leaving behind an undefined relationship
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dun waste her time n urs,give both of urselves chances to meet someone elseOriginally posted by yearning:in fact, out of my own insecurity, i sought to study at the best institutions that Singapore and the world gotta offered. Academic competence doesn't pay out that good. I always feel somthing amiss in my life
if its really love,then lets hope u guys can get back together after u return
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Don't worry... At least you're still working on works...Originally posted by yearning:in fact, out of my own insecurity, i sought to study at the best institutions that Singapore and the world gotta offered. Academic competence doesn't pay out that good. I always feel somthing amiss in my life
It's not over till it's over... Time's still running through your hands...
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i'm studying engineering at one of the top universities in the world.
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whhich Uni is that?!Originally posted by yearning:i'm studying engineering at one of the top universities in the world.
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And your point is?Originally posted by yearning:i'm studying engineering at one of the top universities in the world. -
i m studying at cambridge. i am just highlighting with cant-remb-who that I lack all the EQ I need. IQ doesnt pay much. Math & Science cant adequately provide sufficient background knowledge to interpret emotions and feelings.
I know that somethings have to let go, cuz I'm so far. I feel terrible to not see her, called her to only hear her cry that I'm no longer physically present and can't even lend a shoulder literally. I feel even worse. I want to return to sg during christmas vacation but my parents are not forking out a penny for my plane ticket. I'm supposed to earn my own ticket and I has already been sourcing around for part time jobs. -
Learn to give love and not ask for prove of love. To get love, you need to give love. It is good you care enough to try to work to earn your own ticket. Good luck.Originally posted by yearning:i m studying at cambridge. i am just highlighting with cant-remb-who that I lack all the EQ I need. IQ doesnt pay much. Math & Science cant adequately provide sufficient background knowledge to interpret emotions and feelings.
I know that somethings have to let go, cuz I'm so far. I feel terrible to not see her, called her to only hear her cry that I'm no longer physically present and can't even lend a shoulder literally. I feel even worse. I want to return to sg during christmas vacation but my parents are not forking out a penny for my plane ticket. I'm supposed to earn my own ticket and I has already been sourcing around for part time jobs.
As for the question whether she loves you enough. Only time will tell. Only thing I am certain, if you love her enough, you will be willing to believe in this relationship. Maybe it will fail in the end. But if you do not believe, you will never know if it works out well for the two of you. -
Hey, fren, if she really love you that much, i beieve that no matter how far u're n how long you'll be away from her, she'll be yours. But dun b assured that she'll wait for you thru'out your years of studies(4yrs?). I do understand that at this moment of time, it's very difficult for you n her to be seperated,esp. for 4yrs. How long have you two been togather? (I din really read thru your whole story) Anyway, if you've been togather with her within a year, it's normal for her n you to have reacted in such ways, i.e. "you feel hurt to see her reacted in those ways and can't bear to leave her behind n b alone to "suffer." n so n so...you noe yourself...
I was in the same situation as you b4, but juz that i wasn't going to one of the top uni. for studies. My dad wanted to send me to Aust. to study..however, the prob.'s that i've a gf who has been with me for 2years++..i juz can't bear to leave her behind n pursue my studies...but wat choices do i have? Two only, either i study or i dun. But for us, guys, we need a career..if not, how're we goin to support the person whom we love in the future?
Since you've the chance to go to Cambri. for your studies, go ahead n pursue it and attain good results..not everyone has the chance to do to study..and as for your gf, you still can contact her by email, icq n msn messager which i believe it's quite popular now. Yuo'll get to see her everyday (provided you two have web cams.) And since your parents dun support your ticket back to spore during yuor vacation, then bo bian lor...work n save up lor...tat''s going to be worth it since you love her so much n so does her.
My advise, pursue your studies n study well n come back for her after you graduated. Discuss with your gf wat your thoughts are. Hopefully, you two can reach an understanding. Love can do wonders.
*By the way, do not blame your parents for not providing you the air ticket, afterall, they're your parents and every parent want their children to be successful. It's all for your own good. Hope that the love between you and your gf can hold strongly.
oh...forgot to mention that i've made a 3rd choice, in the end, i pursue my studies...but it's not in Aust. It's in Spore. =)
Take care and all the best.Originally posted by yearning:i m studying at cambridge. i am just highlighting with cant-remb-who that I lack all the EQ I need. IQ doesnt pay much. Math & Science cant adequately provide sufficient background knowledge to interpret emotions and feelings.
