walking down the aisle
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you're rite, i agree with you that ppl 's expectation changes in the course of life. It's just like your financial goals. As one grows, your needs and wants and thinking starts to change and evolve together with the environment.Originally posted by icycold:I have several friends who got married early in their twenties. Some of them are now divorced.
I have a strong belief that marriage should take place only in our mid twenties. By then, we would have been through a fair bit in life, and generally have a better idea of what we want. My gf was really desperate to get married initially. She thought she was sure she wants to be with me for the rest of her life. But 3 years down the road, she is suddenly unsure.
All this while, i am sure that i want to be with her the rest of my life. I didn't expect her to be hesitant now. I guess this shows that people's expectation and direction in life can change with age. Maybe she wasn't mature enough when she was younger.
Well, im sure you'll find someone as good or even better in time to come.. yeah! jia you... -
I think its OK lor...ladies 24-26...guys 28-30+Originally posted by tranquil2:for ladies, do you think it's too early to tie the knot at age of 24?
for guys, perhaps 28 is the best time? when career is stable... ??
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Both are only ready to get married when they have reach that certain level of maturity, and are ready to fulfil all responsibilities. If not, everything is just reckless and that certificate is just a licence for them to have sex.
Everything lies in the mentality. Marriage is not just plain commitment. It requires far more than that. You could have a pet dog, and you are committed to him. But you are not the one taking care of him, your Mum bathes him, and your sister feeds him. But in the end, you know he's still your dog.
That level of maturity is very important. If you are not ready, brush everything aside, and just do whatever things you want to. Don't rush into marriage, cause it really serves no purpose.
Anyway, I think majority of the local guys can only be matured when they are into the thirties. Too much of Mama's boys we are. Shrugs. -
good rationale. yeah, no doubt, level of maturity is of importance. Something to add on: Marriage requires one to be in love everyday, with the same person. Therefore, it's vital that both parties must be mentally ready and prepare to face all problems and fulfil all obligations together...Originally posted by Wind:Both are only ready to get married when they have reach that certain level of maturity, and are ready to fulfil all responsibilities. If not, everything is just reckless and that certificate is just a licence for them to have sex.
Everything lies in the mentality. Marriage is not just plain commitment. It requires far more than that. You could have a pet dog, and you are committed to him. But you are not the one taking care of him, your Mum bathes him, and your sister feeds him. But in the end, you know he's still your dog.
That level of maturity is very important. If you are not ready, brush everything aside, and just do whatever things you want to. Don't rush into marriage, cause it really serves no purpose.
Anyway, I think majority of the local guys can only be matured when they are into the thirties. Too much of Mama's boys we are. Shrugs. -
Depends on individual. Do you think marriage is what you want at that age? Are you able to commit etc..Originally posted by tranquil2:for ladies, do you think it's too early to tie the knot at age of 24?
for guys, perhaps 28 is the best time? when career is stable... ?? -
above all these.. beyond the marriage certificates, the dating periods, career-marriage and considerations for children, we're yet again bounded by the money factor. stability of finances is so much essential to every of us singaporeans. having just adequate seems not enough. work harder, and still things get more expensive. earn more and you'll still find yourself not earning enough.
the standards of living is thoroughly on an absurd scale. -
x2. I am not sure about other places but Singapore is all about $$$$$. As a couple, both may have all the love for each other but when you walk down the aisle, both are also begin a journey of debt (house lah, bills lah, loan this, loan that, later have kids already even lagi need $$$$$)Originally posted by dalelad:above all these.. beyond the marriage certificates, the dating periods, career-marriage and considerations for children, we're yet again bounded by the money factor. stability of finances is so much essential to every of us singaporeans. having just adequate seems not enough. work harder, and still things get more expensive. earn more and you'll still find yourself not earning enough.
the standards of living is thoroughly on an absurd scale.
I am not pouring cold water on people who want to get married earlier but I would caution them not to rush into a marriage without being financially fit first. This is Singapore after all.