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hi.....
just broke of with my ex of 3 years due to some badmouthing by my so called sister. however... its been like a month plus liao.. and i found that i still cannot forget him.. which is like not supposed to happen cos i've always been able to 'na de qi fang de xia'
as for him... he's already attached with a ger who has been seeing during our 'troubled times' (before the break-up)
how?? -
Hey! this sounds familiar to me. i'm in this situation currently too...Originally posted by alegna_t13:hi.....
just broke of with my ex of 3 years due to some badmouthing by my so called sister. however... its been like a month plus liao.. and i found that i still cannot forget him.. which is like not supposed to happen cos i've always been able to 'na de qi fang de xia'
as for him... he's already attached with a ger who has been seeing during our 'troubled times' (before the break-up)
how?? -
Hey! this sounds familiar to me. i'm in this situation currently too...
Heyz,
Sorry to hear about this.
Hope you're feeling better though.
(Though I've heard so many tell me this, it's not easy to do so. Haiz..) -
Originally posted by alegna_t13:
Your ex-boyfriend broke up with you over remarks from an outsider and found another love on the rebound right after the split (or maybe before). I could be mistaken, but it seems to me a lost cause -- his heart is not with you any more. The silliest thing you could do now is to waste another minute waiting for him to come back to you.
just broke of with my ex of 3 years due to some badmouthing by my so called sister. however... its been like a month plus liao.. and i found that i still cannot forget him.. which is like not supposed to happen cos i've always been able to 'na de qi fang de xia'
as for him... he's already attached with a ger who has been seeing during our 'troubled times' (before the break-up)
how??
Keep your mind away from him by engaging yourself in the activities you used to do without him, such as shopping with your so-called sisters, hanging out, going to gym classes, picking up your old hobbies, etc. Make yourself happy again. Fall on your family and friends -- it makes standing up again easier after you stumble.
This comes rather late for an active response thread, but hope it helps. -
Well...
Just when i thought that i could get on with my life without him... He has to come and sms me... Supposedly showing concern for me... Why does he have to play with my heart like a kite?? *(&&^$%@&*)_*^
Haiz....
Nevertheless, I do understand that the fate between us has ended... Even if he were to wan to come back to me.. There's no way I can accept him anymore.. I have also come to realise that maybe i do not love him as much as i tot so... and that i dun realli miss him... maybe just the times we used to spend together.. 3 years..
All the things we've done together, all the places we've been to, all the tears and happiness..
No doubt that I cannot forget him nor the memories, I will try not to get overli affected by them anymore...
Moreover, even if he doesn't love me anymore, does not mean that there is nobody else who will..
As the saying goes, " Love yourself if you wan to be loved."
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Originally posted by alegna_t13:
...as the only person you'd surely be spending the rest of your life with is you.
As the saying goes, " Love yourself if you wan to be loved."
Time is the best healer; life is the best teacher. Glad to hear that you have sorted things out. Hope that you have become wiser from this experience and be able to find someone more suitable for you next time. Good luck. -
I had a crush with this guy Y whom I get acquainted with for 6 mths while attending a course, however, he was attached. Then I was intro to this guy E thru my fren. I went out with E a couple of times, but merely platonic frenz. Thru conversation, I get to know that although we had a few similiar interests, however, our backgrd differs... I do not have that special feelings while with E. I do think of Y occassionally... Should I make my feelings known to Y, now that I know that his relationship is unstable? and should I let E know about Y?[/b]
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I know this girl A den another one B, den there was C, and den the D, so we have E but I forgot about A den B comes to me and say she is lesbo to a girl F but F was not really a girl but was a boy Z (refer to the dick cutting pic somewhere), and A says that she dun like C although I have no idea how C cums into the picture of A and Z suddenly says she want to be a boy again and becum gay so C was very upset and depressed, but F.. wadever.
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Originally posted by Stefice:
Why not give E (and yourself) another opportunity to know each other better? Sometimes feelings can be developed through time.
I had a crush with this guy Y whom I get acquainted with for 6 mths while attending a course, however, he was attached. Then I was intro to this guy E thru my fren. I went out with E a couple of times, but merely platonic frenz. Thru conversation, I get to know that although we had a few similiar interests, however, our backgrd differs... I do not have that special feelings while with E. I do think of Y occassionally... Should I make my feelings known to Y, now that I know that his relationship is unstable? and should I let E know about Y?
If you really can't foresee yourself ever being with E, then it'd be better not to waste his time any longer -- let him know that you want him to be just a friend. If you wish to be mean and run the risk of losing a friend in E, then go ahead and let him know about your feelings for Y.
