Is he taking too hard or m i really wrong...
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Originally posted by XiaoMaYi:he's a leo... u r right.....
i just dunno how to communicate with him really.... its like "u can voice out ur opinion but its up to me whether i will accept it"...
mayb 2 out 0f 10 times he will aaccept lo
Its not about lamenting him to change, its about letting him see and make good suggestion for the relationship.
The reason why I am saying people usually die trying because the afflicted partner in such scenario, usually DON'T see the need to soften and improve UNTIL the day when their partner is about to leave them. During this period, sometimes, you would either see two drastic differences: either the begging: I am sorry kind or the 'You asdjfsad!@#%^jd898982e4!!!' kind.
As long as you are in a relationship, you have the right and ought to something about the holes in your love. Drop the 'aiya-whatever-lar-he-won't-listen-one' - it will do you better in the long run. Keep trying until you see no reasons in the relationship and forces you to leave. Then, you can be apathetic.
Cheers -
Err my fiance is Leo and is not that domineering and controlling. In fact I have lots of freedom.
Or is it because I'm a Leo too so we cancel off the effects? Haha.
Honestly, both of you should have a good talk. Anyway, if you had something to hide you wouldnt' have given him your password.
I wouldn't have given it if I were you, even if I have nothing to hide. He has no respect for your privacy though you shouldn't go through his stuff as well.
Anyway, if he wanna flirt, you have every right too as well, though it doesn't mean you have to. -
*clap*Originally posted by XiaoMaYi:he's a leo... u r right.....
i just dunno how to communicate with him really.... its like "u can voice out ur opinion but its up to me whether i will accept it"...
mayb 2 out 0f 10 times he will aaccept lo
finally i see yunnie guess this correctly online.. hahah
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This is so classic
The i am your boyfren and i own you. -
Originally posted by elindra:Err my fiance is Leo and is not that domineering and controlling. In fact I have lots of freedom.
Or is it because I'm a Leo too so we cancel off the effects? Haha.
Honestly, both of you should have a good talk. Anyway, if you had something to hide you wouldnt' have given him your password.
I wouldn't have given it if I were you, even if I have nothing to hide. He has no respect for your privacy though you shouldn't go through his stuff as well.
Anyway, if he wanna flirt, you have every right too as well, though it doesn't mean you have to. Technically speaking, a Leo needs quite abit of his personal freedom. Having mutual understanding will benefit unless he decides to employ the 'I am your bf and I own you' act - then it brings much conflicts into the relationship.
Why? Cause I am one. (Leo that is)
Cheers -
WAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!Originally posted by SunRisE:*clap*
finally i see yunnie guess this correctly online.. hahah 
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Actually, every one has a privacy to be respected.
Its as simple as that.
Love also needs freedom and respect. And that it is. -
agree.Originally posted by Qitai:Dump him.
i bet you this is just a start (or already something else happened before)...
something like this happened to a gal fren of mine...
possessive and controlling. wants to know and checks everything.
she tried to break up but he threatened suicide.
in the end, he was cheating on her all the time...
was afraid that she would do the same and checked on her instead. also to keep her busy and distract her from checking on him....
i wont be surprised if yours is the same case in making.
good luck... i think you need it.
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i was like that.. except the cheating part lahx..not so many.. only once. =(Originally posted by nuchio:agree.
i bet you this is just a start (or already something else happened before)...
something like this happened to a gal fren of mine...
possessive and controlling. wants to know and checks everything.
she tried to break up but he threatened suicide.
in the end, he was cheating on her all the time...
was afraid that she would do the same and checked on her instead. also to keep her busy and distract her from checking on him....
i wont be surprised if yours is the same case in making.
good luck... i think you need it.
this usually begins with infatuation, probably?
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*all guys are bastards/jerks*
how true? =p
including myself.
~Peace out.
yeahx lorz...hehex... x2Originally posted by Forever84:This is so classic
The i am your boyfren and i own you.
i pretty much avoid such situations nowadays by having the "i wont take more than i give" attitude =)
veri positive somehow.. and it helps.. learn from e past n move on if he ever leaves.. *touch wood*
having a heart2heart talk would help bahx, just like the rest mentioned..
i had one..and she left lol =p
but it was better that way, if not i would've hurt her deeper. wouldn't I.
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Trust. What would the world be like without it.
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Frankly, bin that loser ASAP.Originally posted by XiaoMaYi:I have a multiply account.. but my bf dun like to join such website where i can know more ppl. So i did not tell him about it.
When he's asleep today, i used his pc and log into my multiply account. When he woke up, he used his pc and realised that i had visit multiply site and he asked me if i have an account. And i said yes... he asked for my password because he wants to see my contacts. I have no choice so i gave it to him.
He read my messages sent and there was this msg i sent to a friend's friend whom i had never met before. Coz he is coming to sg next month and i asked him if i can show him around.
Because of this msg, my bf flew into a rage. He felt that i'm looking for a chance to have a fling. I have an intention to cheat behind his back.
When i sent that msg, it was just purely a friendly msg. But he felt that i have tat intention to cheat. He said by initiating to show him around, i'm throwing myself at this guy.
When i said it was purely a friendly invitation, he said i'm finding an excuse. He asked if the guy looks like moses lim, would i wan to show him around? Yes i admit this guy is pretty good looking.. but i really dun have the intention to do anything with this guy, however he dun believe.
He says by doing this, how can he trust me? It's the behavior of a s.l.u.t.
