a friend of mine is destined to have a 'mistress' life, a.k.a 'HU2 LI2 JING1', never will she be the wife, only mistress. she was upset of course when the fortune teller told her..
anyway, the fortune teller threw in one advice. 'it is up to you. when things happen, you can choose not to get involve. if you have started, get out'. if someone single likes you, you can marry him; even if you dont like him that much. you change your life...if you choose'.
my friend did just that.
chinese saying : TIAN1 YI4 REN2 WEI2
"heaven plans, humans act".
fate and destiny is one thing, your willingness to act is another.
as they say, your destiny is in your hands (look at the lines on your pal
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There are many school of thoughts in areas of love - but it usually boils down to very similiar things.