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Hi,
How are you people? Hope you all are doing just fine. I'm icyboy and am willing to hear all your problems and giving some advice if I could.
Do share your problems here and that might make you feel a little better. DOn't hesitate. Just type whatever you think it's neccesary.
Signing Off,
Shah Rizal Isaac Ritz
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must be some kind of psychology student
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i've been trying to find the lyrics for 'Guan Huai Fang Shi ' for a long time & still unable to find it. feeling very
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dont think he was refering to this kind of problemsOriginally posted by epImetheus:i've been trying to find the lyrics for 'Guan Huai Fang Shi ' for a long time & still unable to find it. feeling very . 
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You can try it out at MIRC - mp3cable channel. = )
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i am the kind who dun dump ppl till ppl dump me.. no matter how bad the relationship is i stay on
i have a married lover.. who he and i both know, we are just in for some fun.. and after sometime of being together i have kinda grown attached to him and oso maybe cos he can provide me what i want.. not alot.. but the luxury of gg holiday and staying in fancy hotels and gifts from him....but of cos he pampers me too in some ways not financially.... so lets call him A.
Till one day.. some flirting in another forum.. i came to known B whom i have known earlier but not dat well.. after toking to B for some time.. he says he cares for me and he dun mind me being a divorcee and having a kid...B is a handsome young chap.... am 6 years his senior.... and i like him too and touched by his sincerity towards me.... now this is complicated cos A and B are colleagues and frens as well... i have make known to B abt me having a so call bf but nvr told him who it is.. till one day he founds out its his fren... actually he have a hunch abt it earlier and he says he dun mind and i have told him not to probe anymore.. cos i know it wud make him feel damn lousy cos its his fren... but now he minds abt it..and he have been ignoring me ever since.. which pains me.. cos i have just learn to open up to him .... and he just ignore me now...i tried calling B.. and he says he still loves me .. just dat he needs time to overcome the hurt... B is another rich kid too... so am not sticking to A for the money
at 1st he says he will give me time to choose... and i cant make a decision cos i am attached to A after being together for some time.. but i want B too.... but now all this ignoring .. i miss toking to B so much... what does it means??... he have given up on me?? cos when i told him i cut myself again he cant be bothered much not like the 1st time i cut myself.. he was so worried abt me... -
Learn to take care of yourself...Originally posted by Duffy:i am the kind who dun dump ppl till ppl dump me.. no matter how bad the relationship is i stay on
i have a married lover.. who he and i both know, we are just in for some fun.. and after sometime of being together i have kinda grown attached to him and oso maybe cos he can provide me what i want.. not alot.. but the luxury of gg holiday and staying in fancy hotels and gifts from him....but of cos he pampers me too in some ways not financially.... so lets call him A.
Till one day.. some flirting in another forum.. i came to known B whom i have known earlier but not dat well.. after toking to B for some time.. he says he cares for me and he dun mind me being a divorcee and having a kid...B is a handsome young chap.... am 6 years his senior.... and i like him too and touched by his sincerity towards me.... now this is complicated cos A and B are colleagues and frens as well... i have make known to B abt me having a so call bf but nvr told him who it is.. till one day he founds out its his fren... actually he have a hunch abt it earlier and he says he dun mind and i have told him not to probe anymore.. cos i know it wud make him feel damn lousy cos its his fren... but now he minds abt it..and he have been ignoring me ever since.. which pains me.. cos i have just learn to open up to him .... and he just ignore me now...i tried calling B.. and he says he still loves me .. just dat he needs time to overcome the hurt... B is another rich kid too... so am not sticking to A for the money
at 1st he says he will give me time to choose... and i cant make a decision cos i am attached to A after being together for some time.. but i want B too.... but now all this ignoring .. i miss toking to B so much... what does it means??... he have given up on me?? cos when i told him i cut myself again he cant be bothered much not like the 1st time i cut myself.. he was so worried abt me...
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just curious why pple who surf sgforums during official work hours claim it is part of the "JOB" ... keke
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i need to stop exposing and falling for b*stards...
have to quit torturing myself...have to respect myself more..
i.c.y (hehe, yea another icy here
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Dear Duffy,
Love is like a glass, once broken, it cannot be mended back as it is already smashed into smithereens.
You are actually indecisive of who to love. You cannot love two people at the same time as for you will however once again be hurt or hurt the other parties.
