shud i go for counselling?
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i need sumone to help me see things in a clearer way...cos now my mind is all cluttered...Originally posted by Match20:haix...i got a gal i like....she also dun wan to listen to me...her parent also took her counsellin be4...dun seem to help...i think is simple...if u got the mindset to change urself...u dun need counsellor..
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i think u can try taking up yoga
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I just went to Siao Lang Geng in the morning, the folks there looks normal today.
I can pass anyone the phone number to make an appointment if you are serious about attending.
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we oredi have a mole insideOriginally posted by kops21:I just went to Siao Lang Geng in the morning, the folks there looks normal today.
I can pass anyone the phone number to make an appointment if you are serious about attending.
doing recce for us
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exercise is good....... when u exercise... the body produces Endorphins that makes u feel good about urself..... so start EXERCISING now.....
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tis 3am now. i tink i shud go sleep instead of exercising heheOriginally posted by Estee:exercise is good....... when u exercise... the body produces Endorphins that makes u feel good about urself..... so start EXERCISING now.....
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U can setup a forum on gyming and see who wanna join?Originally posted by Estee:exercise is good....... when u exercise... the body produces Endorphins that makes u feel good about urself..... so start EXERCISING now.....
Or someone prefer to go jogging with me... It is very relaxing after a run..especially after long run, which allow longer time to reflect on matters... -
good ideaOriginally posted by kops21:U can setup a forum on gyming and see who wanna join?
Or someone prefer to go jogging with me... It is very relaxing after a run..especially after long run, which allow longer time to reflect on matters... -
yah man.... u better go sleep now..... lack of sleep also bad for the body.....Originally posted by icyprincess:tis 3am now. i tink i shud go sleep instead of exercising hehe
i.c.y
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nah...... i see myself no UP to opening such a forum......Originally posted by kops21:U can setup a forum on gyming and see who wanna join?
Or someone prefer to go jogging with me... It is very relaxing after a run..especially after long run, which allow longer time to reflect on matters... -
I disagree with what match20 said. yes counselling is about having a mind set that says I need to change but just bec you are prepared to change doesnt mean that you know what to do or how to change your situation!Originally posted by icyprincess:i need sumone to help me see things in a clearer way...cos now my mind is all cluttered...
i.c.y
Everyone wants to be rich but not everyone knows how to go about getting rich. its the same thing.
So I agree with you that it is better that you seek some assistance to help you unblock some of the issues and clarify your thoughts. since you are asking about counselling, it is obvious that you recognised that somethings need to be done and that you are prepared to do it. this is a very HEALTHY mind and personality trait to have!!
So please seek professional help and they will be able to direct you just that little bit better. yes, you can self direct in some situations but sometimes not. -
I'm sure you r capable. U will have my voteOriginally posted by Estee:nah...... i see myself no UP to opening such a forum...... -
Cpl Ho, part time counsellor at your service.... Received a cert to be part-time counsellor after attending 3 days intensive course, so certified to be part-time only...Originally posted by icyprincess:it has been like this ona dn off for like..months. i will feel happy when there are ppl who are nice to me. i will feel crappy when i feel they stop caring...
and it is affecting my concentration...
i.c.y Confirm non-judgmental and confidential cos I dun know who u r at all...
Seems to me you are placing your emotions on how ppl react to you. That's a very unstable thing to do cos ppl react differently everyday based on their emotions too... This will add to your anxiety because you have no control how ppl are gonna treat u... And uncertainty is a big source of stress...
Be confident of who u are! Icyprincess does not transform from an angel to a bitch suddenly just because ppl are not nice to u or dun care u for a day...
I dun know how to put this sensitively but you have to learn to b less self-centred! I suppose you are not disabled or handicapped in anyway that u badly need ppl to care for you... Instead of waiting for ppl to care for you, why dun you take the INITIATIVE to care for others first??
Love is a paradox... The more you want it, the more it will not come to you... BUT the more you give it to someone, the more it will fill your life...
Put your emotions on how you treat others, not how others treat you, k?
If you think this helps, feel free to reply...
If you think this is HORSESHIT, well... at least I tried, and hey... I'm only part-time! And they dun give me opportunity to practice some more! -
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I'm sorry you have such bad experience with counsellors... Yes, the particular individual must be part-time to be so unprofessional... I sincere apology on behalf of the profession....Originally posted by icyprincess:i do not know..but i can get free counselling here in my school.
i m scared..cos ppl will brand me as psycho if i go. and the last time i went to one in my high school, it turned out that the counsellor went around telling ppl abt my problem until the whole school knew abt it the next day
i.c.y
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That's what I thought too... But after I went for a part-time counsellor course, I learnt to my surprise there is no such thing as 100% confidentiality... Let me explain why...Originally posted by FireIce:is the counselor a certified one?
as far as i know there are codes of conduct for psychiatrists and licensed counselors.....like promise of confidentiality....
