what would u do to redeem urself from sin...?
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Christ has paid the price for your sins. He came to provide redemption.
Way to receive God's forgiveness -
no, not againOriginally posted by NeonTetra:Christ has paid the price for your sins. He came to provide redemption.
Way to receive God's forgiveness
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i happen to haf a similar feeling of guilt not too long ago. i told myself the same thing actually. betraying her trust. though ive never really forgive myself. glad to be on the same boat! my advice to you is, dun ever look down on urself bcuz of it. these things happen in life you can't undo it and you can't stay grounded at it for too long and let it consume you.Originally posted by Fluffy.white.sheeP:u gotta learn to forgive yourself so that u can move on
everyone makes mistakes now and then. living in the past would only
make you miserable. If u havent already asked for her forgiveness,
then seek it. If u havent already forgive yourself, then do it.
To err is human and to forgive is divine. -
accepting your own sin by forgiving yourself is not self-deceptionOriginally posted by Ito_^:you cannot forgive yourself because that would be accepting your own sin, in that way, isn't it as self-deception? i supposed he will have to live with it till that someone forgive him lor.
it's coming to terms with what one has done wrong and realising that it was a mistake. If you let it continue to hinder you at every step, then it would be an even bigger mistake as one would be clinging onto the past and having endless nightmares. Acceptance doesn't mean condoning. It just means "oh I've erred" and the acknowledgement of making an error in judgement is more often more invaluable than lamenting oneself repeatedly for the mistake. One has to have the courage to forgive oneself for the mistakes but not in the sense that one forgives oneself easily after every one and just kicking it out of the system. Gotta remember that mistake one made and be able to say "I've made this mistake there and then because of this this and this and I'm truly sorry for doing that that and that but I've learnt from the mistake and never made it again" -
Actually that's depends on what you have done to a girl.
To me, I feel that you just come to seek for some advice to make you "feel better" after you have done something very wrong.
If you have done something very wrong, that could even ruin somebody life (like raping a girl, or cheated all her money, where she trusted you very much), and what you are trying to do now is looking for someone to console you to let you feel better, do you think you are very selfish?
Well, if like you said, she "trusted" you very much, and now she "hated" you so much, and she can't even "forgive" you. There must be something very "serious".
Well, you are super selfish, you just want to feel better. Well, she still be there, and (perhaps) her life are ruined. Even you are forgiven, and you forgive yourself, her scar in heart will be forever.
Why whould I write all this? Well, I have been hurt once, deeply. If something that make you can't "forgive" a person that you "trusted" most, you can imagine, what he has done.
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Hi,Originally posted by WillTurneR:Have u ever done anything very sinful, despicable?
i cant simply forget and forgive myself for what i have done...
it going against my conscience and i be guilty for life...
i simply cannot think of anything to redeem my sin....
but i hurt her feeling, betray her trust in a r/s...
i am sinful
... very wrong...
who dont sin ? who dont make mistakes ? the real thing is to understand ur mistakes and try not do it again. have u apologized for what u done ? if so, can liao. If "she" dont want to forgive u, pls lor...let it be. "she" is entitled to feel hurt (for some time) and you should responsible enough to leave her alone and brace urself up so u wont be a nuisance.
we dont wan to so called "redemm" ourselves just to make ourselves feel good. thats what i call the easy path. the hard thing to do is to move on....which i think u should. u will breathe easier.
i know of pals who cannot sleep and drink for years until someone they "betrayed" forgave them. so for years, they indulge in a falsehood of self-pity and subconciously evoke pity from others just so they would feel better. to me (personal opinion) that is selfish. being selfless is so honor ur words and heart and behave like a person. move on.
anyways....i am a fan of the yellow ribbon project. so i talk like this. -
I believe it is true in your case that you actually don't deserved to be forgiven. Cos from the way you posted, it doesn't seems that you are really sorry for what you have done to her. In fact, it seems to me that you are merely seeking a way to make yourself feel better and forgive yourself. What you need is not her forgiveness but an excuse for yourself to get away from all the things that you have done to her.Originally posted by WillTurneR:i already admited my wrong.... actually i can deny everything but i've already let her down, am i going to deny and cheat her again? no i cant...i cant go against my conscience
i didnt seek for her forgiveness i dun deserved to be forgiven
she hated me...she said she wont forgive me...
hope one day she understand, i wasnt meant to hurt her,
i love her but i am too selfish, i neglected her feelings...
You might find a temporary excuse to forgive yourself in this forum. But deep inside you will know that your conscience will keep coming back and haunt you whenever you feel alone and empty in your heart.
I would suggest you to go and seek her forgiveness. I do not know what wrong you have done to her. But the only permanent solution to redeem yourself does not comes from you or anyone here. You will need her to forgive you first before your conscience can actually forgive you and you can forgive yourself.
One tip though...''Words doesn't means anything and actions cannot hide your true feelings''. Use actions to show her that you are sorry and when she have forgiven you, you will know it because your conscience will tell you so.
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Well said, I have the same feeling here.Originally posted by parn:I believe it is true in your case that you actually don't deserved to be forgiven. Cos from the way you posted, it doesn't seems that you are really sorry for what you have done to her. In fact, it seems to me that you are merely seeking a way to make yourself feel better and forgive yourself. What you need is not her forgiveness but an excuse for yourself to get away from all the things that you have done to her.