long distance relationship
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Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
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Hi..I have never been involve in one like this actually...Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz..
Personally, I think its pretty tedious. Imagine dat u r unable to c each other for dat long period of time b4 he comes back for his break. Its never guaranteed dat u guys will last till the end of his studies as well....stress, fun, gals, guys, may step into yr lives when u guys r at 2 different countries...
It may work as well but u will definitely need to put in lots of efforts
All the best
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Hi elmo:Originally posted by elmoloveyou:Hi..I have never been involve in one like this actually...
Personally, I think its pretty tedious. Imagine dat u r unable to c each other for dat long period of time b4 he comes back for his break. Its never guaranteed dat u guys will last till the end of his studies as well....stress, fun, gals, guys, may step into yr lives when u guys r at 2 different countries...
It may work as well but u will definitely need to put in lots of efforts
All the best
Yup you are right. It is pretty tedious. Lots of trust and faith are needed too. I involve currently. Hope to settle down everything by next year dec. So juz seeking advice here and there -
By the way elmo,
Thks for readng and giving your views..
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Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz..
Perhaps you may like to share some details of your situations?
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a LDR is loads and loads of hard work. main thing is, stay focus and trust. when you are not physically there for one another it gets hard to believe that you are actually attached to someone. it's especially so when everyone around you is attach and you are feeling lonely/down. people may come by to lend you that support, which you may need in work/studies, but your partner is unable to do so, 'coz he/she is in another country. it's loads of effort that will not work if it comes only from one party. Both party needs to stay really focus, be really independent and be prepared to make loads of sacrifices.Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi ppl,
Newbie here.
Juz want to check out something. Is anyone here involve in long distance relationship? Has anyone been sucessful in it? Juz need some kind advice in it.
Regardz.. -
I get to know my gf online. Believe it or not, online chattingOriginally posted by Yunhaier: Perhaps you may like to share some details of your situations?
Cheers
Even we been chatting for a short time, i always have the feeling that we have known each other for years (funny right?)
Our relationship has been a very stable one. We seldom quarrel, but we do have our fair shares of up and down. I do have my worries sometimes but i been used to that. I think she been to that too.
She is currently 25 and i am currently 24. Seriously speaking, i dun really want to settle down until i meet her. Currently i have a stable job. But i am worry for her when she come here to sg.
Her family is a rich one. My family isnt that rich. Cant help thinking that she might be suffering with me next time. Although she keeps saying she dun mind, i juz cant bear that thought.
The biggest problem is this:
religion:
My family is buddhists and her family are christians. I have actually thought of converting to chirstian so that we can be together, but still wondering over it. My parents have no objections on it, but i can see they are not happy.
My friend once tell me this : Dun marry a chatter
Chatters can spend half of the day online chatting. Wat ur views on this?
Although i dun like her to spend most of her time chatting, i cant stop her. To me, as long as she is happy, i m happy. -
so both of u r gf/bf but nv c/meet each other b4?
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have u seen each other before?
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LDR.....
was in one until we "parted" a month back.
Now still "friends", but rather awkward friends...
I guess if u are one that needs physical connection and closeness, then a LDR is not for you. Phone calls and Webcams did not help too much, for me at least. After a while everything seemed too routine, but then the diffucult part must be that both of us cannot do things together.
I have tried and failed. -
i have seen successful ones...
i have seen those tt failed w/in the first week....
definitely difficult in the beginning.......
there has to be alotta determination and faith for it to work...
communication is not relli a big prob as we have internet and hp now...jus tt the physical presence part have to endure..... -
yo...i hve been thro and still staying on strong!! he came back for good now...planning to settle down next yr...
it takes lots n lots of faith n confidence n trust to make sure it works for u....we spent a bomb in phone bills...esp difficult if ur guy not in the same time zone as u are....but if u two makes an effort n v sure of urself....it will definately work for u..
hve faith... -
There's a couple of things you need to clarify here for all of us to truly understand your situation:Originally posted by i_will_be_there:I get to know my gf online. Believe it or not, online chatting Even we been chatting for a short time, i always have the feeling that we have known each other for years (funny right?)
