Relationships and it's endings.......
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is there a reason or reasons to why relationships end? do we have to understand why a relationship didn't work before we move on? does understanding why things go awry really that important?
in a few days, it would mark a year to the day i boarded a jet plane, leaving behind the man i thought i would marry, bringing home a heart too shattered to mend. I still don't understand why things turn out the way they did, why i was so blind to hang on to him and why he has to hurt me so. Whenever i try to think back, and find the answers to my question, my emotions, my mind just spiral downwards. For him, i've experienced the darkest times of my life. i don't want to go back to those days of sorrow and pain but now i wonder if i have to in order to truly let go and be over him.
i have to move on, cos after him, i had other heartaches in my life to sort out. i see getting over my ex and my past as the way to start the healing and end the pain. i want to be able to give my current other half what he deserves - my heart as a whole, beating healthily, not longer bleeding.
what show i do now? this sucks..................
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ah don ah don r u ok.
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hi don, welcome aboard or you're leaving the plane soon? ha.. that'd be good news if you're touching down at your next destination
personally, i find that it's not so important to understand everything i.e. y things gone wrong & bad in d past..
but being honest to my once-bleeding heart is important.. not hiding from reality is important too..
d rest is just breathing, living and lotsa embracing.. -
thanks ah ma.....
i guess i'm ok if compared to one year ago....
i'm trying to look at the bright side but sometimes, like today, my mind just sinks and i feel like crying.Originally posted by Ah Ma:ah don ah don r u ok.
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sometimes mus learn hw to let go...no use lookin and comparing with the past....some of the tings no need to know so much..n find the reason.....jus move on....and look at present & tink of future better rite..~cheers!...~Originally posted by the_don:thanks ah ma.....
i guess i'm ok if compared to one year ago....
i'm trying to look at the bright side but sometimes, like today, my mind just sinks and i feel like crying. -
wah.. i don't catch your first sentence
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reality... wat is reality? sometimes it just feels so much better to be in a haze. i know if i had been in touch in reality, i could have healed by now or be dead by now.
moi still breathing, living and trying to embraced seems painful lehOriginally posted by sleepycat:hi don, welcome aboard or you're leaving the plane soon? ha.. that'd be good news if you're touching down at your next destination
personally, i find that it's not so important to understand everything i.e. y things gone wrong & bad in d past..
but being honest to my once-bleeding heart is important.. not hiding from reality is important too..
d rest is just breathing, living and lotsa embracing.. -
haiz.. i trying to learn how to let go le. trying so hard to get over him and my past. even my current half knows i am trying so hard to get out of this. but moments like these just creep up.
thanks ah ma, me try to look forward, me try try try
Originally posted by Ah Ma:sometimes mus learn hw to let go...no use lookin and comparing with the past....some of the tings no need to know so much..n find the reason.....jus move on....and look at present & tink of future better rite..~cheers!...~ -
I think it's just us girls.. actually some guys too lah..
Who believe in marriage so much that they often are blinded by the person they think they wanna marry.
I dont' know what i'm talking about.. Ling will shuddup now..
Ling is marriage phobe.... friends kept telling me that the boy was gonna propose on my birthday.. That was the frigging surprise he kept talking about. on that night, i made sure i didn't wear super duper high heels in case i had to run down the road and grab a cab. -
did he????Originally posted by Lingos:I think it's just us girls.. actually some guys too lah..
Who believe in marriage so much that they often are blinded by the person they think they wanna marry.
I dont' know what i'm talking about.. Ling will shuddup now..
Ling is marriage phobe.... friends kept telling me that the boy was gonna propose on my birthday.. That was the frigging surprise he kept talking about. on that night, i made sure i didn't wear super duper high heels in case i had to run down the road and grab a cab. -
don't think too much.. thinking is not possible on affairs of the heart, when u try to think things thru, u'll end up dwelling on it.. juz shut ya mind and move on... keep going gal, for yourself and for the one who loves u now..Originally posted by the_don:thanks ah ma..... i guess i'm ok if compared to one year ago....
i'm trying to look at the bright side but sometimes, like today, my mind just sinks and i feel like crying. -
I dare not say I share the same story as you but I dare say we both had sad endings and are taking it too hard. Our emotions over-run us like a 5tonner and there's nothing we can do about it. Someone had once told me this simple phrase.
What would you do if you miss someone dearly? You would go see that person to ease that sensation of missing him/her.
But what happens if things get bad and he/she is never there anymore? He/She will become a part of your memory.
Reminiscing is like a pill, it makes you recap what's bad but unconsciously you learn a new thing about the incident everytime it's recapped...
It takes time, truely takes time... Don't try to force it, it'll only make your life more torturous. Instead go with the flow, and it would go away. Bit by bit
For me I'm just waiting for a lost love, not too long have I waited, but going to be long before I stop.
Nothing is impossible, It's just how much you want it.
Anyway bury yourself in work. It helps. I'm glad I have NS to help me.
My 2 cents worth -
ubday ah hapy bday!` my blessings to u!~~getting married liao ah u h33Originally posted by Lingos:I think it's just us girls.. actually some guys too lah..
Who believe in marriage so much that they often are blinded by the person they think they wanna marry.
I dont' know what i'm talking about.. Ling will shuddup now..
