Should I or should I not??
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You guys seems to make so much sense. Can't Thank you all enough. Hugs. Okay, so if he says that 'I don't love him anymore' stuffs, means he's really only out for lust and not love, right? Okay, yes it hurts. But I believe what you guys said.. Many other guys out there are willing to substitude. I hope so. Haix.
Suddenly, I feel that I've waken up from.. I don't know what.. It's a feeling.. Perhaps it really isn't love, but because I need a guy for me to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, and thus, so blinded this time.
If without you guys here, I really wouldn't know what to do, or worse, maybe I've already made the wrong choice. Thanks, kind souls. -
say u must draw the line..what can do and what cannot do....else if you give him one inch, sooner or later he'll ask for 6 inch more
you are stll young and fresh..that's what all guys want (including yr bf and us, u know what i mean)..if you give in, then the r/s is going to based on sex only...well your mum knows the best -
Love is love.
sex is sex.
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Originally posted by 15963:He's always "fingering" me though I have my pants on, meaning, touching/stroking me trying to make me feel good. He keeps wanting to insert his hand into my panties, and I don't shave, and I always have a little foul-smelling discharges, I'm scared if he touches them.. Yuck! It will be so disgusting and very, very awkward..
err... u really need to do something about this. -
A guy that loves you for who you are, will suffer a little for you if it makes you better.A guy that wants you to lose out, nah, he ain't worth your time.
Heh, and some of the attractive guys turn out to be very much less appealing than the normal looking, even slightly nerdish type. -
Hey gurl, don't lose urself to him.. If u happen to break up with him, how are u going to explain things to ur new bf? i hugged, kissed and pet with my previous bf? I tell u, he'll be damn sad.. anyone will be sad hearing these.. petting is already quite serious.. and he'll only think of touching u whenever he sees u.. it's true! So, wake him up with the idea that u dun like to be touched down the private parts! If he decides to leave u hearing these, be it! Never think that u'll not find someone better then him, u're still so young! But if he can respect u and stay with u without these 'touching', I say he truley loves u..
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Hi, read ur problem and this is the advice i'm giving u from a married man's point of view. Ur 17, don't be fool by whatever his saying, stay true to urself and ur principles. NO means NO, u don't have to explain anything to him, if he truly loves u, he'll accept ur decision. There has been too many unwanted teenage pregnancy's happening and i don't think u wanna be part of it. Believe me, a lot of people will say u'll cross the bridge went ur there but i don't think u wanna find out that way. Ur body is urs and urs alone and no one else has the right to tell u otherwise.
If you should give in to him, to him ur just another gal that he did it with and you would be at the losing end. At this day and age, it might be very common for teenages to engage in pre-marital sex but why be the majority, instead u should be the minority, the one who dare to say NO, satisfying his sexual needs isn't ur responsibily.
Some teens would even brag about it after it happen, maybe for the guys, its a sense of acheivement but for the gal ??? Remember, no matter what, ur the one on the losing end. Save it for someone u really love in the future and not merely giving it away becoz u can't afford to loose him. In time u would look back at this phase of ur life and will realized that its all worth saving it for the right guy and the right guy meaning ur future husband.
Don't ever doubt urself or give in just becoz u feel ur pressurised, have faith in urself. If u have done no wrong, u would not have felt any sense of guilt. Trust me, i've waited and in return i've found my other half, she's now my wife, my friend and one day, the mother of my child.
Hope this help to put ur mind at ease. -
Pls save ur virginity.....sg virgin girls are getting lesser everyday...
Most of the ppl here are right abt ur bf...i do feel so that way...
Maybe becoz some of us here are above ur age n know that what your bf's using/treating you are juz ways to satisfy his lust...
Like what F.O.S said, he can get a girl to bed with him in 3 days or less than a week...it's true..
(In fact, he "up" me in juz a day... )
Anyway...be urself n do not be influenced or affected by what your bf's going do or say to you when you'll to reject his needs...if he's forceful to you, stare at him..giving him the look that "if you do it (sex), you're going to be sorry"....he'll retreat...n in no time, with constant rejections by you, he'll be drifting away from u...becoz he'll feel very sianz with u...say that yuo dun love him...blah blah blah...
