Aunt Agony
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Have you ever wonder if you are a listener or a speaker?
Communication goes by two ways - the one who felt the strong urge to speak constantly without the empathy of his/her other partner indirectly dominate the direction of the relationship. It would be great if he/she is evolved and knows what's best for the greater good of the relationship. Note: Its for the greater good, not for personal know-best - how many have actual fallen for the latter thinking that it was the best course of action?
I hate it when people relatively older than me automatically shuts down when it comes to issues of love. Supposedly they 'know' more and unconsciously close the valve to listen - I listen to the words and I know where the damaged roots came from, but the autocratic speaker close listening ears and chose to impart, not to accept."Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity."
Although I am not a christian, I loved this phrase.
1 Timothy 4:12
*** Been trying to haul people up the boat and save them from emotional destruction and I hate being in situations where I have to hold back my words because I need to practice Libra's Harmony for the moment. I hate having to be in situations where I don't want to be there, but I can't because I am the only one left. When I strengthen others, other others words and behavior tear down my reinforcement. Faith and willpower wears off... its ok - but the fringing` problem is that my time is ticking, I can't always be there. I am fearing because there is simply NONE that could substitute my role in them.
The farking problem of being an Aunt Agony is when you know both side so well, you wanna retreat and let karma and experience be their guide instead. But can you chose to abandon your knowledge and seal lips? Can you chose to watch misery, yet know misery and not prevent misery?
A quick check of astrology and the current planetary movements revealed a karmic period with certain sign.
Really... a real test of my aunt agony role.
Cheers -
chim
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it like tat. tat why most teens would rather ask their friends than tok to elder or parents mah.
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Originally posted by jusgal:it like tat. tat why most teens would rather ask their friends than tok to elder or parents mah. I am a friend, not a parent nor elder. A good one infact.
Cheers -
It's hard to leave friends alone when you know there are advises could mean a great deal to them.
it is tough to be a knowledgable person? Heh.
/pat pat Yunnie -
it`s always a great thing to do if u can make others feels better..
it makes u feel as if u had help a person in need
to guide him when he`s lost..
to show him the light when he`s unsure
it`s a life worth living -
I've learnt to keep mum about certain things.
Sometimes, when friends don't, and are not ready to appreciate my help, my advices and opinions, I figure out it is only best for them to walk their own ways. Since they stubbornly BELIEVE that they know best, and I know nothing.
Let it be then. -
The problem Yunnie is facing - people do not see him as a helper or friend status to share their plights with him. Reasons could mainly due to pride or age differences.Originally posted by BaByBoY:it`s always a great thing to do if u can make others feels better..
it makes u feel as if u had help a person in need
to guide him when he`s lost..
to show him the light when he`s unsure
it`s a life worth living
Therefore, even though Yunnie is able to foresee the problems many steps ahead but due to the 'victims' rejection on Yunnie's goodwill.
Yunnie is unable to give proper advice or even to inject senses into 'victim'
I've experienced before. And it's heart-wrenching especially on cheating bf/gf cases - etc..
To understand the situation and able to predict the outcome but unable to warn the person.
Hai...
Yunnie will continue to live a life of struggle until a certain age when he's able to execute advises at will. Or learn to deal with the paradox. -
Originally posted by M©+square:The problem Yunnie is facing - people do not see him as a helper or friend status to share their plights with him. Reasons could mainly due to pride or age differences.
Therefore, even though Yunnie is able to foresee the problems many steps ahead but due to the 'victims' rejection on Yunnie's goodwill.
Yunnie is unable to give proper advice or even to inject senses into 'victim'
I've experienced before. And it's heart-wrenching especially on cheating bf/gf cases - etc..
To understand the situation and able to predict the outcome but unable to warn the person.
Hai...
Yunnie will continue to live a life of struggle until a certain age when he's able to execute advises at will. Or learn to deal with the paradox. It's the man's pride - the pride of being lectured by someone else... onto his fear factor, his mis-handled relationship/s. I wasn't rejected - I was locked psychologically. I can't 'speak my mind' because if I do, I would indirectly conjure a cyclone into my situations and it affects all factors. And because of this inability, people bleed inside and cries out as their heart weep.
