No Confidence.... Depressed...sad....

• asGaL

  2 Aug 04, 01:07

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........
• I-like-flings(m)

  2 Aug 04, 01:09

  cheer up....
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 01:12

  you are not... lots of people feel down once in a while...
  
  slowly slowly, tell yourself... this is good work! and when you do your work, do it the best you can!
  
  as for people around you, few like to talk to miserable people... i hope you cheer up soon.. a happy person is more approachable
  
  meet more people, make more friends, be a little more outgoing
  
  if you feel kinda down or lonely, just log on, check the various outings we have.. join them!
  
  some great friends have been made in here!
  
  the next big on is on 7th at sentosa...
  
  i hope you'll be well and keep your chin up yah?
  
  and don't worry about this "depression"..
  
  coz we're all searching for deliverance
  when there ain't nowhere to run
  so lay your spirit down easy
  coz everybody gets
  a little lost sometimes
  
  
• BrUtUs

  2 Aug 04, 01:13

  u need to believe in urself, go enjoy activities wif ur frens, b nice to them...
• BeEtHoVeN

  2 Aug 04, 01:15

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  you are not... lots of people feel down once in a while...
  
  slowly slowly, tell yourself... this is good work! and when you do your work, do it the best you can!
  
  as for people around you, few like to talk to miserable people... i hope you cheer up soon.. a happy person is more approachable
  
  meet more people, make more friends, be a little more outgoing
  
  if you feel kinda down or lonely, just log on, check the various outings we have.. join them!
  
  some great friends have been made in here!
  
  the next big on is on 7th at sentosa...
  
  i hope you'll be well and keep your chin up yah?
  
  and don't worry about this "depression"..
  
  coz we're all searching for deliverance
  when there ain't nowhere to run
  so lay your spirit down easy
  coz everybody gets
  a little lost sometimes
  
  

  eh wat is the average age grp for the sentosa outing ??
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 01:17

  i'm in the extreme end... i'm 35... if erijazz goes, he's older..
  
  then there are those who are 17 or 18... no real cluster type
  
  we're all friendly and these things used to happen on an almost weekly basis until work and other things like exams overtook it..
  
  now it's back
  
  do come along!
  
  

  Originally posted by BeEtHoVeN:

  eh wat is the average age grp for the sentosa outing ??

• BeEtHoVeN

  2 Aug 04, 01:27

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  i'm in the extreme end... i'm 35... if erijazz goes, he's older..
  
  then there are those who are 17 or 18... no real cluster type
  
  we're all friendly and these things used to happen on an almost weekly basis until work and other things like exams overtook it..
  
  now it's back
  
  do come along!
  
  

  lol .. i sld not be here .. econs test in another few hrs time ... 7th of auguest rite ? my last paper on that dae too ...
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 01:28

  come
  
  

  Originally posted by BeEtHoVeN:

  lol .. i sld not be here .. econs test in another few hrs time ... 7th of auguest rite ? my last paper on that dae too ...

• nOrmalbOi

  2 Aug 04, 01:52

  from ppl needing help can suddenly jio ppl go sentosa.....
  
  joho needs to pay u man Bear
  
  
• Axelheat755

  2 Aug 04, 01:54

  Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:

  from ppl needing help can suddenly jio ppl go sentosa.....
  
  joho needs to pay u man Bear
  
  

  x2
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 01:57

  it will help them
  
  to be around joy is always good for the depressed... slowly bring out the joy in people.. especially when friends are made!
  
  and trust me... i know what i'm talking about... i was there about a year ago
  
  

  Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:

  from ppl needing help can suddenly jio ppl go sentosa.....
  
  joho needs to pay u man Bear
  
  

• nOrmalbOi

  2 Aug 04, 02:01

  mhmm.... din really get to tok to u about a year ago... so.... cant make a comparison....
  
  the oni thing i noe is that recently... at about every outing... b4 that u would be at sls shopping...
  