Well...y bother him? He won't be the one you'll be truly looking for,....
Muz listen to old man's advise...we've been thru it n we know a few tips of how to get girls(Not all though) to bed....
You're still young n have lots more of things and achievements waiting ahead for you to complete... -
i bet $50 for 4months.Originally posted by F.O.S:If you let him touch you , I am sure he will want more and more in a few months time.
you will ended up having sex with him within 6 months.
stop being alone with him when nobody is at home, I am sure what you are feeling now is not love. Love is not this kind of feelings. -
I think you are sending out the wrong message. Just because a guy touches you, it does not mean he does not truly love you. Get your facts right.Originally posted by Roxy_Gurl:Hey gurl, don't lose urself to him.. If u happen to break up with him, how are u going to explain things to ur new bf? i hugged, kissed and pet with my previous bf? I tell u, he'll be damn sad.. anyone will be sad hearing these.. petting is already quite serious.. and he'll only think of touching u whenever he sees u.. it's true! So, wake him up with the idea that u dun like to be touched down the private parts! If he decides to leave u hearing these, be it! Never think that u'll not find someone better then him, u're still so young! But if he can respect u and stay with u without these 'touching', I say he truley loves u.. -
Hi 15963
I have to say girl that you are very lucky. You have a very gd bf. Because for me, I stop at nothing and most of the time I will get what I want.
But I have to say this 17 is no longer young. Please if you are lucky or unlucky enough, you are already someone else mother. So please do understand that it is not the question of "if I love him I will let him to it" type of thing. The question is do you want to do it? Are you going to be responsible for whatever going to happen?
Dont worry about your bf. He can tease you all he want, but I know he will respect your decision because I believe he love you too.
RegardsOriginally posted by 15963:Hi everyone. I've got a boyfriend and I love him very much. Though we may be busy with our own schoolwork and stuffs, we seldom fail to meet each other at least a week.
Sometimes we're bored and there isn't any nice place to go to, he likes coming to my place (only when there's no one home). Then we always cuddle together and watch the television, always halfway, he will automatically go into my room and just lie on my bed say he sleepy and wants to sleep.
I like to tease him say he dirty and smelly and always try to pull him out of the bed, but his strength is bigger, so in the end, I always end up lying on him. Hmm, then in bed, he always tries to unbutton (if I happen to wear a buttoned shirt that day) me and says he wants to touch my boobs.
It's not that I don't allow him, I feel really awkward whenever he tries to sneak his hands under my blouse. Okay I admit I quite like that feeling, but it just doesn't seem right to me. I'm sure and I know we won't and will not be having any sex.
Besides, my Mother once told me to NOT let any guys touch my boobs. It just isn't right. Even though he didn't touch it, already I feel quite sinful le. Then in SMS-es, he always request for such things, like touching or asking me to strip.
I know it's only touching and I sound quite stupid or conservative just because "My Mom doesn't allows me to". I, myself, already find it going against my own principles and thinkings by letting him going this far (unbuttoning). But my boyfriend is good enough to stop whenever I loudly asked him to. He doesn't like to force me either.
I feel like a failure, I feel that I can't satisfy him. Up to now, I dare not hold his di.ck with my bare hands. Everytime I only stroke his di.ck with his briefs on. Though each time only through hugs and me stroking him, and his manhood is hard already, I still feel so useless.
I'm not troubled because that I can't make him happy only. Sometimes I keep thinking that he's with me because perhaps I'm his first girlfriend that allows him to come this far, and not because of love. But I really love him and I can't lose him.. I've got no choice. Haix. I know I sound kind of naive and young, I'm only 17.
So, should I or should I not let him let his way?? Also, I'm absolutely sure I will be so embarrassed with his hands on my boobs. He's always "fingering" me though I have my pants on, meaning, touching/stroking me trying to make me feel good. He keeps wanting to insert his hand into my panties, and I don't shave, and I always have a little foul-smelling discharges, I'm scared if he touches them.. Yuck! It will be so disgusting and very, very awkward..