Speaking of Y, his relationship may be unstable, but he has not broken up with his girlfriend yet, right? So do you want to be the third party? It'd probably be advisable to stay on as just his friend for the time being and get to know him better. Infatuation alone is never a good indication of the subject's suitability as a partner. -
i have another prob...
recentli had the chance to clear things up with my ex..
found that;
1) we still love each other deeply
2) we still cannot get over each other
3) we still miss each other deeply to the extent that he can call his new gf my name.
4) if given a chance we'll still be together again
5) that if nothing had gone wrong we would have married each other
6) both of us know each other best
7) and many other things....
But!! biggest prob is he already has a new gf..... they got together within a month of our breakup...
So how?? to wait or not to wait?? -
Originally posted by alegna_t13:
If your ex-boyfriend couldn't let you go, why is he with another girl? I'm not necessarily saying that he is one of them, but there are guys I know who profess love for their ex-girlfriends so that they could still enjoy some fun for "old times' sake" while getting kicks from their new girlfriends.
i have another prob...
recentli had the chance to clear things up with my ex..
found that;
1) we still love each other deeply
2) we still cannot get over each other
3) we still miss each other deeply to the extent that he can call his new gf my name.
4) if given a chance we'll still be together again
5) that if nothing had gone wrong we would have married each other
6) both of us know each other best
7) and many other things....
But!! biggest prob is he already has a new gf..... they got together within a month of our breakup...
So how?? to wait or not to wait??
From the tone of your post, you must be dying to hear support for you to wait. Sorry to disappoint you, but if you don't wish to get hurt again, if you don't want the "thing that had gone wrong" to go wrong again, it'd be better if you move on.
Even if the ex-boyfriend broke up with his current girlfriend now to be with you, there is no guarantee he would not do the same thing to you to go back to his current girlfriend. The only guarantee you could get from such an action is that he is not one who treats relationships seriously. -
So what do you think....?Originally posted by alegna_t13:i have another prob...
recentli had the chance to clear things up with my ex..
found that;
1) we still love each other deeply
2) we still cannot get over each other
3) we still miss each other deeply to the extent that he can call his new gf my name.
4) if given a chance we'll still be together again
5) that if nothing had gone wrong we would have married each other
6) both of us know each other best
7) and many other things....
But!! biggest prob is he already has a new gf..... they got together within a month of our breakup...
So how?? to wait or not to wait??
Thought he has already made his decision...
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well.. really dunnoe....
we've so called 'set' a date...
you noe the kind whereby ' if we're both not attached/married by DD/MM/YY, we'll get together again"
As for whether is he the kind of guy who doesn't take a relationship seriously.. he's a faithful bf. once he's set his heart on you, he'll stick to you unless you do something to make him lose that faith ( which i did).
However.. when he tells me bout how he's getting on with his present gf, i have a feeling that it may just be an empty wait. as in, nothing might come out of it.
ironies of life~~ -
Originally posted by alegna_t13:
If your ex-boyfriend is really a faithful man, then you should move on. It is unlikely he would destroy the current girlfriend's faith in him to be with you. Because this time, his heart is set on her. Maybe he was just consoling you when he 'set' the date, a la "My Best Friend's Wedding" style, with you.
well.. really dunnoe....
we've so called 'set' a date...
you noe the kind whereby ' if we're both not attached/married by DD/MM/YY, we'll get together again"
As for whether is he the kind of guy who doesn't take a relationship seriously.. he's a faithful bf. once he's set his heart on you, he'll stick to you unless you do something to make him lose that faith ( which i did).
However.. when he tells me bout how he's getting on with his present gf, i have a feeling that it may just be an empty wait. as in, nothing might come out of it.
ironies of life~~
I wouldn't probe on what you did to make him lose that faith in you, but here's hoping you have learned your lesson and wouldn't do it again to the next guy who comes along. See open... -
Well... You've got your answer...?Originally posted by alegna_t13:well.. really dunnoe....
we've so called 'set' a date...
you noe the kind whereby ' if we're both not attached/married by DD/MM/YY, we'll get together again"
As for whether is he the kind of guy who doesn't take a relationship seriously.. he's a faithful bf. once he's set his heart on you, he'll stick to you unless you do something to make him lose that faith ( which i did).
However.. when he tells me bout how he's getting on with his present gf, i have a feeling that it may just be an empty wait. as in, nothing might come out of it.
ironies of life~~ -
The truth is just so cruel...
Although I noe what needs to be done..
I am reluctant to do it...
*sobz* -
Such truth are often cruel only if you deem it so...?Originally posted by alegna_t13:The truth is just so cruel...
Although I noe what needs to be done..
I am reluctant to do it...
*sobz*
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A gf has just committed suicide on 7 May 2005. -
Originally posted by alegna_t13:
Over a guy? Pity her parents.
A gf has just committed suicide on 7 May 2005.