I see mis-handling of relationship
I see self-fulfilling prophesies
I see deception
I see hidden self
I see jealousy
I see discrepancy of love definition
I see false explaination
I see mixed messages
I see contradiction
Which resulted in wounded souls crying out for light-at-end-of-tunnel.
I want to be apathetic about this whole thing - but I seriously don't really have a choice.
Cheers -
I have friends who are like you, having such unique ability to help and talk ppl out of their troubles and worries, but in the process, "depleting" themselves. Sorry to quote something from the bible, as I'm a christian. The bible actually stated that Jesus only healed MOST(Not ALL) sick or demon-possessed ppl in villages, coz he knows his strength is not perfect and can't endure curing everyone even when his disciples persuade him to continue. Only God can do that. There's no underlying intention of asking you to believe in God and Jesus, but hope to let you know that we, afterall, are just human beings.Originally posted by Yunhaier: It's the man's pride - the pride of being lectured by someone else... onto his fear factor, his mis-handled relationship/s. I wasn't rejected - I was locked psychologically. I can't 'speak my mind' because if I do, I would indirectly conjure a cyclone into my situations and it affects all factors. And because of this inability, people bleed inside and cries out as their heart weep.
I see mis-handling of relationship
I see self-fulfilling prophesies
I see deception
I see hidden self
I see jealousy
I see discrepancy of love definition
I see false explaination
I see mixed messages
I see contradiction
Which resulted in wounded souls crying out for light-at-end-of-tunnel.
I want to be apathetic about this whole thing - but I seriously don't really have a choice.
Cheers
From your posts that I have read, you have already done a fantastic job! -
hi, you don't have to feel so despondent. you offer great advices and i am sure many people have benefitted from them. i am one of them too. hope you can always be our friend and show us the direction during our darkest hours.
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Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:I have friends who are like you, having such unique ability to help and talk ppl out of their troubles and worries, but in the process, "depleting" themselves. Sorry to quote something from the bible, as I'm a christian. The bible actually stated that Jesus only healed MOST(Not ALL) sick or demon-possessed ppl in villages, coz he knows his strength is not perfect and can't endure curing everyone even when his disciples persuade him to continue. Only God can do that. There's no underlying intention of asking you to believe in God and Jesus, but hope to let you know that we, afterall, are just human beings.
From your posts that I have read, you have already done a fantastic job! I am not delpleting; I am worried. I only constructed poles to hold and the bad news is that my time is ticking; my presence have to leave very soon. I seriously hope the situation I have predicted will never come true.
Guess, I have to monitor the situations through astrology quietly.
P.S: I did nothing. If you were in my shoes - you will probably understand why.
Cheers -
U'r Leavin ?!Originally posted by Yunhaier:. I only constructed poles to hold and the bad news is that my time is ticking; my presence have to leave very soon. I seriously hope the situation I have predicted will never come true.
Dun lehz.....i enjoy goin thru ur posts.....
My defenses of past experiences sound a little weak when I consider an alternate history....... I manage 2 convince myslf it's time 2 4get a memory rather den continuing 2 enshrine it oni by readin ur postins...
"Change is easier 2 cope wif if u'r facin 4ward"
Yunhaier's posts helps alot of ppl 2 concentrate on goals 4 d future......rather den incidences of the past.......
Listenin 2 other ppl's experiences cud make u realize dat u actually haf a lot 2 offer d world.....
Hope u'll continue 2 capitalize on a talent dat u haf alr put 2 gd use in dis period of time......... -
Hmm...indeed.Originally posted by Yunhaier: I am not delpleting; I am worried. I only constructed poles to hold and the bad news is that my time is ticking; my presence have to leave very soon. I seriously hope the situation I have predicted will never come true.
Guess, I have to monitor the situations through astrology quietly.
P.S: I did nothing. If you were in my shoes - you will probably understand why.
Cheers
Let heaven have it's will. If it's meant to be. Let it be. -
Worried derives from the fact that you wanted to be there but your beliefs or situation don't allow you to do so. if you believe in nature studies such as astrology, you have to accept truth of nature and why it works that way. For example, would you save a rabbit if it's attacked by an eagle? If yes, then what about the hungry eaglets waiting for the eagle? That's how nature works.Originally posted by Yunhaier: I am not delpleting; I am worried. I only constructed poles to hold and the bad news is that my time is ticking; my presence have to leave very soon. I seriously hope the situation I have predicted will never come true.