Choose and follow your heart. I cannot tell you what to do but I can advise you should now be desisive enough over what had happened previously. -
i have a problem. i want a listening ear. can i cut yours off n have it stuffed n mounted on my wall?
it'd make a nice wall decoration. 
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IcyPrincess,
You can choose not to fall in love with them if you have the power to control your mind and heart. -
Heng,
That would be out of question
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well.. i dunno... although i know the one am having a fling w is not really serious w me... but am kinda attached to him.. i told myself we are just having a fling.. but i do get jealous abt him toking wanting to shag what and what gal... argh!!!.. but maybe i gave him the impresion i can handle it... so its like non stop of those details from him.. so in a way i wanna make him love me too.... although i wanted to tell him .. i cant take it.. but as if he care.. by telling him dat.. will only make him wanna run away more.. cos he is always looking for flings w no commitments... but somehow i just wanna make this man love me!!!.. and sometimes he sense dat i dun like what he told me.. he always tell me.. its just sex...so?.. haiz...
as for B.. he is young... so young.. and he looks gd.. i cant feel the security.. am 6 yrs his senior.. i get old fast!! and one day he might find am ugly.. how??... but somehow he respect my feelings more...he dun tok abt other gals.. including his ex.... cos he knows its not wise to discuss such thing w a gal .. and especially one dat u want to start something w...haiz...and he may seem ok now... what if i leave A and tries it out w him.. and suddenly i feel B is childish and i cant take it.. so far he sound ok... but am afraid... what if???... haiz.... -
awww....Originally posted by icyboy85:Heng,
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It seems like for now you got open options which you cannot seem to choose from.. And it is something which u are dam headache abt... Guess what.. I think if you choose A or B.. You are both wrong..Originally posted by Duffy:well.. i dunno... although i know the one am having a fling w is not really serious w me... but am kinda attached to him.. i told myself we are just having a fling.. but i do get jealous abt him toking wanting to shag what and what gal... argh!!!.. but maybe i gave him the impresion i can handle it... so its like non stop of those details from him.. so in a way i wanna make him love me too.... although i wanted to tell him .. i cant take it.. but as if he care.. by telling him dat.. will only make him wanna run away more.. cos he is always looking for flings w no commitments... but somehow i just wanna make this man love me!!!.. and sometimes he sense dat i dun like what he told me.. he always tell me.. its just sex...so?.. haiz...
as for B.. he is young... so young.. and he looks gd.. i cant feel the security.. am 6 yrs his senior.. i get old fast!! and one day he might find am ugly.. how??... but somehow he respect my feelings more...he dun tok abt other gals.. including his ex.... cos he knows its not wise to discuss such thing w a gal .. and especially one dat u want to start something w...haiz...and he may seem ok now... what if i leave A and tries it out w him.. and suddenly i feel B is childish and i cant take it.. so far he sound ok... but am afraid... what if???... haiz....
1) Although you are kept woman.. Do you think its good abt it? You can argue your way through that its good blah blah blah... But search ur heart deep down.. He is a married man... Why on earth do you wanna break people up IF he is happily married? He may or may not be rich.. That is beside the point.. You don't wish to be labelled a fcuker who tries to break up a happy family? Even IF he divorce his wife one day and come with you.. What will his family members and frens think? If you don wish to spare a thought for yourself.. Spare a thought for him and his frens.. Dunno abt you.. But i do believe in retributions...
2) Regarding B who is younger than you.. Do you think it is good for you to stay with him and leads to no where when you 2 are attached? In both your long statements.. it seems like you "are looking for some one who has the $$ to give you the pleasure that you want...
Conclusion... Ask yourself deeply before you make any furthur progress.. Cause if it hurts.. It will be a deep cut.. -
I agree with KenNerve.
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not really looking for a guy w $$.. cos i have a healthy bank account too.. its the mentioning of how A seems to pamper me.... might lead to ppl thinking dat i sticked to A although he is married for his $$$.. so i have to inform dat B is oso a rich kid dats all..
yeah.. have tot abt it too.. not gd in breaking up ppls marriage.. but this will nvr happen cos.. A is happily married to his wife.. its just dat his weakness for sex.. just cant stop him for having flings. and somehow i caught his fancy and he likes me more than a one nite stand... and am being kept by his side till today...and as time goes by... feelings develope.... or else i wont be in such dilemma now...