Our relationship has been a very stable one. We seldom quarrel, but we do have our fair shares of up and down. I do have my worries sometimes but i been used to that. I think she been to that too.
She is currently 25 and i am currently 24. Seriously speaking, i dun really want to settle down until i meet her. Currently i have a stable job. But i am worry for her when she come here to sg.
Her family is a rich one. My family isnt that rich. Cant help thinking that she might be suffering with me next time. Although she keeps saying she dun mind, i juz cant bear that thought.
The biggest problem is this:
religion:
My family is buddhists and her family are christians. I have actually thought of converting to chirstian so that we can be together, but still wondering over it. My parents have no objections on it, but i can see they are not happy.
My friend once tell me this : Dun marry a chatter
Chatters can spend half of the day online chatting. Wat ur views on this?
Although i dun like her to spend most of her time chatting, i cant stop her. To me, as long as she is happy, i m happy.
1) Highlighted in Blue, "Until you meet her" You have never met each other before?
2) That brings the 2nd question, have you ever traded Pictures?
3) That also brings the 3rd question, have you ever spoken to each other over the phone?
4) You pose to us that you are worrying about LDR? But, are'nt you having a LDR if she's away and you're in SG?
I can point out the problems you will face,
1) Age, she is older
2) Religion
3) Family - Yours and hers
4) Marriage, if so who wants to?
But why face all these problems if you or her are'nt thinking about marriage. This is more of a relationship problem. -
As to regard to phone bills, just get a fast internet connection at least cable, and use 'game voice'. No more $1000 phone bill!Originally posted by ing1:yo...i hve been thro and still staying on strong!! he came back for good now...planning to settle down next yr...
it takes lots n lots of faith n confidence n trust to make sure it works for u....we spent a bomb in phone bills...esp difficult if ur guy not in the same time zone as u are....but if u two makes an effort n v sure of urself....it will definately work for u..
hve faith...
http://www.gamevoice.com/gamevoice.asp
This voice chat is used by pro gramers like once myself haha, it can be used as a two way phone.
Instructions
1) Just download game voice, its free!
2) Know the IP address of both his and your comp. (just go to this website http://www.lawrencegoetz.com/programs/ipinfo/ )
3) Get a headphone and speakers for your computer (Best to get a headphone set with a speaker in front, like one of those telephone operators)
3) One setups the server, the other just connects.
4) Viola, you can chat for free with your internet connection for hours and hours! The reception is very clear and cripsy, no distruptions, no fuzzy sound like some phonecards!!!
5) You can have a chat party, invite more of your good friends into your server and you can all chat about whats going on in your lives.
Combine it with Netmeeting, and you can see your love on your computer screen while chatting to them at the same time.
1) Get a good Computer Cam
2) Viola, you can kiss him on screen! Or, err.... XXX
Power of internet, everything should be free!
I used to know of this program whereby you can dial someone's land line through your computer, but the reception is'nt very good. Not going to recommend it. -
This is funny.Originally posted by i_will_be_there:My friend once tell me this : Dun marry a chatter
Chatters can spend half of the day online chatting. Wat ur views on this?
Although i dun like her to spend most of her time chatting, i cant stop her. To me, as long as she is happy, i m happy. -
jus wondering if u just knew her recently..have u all met before n r u in a bgr with her now? knowing each other thru onli chats cant tell how much u will get along with her n how it like being with her in reality..
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Hi BrutusOriginally posted by BrUtUs:so both of u r gf/bf but nv c/meet each other b4?
Sorry for replying only today..
Have to sleep and work
We never meet face to face before..
We exchange alot of pic..
Regardz -
Hi nww..Originally posted by nww16:have u seen each other before?
We never meet one another.. (face to face)
Juz talk on the mike, telephone, exchange pic.
