tell me a reason to continue living...

• freshbreezes

  26 Oct 04, 15:54

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?
• Devil1976

  26 Oct 04, 15:59

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

  How old are you, your husband and child?
  
  Won't you like to tell us more about yourself...? Perhaps we can then better advices you...?
• supercharger

  26 Oct 04, 16:14

  Yes please share your burden here.
• supercharger

  26 Oct 04, 16:14

  Yes please share your burden here.
• monkeybusiness

  26 Oct 04, 16:17

  life is beautiful.. dun ever think of ending ur life cos its precious
• meltz

  26 Oct 04, 16:45

  anything can be solve........................... everyone have their own problems ... say it out u will feel better.
• SGpork

  26 Oct 04, 16:58

  in this forum...
  
  its ok..just say how u feeel.. n whats wrong..
  
  
• freshbreezes

  26 Oct 04, 17:02

  i've shared my burden wif many ppl, counsellors, phychiatric, relatives, friends but what is the use? some show their sympathy, some avoided u, some pretended to help n some even said it's my own doing! solution? never !
• xking

  26 Oct 04, 17:02

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

• xking

  26 Oct 04, 17:03

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

  becos there are always others much worst then u.
  if they haven't gave up, y should u?
• SGLittle_Cat

  26 Oct 04, 17:53

  appreciate what you have now... find something meaningful things to do instead of murmuring all the time. Got to learn to manage the emotion, how to overcome the negative thought.
  
  Friend, smile... no matter how heavy the burden is, keep smiling.... We are all here willing to cheer you up when you are in low mood or dull.
• shade343

  26 Oct 04, 18:28

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

  Havent you heard that Life Is suffering? To kill yourself will only make things worse, you will bring untold suffering to the people around you and ultimately it may not necessary mean you can escape for suffering. Pull yourself together and write down what is troubling you. After that tackle that one by one. As for your child who is becoming naughty, get the help of your family. Spend more time with him. Live each day as your last. Strive to accomplish something. You have the choice.
• shaunlaw

  26 Oct 04, 18:56

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

  Life is not as bad as it seems. U may be going thru a really tough patch now but that doesnt mean its the end of things. Treasure life. We live for ourselves and not others. Life can be full of joy after some tough times.
  
  Have the courage to live on and not the easy way out to commit suicide. When u do overcome it, u will see what life holds beyond now. All the nice people are willing to encourage and share ur problem. Live for urself.
• Magnus

  26 Oct 04, 23:02

  There's a reason to stay alive.
  
  The reason is to have the challenge to turn things around.
  
  No money, debts?
  Are u living beyond your means? Look into your spending habits. What is necessary to u may be a luxury to others.
  
  Can't work?
  Are you disadvantaged? Every able-bodied person can work.
  
  Husband don't care?
  Too busy earning bringing back the dough to settle debts?
  Are you working by the way?
  
  Child turning bad?
  How old is your child? If less that 10 yrs old, it should not be difficult?
  The child is a mirror of his/her parents.
  
  
• the Bear

  26 Oct 04, 23:05

  because life is as beautiful as we make it to be...
  
  if even those who live in mouldering garbage mountains and slums fight for life amidst the desolation around them, and find happiness and a reason to live on, we cannot and must not do lesser...
  
  besides, life is beautiful!
• fandango

  27 Oct 04, 11:21

  you can give God a try.
• Blueskyz

  27 Oct 04, 12:54

  Freshbreezes,
  
  Don't ever resort to suicide, it is just what you thought "an escape from reality".
  
  Learn to be brave and overcome all the difficulties you are facing at the moment. (If there's a will, there's a way)
  
  I believe that everything can be solved, it's just a matter of time and efforts put in in solving the problems.
  
  I know times are difficult for you but please bear in mind that life is not always a smooth path, there are always ups and downs and we should be mentally prepared for everything and anything.
  
  Well, all things are easier said than done but once you start to believe in yourself and things that you do, you would be amazed by all the satisfying results you are gonna get.
  
  Trust me, hard times will be over and life will be beautiful again.
  
  Cheers, dear.
• the.raven

  27 Oct 04, 13:38

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  I am trying very hard to convince myself that there must be a reason for me to be alive. But I can't find any. I am giving up....slowly..slowly..slooowly. No money, mountain of debts, can't work, husband doesn't care, child turning bad..... can someone tell me how to commit suicide?

  no must not commit suicide!!! must think of it this way: "why is the rest of the world not suffering and only I am suffering? I must make the rest of the world suffer!!!"
  
  you will suffer, you will ALL SUFFER!
• Devil1976

  27 Oct 04, 13:49

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  i've shared my burden wif many ppl, counsellors, phychiatric, relatives, friends but what is the use? some show their sympathy, some avoided u, some pretended to help n some even said it's my own doing! solution? never !

  If you trust us enough, give us a chance to see if we can work things out for you... If you keep complaining but only wanna hide everything within yourself... I don't see how that could help...?
• Devil1976

  27 Oct 04, 13:50

  Originally posted by the.raven:

  no must not commit suicide!!! must think of it this way: "why is the rest of the world not suffering and only I am suffering? I must make the rest of the world suffer!!!"
  
  you will suffer, you will ALL SUFFER!

  
• the.raven

  27 Oct 04, 13:52

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  

  thats the way I look at life mah....last time when I feel bad I will purposely do things to hurt myself. but then I realized its very stupid. why hurt myself when everyone else is not suffering? must make them all suffer!!
• gerrykoh

  27 Oct 04, 15:02

  Think of yr kid- u don't want him/ her to grow up without a mother's love.
  
  Try & bond with yr kid. He/ she is still young & need yr guidance.
  Correct him if he is wrong.
  
  U need to be strong. Financial problems can be overcomed. Seek help from family/ friends/ MP (if u need subsidy). Cut down on unnecessary spending.
  
  
• Devil1976

  27 Oct 04, 15:18

  Originally posted by the.raven:

  thats the way I look at life mah....last time when I feel bad I will purposely do things to hurt myself. but then I realized its very stupid. why hurt myself when everyone else is not suffering? must make them all suffer!!

  That was what I used to think too...?
  
  Err... Actually.. Not to that extent lah... But quite CLOSE...? Why should I die while these as*holes out there get to ENJOY LIFE yeah..??
• Axelheat755

  27 Oct 04, 15:29

  Originally posted by freshbreezes:

  i've shared my burden wif many ppl, counsellors, phychiatric, relatives, friends but what is the use? some show their sympathy, some avoided u, some pretended to help n some even said it's my own doing! solution? never !

  u shared ur burden but have u actually tried what they asked u to do?
  
  sometimes its really just u...
  
  if u refuse to take the advice given to u saying that this cant work, that wont work b4 u even try it, there is little that anyone can do to help u
  
  ppl can only give u advice, its up to u to make the changes
• ditzy

  27 Oct 04, 15:30

  I won't die, until I put an end to someone else's first.