Relationship problem, seriously need help
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gal : Anna (her)
Exbf : Ming
2 months ago, i met a gal in a company function, her name is anna,
it was then i happen to know we be working together for quite sometime,
love bossom between us during that period,
at the time, she was attach, but because of me, she left Ming, but ming was unwilling to let go of her, cause he seriously love her alot, *they are together for 1 year*
soon me and anna was dating, we often went out despite of ming existence,
everything was quite fine until anna mum find out about it,
anna mum ask anna to give up on me and continue her relationship with ming,
anna have no choice because of her mum, she couldn't rebel against her cause anna mum got heart problems, she fear her mum may not be able to take it. she just can't let her mum down.
this is a summary of it,
under this situation,
what can i do?
i really love her alot and wish to be with her,
she share the same thoughts with me,
how can we make ming leave anna?
how to make anna mum accpt me?
is there anyway we can be together?
last i know its my fault that i start this,
but in relationship i believe there is no right or wrong.
can anyone here pls help,
i would deeply appreciate if there is anyone out here that can help me.
it is very sad to find out that,
two person are in love but can't be together,
relationship is 2 person thing,
but why does it always have to consider so many people inside the view..
pls help... -
PLs help,
i'm out of wits... -
U need to know why the mum object...unless there is a particular reason...I think the reason she object might be because she dun want her daughter to "one leg step two boats"...and this anna needs to settle her relationship with ming.Originally posted by Hitakogi:gal : Anna (her)
Exbf : Ming
2 months ago, i met a gal in a company function, her name is anna,
it was then i happen to know we be working together for quite sometime,
love bossom between us during that period,
at the time, she was attach, but because of me, she left Ming, but ming was unwilling to let go of her, cause he seriously love her alot, *they are together for 1 year*
soon me and anna was dating, we often went out despite of ming existence,
everything was quite fine until anna mum find out about it,
anna mum ask anna to give up on me and continue her relationship with ming,
anna have no choice because of her mum, she couldn't rebel against her cause anna mum got heart problems, she fear her mum may not be able to take it. she just can't let her mum down.
this is a summary of it,
under this situation,
what can i do?
i really love her alot and wish to be with her,
she share the same thoughts with me,
how can we make ming leave anna?
how to make anna mum accpt me?
is there anyway we can be together? -
hire assasin. you know the rest.
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i wanted to say....u need to talk abt this wif her mum 1,but wif her health condition...i...think all u have to do is to be patient ? oh yeah,send her mummy some gifts ,if its ever possible,i hope u meet her mum n intro urself n then communicate....then hopefully she will accept u
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No, its not about that,Originally posted by Xcert:U need to know why the mum object...unless there is a particular reason...I think the reason she object might be because she dun want her daughter to "one leg step two boats"...and this anna needs to settle her relationship with ming.
her mum thinks that the guy can bring her happiness rather then me,
and she wants her to be with him,
what can i say?
i'm at a disadvantage at this,
what can i do? -
its not as easy as it seems,Originally posted by amuletgurl:i wanted to say....u need to talk abt this wif her mum 1,but wif her health condition...i...think all u have to do is to be patient ? oh yeah,send her mummy some gifts ,if its ever possible,i hope u meet her mum n intro urself n then communicate....then hopefully she will accept u
i do thought of this,
but what happen if she is not understanding?
will i be putting myself into my own grave?
will i be putting anna into more trouble?
its not easy to make someone thinks you are good
esp when she already thinks i'm a bad guy, -
Dear all,
i will really be grateful if anyone here can help me,
im really feeling very lost, -
U seen the mother?U know what is she not happy about with you?Originally posted by Hitakogi:No, its not about that,
her mum thinks that the guy can bring her happiness rather then me,
and she wants her to be with him,
what can i say?
i'm at a disadvantage at this,
what can i do?
your looks?
your financial status? -
no, her mums thinks that i'm the bad guy for breaking into "anna" and "ming",Originally posted by Xcert:U seen the mother?U know what is she not happy about with you?
your looks?
your financial status?
well its true, but relationship things some time its hard to say ...
she thinks that my doing are wrong .. -
wow u aso quite hiong bcome 3rd party....bt hav u ever tout she left tat guy bcos of u , nex time she leave u becos of others? anyway tis comes to my mind whn i heard of such rs matters.
tink for the mother part, u can try tok to the mother...some mother purposely take the health theatren the daughter....bt no use 1 ...bcos in the end the daughter sure bei tahan 1....love matters canot b force1 mah............
1 ting u 2 can do nw is secretly go out together lor then wait till more settle down n the mother more used to it, tok to the mother & sort out...use ur sincerity..show to her u can love her dotter well....btw wats gd abt tat ming tat her mother like abt? money?status?or others? -
yes ar,u r bad ar,u 3rd party,if im her mum,i will be angry at u too,how can my daughter deserve such a person? plz be patient!................. only Anna can convince her mum abt her wants n needsOriginally posted by Hitakogi:no, her mums thinks that i'm the bad guy for breaking into "anna" and "ming",
well its true, but relationship things some time its hard to say ...
she thinks that my doing are wrong .. -
: Ming treated her very nice, her mum see that,Originally posted by Ah Ma:wow u aso quite hiong bcome 3rd party....bt hav u ever tout she left tat guy bcos of u , nex time she leave u becos of others? anyway tis comes to my mind whn i heard of such rs matters.
tink for the mother part, u can try tok to the mother...some mother purposely take the health theatren the daughter....bt no use 1 ...bcos in the end the daughter sure bei tahan 1....love matters canot b force1 mah............
