If a girl have sex with you....
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Your first million? errr..what's your ambition by the way?
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Hello coolfox
I frankly do not understand what you asking in the topic. First you say you are the one not into this relationship. Next you say she is the one not into this relationship. Question is if she want to be in this relationship with you, will you? Mostly wont because you have say you are lack of commitement. If that is the case why will you want to know? Or maybe it is what you want to know, like does she love you or you are just a spare? If that is the case, why dont you go ahead and ask her?
RegardsOriginally posted by coolfox:if a girl you have been dating (but she hasnt agreed to be your gf), have sex with you, do u think she loves you?
Okay, this is about me. I have been dating this pretty girl for a few months, and things have been very good initially. But a lack of commitement is making me confused and i just don;t know what to make of this relationship.
And she is a nice innocent girl, who dun club or smoke. So is she insecure about me, and that's why she is not ready for a relationship? or is it because she is waiting for someone better? I really don;t know anymore.
Or maybe it is my reputation, cos i have attracted quite a number of girls in school, and among my social circle, but gosh, i have always been devoted to her. And i am sure i showed it thru my words and actions.
So what then is wrong? I think only girls can help me to really understand a woman's mind. ... -
wah... then the whole singapore would be full of single men waiting to strike toto then get marriedOriginally posted by kwlee:hmm, sorry to say, but, try to forgot about the 1st million thing....
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my opinion only ar:
This guy not settled down yet, perhaps led her on. She might have thought that he's gonna be responsible. But actually he might not feel the same way. So he presents his view of the whole r/s thing and put the issue onto the girl that she is freely offering him s*x.
But then without know both parties, any further comments would be pretty useless. Besides, having only his comments. Haha... Doubt it that this is all there is ... -
What's so difficult to accept that there are girls who sleep around just like some men do?
Instead the guy tries to justify her actions by defending her character "nice, innocent girl".... or tries to delve deeper into issues of insecurity, fear of commitment, etc.
It could really be just a physical thing. -
Perhaps Mr Fox here is looking for girls to message him only.Originally posted by coolfox:So what then is wrong? I think only girls can help me to really understand a woman's mind. ... -
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Most prolly.Originally posted by XciteZ:Perhaps Mr Fox here is looking for girls to message him only. -
maybe she has aids??
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Why you so lucky!
Somemore have sex with her!
Me get invited to sleepover but i reject it!
Hei.. Hei.. Hei..
A relationship is not always about sex!
Anyway, i didn't say that without sex!
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hi guys, hmmm altho i am relatively new to this forum in terms of contribution, but
1) I am certainly not imagining things in a private cell at woodbridge
2) I am certainly no pathetic guy trying to gain the empathy of gerls.
3) I am confused about the relationship with this girl. You can say we are modern age bf/gf, becos we don date anybody else, and we do all the couple stuff together, but unlike a real bf/gf, staying long term is something we have not confirmed yet
4) I am unsure whether she really love me enough to want to commit. she certainly likes me. but Love? i am not sure anymore.
5) I am perturbed because i am no longer sure about where this relationship is going.
Perhaps raising this in a forum, is a way to recoucile my inner thoughts. I dunno. And perhaps i am hoping that soemone in a similar situation can share abt it.
2 heads are better than one anyway. -
coolfox:: if she's willing to sleep with u, u mean more than a friend to her.. to me it's like testing out something before u buy it.. i slept with my ex before we were together, did that for 3 months before we officially got together. we together for more than 3 years in fact..
sometimes guys really forget that girls do have needs too.. sometimes we jus need it as much as u guys too..
but when u sleep with someone, a part of u is given to the other person.. u cant jus sleep and forget abt it..
i think the girl likes u, alot, and i do think that she's nice and sweet as u mentioned.. ignore all those snide remarks, jus cases of sour grapes. -
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Just do it.
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sometimes sex has nothing to do with love ...
I have had experience b4 with lady friends who are just out to have a good time.. no love just sex. -
A few years back, one female gal i dated brought me to her house around 3 am.. Guess she was tipsy.. we were sitting on the bed.. guess it was a prelude to something as you know.. then her father whom she thot was suppose to be oversea came in.. and spoilt everything... actually I do not know what will happen if her father did not come in ... sometime i am quite surprised ..Girl can also intitate that kind of stuff not just guys although they look decent..... this incident I have not told any of my fren as need to protect the girl image
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hey Tompion: Thanks for ur comments. I really want to believe that she really likes me a lot. But somehow the way she acts towards me is inconsistent. She can be very nice and yet insufficeiently nice towards me. And i guess, i just don't feel convinced that she will love me as much as i will love her.
I hope that we don't just become sexual partners, because that is not what i'm looking for. I'm looking for a girl who i can love and pamper and who can share a wonderful romance with me. Of cos sex is excitingly good, but to me, the emotional part is even more important.
I had quite a no. of ex, and at this age where i'm graduating soon, i think it's time to be more settled down. I dun particularly enjoy flings anymore. -
Thats good for you...Originally posted by coolfox:hey Tompion: Thanks for ur comments. I really want to believe that she really likes me a lot. But somehow the way she acts towards me is inconsistent. She can be very nice and yet insufficeiently nice towards me. And i guess, i just don't feel convinced that she will love me as much as i will love her.
