Do guys really mind if their g/f is not a virgin?
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For mi, i dun really encouraged premarital sex cos gers shake finish liao, no value anymore. I think that guys seldom want a gf that has been shaken.
Juz wanna know if u guys mind if ur gf is not virgin. -
whether virgin or not, I will still love her.............
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Aiyah,when you love a ger,who cares she virgin or not,it's not going to make a difference,and even if she is not,you going to break off with her becos she not virgin meh?so shallow minded.
PP.As long you truly love the girl can liaoz,who cares what she did last time thru moment of folly or otherwise -
But in the first place will u still go after the ger if u know she is not a virgin liao?
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Yes,if i really like the girl and think she is the one,i will have no qualms going after her even if she is not a virgin,besides whether you love someone or not doesn't depend on just a piece of tissue.What's done is done,no point crying over split milk
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Yes,if i am certain that she is the one for me,i have no qualms going after a girl who is non virgin,after all,it's just a piece of tissue that do not weigh into mind mind whether i like the girl or not,besides,what's done is done,no point crying over spilt milk
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But it isn't just about a torn piece of tissue. Its the thought of ur ger being so intimate with a guy b4.
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Of course, the guy will think of whether u will go back to the guy that u had sex with. It is even worse if u still keep in contact with this person. So my advice is don't tell him the truth, unless u cannot living with that feeling of not telling him the truth. Most probably, u still have this attachment that u have sex with. That is why it is hard not to blame the guy for being threatened for a "position" in ur heart. Another thing is that if u are too attractive, he will also feel insecure and would want to stick with u often.
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radius: Errmmm....can u not use the word "u"?
It is as though u r refering to mi. I still very innocent, pure, simple......
I post this thread juz to know how u guys think. -
Hypothetically speaking,even if my girl losst her virginity and she has been intimate with another guy before?I dun care,i dun bother about her past even if she was pregnant and had an abortion(a bit extreme here,as long she not guy go for sex change can liaoz,heehe).What's past is past,it can't be undone,so why do i wanna bring up the past and start thinking about what she did last time?As long me and her get to enjoy the present and plan for the future is what i am aiming for.So bottomline is i am not so shallow minded to care whether she is a virgin or not,as long as i love her and she loves me,that's more important
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Belle: Sorry, actually u will be faced with this problem someday. U are saying u are pure, simple and innocent...... hmm.... would u be asking these question if u are simple and innocent? I am not trying to do some personal attack, but just answering ur thots. Okay... I will use "one" if that makes u more comfortable.
Btw, if u girls out there are thinking abt whether u should be giving that "thing" to ur bfs, do really seriously think abt it. A number of factors are important. One factor is whether the guy is committed to the r/s. Can be seen from his daily actions, the way he pays attention to u, whether he is attracted to the opp. sex when he is with u, whether he is matured in his thinking. If he has all the above qualities, most probably u can give the "thing" to him as pre-martial sex is so common nowadays.
But be prepared to get really attached to this guy, girls. Be it emotionally and physically. Lastly, when u (girls) start the love-making sessions, most probably u guys will be doing it very often as sex is very addictive.
And last to top up, the guy will be looking for other targets (girls) if one give her V to him. Physical and emotional aspects in guys can be differentiated easily. E.g. he can have sex with a pros though he has no emotional attachments with her.
Guess I getting long-winded here. Hope to answer some of the queries that are going in all the girls' mind. -
Erm... The millennium men don't marry a girl for her virginity...
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Seen but not heard.
Heard but not seen. -
Yes,i agree,guys can have pre marital sex with any one without the emotional stuff while girls leh are an entirely different kettle of fish.Although there are ta few exceptiona,what i have said are for the majority
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radius: pls, r u saying that all virgins cannot ask this question meh? I am just curious how the guys think nowadays.
When i was young(abt 12 to 13 years old), my mum always tell mi that gers cannot be too loose cos all guys r very practical. Most of them want their wife to be 'freshly sealed'. -
Belle: I am not saying that all V girls cannot ask the qn. What ur mum says abt girls should be "freshly sealed" is correct to a certain extent. But the millennium guys as one of us here says do not mind abt the V thing. It is not a big thing!! But what I am saying once u gave ur V to the guy, it sort of "lower" ur bargaining power in the r/s. UNLESS, u are so pretty that u can command that same level of committment from that guy. The superficial one is in terms of looks and figure.
Moose: Glad that u agree with me.
One thing I would like to ask the pple here, how come some of u guys are "members" but the rest of the pple like me are "junior members". Thanks in advance for answering my queries.
Sometimes I am thinking whether I should be so frank abt issues of sex and love. Maybe it can be quite a nice feeling if all of us go thru' the sweet and romantic start and be immersed in the feeling of being "loved" by someone.
Am I destroying the chance of pple of falling in love?
Hmmm.... I wonder. -
radius: The 'members' or 'junior members' title are given by the no. of posts u sent. But the exact no. i dun really know.
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>30 to be member..............
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I believe that if a guy likes a ger,it should be unconditional and not be affected by such thing as virginity as i don't believe that a loss of virginity means a lack of so called 'bargaining' power to a relationship as i believe that virginity can't be used as a bargaining chip,if a girl can command the same level of commitment from a guy using her looks even after she lose her virginity,then the guy is being very shallow minded and goes plainly for looks(this goes for me only,dunno about you guys/gals)
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Moose: Hi there, what I agree to is to a certain extent and I am saying u are still in the stage of romantic love and such...... but when u go to a deeper level of the r/s, u will know what I mean. Looks do matter no matter how u guys want to deny it.
Belle: Any more qns? -
radius: U mean looks is really so important?
Then im glad i wasn't born beautiful. Cos if a guy fall in love wif mi, at least i know that it isn't b'cos of my looks. -
Yes,looks do matter,but only to a certain extent,how much is that extent leh,varies from individual to individual,some may baes on looks 100%,some maybe only base it %50%,ultimately,it's all of a matter of individual perception
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guys can have pre marital sex with any one without the emotional stuff while girls leh are an entirely different kettle of fish.Although there are ta few exceptiona,what i have said are for the majority
I think for gals, they also have a "similar version" to the above quote. It goes this way...Gals can be attached anytime, but to fall in love is not.
Pls don think guys are the only horny ones... althought it seems to be so on the appearence.
I strongly believes that gals are like guys, have feelings, are born with the same kind of genes etc... so if guys are like this, gals will also be.
However, it depends on the individual, and also the "degree" of how horny a person is. Just like how tall each and every one of us is. Although we have the general characteristic of what constitute a human being, but each of us differs in terms of attributes, chara...
Hence, gals like guys, are just equally "horny"~!! -
Ya,i do agree some girls are horny,but i believe that for guys,majoirty are hornier while for girl,it is the minority,think it has something to do with our hormones called testosterone,hheehe.I agree with you,Yoohoo to a certain extent regarding girls getting attached a lot,but falling in love only once??I think everyone here bound to have fallen in love at least twice.But if girls are going to get attached without falling in love,then i dun see the purpose of getting attach liaoz))
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Moose: I agree totally with u.
Yoohoo: Regarding that girls are hornier than guys, I think it is a minority. But I felt that lots of girls are more attached emotionally with the guys b4 they can be attached physically to him. Hence, if u are saying from that stage onwards, I think girls are hornier than guys. Gals have to get past that "comfortable zone" b4 they are committed physically, u know what I mean? -
I agree with you,Radius,gers tend to be emotional attached before attached physically,maybe that's why people says guys let their family jewels do the thinking while girls let their heart do the thinking,heeheh))