Regardz -
Hi loud monkeyOriginally posted by loudmonkey:LDR.....
was in one until we "parted" a month back.
Now still "friends", but rather awkward friends...
I guess if u are one that needs physical connection and closeness, then a LDR is not for you. Phone calls and Webcams did not help too much, for me at least. After a while everything seemed too routine, but then the diffucult part must be that both of us cannot do things together.
I have tried and failed.
Sorry hear abt that.
I am quite independent type. I dun really need that physical closeness and someone to be by urside. I agree that phone call and webcam does not help much But for me i dun even get to see webcam. Although sometimes things may seems routinue to me, i treasure everytime we have on the net and on the phone. -
Hi FireIce,Originally posted by FireIce:i have seen successful ones...
i have seen those tt failed w/in the first week....
definitely difficult in the beginning.......
there has to be alotta determination and faith for it to work...
communication is not relli a big prob as we have internet and hp now...jus tt the physical presence part have to endure.....
Thks for replying.
I have a lot of faith in this relationship.
As for the physical presence part, that one part that i am trying my best to endure.
Juz hope will be sucessful
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Hi ing1Originally posted by ing1:yo...i hve been thro and still staying on strong!! he came back for good now...planning to settle down next yr...
it takes lots n lots of faith n confidence n trust to make sure it works for u....we spent a bomb in phone bills...esp difficult if ur guy not in the same time zone as u are....but if u two makes an effort n v sure of urself....it will definately work for u..
hve faith...
Happy to hear that
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Hi skOriginally posted by :There's a couple of things you need to clarify here for all of us to truly understand your situation:
1) Highlighted in Blue, "Until you meet her" You have never met each other before?
2) That brings the 2nd question, have you ever traded Pictures?
3) That also brings the 3rd question, have you ever spoken to each other over the phone?
4) You pose to us that you are worrying about LDR? But, are'nt you having a LDR if she's away and you're in SG?
I can point out the problems you will face,
1) Age, she is older
2) Religion
3) Family - Yours and hers
4) Marriage, if so who wants to?
But why face all these problems if you or her are'nt thinking about marriage. This is more of a relationship problem.
In replying ur first question:
We have not meet each other face to face but we exchange alot pictures between ourselves
We speak to each other almost everyday
Yup i did pose to request something on LDR but it is not i mworry abt it
I want to hear ppl advice on how to keep the relationship going on healthy as ppl advise will always give me ideas and views on how to upkeep and maintain my relationship
U are right in pointing out some of my problems
As for age it does not serve as a barrier to us both of us feel that it is all right for us cos the age difference isnt great
Religion currently is the main problem
I dun have a great way to solve it yet and it has been a constant worry on my head
As for family
She has talk to my mom on the phone before
So far so good
Marriage
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but u 2 haben physically met each other and do those things tt "normal couples" do.....Originally posted by i_will_be_there:Hi FireIce,
Thks for replying.
I have a lot of faith in this relationship.
As for the physical presence part, that one part that i am trying my best to endure.
Juz hope will be sucessful
Regardz
where do u go from here?
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Hi Devil1976:Originally posted by Devil1976:This is funny. that funny too.
when i write that i felt funny too..
But then cant really express this feeling too, when she chat online, i cant help being unhappy sometimes.
Inside my heart, there is a mixture of scared, worry sometimes.
As for marrying a chatter part, my friend told me that marrying a chatter is the last thing in his life. (he always have the impression chatters and talk on the net for 24 hrs, somemore got so many ppl (wolves?) lurking around.
Besides chatting online is very addictive too
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Hi val_star,Originally posted by val_star:jus wondering if u just knew her recently..have u all met before n r u in a bgr with her now? knowing each other thru onli chats cant tell how much u will get along with her n how it like being with her in reality..
We been chatting for quite sometimes.
Never meet her face to face. Seen her pic only
I have think abt your question.
We have talk abt lot of things, we shared the same visions and dreams
For me,
I am willing to take the risk.
Guess when u love someone, love is blind
Regardz