scared of love, relationships
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Friends dont care whether you are tall, short, fat, thin, ugly, chio, handsome, you just need to be friendly and sincere can liao...I think your fear is of what people think of your looks....which seldom applies to friends...
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i aso veri scared of relationships.
last time got 1 ger bluff me 1 2 b fren fren later
she got me drugged and drunk and brought
me to motel "shiok shiok" and aft that i ......i........i......
woke up crying naked and she aso naked smking a cigar and
told me "dun worry, i will be responsible to u 1 u know!"
i was still a v irgin but not any more!
aft that i lost all trust and faith in all ladies and girls
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hey hi... actually i understand how u feel. coz i do have such problems myself. i tend to shun guys who wana have a date wid me. i just can't control myself. it sounds crazy, but tts me. i tink i just cant open up and get out of my hole. regarding friendships, i dun have problem tokin to friends, be it either male or female. but realising any of the guys have someother feelings, i'll tend to shun them. maybe its becoz i dun feel anything for them. they dun get it... but neither do i. if this continues, i tink i'll be a nun.
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Nah you shun guys who show romantic interest in you because it is in your nature to do so. WHICH is what i keep telling you guys, if u like a girl DUN say it, coz she'll shun you.Originally posted by waterdropletz:hey hi... actually i understand how u feel. coz i do have such problems myself. i tend to shun guys who wana have a date wid me. i just can't control myself. it sounds crazy, but tts me. i tink i just cant open up and get out of my hole. regarding friendships, i dun have problem tokin to friends, be it either male or female. but realising any of the guys have someother feelings, i'll tend to shun them. maybe its becoz i dun feel anything for them. they dun get it... but neither do i. if this continues, i tink i'll be a nun. -
So am i so am i, am also socially starved. So you are not alone which is the significant thing.Originally posted by Jazzytunez:I'm feeling darn lonely. I'm someone who is hard to get know unless you know me for a long time. The reason why i don't open myself up is maybe due to reason of afraid of getting hurt and hurting people. What do i mean by hurting people? I can't return the love and concern back to people who give it to me. I just can't. It's a long story why i can't. I'm so afraid of intimacy with others which explain why i can feel so lonely. Sometime, i feel that i'm letting my life slip me past and it already has. Shunning the guy who likes me and end up him hating me. i'm just so scared of love and handling relationships.
Even with friends, i don't dare to make new friends and even talking to them. I just so afraid. It's getting worse and worse. I'm facing social starvation in my life now.
Why don't you relate the long story, maybe it will help you and others like you.
It seems you define intimacy as being with a guy. So the reason your depressed now is coz u aint got a bf? Or is it worse then that, if we define intimacy as normal friends, which you may not even have? But i believe its the bf part.
So you should just be open, but not too open you know what i mean? GO out with them, but do not get too attached, because ANYONE who gets too attached will end up getting hurt because they are held only by a string which is the opposite pary's committment. -
I'm feeling much better now... if u r wondering why there is another post below becos i accidentally click it twice.. the last one should be the first post..
Anyway i start to wrote this thread durin this period of depression... still undergoing rebuilding my social life and healing of my emotional scars..
i'm so glad to see people with similar problem with me... responding to my pleas..
hey hi... actually i understand how u feel. coz i do have such problems myself. i tend to shun guys who wana have a date wid me. i just can't control myself. it sounds crazy, but tts me. i tink i just cant open up and get out of my hole. regarding friendships, i dun have problem tokin to friends, be it either male or female. but realising any of the guys have someother feelings, i'll tend to shun them. maybe its becoz i dun feel anything for them. they dun get it... but neither do i. if this continues, i tink i'll be a nun.
u scared of hurting the guy's feeling and urself isit?
I aso think of being a nun b4 leh but i know i cant run away from problem -
First of all, i'm surprise that this thread is still alive..
My fear of intimacy does not applied to just guy... it's a long story for the cause of this fear and to my problem.... sometime, it's not just a matter and so i cant really elaborate here... It's all very psychologically complicated...
To all those who feel lonely and happen to read this thread,
I can't give the best advice here...
I know loneliness sucks... esp when u r down and no one to turn to...
when u have many farking problems at hand and feel so frustrated and tired...
When u are pull back by ur own fear and make u feel weak and helpless.. in the end u give up on it... but don't become bitter for long... things don't always stay the same.... cos life is always up and down.
There is help somewhere somehow... people, strangers who care like some people in this forum...and friends that u don't really know u well who care to lend u a hand... so don't give up hope... i still believe in frienships...
Thank devil 1976. u strike me... maybe i'm was too sensitive and so i learn not to be too sensitive now... and those other who share their story or giving me advices...
i'm hoping i'm not being mushy.
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Never mushy... You LIVE to EXPRESS yourself... EXPRESS YOURSELF - before your life ends...?Originally posted by Jazzytunez:First of all, i'm surprise that this thread is still alive..
My fear of intimacy does not applied to just guy... it's a long story for the cause of this fear and to my problem.... sometime, it's not just a matter and so i cant really elaborate here... It's all very psychologically complicated...
To all those who feel lonely and happen to read this thread,
I can't give the best advice here...
I know loneliness sucks... esp when u r down and no one to turn to...
when u have many farking problems at hand and feel so frustrated and tired...
When u are pull back by ur own fear and make u feel weak and helpless.. in the end u give up on it... but don't become bitter for long... things don't always stay the same.... cos life is always up and down.
There is help somewhere somehow... people, strangers who care like some people in this forum...and friends that u don't really know u well who care to lend u a hand... so don't give up hope... i still believe in frienships...
Thank devil 1976. u strike me... maybe i'm was too sensitive and so i learn not to be too sensitive now... and those other who share their story or giving me advices...
i'm hoping i'm not being mushy.