "normal couples" do.....Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi FireIce,
Thks for replying.
I have a lot of faith in this relationship.
As for the physical presence part, that one part that i am trying my best to endure.
Juz hope will be sucessful
Regardz
Hi Devil1976:Originally posted by Devil1976:This is funny.
Hi val_star,Originally posted by val_star:jus wondering if u just knew her recently..have u all met before n r u in a bgr with her now? knowing each other thru onli chats cant tell how much u will get along with her n how it like being with her in reality..