She got bf liao...
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hmm.. i tink i hv begun to fall for a girl in my class..well..school actually juz started..and right on the 1st day of sch.. me n her hit off v well..both of us have a lot to talk about maybe because she used to be my junior in JC..(we nvr see each other b4 this) juz dat now in uni we are in the same tutorial grp.. she is a very funny girl.. always crap with me and whenever i say anything lame she will giggle n giggle.. toking to her make me feel dat i'm the funniest person in the world..=) forgot to mention she is v pretty also.. we two are getting closer day by day and now my class is gossiping about me n her..she seems unaffected leh and din avoid me despite those gossips..
But the bad thing is....... she is attached liao...she got a steady bf for 2 yrs and i tink dey are still going strong..so i dun tink i stand any chance at all la.. plus i dun wan to be a b.a.s.t.a.r.d to break dem up loh..wat shld i do? -
Originally posted by red_tide24:
You wont even be posting here if you dun wanna do anything to break them up... why would it be a bad thing that she is happy wif her current bf? Its bad only for you...
But the bad thing is....... she is attached liao...she got a steady bf for 2 yrs and i tink dey are still going strong..so i dun tink i stand any chance at all la.. plus i dun wan to be a b.a.s.t.a.r.d to break dem up loh..wat shld i do?
You give me the feeling you trying to rally support from ppl to justify your actions later (probably be a basxxxd) and maybe give you a few tips also...
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move on
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Eh, but as they say all is fair in love and war ...
I think that as long as she is not engaged or married, there is always that possibility.
However, I am not advocating that you deliberately go and break them up.
Be a good friend to that girl first. Let nature take its course.
If the two of you are meant for each other, the mysteries of love will work itself out ... -
Originally posted by Kismet:
he is in a dilemma cos he wants her but dun wanna appear to be the 3rd party, the bad guy...
Eh, but as they say all is fair in love and war ...
I think that as long as she is not engaged or married, there is always that possibility.
However, I am [b]not advocating that you deliberately go and break them up.
Be a good friend to that girl first. Let nature take its course.
If the two of you are meant for each other, the mysteries of love will work itself out ... [/b]
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A few solutions :Originally posted by Axelheat755:he is in a dilemma cos he wants her but dun wanna appear to be the 3rd party, the bad guy...
1) As mentioned above, be friends first without telling her your feelings and see what happens next. ie. let fate / destiny / kismet decide. Slow method but you leave everything to the "higher powers" to decide. So whatever happens, not your fault.
2) Tell her your feelings. See her reaction.
Good reaction - fantastic but now you are officially the third party. Then come the problems. eg how to tell her boyfriend, maybe the boyfriend cannot take it etc etc - this can get very messy.
Bad reaction - be prepared to have her ignore / avoid you. Good thing is you know what her stand is. Bad thing, you may not even be friends with her anymore if she feels it is best to not see each other too often ... people will gossip etc etc
3) You just let it be and move on since you don't want to be the third party.
However, I guess love is not something you forget just like that. Time supposedly heals all wounds. May take one month, one year, ten years.
If you find yourself still thinking of her after so long, then you are just one of the millions of people in this world who are in the same shoes as you.
Sad but that's life ...
Listen to some sad songs (Winter Sonata's theme song by Jeff Chang is highly recommended), drink some beer and get on with your life ...
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I guess you just have to wait... and see how things go... i mean my advice is just be there for her... and take things as it is now... and IF they really broke up then i guess you stand a chance else just WAIT and WAIT loh.... at the mean time you can look around .... never never declare that you like her..... if you do that you then is a basXXXX
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yea..dat's wat i'm trying to say in this thread.. actually i dunno how she feel towards me..and i haben declared my love yet, but the way she toks to me and how she behaves when we are together in class is somehow quite intimate.. despite she having a bf loh.. dere's why it give me a little bit of false hope..Originally posted by Axelheat755:he is in a dilemma cos he wants her but dun wanna appear to be the 3rd party, the bad guy... -
yar loh... dun tell her... if u tell her, she will b swayed... n den it will affect her feelins for her bf... dun b a destroyer... b good frenz to her... so u still can b e funniest ppl in e world... this girl sure noes how to boost a guy's ego... haaa....Originally posted by Souledge:I guess you just have to wait... and see how things go... i mean my advice is just be there for her... and take things as it is now... and IF they really broke up then i guess you stand a chance else just WAIT and WAIT loh.... at the mean time you can look around .... never never declare that you like her..... if you do that you then is a basXXXX -
OT, but.. uni.. nus? other?
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got bf so what??? even if she got husband also can jio one lah... important thing is she like u and u like her.......and not u bhb one sided love lah..... just tell her lor.. or hint to her lah... see what her choice lah...Originally posted by red_tide24:hmm.. i tink i hv begun to fall for a girl in my class..well..school actually juz started..and right on the 1st day of sch.. me n her hit off v well..both of us have a lot to talk about maybe because she used to be my junior in JC..(we nvr see each other b4 this) juz dat now in uni we are in the same tutorial grp.. she is a very funny girl.. always crap with me and whenever i say anything lame she will giggle n giggle.. toking to her make me feel dat i'm the funniest person in the world..=) forgot to mention she is v pretty also.. we two are getting closer day by day and now my class is gossiping about me n her..she seems unaffected leh and din avoid me despite those gossips..