First, before a counselling session, the counsellor MUST tell the client there is NO promise of confidentiality and the client must accept before the session proceeds.
Confidentiality is maintained with respect to the SAFETY of the client, even though the client may hold it against the counsellor.
The counsellor cannot be with the client 24/7, so for cases where the client's or others' lives may be endangered, information CAN and MUST be revealed to the ppl involved...
Classic example, client is suicidal, so immediate family members must be informed in case client decides to ask family members for some sleeping pills and they give him/ her unwittingly...
Or client shares that she intends to take a chopper and kills her father who has abused her sexually since young, information must be divulged to the relevant authorities.
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Confused as whether to accept my professional help? or others?Originally posted by icyprincess:i need sumone to help me see things in a clearer way...cos now my mind is all cluttered...
i.c.y
Lemme tell yoo my package:
A good old listening ear for yoo (though a piece of rubber ear but serve its purpose) to yak yak all dae long, juz remember to return to me at da end of da dae...
A comforting body/shoulder/lap/any part of da body except where it mattered most... for yoo to lean on & cry on (Of coz if yoo wanna cry or lean on da shoulder area, yoo may wanna consider wearing a mask for da armpit area kinda leaks flavor)
A good answering mouth for yr every prob or complaints without backlashing (Its yr prob, not mine)
& finally a good frenly hug at da end of da session (Coz I shld be feeling cold by den... human warmth will suffice lah)
ALL those for $19.95! Such a bargain! Wat r yoo waiting for? PM mee now!
PS: of coz if yoo r trying to be funny wif me, I will sentence yoo to da most horrible punishment ever known in da archives of punishments... 1 hr of smelling DA armpit...
Of coz I m considering whether to offer my services to yoo on dis prog or not... coz I m worried abt da last part of mee package, "Da frenly hug".
Yoo see, yoo being named ICYprincess means yoo r cold. I m afraid my overwhelming warmth may have yoo melted & resulted in manslaughter or worse pre meditated murder! So~~~ to counter dat, I will offer yoo my services BAR da " frenly hug". All for $18.95! Hurry! while stocks last!
*Of coz if yoo really feel uneasy toking to some1, yoo can try confiding in yr CLOSE frens 1st. They may not be able to offer yoo da best answers, BUT they can at least offer yoo a listening ear (detachable or not, I dunno...) Slowly when yoo r feeling betta abt it, yoo can try consulting a professional abt it (Me semi pro, so my service stands inbtwn) yoo can ask yr sch abt outside counciling which is cheap & definately keep yr profile confidential or yoo can watch teebee all dae long for dat advertisement on depression to pop out. Dat 1 can help yoo oso. 1 thing I noe is: bottling up is not good for yoo nor da ppl ard yoo.*
Consider dat piece of "advice" free sample. IF yoo wanna try my session, dun hesitate to contact mee! Remember: for yoo its $18.95. -
You reap what you saw.Originally posted by icyprincess:it has been like this ona dn off for like..months. i will feel happy when there are ppl who are nice to me. i will feel crappy when i feel they stop caring...
and it is affecting my concentration...
i.c.y
Have you been nice to people around you?
It is good that you can do some charity works, like visiting the old folks home or hospics.
You will feel the joy of the people whom you visited and cared for. Try! -
Yes, it's highly unprofessional to be telling tales but not everything is to be kept confidential... Please read my earlier reply. Thanx.Originally posted by supercharger:That counsellor should be sacked bec he/she has not followed the basic training of counselling which is to keep everything confidential! Shame on that person. -
go holiday
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count me in!!!Originally posted by FireIce:if we go for a group therapy session, will it be cheaper? -
To be fair, many teacher-counsellors in schools are part-timers like me... They have a full teaching workload, plus other extra-curricular matters to attend to... It is to their credit they have the passion to volunteer their help... so please empathise before criticising...Originally posted by supercharger:It is a sad state of affair that we have counsellors who cannot counsel
And counselling, just like any profession, needs lots of real-life practices... Seriously, how many certified counsellors have enough practice when they begin to work with their first client? Isn't it a little unfair to expect part-time volunteers to do a flawless job?
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I think u just need to give yrself a break.
U r having mood swing nia.
Take some time off, go to the beach n take a walk there, listen to the breeze.
U feel more calm n relax. otherwise u can scream out yr problems to the sea.
See how big the sea is compared to u!!
U will find yr problem puny in comparison to the world.
u feel that everyone is neglecting u, well they may have their own stuff n matters to attend to.
Find something to occupy yr mind, either studying, reading, taking up a hobby or exercising.
No need to see a shrink to solve such a problem, they mostly just tell u something u already know n charging u for it... -
I'm not sure what you reap.... But this is a very good suggestion. Doing charity work may be a big leap.... but you can start with the people around you...Originally posted by PatrickLTH:You reap what you saw.
Have you been nice to people around you?
It is good that you can do some charity works, like visiting the old folks home or hospics.
You will feel the joy of the people whom you visited and cared for. Try!