B seems like a gd offer.... gd background not some gangster... and he is single.... so i will not be the third party again..but am just having doubts abt him.. cos he seems to be caring at 1st.. toking abt the future, and oso offering to take care of me in the future including my kiddo.... and suddenly when he knows dat i lied to him abt A's identity he was angry and wont accept my apologies and explanation dat am doing so.. cos it will hurt him so much to see his fren face everyday and oso to think abt what i did w his fren...he had a hunch at first abt A's identity..... and i told him not to probe anymore... and he even says he dun care if it really is his fren.. then when i admitted to him after multi times of quenstioning ....he blew up... wpz.. so what have i done wrong?? -
What do you think?Originally posted by Duffy:not really looking for a guy w $$.. cos i have a healthy bank account too.. its the mentioning of how A seems to pamper me.... might lead to ppl thinking dat i sticked to A although he is married for his $$$.. so i have to inform dat B is oso a rich kid dats all..
yeah.. have tot abt it too.. not gd in breaking up ppls marriage.. but this will nvr happen cos.. A is happily married to his wife.. its just dat his weakness for sex.. just cant stop him for having flings. and somehow i caught his fancy and he likes me more than a one nite stand... and am being kept by his side till today...and as time goes by... feelings develope.... or else i wont be in such dilemma now...
B seems like a gd offer.... gd background not some gangster... and he is single.... so i will not be the third party again..but am just having doubts abt him.. cos he seems to be caring at 1st.. toking abt the future, and oso offering to take care of me in the future including my kiddo.... and suddenly when he knows dat i lied to him abt A's identity he was angry and wont accept my apologies and explanation dat am doing so.. cos it will hurt him so much to see his fren face everyday and oso to think abt what i did w his fren...he had a hunch at first abt A's identity..... and i told him not to probe anymore... and he even says he dun care if it really is his fren.. then when i admitted to him after multi times of quenstioning ....he blew up... wpz.. so what have i done wrong?? -
heh... dunno... if i know i wont be so frustrated now.
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Hey.. the more i read your post right.. I am starting to think.. are you a whore? sorry for my language.. But the way you are putting yourself.. its like literally giving yourself no respect at all..Originally posted by Duffy:not really looking for a guy w $$.. cos i have a healthy bank account too.. its the mentioning of how A seems to pamper me.... might lead to ppl thinking dat i sticked to A although he is married for his $$$.. so i have to inform dat B is oso a rich kid dats all..
yeah.. have tot abt it too.. not gd in breaking up ppls marriage.. but this will nvr happen cos.. A is happily married to his wife.. its just dat his weakness for sex.. just cant stop him for having flings. and somehow i caught his fancy and he likes me more than a one nite stand... and am being kept by his side till today...and as time goes by... feelings develope.... or else i wont be in such dilemma now...
B seems like a gd offer.... gd background not some gangster... and he is single.... so i will not be the third party again..but am just having doubts abt him.. cos he seems to be caring at 1st.. toking abt the future, and oso offering to take care of me in the future including my kiddo.... and suddenly when he knows dat i lied to him abt A's identity he was angry and wont accept my apologies and explanation dat am doing so.. cos it will hurt him so much to see his fren face everyday and oso to think abt what i did w his fren...he had a hunch at first abt A's identity..... and i told him not to probe anymore... and he even says he dun care if it really is his fren.. then when i admitted to him after multi times of quenstioning ....he blew up... wpz.. so what have i done wrong??
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What would you do if you find yourself to be losing passion in everything you do? You don't really care about work or studies. You have no dreams, no strong desires or any ambition of any kind. You can't confide in your family members and you have no close friends. And you realize that you don't really care about any 1 in the depth of your heart. Sometime you wish you can just drop everything and just live on a mountaintop by yourself. The world could end and its just something that happens, so what if we all perish!
Yet strangly you are not sucidal nor really depressed just kind of not seeing any points in life. You can be friendly to strangers yet you don't regards people around you as friends, just people who are around until another group replace them. You are accused of not being sincere to friends but what is being sincere like? You can be helpful, nice and friendly becos its the right thing to do not cos you feel anything? These are just some radom thoughts and feelings I have sometimes, is it normal for a person to think of all these? -
teach me the art of controlling my heart and mind then.Originally posted by icyboy85:IcyPrincess,
You can choose not to fall in love with them if you have the power to control your mind and heart.
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maturity of heart n mind....but then again...haa haa....Originally posted by icyprincess:teach me the art of controlling my heart and mind then.
i.c.y
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that, you must climb to the top of Mount Hua, there got one old man, he can teach you.Originally posted by icyprincess:teach me the art of controlling my heart and mind then.
i.c.y