Advices? Opinions? Suggestions? Anyone.. All please feel free to post comments.. Thanks. Hopefully helpful ones, please do not joke. I'm really feeling troubled and need help. Thank you all. -
Hi varatere,Originally posted by varatare:Hi 15963
I have to say girl that you are very lucky. You have a very gd bf. Because for me, I stop at nothing and most of the time I will get what I want.
But I have to say this 17 is no longer young. Please if you are lucky or unlucky enough, you are already someone else mother. So please do understand that it is not the question of "if I love him I will let him to it" type of thing. The question is do you want to do it? Are you going to be responsible for whatever going to happen?
Dont worry about your bf. He can tease you all he want, but I know he will respect your decision because I believe he love you too.
Regards
17's not young? Then 27's what? So..if she's lucky becoz her bf did not forceful insert his brotherhood in her n shoot inside? Or shld i say that her bf's lucky that he did not insert n shoot inside....
Mind you..at 17yrs, she has yet even complete her tertiary studies...
Also...in her mindset n character, she'll give it to someone whom she loves...and by refusing her bf, is a very brave n smart thing to do....shld anything will to happen to her, who's to be blame? Her bf? or Herself?
Who's going to support the child? 18yrs old with no education completed n job, trying to feed her baby?
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Hello dcx
First I have to say I totally agree with you that she is brave and smart to fight for what she want and believe. However wont you agree with me that some ladies even at the age of 27 will had already give in? Wont you agree that although she is 17, her brain and gut do show sign that she is more mature than those of 27?
Also dcx wont you agree with me that girls who are preg. at young age(maybe 16 or so) and yet dispire what they will be and going to face in the future, they still willingly to continue carry, birth and support her child even through the father is running from that responsible deserve our praise? Arent their sense of responsible is more mature than not only their lovers but to some who are at the age of 27? Wont you agree with me that being young is not a good "reason" for the lack of responsible?
I hope you understand that I am not encouraging her to do anything except to think for herself. But I do want her understand that whatever actions she had plan to take, she have to be responsible for whatever the outcome will be, and not the unborn child(if it really got that far).
Wont you agree dcx that she is lucky with the currently bf and not someone else? Who know maybe with someone else she could be posting about her preg. trouble and not this, doesnt it?
RegardsOriginally posted by dcx:Hi varatere,
17's not young? Then 27's what? So..if she's lucky becoz her bf did not forceful insert his brotherhood in her n shoot inside? Or shld i say that her bf's lucky that he did not insert n shoot inside....
Mind you..at 17yrs, she has yet even complete her tertiary studies...
Also...in her mindset n character, she'll give it to someone whom she loves...and by refusing her bf, is a very brave n smart thing to do....shld anything will to happen to her, who's to be blame? Her bf? or Herself?
Who's going to support the child? 18yrs old with no education completed n job, trying to feed her baby?
She can do what she wan when she has complete her studies n start working in the society... -
can i make a guess? If you stop him and say NO! i guess that he will be gone .... just my thoughts
maybe some guys here thinks alike truthfully.. but still dont take any one's words for it .... we can only have opinions not decisions .... -
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Hi Varatare,Originally posted by varatare:Hello dcx
First I have to say I totally agree with you that she is brave and smart to fight for what she want and believe. However wont you agree with me that some ladies even at the age of 27 will had already give in? Wont you agree that although she is 17, her brain and gut do show sign that she is more mature than those of 27?
Also dcx wont you agree with me that girls who are preg. at young age(maybe 16 or so) and yet dispire what they will be and going to face in the future, they still willingly to continue carry, birth and support her child even through the father is running from that responsible deserve our praise? Arent their sense of responsible is more mature than not only their lovers but to some who are at the age of 27? Wont you agree with me that being young is not a good "reason" for the lack of responsible?
I hope you understand that I am not encouraging her to do anything except to think for herself. But I do want her understand that whatever actions she had plan to take, she have to be responsible for whatever the outcome will be, and not the unborn child(if it really got that far).
Wont you agree dcx that she is lucky with the currently bf and not someone else? Who know maybe with someone else she could be posting about her preg. trouble and not this, doesnt it?