Guess, I have to monitor the situations through astrology quietly.
P.S: I did nothing. If you were in my shoes - you will probably understand why.
Cheers -
as long as u have a good heart. it should be alright.
only people themselves can help themselves. -
Dear Yunnie...
just a few tots aft skimming thru some of the posts...
the world is such that pple judge others based on criterias that are not impt to the issue at hand. not many pple out there realise they are not as smart/wise as they think they are. do not let pple who discredit you based on age, sex, religion, looks, etc affect you. if they want to listen, they will. understandably some of these pple are frens u care abt, some times they just need a listening ear? (ah.. think u know that better than most of us
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you have proven to give sensible and well thought out answers to many of the confused/heartbroken pple. guess sometimes it is time for things to ride out on their own. if the pits is where they wanna go, let them be. as a fren, you have done more then u can by caring enough to try to stop them from heading for disaster. i'm sure your real life frens are very blessed to have the counsel of a such a wonderful person.
aside, the full context of the bible verse may not be in the context that you are using it for, which does make some uncomfortable (okie i am uncomfortable). but i guess you got part of it's meaning
don't let foolish pple put doubts in your confidence, everyone just gotta realise they are still so many things in the world they know not of.
take care fren, though virtual but still a fren
Cheers mate!
the_don -
double double postie postie
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argh.. keep quoting myself... too obsessed with self
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Originally posted by pipi & poot-poot:U'r Leavin ?!
Dun lehz.....i enjoy goin thru ur posts.....
My defenses of past experiences sound a little weak when I consider an alternate history....... I manage 2 convince myslf it's time 2 4get a memory rather den continuing 2 enshrine it oni by readin ur postins...
"Change is easier 2 cope wif if u'r facin 4ward"
Yunhaier's posts helps alot of ppl 2 concentrate on goals 4 d future......rather den incidences of the past.......
Listenin 2 other ppl's experiences cud make u realize dat u actually haf a lot 2 offer d world.....
Hope u'll continue 2 capitalize on a talent dat u haf alr put 2 gd use in dis period of time......... Aiyo, don't mistaken me. I am not leaving SGF lar, the most MIA for a period during october.
This stuff is not about anyone in SGF; it's an issue in reality.
Cheers -
pls get your knowledge abt Jesus right before saying such stuff.
Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:I have friends who are like you, having such unique ability to help and talk ppl out of their troubles and worries, but in the process, "depleting" themselves. Sorry to quote something from the bible, as I'm a christian. The bible actually stated that Jesus only healed MOST(Not ALL) sick or demon-possessed ppl in villages, coz he knows his strength is not perfect and can't endure curing everyone even when his disciples persuade him to continue. Only God can do that. There's no underlying intention of asking you to believe in God and Jesus, but hope to let you know that we, afterall, are just human beings.
From your posts that I have read, you have already done a fantastic job! -
then tell me which part is wrong?Originally posted by the_don:pls get your knowledge abt Jesus right before saying such stuff. -
If you really wanna know what's wrong with what you said, start a new topic & quote ur original post in Eternal Hope, asking what's wrong with what you said .... let's not hijack this thread for such purposes ...Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:then tell me which part is wrong?
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sometimes we dun need a reply or an answer...we just wanna get it off our chests (wow, ger ger one more leh
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Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:Worried derives from the fact that you wanted to be there but your beliefs or situation don't allow you to do so. if you believe in nature studies such as astrology, you have to accept truth of nature and why it works that way. For example, would you save a rabbit if it's attacked by an eagle? If yes, then what about the hungry eaglets waiting for the eagle? That's how nature works. My situations bar me from trying to speak earnestly to someone who needs it and the real thing is that there is no way she could communicate her stuff to anyone else. There are things I wanna say and because of the animal theory you posted above - it stuck right up your brain... nowhere.
If you are the rabbit, saving the other rabbit would be your only choice. If you are the eagle, saving your own skin would be your own choice. So if you are a mix of rabbit & eagle? Where do you stand?
I already planned my moves. I know it will work, but I need time.
But then again, I may not have the time.
P.S: In western astrology - we believe in freewill. Freewill in relationship allow us to be the master of our own love. To misuse this freewill, is to destroy your own relationship through cruelty from past cosmic karma.
Cheers