Ling is marriage phobe.... friends kept telling me that the boy was gonna propose on my birthday.. That was the frigging surprise he kept talking about. on that night, i made sure i didn't wear super duper high heels in case i had to run down the road and grab a cab. -
hmm...yah u must try if nt , nt fair to ur current half too. wats over is over..no pt n meaningless too rite~! dn wait till u lose someting then regret later..cherish wat u hav wit ur current half nw!~Originally posted by the_don:haiz.. i trying to learn how to let go le. trying so hard to get over him and my past. even my current half knows i am trying so hard to get out of this. but moments like these just creep up.
thanks ah ma, me try to look forward, me try try try -
No lah thank goodness.Originally posted by the_don:did he????
But did get lots of people.. well actually only one drunk girl asking when he was gonna ask. Obviously she wasn't a close friend of mine. hahaa.. actually now.. not even a friend hahaha..
Christ Don, i'm still plastered from last night.. woke up after 5 hrs of sleep.. still falling over. hahhhaha.. geez.. was sending people online some weird as msgs, sorry if i pi$$ed you guys off. -
guess u r rite... think i'm going for a sugar overdose n try to b happi; for my other half n for my sanity...Originally posted by sleepycat:don't think too much.. thinking is not possible on affairs of the heart, when u try to think things thru, u'll end up dwelling on it.. juz shut ya mind and move on... keep going gal, for yourself and for the one who loves u now..
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OH god no... no no no.. i was gonna run down lygon street and take a cab to the airport. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHOriginally posted by Ah Ma:ubday ah hapy bday!` my blessings to u!~~getting married liao ah u h33 -
sometimes, "why" does not matter..
sometimes, there is no "why"
it's just life...
things come, things go..
accept what is... and remember that people are human... and not perfect...
never bear grudges... for they poison yourself...
let people go... never tie them in.. if they want to, let them come to you while you go to them.. and if both meet and walk the same path together, because both want to and are not tied by any obligation other than "because i want to be by your side" , then it's lovely
i tortured myself for a while to ask "why" and decided that it was too much suffering and there may be no "why".. or the "why" may not even be understood by either party.. or worse, the "why" may be a misplaced trust in someone you would trust so much that you'd believe blatant lies from..
so.. just let go, and know this: love is infinite..
it's infinite enough to love so hard it hurts the mortal soul... and love your other half that way... for any other way, is a copout... -
Anyway my story is not important.
I've moved on.. really quickly. I"m sure that my ex is still hung on me.. which is terrible considering he has a girlfriend now. Probably in the same situation as you.. anyway.. it's never easy.. (yeah bloody cliche)..
Maybe you need to look at it this way... at least you didn't go further (ie sign the dotted line) or else.. it would have been worse. -
Life is a beautiful art. When we have an ugly patch, we'll try to hide it. We all do. And that ugly patch will make the entire work ugly. It is only when you start to appreciate the rest of the art, will you recognise the beauty of the whole painting.
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thanks DXuan...
i'm buried in work now, my usual timings r 9am til 8pm n half days or full days on sat. some sundays u find me at work too. this sundays is supposed to be a rare rest day for me but i guess not much rest is coming. oh well
Originally posted by DXuan:I dare not say I share the same story as you but I dare say we both had sad endings and are taking it too hard. Our emotions over-run us like a 5tonner and there's nothing we can do about it. Someone had once told me this simple phrase.
What would you do if you miss someone dearly? You would go see that person to ease that sensation of missing him/her.
But what happens if things get bad and he/she is never there anymore? He/She will become a part of your memory.
Reminiscing is like a pill, it makes you recap what's bad but unconsciously you learn a new thing about the incident everytime it's recapped...
It takes time, truely takes time... Don't try to force it, it'll only make your life more torturous. Instead go with the flow, and it would go away. Bit by bit
For me I'm just waiting for a lost love, not too long have I waited, but going to be long before I stop.
Nothing is impossible, It's just how much you want it.
Anyway bury yourself in work. It helps. I'm glad I have NS to help me.
My 2 cents worth -
Takes Dove chocolates away from Don..Originally posted by the_don:guess u r rite... think i'm going for a sugar overdose n try to b happi; for my other half n for my sanity...
Snap out of it lady.. should send you Sex and the city dvds man. -
i will... thanks
/me give ah ma big MUACKZ!
Originally posted by Ah Ma:hmm...yah u must try if nt , nt fair to ur current half too. wats over is over..no pt n meaningless too rite~! dn wait till u lose someting then regret later..cherish wat u hav wit ur current half nw!~ -
Yeah but that's just escapism.. SO ARE THE SWEETS.Originally posted by the_don:thanks DXuan...
i'm buried in work now, my usual timings r 9am til 8pm n half days or full days on sat. some sundays u find me at work too. this sundays is supposed to be a rare rest day for me but i guess not much rest is coming. oh well
Ya gotta work it out hon, not escape. -
anyway HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!Originally posted by Lingos:No lah thank goodness.
But did get lots of people.. well actually only one drunk girl asking when he was gonna ask. Obviously she wasn't a close friend of mine. hahaa.. actually now.. not even a friend hahaha..
Christ Don, i'm still plastered from last night.. woke up after 5 hrs of sleep.. still falling over. hahhhaha.. geez.. was sending people online some weird as msgs, sorry if i pi$$ed you guys off. -
It's strange how when we are busy they never seem to creep up to you. It's only when you are free that they appear before you, making our mood awry and make your tears freeflowing. It happens... Same shit, Different day...
Crying is bad enough when alone, imagine crying in front of your bunk mates all of a sudden. Everyone got a rude shock.
But still hang in there... It'll make you a stronger person. I know because I'm stronger nowOriginally posted by the_don:thanks DXuan...
i'm buried in work now, my usual timings r 9am til 8pm n half days or full days on sat. some sundays u find me at work too. this sundays is supposed to be a rare rest day for me but i guess not much rest is coming. oh well