Regards
i do agree with you taht at the point of 17, she's showing much more responsibility than some of those taht are 17, but that doesn't means that she's more mature n sensible than those aged 27 (27's juz an indication, for what i've meant are those that are out working in the society). However so, she's not at the stage whereby she can take up the responsibilty of being pregnant/carrying a child, yes...she could be ature more when there's ever a case of pregnancy...but no gurantee on that..
Pregenacy/carrying a child aged from 15~19 doesn't prove one to be more mature or responsible...chances are small, but not mpossible...becoz most teenagers at those aged are still dependable on their parents, hence sense of responsiblilty n maturity do not submerge at that stage...would you agree on this?
For cases i've seen for myself, juz to state one,a few years ago, i've a fren(female) was pregnant at the age of 17~18...while during pregnancy that stage for the 1st few months, she went clubbing non-stop...u can say at least twice a week...her bf then (now husband) was still hanging ard..with no education, depending of his parents...(That fren of mine has yet even completed her Diploma n her bf that was only either an O or N level cert)...well..i do not see any sense of responsibility or maturity in them at that stage/year...still playful as ever...
However, when the child was born, my fren has changed to be more responsible than before..she has to cope with her studies, work(part-time) and to look after her child...yes...most of the time, the child was taken care by her in-laws, but imagine that as a parent of that child, you've no capability of supporting your own child that you're still dependable on parents...
Worse still....her husband was still hanging ard...did not upgrade himself or find work to do...yes, he did some odd jobs....but on & off becoz he not happy with the jobs & the pay...(How can you be satisfied with no education n expected high pay???) Well..he has alot of peer pressures from his circle of friends...for he likes branded things n his friends who hang out with him are always showing off their branded stuffs..So, all his $$$ mostly went for those branded stuffs instead of feeding their baby n offloading my fren's load...mind you..she's only 19yrs old mother...Y does she need to suffer whereas her husband's fool-playing...it's juz not fair for girls to bear such responsibilty...
To me, girs are always at the disadvantages stages when with guys...i always say this to my female frens...i do not wish to see again any of them to end up in such a state...neither do i wish to see any teenager whom i encountered with to be so too....
Lastly, you never know how her bf's going to do when and if they're engaged into sexual activities...there're juz too many shot-gun marriages in Singapore n abortions are high...and becoz of ABORTION, i strongly disencourage girls to allow their bf to perform sexual activities without safety precautions at young age...
However, there's nothing much i can do if they dun bother...
Anyway, be safe than sorry....think thrice before taking any action.... -
Your boyfriend is just HORNY.
Help him masterbate, jerk off.
Help him Jerk off x3, and he will be back to 'normal' again. -
Hello dcx
I feel very bad for your friend. I really do. It is guys like her husband that give us guys a bad name. Of course I am not saying that I am good or what, but at least I know I am not that bad.
I can fully understand how you feel if cases like that happen often around you. I will feel the some way too if I were you. But dont you agree dcx, that what you have see and know so far is only a portion of the society? Somemore it is only a small portion. I fully agree that what I have see and know so far is also a very small portion of the society. Even we add up both our portion, it is still not a big portion either. So dont you feel that we shallnt pass judgement just base only on what we see and know?
I know you understand what I mean when I say that she is more mature that some of the 27 out there (I do know that your 27s indice those that are working in the society). However, in case you have mistaken, I never in my statement indice that she is more mature that all or even most of them out there. But we do have our own share of immature "27s" dont you?
I hope you understand dcx that I am not here to start an argument, nor I am here to convince you or anyone here to my point of view. However there is one point which I feel I cant agree with you. I strongly believe that this is the only difference we have regarding this issue. I strongly feel that there is one thing that a person shall responsible for, doesnt matter what is he/her age. And that is his/her life. No one can depend on the society to manage thier life for them. Neither can their parent live their life for them even though they are depending on their parent. You are fully responsible for your own life and that include your sex life too. I believe that you , dcx, is not a person who will screwed up your own life and blamed someone else for it. But we cant delay the fact that there are such irresponsible people around us who will take no shame in blaming others for their ruined life. Therefore, I dont agree that mature and responsible come in the form of age and stages, rather I feel that it come in the form of mind. I again strongly state that what I have typed just now is not to convince anyone to any thinking or idea, it is solely for sharing purpose.
