Feeling a little guilty
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Woah, quite a baad thing you did there, not just to your family but your good friend. I don't remember reading other DSB cheating confessions but this one ... a woman in this sorta situation is VERY vulnerable and chances are very high she's not thinking right at all especially if you've plied her with a coupla drinks. Worse, she's a good friend, she's upset and in need of consolation from someone she trusts. You knew the situation and her emotional state when you went out to meet her, I'm sorry to say it does appear you took full advantage of the situation even though I've tried to see things from your end - that it was something that happened naturally and something you couldn't control.Originally posted by Ding Shanben:i actually went out to meet one of my good friend who is a lady and she is feeling very sad as she just broke off with her bf who has been with her for abt 7 yrs so i went out that night to console her but ended up in bed. it just happened very naturally and she knows i am married too and have a young daughter. I think that kind of situation is something we both cannot control but i know it's unfair to my wife and i don't feel so good either so i'm pouring out here. after that night, we agreed to treat as if nothing happen and we still good friends. if my wife knows abt this, i think most likely she will get a divorce and she will get the daughter and leave me. that night happen so naturally how to control the situation right. anyway, i know i cannot tell my wife abt this or anyone i know so i am pouring out here so i can sleep better at night. i don't mean to -
she is very different from my wife who is like a ah lian but Mona is a teacher, wear specs, kind, soft spoken, loves kids very much and very gentle to me. all these points are the points my wife lacks ofOriginally posted by Oyster Omelette:She knows how to respect you now but you can never tell the future.One day. what if she's like your wife, bossing you around and acting like a lian. Haha,since you scared that she's pregnant, better prepare for the consequences from the result of your mistake.
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teachers are no angels. they may look and behave like one but they certainly are not 1. do u think Mona will set a good example for her students by sleeping with u? hmm? do u? do u?Originally posted by Ding Shanben:she is very different from my wife who is like a ah lian but Mona is a teacher, wear specs, kind, soft spoken, loves kids very much and very gentle to me. all these points are the points my wife lacks of -
does that mean teachers can't have sex, teachers don't have her sexual needs?Originally posted by dzylim:teachers are no angels. they may look and behave like one but they certainly are not 1. do u think Mona will set a good example for her students by sleeping with u? hmm? do u? do u? -
"Bar > Feeling a little guilty >"
After being unfaithful to your wife, you are only feeling a "little" guilty.
You are beyond salvation.
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The reason why your wife seem to lack these traits is either your marriage has lost its sparks or both are you are just taking each other for granted. Then why in the first place marry your wife if she doesn't possess the above traits that you had mention? Don't tell me it's a shotgun marriage.Originally posted by Ding Shanben:she is very different from my wife who is like a ah lian but Mona is a teacher, wear specs, kind, soft spoken, loves kids very much and very gentle to me. all these points are the points my wife lacks of -
typical....
screw first... feel sorry later...
just hope your wife don't behave like you.... -
typical....
screw first... feel sorry later...
just hope your wife don't behave like you.... -
Aiya,actually don't waste my breathe la, you already planning to resolve it with your Mona so all the comments here are just useless cause you just kept countering back with the same old excuse.
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Oh teachers can have sex. i not saying that they cant. but where is their moral if they sleep around? u wan ur daughter to learn from someone as unmoral as someone who sleeps around?Originally posted by Ding Shanben:does that mean teachers can't have sex, teachers don't have her sexual needs? -
it's not shotgun marriage we had a daughter after we married. we've been dating for 10 over yrs liao back from sec school days. i still have feelings for my wife but not as much as i used to have.Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:The reason why your wife seem to lack these traits is either your marriage has lost its sparks or both are you are just taking each other for granted. Then why in the first place marry your wife if she doesn't possess the above traits that you had mention? Don't tell me it's a shotgun marriage. -
fine. then divorce ur wife and marry mona. let ur daughter knows that its ok to sleep with married guys as even school teachers are doing it.
stop making excuses for urself. just admit that u are tired of ur wife and want other source of enjoyment. -
Teachers can have sex but not wif other pple's husband... not in a moment of folly.. not right after she broke off with her 7 yr bf. I hope Moral Education isn't the subject she's teaching.Originally posted by Ding Shanben:does that mean teachers can't have sex, teachers don't have her sexual needs?