  
• nOrmalbOi

  2 Aug 04, 02:08

  anyway as to asGaL...
  
  do not feel depressed or have a lack of confidence in urself ba.. coz no matter how bad and lousy u think ur life is.... someone out there would be having it rougher than u..
  
  one way could be to try and count ur blessings.. everyone has them.. even u... count them... it would make u better..
  
  another way is the Bear way... come on out join us for outings.. if u scan the threads.. there r plenty of outings u can choose to appear in... the latest one i think would be the sentosa one.... unless of coz working out is not ur thing and hiding in a dark room singing ur heart out is... then u can join the KTV outing weidev is organizing.. on the same day too....
  
  chin up... if u think u have reached bottom.. then its good... coz the oni way this is going from now on is up
  
  
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 02:08

  since when?
  
  uhh.. actually, i like sls
  
  ladies buy bags and shoes, i buy DVDs
• heavenTears

  2 Aug 04, 02:11

  me too...always fail in RS.
  born loser = me
• the Bear

  2 Aug 04, 02:15

  one day, you'll find someone
  someone who will dry your tears
  be yours forever and a day
  and allay all your fears
  
  the path to love is never easy
  but we should walk it bravely
  for love is what gives us
  our strength and humanity
  
  so press on dear girl
  you'll find him one day
  someone you love so much
  and loves you back come what may
  
  
  
  

  Originally posted by heavenTears:

  me too...always fail in RS.
  born loser = me

• nOrmalbOi

  2 Aug 04, 02:15

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  since when?
  
  uhh.. actually, i like sls
  
  ladies buy bags and shoes, i buy DVDs

  i oni go sls for a reason hehe
  
  not been working long enuff to afford going there to see what i can buy as and when i wan to
  
  
• nOrmalbOi

  2 Aug 04, 02:17

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  one day, you'll find someone
  someone who will dry your tears
  be yours forever and a day
  and allay all your fears
  
  the path to love is never easy
  but we should walk it bravely
  for love is what gives us
  our strength and humanity
  
  so press on dear girl
  you'll find him one day
  someone you love so much
  and loves you back come what may
  
  
  
  

  x2
• gerrykoh

  2 Aug 04, 10:20

  Don't let sch. work overwhelm u.
  Do the most urgent & important ones first. Remember u are not alone. I'm sure all your friends are also stressed. Get help from yr friends & teachers.
  Also learn to let go & have fun.
• kaobeikaobu

  2 Aug 04, 11:37

  Originally posted by asGaL:
  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  Confidence is not built overnite so be more patient. Do take time to ask yourself what are the problems that make you feel inconfident and how you can tackle these problems. You may also confide in someone who is close to you and understands you. When tackling those problems, remind yourself of something you are really good at and confident in.
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  Treat this as a phase to your path to a life you are pursuing. I believe everyone here has their ups and downs too. What matters most is the process you are going through. Getting to know more GOOD frens helps alot too!
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  Maybe they dun hate you as what you thought. Take time to understand yourself, be yourself, and be sincere to everyone. Only then, you will know where the faults lie in you or them. But you must definitely learn to ignore ppl's wrong perceptions and views about you.
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........
  Most likely, you are affected by things around you. Perseverance, focus and commitment starts from confidence within yourself. Learn to take thing slowly first and you will be able to achieve it. Look in the mirror and you will see a champ in the making. Cheers!

• Devil1976

  2 Aug 04, 17:40

  Originally posted by asGaL:

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........

  Do you know the possible reason(s) for all that? If you can, try to do a little reflection on yourself and work on them?
  
  Alternatively, you can always try to get some 'self-help' books?
• Qitai

  2 Aug 04, 19:56

  Originally posted by asGaL:

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........

  Go to Library or book shop, borrow/buy some self-improvement books. They teach you how to look at things in a more positive manner.
  
  Anyway, concentrate on doing instead of worrying. Worrying does not help you at all. If it worries you, do something. If you can't do anything, worrying is not going to help you at all. Think about what you can do instead of thinking about what will happen.
• 'm back

  8 Aug 04, 22:52

  Originally posted by asGaL:

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........

  come her and talk often if you feel down and out.
  som posting here veri funny.
  
  think what u need is a laugh
  
  
• CenturionMBT

  9 Aug 04, 04:49

  Originally posted by asGaL:

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........

  Think positively my dear gal. If you think you are lousy you will always remain lousy.The problem is that pple dunno how to be happy. It is all about a matter of a change of mindset. Nobody likes a negative person. Try to smile often.
• advanceparty

  9 Aug 04, 16:14

  me too.
  
  im like the born loser siah
  
  now life all dreary
  
  

  Originally posted by asGaL:

  I have no confidence in alot of my stuffs.... like projects, presentations, tests & exams.
  
  I even don't have any confidence in CCA performance. I feel so louzy in my life. How can I improve my situation?
  
  When I feel that people start to dislike me or stay away from me, I will get depressed and thought that everyone hated me.
  
  Sometime, I even lose all my perseverence & commitment to something I really love to do............ I am such a loser.........