I hope that we don't just become sexual partners, because that is not what i'm looking for. I'm looking for a girl who i can love and pamper and who can share a wonderful romance with me. Of cos sex is excitingly good, but to me, the emotional part is even more important.
I had quite a no. of ex, and at this age where i'm graduating soon, i think it's time to be more settled down. I dun particularly enjoy flings anymore.
this is the same particular me...
Must learn to know wat are u looking for.... -
no probOriginally posted by coolfox:hey Tompion: Thanks for ur comments. I really want to believe that she really likes me a lot. But somehow the way she acts towards me is inconsistent. She can be very nice and yet insufficeiently nice towards me. And i guess, i just don't feel convinced that she will love me as much as i will love her.
I hope that we don't just become sexual partners, because that is not what i'm looking for. I'm looking for a girl who i can love and pamper and who can share a wonderful romance with me. Of cos sex is excitingly good, but to me, the emotional part is even more important.
I had quite a no. of ex, and at this age where i'm graduating soon, i think it's time to be more settled down. I dun particularly enjoy flings anymore.
ur situation is similar to mine some time back.. though things didnt work out between me and him, i wish u luck..
look at it in this way, how do u measure love?? different pple have different ways of loving.. it may not seem that she loves u enough, but then to her, u might be her everything.. u have relationships before, u shld know that u will only know how much u love that person when u lose that person.. .. .. *ouch*
There's always a risk in love, but if u dun try, u'll never know if it can be something.. Good that u wan to settle down, how i wish my ex was like that.. haiz.. out of point.. .. u are still young, there's still alot of things to see and explore. and seriously, the transition from student to work is very very big.. Work changes pple alot.. and i mean ALOT.. it's scary to see pple u know jus change without them knowing.. becoming bitter and cynic abt life.. what i'm tryin to say that u're in a transition phase now, it's good that u wan to settle down, but ur idea of settlin down might change as u get into the working world...
Still no pain, no gain.. jus go for it.. and look on the bright side (though not too nice), if it doesn work out, at least u had great sex :p not a great consolation but still better than nothing.. -
Coolfox, tompion has given some really sound advice. Just to reinforce, it's very true that if a girl gives you sex, you're more than a friend. Although not necessarily a bf, not yet anyway.
Very often in love you have to take risks. Take the emotional plung so to speak. You have to put yourself in a position where you may get hurt before you can truly love. Can't expect a girl to trust you emotionally either if your defenses are always up as well.
Take the chance and if you realise she's really not worth it, be glad that you gave yourself a chance to make it happen. At least you tried so no regrets. Just move on and be ready for the nest peson to enter your life.
And don't listen to some of the idiots here, they have absolutely no idea what they're talking about. Some of them are just jealous too and are just trying to put you down as they're losers with nothing better to do.
These idiots are people who don't realise that, "If it doesn't happen to you, it doesn't mean it won't happen to someone else." -
Hi SumOne and Tampion,
Yes i am grateful for both u girls' advice ( Tampion is a gerl, but i am not sure about SumOne). I've been thinking about this issue lately, and today i decided to have a heart to heart talk about our relationship at the right opportunity and timing. Hopefully, it can clear away the doubts in my mind, and make things even better for us.
I am sure this will be better for her too. And although sex is always tempting, but i am not going to be obessed about it because it is just not my style. I loved her and i want to continue to love her in the best way i can, provided i have a chance and she is really sure about me. I know she is unsure, because she is still have doubts about some differences. But I know i can become a good bf for her, i hope she just can be her old self again, the one i fell in love with. I just hope she can be a even more beautiful person on the inside, that i can love and cherish.
Then things will be wonderful. =)
Thanks once again =)
p/s: for those who have said less pleasant stuff about me and my girl, i just wish to say that i dont blame you for ur comments. Soemtimes, it just happen in the internet. But pls dun insult her, as my girl is really a pretty girl, and although we have sex, it is something we both wanted, and enjoy. It is not about being bad or wad, it is a modern choice, and we have made that choice. -
With all due respect...
Cases of sour grapes???
i think not all are those kind of case...
Look at it... Put yrself in her shoes, she have sex with you, you doubt her feelings, motive, intention, char and you publish your story in a forum.
How would you feel???
I personally felt that you lack the respect for the ger, and therefore raises doubts and questions on yr feelings for her...
And for that, we feel that you are not responsible and you are just out for sex...
My opinion, my feelings...
I pity the ger...
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lunzbb, pls dun make ur own judgement if u dun see the whole light of the situation. if i say that i really love her wholeheartedly, would u believe me?
I am unsure, because she gives me mixed signals. I want the best for both of us, cos i cherish her happiness. And as i said before, i posted this here to seek better opinions. and most importantly, to put my own thoughts in words.
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i dun think there's a HUGE problem in engaging in sex be4 being "official" in a reln, not that i advocate it. i mean... things have different ways of flowing, and it's not necessarily true that a couple that gets to know each other for 3 years, date for 5 years, marry and sex after that will be happy ever after.
i dun see a need to question "why like this?" but rather "what can it be?"
which is probably wat u're doing too i hope.