Lust took the both of u dat nite.. it was a mistake. Though u've admitted, but u'r not repentant & now u'r comparing her with ur wife?
"Leopard never change its spots". From the previous "french-kiss episode", already saw dis 1 coming despite many who still "believed" in u. Anyway, spare ur wife those comparisions.. its disgusting when u noe u'r not perfect urself.
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I just need to know if i divorce my wife, will i get the custody of my daughter? i heard normally the court will give the custody to the mother. think it's better to consult my friend who is a lawyer.
"sleep around with married men" think you mind your words idiot -
when i told my wife tonight i'm cancelling our date tonight, she does seems to mind at all. "she just say hmm..ok since you are busy" our relationship is getting bad. like making out with each other is more like a routine than both of us are enjoying. how to get back to those days..
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Under adultery, you will lose your daughter but your daughter is better off with her mother than with you. Who knows, perhaps you might turn on your own flesh!
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Mr Ding, you're just suffering from guilt. This guilt trip makes u want to justify your night spent with Mona and so it seems you're ready to abandon your marriage and risk your daughter's life of peace.Originally posted by Ding Shanben:when i told my wife tonight i'm cancelling our date tonight, she does seems to mind at all. "she just say hmm..ok since you are busy" our relationship is getting bad. like making out with each other is more like a routine than both of us are enjoying. how to get back to those days..
Think twice. Don't be so quick to decide. Humans err but to be too quick to redeem your action by swinging to another extreme is not too wise as well. Humans resist change, you too. If you find yourself changing all overnight, there's a certain need to hold the horses and think.
Think again. -
wat the hell do you mean 'turn on your own flesh' huh? you mind your mouth. even if divorce, i want my daughter at all costOriginally posted by mistyblue:Under adultery, you will lose your daughter but your daughter is better off with her mother than with you. Who knows, perhaps you might turn on your own flesh! -
i think my wife also don't love me anymore or else making out time like no feeling and still wanna do it for wat..like i force her like that if she don't like just tell me lah don't pretend to moan and enjoy makes me sick and feel like a foolOriginally posted by sleepycat:Mr Ding, you're just suffering from guilt. This guilt trip makes u want to justify your night spent with Mona and so it seems you're ready to abandon your marriage and risk your daughter's life of peace.
Think twice. Don't be so quick to decide. Humans err but to be too quick to redeem your action by swinging to another extreme is not too wise as well. Humans resist change, you too. If you find yourself changing all overnight, there's a certain need to hold the horses and think.
Think again. -
she was only your girlfriend then later, just your wife.Originally posted by Ding Shanben:i think my wife also don't love me anymore or else making out time like no feeling and still wanna do it for wat..like i force her like that if she don't like just tell me lah don't pretend to moan and enjoy makes me sick and feel like a fool
now, she's your wife and also the mother of your child, the latter adds more pressure to her not mentioning other roles.
you, as well. you have not adjusted your new role of a husband and a father too well. being caught with a moment of folly only magnifies your displeasure and uncertainty amidst so much changes.
forgive yourself. forgive your wife. as for mona, there's a reason why u didn't marry her and a reason why she breaks up with her longtime bf. being with you can't settle the issues for her.
rem the moment your wife risk her life for u and for you little girl? who'd abandon such a woman of courage, who has used her body and life to love you like that?
life is merciless, your wife has been shaped by demands and pressures but rem that tho she doesn't know how to show that she appreciates you physically, her daily determination to run the household is a very real and true way which demonstrates her love for you.
gentleness may be roughened over time, beauty fades with stains in the basin.. but a life dedicated to you and yours (your daughter) is worth many many thoughts and consideration.
Think twice. -
finding excuse to say that ur wife not good enuff for u now i see...
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STOP EDITING YOUR POST YOUR MUTTERFICKER!
SHOW YOUR TRUE SELF!
YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD DO WITHOUT MONA! -
Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:Aiya,actually don't waste my breathe la, you already planning to resolve it with your Mona so all the comments here are just useless cause you just kept countering back with the same old excuse.
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u are screwed. just admit that u want to screw around. oh and by asking abt "what married man?" are u saying that u are not marride? or u did not screw mona?
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