Lastly, I totally agree with you that I wont know what her bf's going to do when and if they're engaged into sexual activities. But I do know one that from what she had say, is that they did not go that far.
I will say that again that I am not here to encouraging her to do anything except to think for herself. I truly feel she is old enough to think and be responsilbe for her own life. Of course she can have her own share of suggestions and advises, which may goodwill people had already post in his forum. But it is still for her to decide what she really want and is she perpared to be responsible for whatever the outcome.
RegardsOriginally posted by dcx:Hi Varatare,
i do agree with you taht at the point of 17, she's showing much more responsibility than some of those taht are 17, but that doesn't means that she's more mature n sensible than those aged 27 (27's juz an indication, for what i've meant are those that are out working in the society). However so, she's not at the stage whereby she can take up the responsibilty of being pregnant/carrying a child, yes...she could be ature more when there's ever a case of pregnancy...but no gurantee on that..
Pregenacy/carrying a child aged from 15~19 doesn't prove one to be more mature or responsible...chances are small, but not mpossible...becoz most teenagers at those aged are still dependable on their parents, hence sense of responsiblilty n maturity do not submerge at that stage...would you agree on this?
For cases i've seen for myself, juz to state one,a few years ago, i've a fren(female) was pregnant at the age of 17~18...while during pregnancy that stage for the 1st few months, she went clubbing non-stop...u can say at least twice a week...her bf then (now husband) was still hanging ard..with no education, depending of his parents...(That fren of mine has yet even completed her Diploma n her bf that was only either an O or N level cert)...well..i do not see any sense of responsibility or maturity in them at that stage/year...still playful as ever...
However, when the child was born, my fren has changed to be more responsible than before..she has to cope with her studies, work(part-time) and to look after her child...yes...most of the time, the child was taken care by her in-laws, but imagine that as a parent of that child, you've no capability of supporting your own child that you're still dependable on parents...
Worse still....her husband was still hanging ard...did not upgrade himself or find work to do...yes, he did some odd jobs....but on & off becoz he not happy with the jobs & the pay...(How can you be satisfied with no education n expected high pay???) Well..he has alot of peer pressures from his circle of friends...for he likes branded things n his friends who hang out with him are always showing off their branded stuffs..So, all his $$$ mostly went for those branded stuffs instead of feeding their baby n offloading my fren's load...mind you..she's only 19yrs old mother...Y does she need to suffer whereas her husband's fool-playing...it's juz not fair for girls to bear such responsibilty...
To me, girs are always at the disadvantages stages when with guys...i always say this to my female frens...i do not wish to see again any of them to end up in such a state...neither do i wish to see any teenager whom i encountered with to be so too....
Lastly, you never know how her bf's going to do when and if they're engaged into sexual activities...there're juz too many shot-gun marriages in Singapore n abortions are high...and becoz of ABORTION, i strongly disencourage girls to allow their bf to perform sexual activities without safety precautions at young age...
However, there's nothing much i can do if they dun bother...
Anyway, be safe than sorry....think thrice before taking any action.... -
Hi Varatare,Originally posted by varatare:Hello dcx
I feel very bad for your friend. I really do. It is guys like her husband that give us guys a bad name. Of course I am not saying that I am good or what, but at least I know I am not that bad.
I can fully understand how you feel if cases like that happen often around you. I will feel the some way too if I were you. But dont you agree dcx, that what you have see and know so far is only a portion of the society? Somemore it is only a small portion. I fully agree that what I have see and know so far is also a very small portion of the society. Even we add up both our portion, it is still not a big portion either. So dont you feel that we shallnt pass judgement just base only on what we see and know?
I know you understand what I mean when I say that she is more mature that some of the 27 out there (I do know that your 27s indice those that are working in the society). However, in case you have mistaken, I never in my statement indice that she is more mature that all or even most of them out there. But we do have our own share of immature "27s" dont you?