But the bad thing is....... she is attached liao...she got a steady bf for 2 yrs and i tink dey are still going strong..so i dun tink i stand any chance at all la.. plus i dun wan to be a b.a.s.t.a.r.d to break dem up loh..wat shld i do?
p.s 2yrs bf so what... i lost both my ex too Bastard like u.
...so u are no alone lah... 
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cool down cool downOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):got bf so what??? even if she got husband also can jio one lah... important thing is she like u and u like her.......and not u bhb one sided love lah..... just tell her lor.. or hint to her lah... see what her choice lah...
p.s 2yrs bf so what... i lost both my ex too Bastard like u. ...so u are no alone lah... 
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yeah..wait it out..if they break up for any reason..wait a while more, then go for it..
if not...just keep loving her in your heart...
love does not = possesion
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oii! knn...i'm not a bastard la..i haben done anything yet loh..at least not now la..Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):got bf so what??? even if she got husband also can jio one lah... important thing is she like u and u like her.......and not u bhb one sided love lah..... just tell her lor.. or hint to her lah... see what her choice lah...
p.s 2yrs bf so what... i lost both my ex too Bastard like u. ...so u are no alone lah... 
me too wat.. i lost my ex to bastards also..tink many guys keep declaring to her when we tog.. den she become distracted.. partly of my fault also.. in the end she left me.. -
If she and her bf are going strong.. I think u should be happy with her.. You may be happy chatting with her now.. Does not mean that when both of you are attached, you 2 will be just as happy. What you see may be an outer view.. Get to know her better 1st.. Who knows you may find some flaws in her that you don really like or comfortable with.
Sometimes, its good just be good frens.. Think abt it.. When she has problems, she can or may still approach you.. -
U should look for someone who is unattached. Or if this girl is wasted, wait for her current relationship to inevitably collapse, den u take over as her new bf, provided u are PATIENT, rofl, which i doubt. So look for other girls, make ur options ALWAYS open and plentiful
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She is off limits already, find someone else.
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gals aren't everything, especially in University. if u are in ntu, be careful not to dabao, especially in yr 1.
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same same lah.... so if u cannot change them ... join them lor... hahahaha..... that's why i like to flings with gals with bf now..Originally posted by red_tide24:oii! knn...i'm not a bastard la..i haben done anything yet loh..at least not now la.. me too wat.. i lost my ex to bastards also..tink many guys keep declaring to her when we tog.. den she become distracted.. partly of my fault also.. in the end she left me.. -
Be a friend... ENJOY...Originally posted by red_tide24:hmm.. i tink i hv begun to fall for a girl in my class..well..school actually juz started..and right on the 1st day of sch.. me n her hit off v well..both of us have a lot to talk about maybe because she used to be my junior in JC..(we nvr see each other b4 this) juz dat now in uni we are in the same tutorial grp.. she is a very funny girl.. always crap with me and whenever i say anything lame she will giggle n giggle.. toking to her make me feel dat i'm the funniest person in the world..=) forgot to mention she is v pretty also.. we two are getting closer day by day and now my class is gossiping about me n her..she seems unaffected leh and din avoid me despite those gossips..
But the bad thing is....... she is attached liao...she got a steady bf for 2 yrs and i tink dey are still going strong..so i dun tink i stand any chance at all la.. plus i dun wan to be a b.a.s.t.a.r.d to break dem up loh..wat shld i do? -
yeahx..don'tOriginally posted by Enilec:yar loh... dun tell her... if u tell her, she will b swayed... n den it will affect her feelins for her bf... dun b a destroyer... b good frenz to her... so u still can b e funniest ppl in e world... this girl sure noes how to boost a guy's ego... haaa....
the bf will kinda be stoned i guess. frozen mind.
something like i am right now..cuz sum dude hinted to my girl tt he kinda liked her.
that, in addition to failing grades, gave her enough reason to leave me.
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she doesn't need enough reason.. any small thing is enough for her to walk out on u.. i wonder how secured tat THIRD guy would b if e gal juz walked out of her bf & into his seductive arms with bare minimal emotions (for her bf) after she's tempted.. cross ur fingers for him if u r merciful..Originally posted by o(O.o)o:yeahx..don'tthe bf will kinda be stoned i guess. frozen mind.something like i am right now..cuz sum dude hinted to my girl tt he kinda liked her.that, in addition to failing grades, gave her enough reason to leave me.DON'T BE THE BUS-THIRD
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move on dude! what's meant to be is meant to be.
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if u thk u really lik her, perhaps u really to be "bad", i thk tat his bf is not related to u at all, feel tat is ok to woo her, however, if u thk this wil make her unhappy, better forget the whole thgy, dun giv the whole forest for jus 1 flower, hehehe..surely there r gd gals ard too
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well... get to noe her betta bah like wat some of e ppl say... if she's those kinda gals tt r ezily swayed n tempted... leave her bf of 2 yrs cuz of u.. e new guy she noes... not worth it man.. if this gal can do tt to her bf.. next time she would b doin it e same to u... b good frenz to her instead.. frenship tend to last longer den romance..... however if she's leavin her bf cuz her bf is bad to her or watsoeva... den u can consider... dun b e destroyer lar.... will hav retribution one....