I know that somethings have to let go, cuz I'm so far. I feel terrible to not see her, called her to only hear her cry that I'm no longer physically present and can't even lend a shoulder literally. I feel even worse. I want to return to sg during christmas vacation but my parents are not forking out a penny for my plane ticket. I'm supposed to earn my own ticket and I has already been sourcing around for part time jobs. -
I can understand your desire to be physically present with her... But perhaps you should work on your relationship with her 1st?Originally posted by yearning:i m studying at cambridge. i am just highlighting with cant-remb-who that I lack all the EQ I need. IQ doesnt pay much. Math & Science cant adequately provide sufficient background knowledge to interpret emotions and feelings.
I know that somethings have to let go, cuz I'm so far. I feel terrible to not see her, called her to only hear her cry that I'm no longer physically present and can't even lend a shoulder literally. I feel even worse. I want to return to sg during christmas vacation but my parents are not forking out a penny for my plane ticket. I'm supposed to earn my own ticket and I has already been sourcing around for part time jobs. -
i say 1st hor... sounds like me but is not me. im really quite shiok here.Originally posted by yearning:I'm a guy yearning for a ger's love. I'm very lost. I fell in love with my female best friend 2mth ago before I embark for 4years of undergraduate study abroad. Over a year, both of us has grown very emotionally attached to each other. We confided with each other everything, and even petted and had sex. In fact, she admitted that it was quite impossible to live a life without me.
She accepted me as her bf for two weeks before my departure, partly because she dont want to regret in her life for making a wrong pass at me. we broke up just before i left. During that brief two weeks, she still find it awkward to even hold my hand or vice versa, but we had no problem frenching. I asked her why she find it so awkward. She says she's not sure if she loves me, but she knows that she needs me in almost every aspect of her life. She ask me to give her more time to think thru, if she actually loves me. She tells me she's very confused yet always so glad to talk and see me. She's not sure if this is love. She needed more time to think thru, as she's in the midst of her A LEVELS now. Sigh.. to me, if u realise that u finally found a person that u cant afford to spend your life without, it must be that u love her. Sometimes I wonder if it's my hot temper that always stop her from totally accepting me. She asked me to wait for her answer till next valentine's day, after A levels. I wasnt convinced as it could be a convenient mean to reject me by sending an sms after I'm gone from Singapore. I told her I will believe if she actually strip in public. She refused to strip cuz it involves her dignity. I told her I wont believe her at all. Told her to "get out of my life!". She then actually strip which I stop in time. I only wanted to see how true her words mean, not her stripping. She still sends me away at the airport although i m suppose to check in at 4am and her class starts at 8am.
When I finally call her 4days after touching down, she told me she cried for 2 successive days, and ask me to call her 10min everyday. Her actions tell me that she loves me but she's too confused to recognise it.
My heart is aching cuz the deadline (feb14) is 4mth away (freaking long). what to do?
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how is your story like mine?
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almost but not quite. i started getting close to someone the last few days b4 i left sg. I'm in London now.
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I would have so punched you in the face if you were one of my buddies. That's all I have to say. :angry:
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hey, nice choiceOriginally posted by dcx:Hey, fren, if she really love you that much, i beieve that no matter how far u're n how long you'll be away from her, she'll be yours. But dun b assured that she'll wait for you thru'out your years of studies(4yrs?). I do understand that at this moment of time, it's very difficult for you n her to be seperated,esp. for 4yrs. How long have you two been togather? (I din really read thru your whole story) Anyway, if you've been togather with her within a year, it's normal for her n you to have reacted in such ways, i.e. "you feel hurt to see her reacted in those ways and can't bear to leave her behind n b alone to "suffer." n so n so...you noe yourself...
I was in the same situation as you b4, but juz that i wasn't going to one of the top uni. for studies. My dad wanted to send me to Aust. to study..however, the prob.'s that i've a gf who has been with me for 2years++..i juz can't bear to leave her behind n pursue my studies...but wat choices do i have? Two only, either i study or i dun. But for us, guys, we need a career..if not, how're we goin to support the person whom we love in the future?