I hope you understand dcx that I am not here to start an argument, nor I am here to convince you or anyone here to my point of view. However there is one point which I feel I cant agree with you. I strongly believe that this is the only difference we have regarding this issue. I strongly feel that there is one thing that a person shall responsible for, doesnt matter what is he/her age. And that is his/her life. No one can depend on the society to manage thier life for them. Neither can their parent live their life for them even though they are depending on their parent. You are fully responsible for your own life and that include your sex life too. I believe that you , dcx, is not a person who will screwed up your own life and blamed someone else for it. But we cant delay the fact that there are such irresponsible people around us who will take no shame in blaming others for their ruined life. Therefore, I dont agree that mature and responsible come in the form of age and stages, rather I feel that it come in the form of mind. I again strongly state that what I have typed just now is not to convince anyone to any thinking or idea, it is solely for sharing purpose.
Lastly, I totally agree with you that I wont know what her bf's going to do when and if they're engaged into sexual activities. But I do know one that from what she had say, is that they did not go that far.
I will say that again that I am not here to encouraging her to do anything except to think for herself. I truly feel she is old enough to think and be responsilbe for her own life. Of course she can have her own share of suggestions and advises, which may goodwill people had already post in his forum. But it is still for her to decide what she really want and is she perpared to be responsible for whatever the outcome.
Regards
I do believe that you & me have the same point of views in life n perphaps my views on maturity & responsibiities abt young age might differ abt from you.
To me, when engaged into sexual activities at that age limit, do you believe there's a sense of maturity n responsibilites involved? I believe your answer is the same as mine...True that some of them may then become mature n responsible after "accidents" happened...but wouldn't that be too late? Wouldn't it be stressful for the girls to endure the pains & sufferings, esp. at that age limit? For one, they have yet complete their studies, no job, & the enormous stress level they have to face their parents..
That'll be the difference between girls aged 15~19 (maybe 20) & 21above. -
Hi dcx
I agree that engaged in sexual activities there is no sense of maturity and responsibilities. However, that does not limited at age limited. All sexual activities no matter what age, there is no sense of maturity and responsibilities dont you agree?
I do not know whether have you engaged in any sexual activities before, but to me sex is an emotional and physical thing. Even adult after the age of 21 may not able to control it at times, but even having that little control that they have we still address them as mature. Then dont you agree that our friend here can be address as mature as well? And if that the case wont you agree that mature shallnt be address only in age limited?
I am truly understand your concern about age limited girls getting preg. We cant fully say that they dont know anything with so many education about such issue going around in varies media. However, if they are not going to be responsible for they own life, they going to let someone else responsible for them (very likely their bf). So dont you agree having a good sense of responsible about their life is better then just telling them "no it is not good"?
Frankly speaking I dont think there is anything difference for having "accidents" at the age of 16-19 or 21 and above. Have you ever see those who endure the pains and sufering even they are older than 21? Yet have you ever see support and love given to those at the age of 16-19? Althought I have seen both, but like I have previously said I have only see and know a small portion of it. Therefore I wont generalize on this issue.
RegardsOriginally posted by dcx:Hi Varatare,
I do believe that you & me have the same point of views in life n perphaps my views on maturity & responsibiities abt young age might differ abt from you.
To me, when engaged into sexual activities at that age limit, do you believe there's a sense of maturity n responsibilites involved? I believe your answer is the same as mine...True that some of them may then become mature n responsible after "accidents" happened...but wouldn't that be too late? Wouldn't it be stressful for the girls to endure the pains & sufferings, esp. at that age limit? For one, they have yet complete their studies, no job, & the enormous stress level they have to face their parents..
That'll be the difference between girls aged 15~19 (maybe 20) & 21above. -
Hallo hallo!! long time nvr visit the forum liao...
Originally posted by 15963:
ok, let me first introduce, i'm a guy. and this is how I personally feel, aint sure about the other guys though.
....he always tries to unbutton (if I happen to wear a buttoned shirt that day) me and says he wants to touch my boobs.
It's not that I don't allow him, I feel really awkward whenever he tries to sneak his hands under my blouse. Okay I admit I quite like that feeling, but it just doesn't seem right to me. I'm sure and I know we won't and will not be having any sex....