: finally i get to hear from you,
her mother health problems is true, she did not theatren anna,
but it was anna that found out about it,
1 ting u 2 can do nw is secretly go out together lor then wait till more settle down n the mother more used to it, tok to the mother & sort out...use ur sincerity..show to her u can love her dotter well....btw wats gd abt tat ming tat her mother like abt? money?status?or others?
that why! ... you see ...
her mum hope she marry this guy,
i was heart broken to see the person that i love and knowing that that person
also love you but can't be together ... sobz.. -
what if her mums dun listen?Originally posted by amuletgurl:yes ar,u r bad ar,u 3rd party,if im her mum,i will be angry at u too,how can my daughter deserve such a person? plz be patient!................. only Anna can convince her mum abt her wants n needs
i dun fear losing her,
i fear she get marry to a guy she dun likes and spend her lifetime with him,
it be very sad.... -
dn sad lar...cool down first...dn gan cheong..if her mum see ming treat her v nice....she can aso see u treat her v nice too~Originally posted by Hitakogi:: Ming treated her very nice, her mum see that,
that why! ... you see ...
her mum hope she marry this guy,
i was heart broken to see the person that i love and knowing that that person
also love you but can't be together ... sobz..
so nw....u mus show ur sincerity hw u love her...anna shld do someting too....since she is the one who knows her mum best. ..all these takes times...i am sure u can do it...nw dn be sad liao wasting time...go use the time to tink of ways in making her mom touched n accept 2 of u together -
wat abt her father? u go try attack her father
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nt gd to b 3rd party, but since already done, go convince the mum tat u r worthy... win her trust... now the relationship goes underground first... i sense ming got something to do wif the mum against ur relationship... but jz b sincere n hope for the best...
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this seems to be a good idea,Originally posted by Ah Ma:dn sad lar...cool down first...dn gan cheong..if her mum see ming treat her v nice....she can aso see u treat her v nice too~
so nw....u mus show ur sincerity hw u love her...anna shld do someting too....since she is the one who knows her mum best. ..all these takes times...i am sure u can do it...nw dn be sad liao wasting time...go use the time to tink of ways in making her mom touched n accept 2 of u together
but how am i going to make her mum feels touch?
i dun even get to see her mum..
and i know her mum got a very very bad impression of me ....
before i get to talk, i may already get shut off.. -
plz,thats not an excuse! do think abt this,wat if anna actually got confused coz ur a "breathe of fresh air" to her,excited her,thats allOriginally posted by Hitakogi:what if her mums dun listen?
i dun fear losing her,
i fear she get marry to a guy she dun likes and spend her lifetime with him,
it be very sad.... -
i know that i must convince her mum 1st,Originally posted by BrUtUs:nt gd to b 3rd party, but since already done, go convince the mum tat u r worthy... win her trust... now the relationship goes underground first... i sense ming got something to do wif the mum against ur relationship... but jz b sincere n hope for the best...
but how am i going to go about it?
anyway i'm grateful about your post, thx .. -
arrhh .. i dun get what you mean..Originally posted by amuletgurl:plz,thats not an excuse! do think abt this,wat if anna actually got confused coz ur a "breathe of fresh air" to her,excited her,thats all
pls explain what you mean ....
my english very poor -
shItOriginally posted by Hitakogi:arrhh .. i dun get what you mean..
pls explain what you mean ....
my english very poor
wat do u really want?u urself feel happy to break up a r/s??u love her that much is it? u want to marry her ar? -
stay quiet for a while, then start making moves like bribe her wif makan n make friendly house visits lor... but must b sincere..Originally posted by Hitakogi:i know that i must convince her mum 1st,
but how am i going to go about it?
anyway i'm grateful about your post, thx .. -
go find out wat her mum has long to have ?like anyting particular she like to eat? like to drink ? or like hobbies? like to watch tv dramas or wat? then meanwhile u dn appear in front of her mum first since she hate u so much...let her cool down first.buy tings for her mum lor bt dn say is u buy 1 she may tink wat u trying to do.."Por" her isit....then after sometime if she realise is u buy one she will b touched ba...Originally posted by Hitakogi:this seems to be a good idea,
but how am i going to make her mum feels touch?
i dun even get to see her mum..
and i know her mum got a very very bad impression of me ....
before i get to talk, i may already get shut off..
..arbo if anna gt speak gd of u in front of her mum will aso help...or if anna "hiam" abt ming like y she left him - the tings he lack compared to u..e.g ming does nt care abt her in wat ways wat ways?cos no one is perfect..confirm gt someting tat outshines u frm ming .... ...or u go attack anna father ..let her father agree u r gd in front of her mum... then slowly her mum will accept u liao.. -
go hire a part time actor rob her mother then he go be hero save her motherOriginally posted by BrUtUs:stay quiet for a while, then start making moves like bribe her wif makan n make friendly house visits lor... but must b sincere..