Since you've the chance to go to Cambri. for your studies, go ahead n pursue it and attain good results..not everyone has the chance to do to study..and as for your gf, you still can contact her by email, icq n msn messager which i believe it's quite popular now. Yuo'll get to see her everyday (provided you two have web cams.) And since your parents dun support your ticket back to spore during yuor vacation, then bo bian lor...work n save up lor...tat''s going to be worth it since you love her so much n so does her.
My advise, pursue your studies n study well n come back for her after you graduated. Discuss with your gf wat your thoughts are. Hopefully, you two can reach an understanding. Love can do wonders.
*By the way, do not blame your parents for not providing you the air ticket, afterall, they're your parents and every parent want their children to be successful. It's all for your own good. Hope that the love between you and your gf can hold strongly.
oh...forgot to mention that i've made a 3rd choice, in the end, i pursue my studies...but it's not in Aust. It's in Spore. =)
Take care and all the best.
btw..i'm currently in a LDR. it doesn't really matter, cos it's not as far as europe - sg. but if both parties hv trust in each other, it wouldn't matter. yes, it's hard sometimes, but hey, in this era while internet, IDD calls, etc are so easy to make, it's not that hard
n love is not selfish n love doesn't require a deadline. if u love her, u can keep loving her n caring for her, but u shouldn't force her to love you. i agree with someone saying "make her love you everyday" (sorry, i din chech who posted it here).
you have gold opportunity studying in one of the top uni in the world. n u better dun waste it. study first. u can always communicate with her thru internet, IDD, etc. n if u can't be together now, keep ur friendship with her stronger. if she's meant for you, she won't go anywhere. trust me. u can't hurry love n there's no point rushing anyway. slowly slowly.. love takes times too...
good luck ! n next time dun ask a gal to do silly things to prove her love. if i were her i'd give u a slap u would never forget n walk away fm u at that moment of time. -
i realise i don't have the capacity to love her. i have decided to fuck the deadline and forget the whole thing. I got my own life here in cambridge, while she lead hers. I just want to acknowledge and agree to nullify the pact we made regarding the deadline. She refuse to talk to me now..
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So be it then...perphaps, who noes...it might be better for the two of you..it's always the choice you've to make that you shld not regret in the future...both parties applies...Originally posted by yearning:i realise i don't have the capacity to love her. i have decided to fuck the deadline and forget the whole thing. I got my own life here in cambridge, while she lead hers. I just want to acknowledge and agree to nullify the pact we made regarding the deadline. She refuse to talk to me now..
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it's plain miserable to act against my heart, but i must do it. letting her go is the best option for her. i'm not the right person for her, given my bad temper and other negative traits. i don't have the capacity and the ability to love her in the way she deems fit.
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i am not very sure. but from all the comments and wat u decided to do, i think u are a rather rash and impatient person. pple dun really think well when they are in those situation. prob it is best for u to go overseas to cool it and think about ur future for now. as wat some of them had said, u may even find someone there tat u may like. after ur studies, if u really still got feelings for this ger, u could meet her up and start everything afresh. dun think tat will be too late rite?
hope u will learn to control ur temper and all the best in ur studies.
ps: first time giving such advice, so pardon me if i say anything bad.
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Yesh! Agreed.. I think, its really saddening..... If I am the girl, I will just leave you without turning back. Becoz, its not worth at all.. She's your GF's FRIEND! I think, she feels insecure too.. becoz, you can do that to her friend.. you can do the same thing to her. So, you are unsure of your feelings too. THEN WHY EXPECT OTHER PPLE TO GIVE you definite answer..... when you don even have a definite answer.Originally posted by Xcert:its more than a test.and it shows his immaturity.
Just remain single la.. and leave the girl alone. You will just go round harming pple.
YOU ARE just absolutely IMMATURE!! BRAIN DEAD! RED NECK! A SS HOLE! -
why? so you found a new girl?Originally posted by yearning:i realise i don't have the capacity to love her. i have decided to fuck the deadline and forget the whole thing. I got my own life here in cambridge, while she lead hers.