In a relationship, some form of intimacy is really a must, and integral to a healthy relationship. And this intimacy I'm refering to need not be sexual. What I'm trying to say here is that, verbally or not, you should let yr bf know what is comfortable to you, what's not.
I.e. if you enjoy him touching you at a specific part, letting him continue is as good as telling him that you like it. If intercourse is not okay for you, let him know, by nudging him away when he's "going a little too far"....Besides, my Mother once told me to NOT let any guys touch my boobs. It just isn't right. Even though he didn't touch it, already I feel quite sinful le. Then in SMS-es, he always request for such things, like touching or asking me to strip.
let's look at this issue from another way. What do you think makes you feel guilty about letting him touch you? What is the issue that you're dealing with right now? What're your principles?
I know it's only touching and I sound quite stupid or conservative just because "My Mom doesn't allows me to". I, myself, already find it going against my own principles and thinkings by letting him going this far (unbuttoning). But my boyfriend is good enough to stop whenever I loudly asked him to. He doesn't like to force me either.
Put it this way. Meanwhile, just do only what you feel is comfortable. As for what you feel is not comfortable doing with your bf...discuss this issue with him! Like telling him during one of your love talks, what you dont feel comfortable about, how you'd like the relationship to go, your sexual limitations, etc.
It takes time for you to discover even your own sexual limitations, and even more time for you to stretch it. Naturally, your bf would want to go as far as he wants; it is you to allow as far as you permit. Feel free to experiment with your own feelings and limits.
Btw, a bf who truly loves you would respect all your limits and try to accept them....I feel like a failure, I feel that I can't satisfy him. Up to now, I dare not hold his di.ck with my bare hands. Everytime I only stroke his di.ck with his briefs on. Though each time only through hugs and me stroking him, and his manhood is hard already, I still feel so useless.
Hi...I would say the same thing to you again. As for the questions, the confusion you have, personally, I feel that you could ask yourself and try to answer them yourself. The limits for another girl cannot be the same for you.
I'm not troubled because that I can't make him happy only. Sometimes I keep thinking that he's with me because perhaps I'm his first girlfriend that allows him to come this far, and not because of love. But I really love him and I can't lose him.. I've got no choice. Haix. I know I sound kind of naive and young, I'm only 17.
So, should I or should I not let him let his way?? Also, I'm absolutely sure I will be so embarrassed with his hands on my boobs. He's always "fingering" me though I have my pants on, meaning, touching/stroking me trying to make me feel good. He keeps wanting to insert his hand into my panties, and I don't shave, and I always have a little foul-smelling discharges, I'm scared if he touches them.. Yuck! It will be so disgusting and very, very awkward..
Advices? Opinions? Suggestions? Anyone.. All please feel free to post comments.. Thanks. Hopefully helpful ones, please do not joke. I'm really feeling troubled and need help. Thank you all.
Importantly, please...don't blame yourself for not being able to please him and stuff, okay? If you truly love him, and he loves you, both of you can compromise...and internally explore yr own sexual issues and try to stretch the limits, slowly.
As for the foul smelling discharge, I don't know how foul smelling it is!! Whether or not you shave is not quite the issue with the discharge. But you truly think it's really bad, you might want to visit your doctor/gynaecologist to make sure you're not having an infection.
Take care. -
Are you a s_ex Therapist?Originally posted by wa|th3r:Hallo hallo!! long time nvr visit the forum liao...
Hi...I would say the same thing to you again. As for the questions, the confusion you have, personally, I feel that you could ask yourself and try to answer them yourself. The limits for another girl cannot be the same for you.
Importantly, please...don't blame yourself for not being able to please him and stuff, okay? If you truly love him, and he loves you, both of you can compromise...and internally explore yr own sexual issues and try to stretch the limits, slowly.
As for the foul smelling discharge, I don't know how foul smelling it is!! Whether or not you shave is not quite the issue with the discharge. But you truly think it's really bad, you might want to visit your doctor/gynaecologist to make sure you're not having an infection.
Take care. -
think for urself and be responsible for what u choose...that's all i can say....