Do you guys really feel that gals who msg u first and wants to show u around is trying to throw herself at u?
How can i appease his anger? Whatever he wans me to do i already try to accomodate him. He doesn't wants me to go out too much, i did. He doesn't wants me to drink when he's not around i did. I'm a very friendly person before i met him... But because he doesn't like me to be to the wrong crowd... i kept to myself a lot and act dao...
In the past i did checked his email acc, he sent an email to someone on this adult forum to this gal who's looking for a one time affair for her criteria....
In his friendster acc, he msg pretty gals to add them.
He said he's fully devoted to me now yet i do this kind of things...
But i really wonder... is it wrong? -
I felt that your bf has failed to respect your privacy and give you space for your friends. However, you have also failed to empathise with your bf and realise that his interpretations of your actions may not be the same as what you had intended.Originally posted by XiaoMaYi:I have a multiply account.. but my bf dun like to join such website where i can know more ppl. So i did not tell him about it.
When he's asleep today, i used his pc and log into my multiply account. When he woke up, he used his pc and realised that i had visit multiply site and he asked me if i have an account. And i said yes... he asked for my password because he wants to see my contacts. I have no choice so i gave it to him.
He read my messages sent and there was this msg i sent to a friend's friend whom i had never met before. Coz he is coming to sg next month and i asked him if i can show him around.
Because of this msg, my bf flew into a rage. He felt that i'm looking for a chance to have a fling. I have an intention to cheat behind his back.
When i sent that msg, it was just purely a friendly msg. But he felt that i have tat intention to cheat. He said by initiating to show him around, i'm throwing myself at this guy.
When i said it was purely a friendly invitation, he said i'm finding an excuse. He asked if the guy looks like moses lim, would i wan to show him around? Yes i admit this guy is pretty good looking.. but i really dun have the intention to do anything with this guy, however he dun believe.
He says by doing this, how can he trust me? It's the behavior of a s.l.u.t.
Do you guys really feel that gals who msg u first and wants to show u around is trying to throw herself at u?
How can i appease his anger? Whatever he wans me to do i already try to accomodate him. He doesn't wants me to go out too much, i did. He doesn't wants me to drink when he's not around i did. I'm a very friendly person before i met him... But because he doesn't like me to be to the wrong crowd... i kept to myself a lot and act dao...
In the past i did checked his email acc, he sent an email to someone on this adult forum to this gal who's looking for a one time affair for her criteria....
In his friendster acc, he msg pretty gals to add them.
He said he's fully devoted to me now yet i do this kind of things...
But i really wonder... is it wrong?
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ditto.Originally posted by *Dante*:I felt that your bf has failed to respect your privacy and give you space for your friends. However, you have also failed to empathise with your bf and realise that his interpretations of your actions may not be the same as what you had intended.
No-one in a relationship should be the dominating party but both must compliment each other.
talk to him and see if it works out. -
thick, intricating, complex plot... liFe's fUll of disconcerting sUrprises..Originally posted by nuchio:agree.
i bet you this is just a start (or already something else happened before)...
something like this happened to a gal fren of mine...
possessive and controlling. wants to know and checks everything.
she tried to break up but he threatened suicide.
in the end, he was cheating on her all the time...
was afraid that she would do the same and checked on her instead. also to keep her busy and distract her from checking on him....
i wont be surprised if yours is the same case in making.
good luck... i think you need it.
XiaoMaYi, this issue pivots On hOw much U still feel for him..
nonetheless.. beSt wiShes -
tell him he's a jerk(my opinion) and that he'd better know how to treat girls nicely if he wants to hang on to ya any longer. and that double standards will beget a fitting retribution very soon.Originally posted by XiaoMaYi:I have a multiply account.. but my bf dun like to join such website where i can know more ppl. So i did not tell him about it.
When he's asleep today, i used his pc and log into my multiply account. When he woke up, he used his pc and realised that i had visit multiply site and he asked me if i have an account. And i said yes... he asked for my password because he wants to see my contacts. I have no choice so i gave it to him.
He read my messages sent and there was this msg i sent to a friend's friend whom i had never met before. Coz he is coming to sg next month and i asked him if i can show him around.
Because of this msg, my bf flew into a rage. He felt that i'm looking for a chance to have a fling. I have an intention to cheat behind his back.
When i sent that msg, it was just purely a friendly msg. But he felt that i have tat intention to cheat. He said by initiating to show him around, i'm throwing myself at this guy.
When i said it was purely a friendly invitation, he said i'm finding an excuse. He asked if the guy looks like moses lim, would i wan to show him around? Yes i admit this guy is pretty good looking.. but i really dun have the intention to do anything with this guy, however he dun believe.
He says by doing this, how can he trust me? It's the behavior of a s.l.u.t.
Do you guys really feel that gals who msg u first and wants to show u around is trying to throw herself at u?
How can i appease his anger? Whatever he wans me to do i already try to accomodate him. He doesn't wants me to go out too much, i did. He doesn't wants me to drink when he's not around i did. I'm a very friendly person before i met him... But because he doesn't like me to be to the wrong crowd... i kept to myself a lot and act dao...
In the past i did checked his email acc, he sent an email to someone on this adult forum to this gal who's looking for a one time affair for her criteria....
In his friendster acc, he msg pretty gals to add them.
He said he's fully devoted to me now yet i do this kind of things...
But i really wonder... is it wrong?