Originally posted by nymrod:
Because... we have differing opinions and lifestyles, what we want in the future and where we see ourselves and us. He's really sweet and is always asking me to leave him if and when i find a better guy.
I've thought long and hard bout this before. He doesn't give me any opinion about most things and issues. So I have to make intelligent guesses. I love everything bout him, except his not-so-'smartness' and rigidity in doing things. Of cuz it can be a good thing too but that's not the point. The point is I'm convinced that I can take it along with all the other good aspects of him.
Honestly speaking, I can be truthful about C and he will juz accept it. Cuz he too, has seen me through that turbulent year I was talking about. Needless to say, he'd not divulge wat he feels and everything. He juz clams up and we've gotten into more than a few arguments bout his non-disclosure of feelings and thoughts.
So... why do I not think this r/s will last? Prolly becuz of the length of time. We'll be frequently apart as I'll need to travel. So I dun really noe if this is a good or bad thing. It's good cuz i tink it makes time move that much faster and of cuz bad as they'll be lots more temptations.
Guess I'll talk more bout this in reply to another post.
hmm i think ur bf has an inferior complex issue, he thinks u're too good for him, u're a godsend. He's afraid u'll leave him, yet he's unwilling be a hinderance to ur "happiness". Thats why he always say go if u have a better person chasing u.
im sure he is not stupid... he does think about the relationship with u but he is not convinced that u r his. he is feeling very insecure n he's scared if he voice his true view, u'll leave him. in a way he's constantly testing u n u're starting to wear thin in patience as u wait for him to open up his mind n heart to u.
u really have to talk to him, heart to heart n convince him that u love him, not out of gratitude, but for who he is. as u said , u'll be frequently travelling so that will confirm be another mental obstacle for him to overcome. u have to be very patience with him.
only my 2 cents. good luck.
PS: ur bf character a bit like mine so maybe my insight may be useful to u. but then of course i could be wrong
