help me, blow blow n blow
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Taking a shower with soap before the act will help reduce unpleasant external odour. "Gravy" it with sauce of your liking (eg. chocolate) is great for foreplay and it overrides other external odour.
Get him to shave / trim his pubic hair as errant hairs get into the mouth, nose, and tickles your face. The sight of clean shaven private is also more sexy and pleasing to the eyes. This should make the act much more pleasant.
It is scientifically proven that getting him to eat pineapple continually for a period of time before the act will reduce the unpleasant taste of the semen. Avoid asparagus, it makes semen taste real foul.
So guys, make pineapple a regular part of your daily diet. -
Alternatively, make a compromise.
Wear a condom if he wants to ejaculate in your mouth. There are flavoured condoms available in the market. -
no one understands me.. tat is not wat i wan...........
he used to love me alot.. until recently...... i really miss those days -
Hmm.. me thinks that he needs you (sexually) as much as u need him (emotionally). He (Your Boyfriend) is fully exploiting the maxim, 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'. After this episode, U will be more relenting to 'his request'. (I thought U gals were very gd at games like these) Well, then again , maybe I'm wrong, maybe he's just pissed. In that case, if he really loves U, he will reconcile the matter soon enough. If he doesn't, I think you should question yourself on whether this relationship should go on.
Be patient. Go shopping with your Galfriends. Enjoy Life. Patience is the key. -
he use u now for sexual pleasure... also if u dun like the taste..ask him drink alot of pineapple juice. Accordin to my gf, the sperm will have not taste
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You slapping him for having an orgasm is equivilent to him slapping you for asking him to love you...
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what can i say now is that don't give in to him or he will ask for more.
since you are already calling and messaging him, and he don't even bother.
he is like asking for more liao.
if you give in to him, that's it liao. you are always wrong and he's always right.
i still think that he's in the wrong as you trusted on him but he breached your trust and now he's putting himself high high up in the air.
he didn't even think of your feeling or show respect to you.
this kinda of guy better not keep for long.
he sees himself more important than you.
all of the above is only my thoughts.
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neber mind he do to you i do to his mother fair?
my new signature
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the blow to the cheek or the blow job...Originally posted by waattaa!:all he wanted was the blow
y they call it blow job anyways..she is not blowin up a balloon..shud be suck job -
hey lady....i have finsished reading all the replies..but heres what i say...
if your bf is you rprob solver..then he is a good bf...not many guys will commit their time and help their gf in emotional issues...
naturally....your bf would have his own needs ...therefore...it will be your somewhat duty to satisfy him...also it will be his duty to do so as well...romance can only last that long in a relationship....afterwhich...its feelings that take over...understand what i mean?
i presume you guys are adults and so do it the adult way....send him three sms of the same content ...in the morn....afternoon and then at night...and wait....dont do anything more....if he still doesnt reply...leave him be..guys ego can be real big when hurt...moreover ladies need to preserve their dignity no matter what...
more often than not....things will resume in a week...if it doesnt....see him personally and work it out....if it doesnt...leave another gap of a week....by then if nothing really happen...break up....and really forget bout him no matter how long or hurtful it takes.....no use having a bf who would only care to shove his tool into your mouth....good luck... -
Don't get too affected. Leave him alone for a while. He will come back for you.....if not, there are plenty of other guys around
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no one here understands me. except for the guy who msg me. met him in the evening.. he changed my tinking..
hmm.. he gave me whole lot of advices which were really useful. i shall gif my bf another chance -
All relationships will encounter challenges, and it is how the couple ride through it that affect how the relationship matures. One very poor approach to building relationship is the adversarial, also called win-lose, approach. Unless one is looking forward to a final showdown, I would say respectfully that what was advocated in the earlier few mails may not be the way to go.
I must qualify that what was advocated in earlier post has its merits and is appropriate in certain circumstances. However, I believe it is not in the best interest of the couple to apply it here.
First and foremost, I must reiterate that "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", something that we are so prone to forget. The problem in many relationship arose because we forget that men and women are different, and have different needs, and think differently. If this is something new any of the readers, prepare for the next revelation... -
Overreaction and frigidness
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We tend to love the other person the way we want to be loved, not the way he/she wants to be loved. Let's look at an example: assuming that I need to be given a piece of chocolate each day in order to feel loved.
What is going to happens is that I will probably be very diligent in giving my partner chocolates, thinking that "he/she must have felt so loved".
As you`ve already guessed, that may not be true for the receiving party. He/she may actually need to receive a sms each day in order to feel loved. He/she never received the sms wanted, but received chocolates instead.
For illustration, let's look at one attribute (for each gender) generally accepted as being important to the parties in relationship.
Men wants respect
Women wants to feel treasured
To attribute all problem to men's ego is as good as denying his need for respect, especially from the one he love dearly. Likewise, to attribute all problem to women's romanticism is denying her need for being treasured.
(*Note: this post was edited as a sentence had caused misunderstanding of "unfair attribution". I edited the language without changing the essence of what I intended to say. Hope I am successful in doing so.) -
via blowjobs, do men get respected and women get to feel treasured?Originally posted by arctic_sg:For clarity, let's allocate one attribute to each of what men and women want.
Men wants respect
Women wants to feel treasured..
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We should be careful in advising people to break with their gf/bf.
Getting into a relationship is easy, but maintaining and growing it is not so. We should not be giving up so easily, nor become hostile and adversarial easily. We should strive towards mutuality.
Needs of both parties can be met somehow (although not always in the form one would have desire, since compromises might had taken place), and the relationship can move forward from maturity to maturity. -
plssssssssssss.... the so-called advices to break up only reveal their real hearts' intention lah.. if they're determined to stay on in it, even a LOADED gun pointed at their head won't change their minds.Originally posted by arctic_sg:We should be careful in advising people to break with their gf/bf.
Getting into a relationship is easy, but maintaining and growing it is not so. We should not be giving up so easily, nor become hostile and adversarial easily. We should strive towards mutuality.
Needs of both parties can be met somehow (although not always in the form one would have desire, since compromises might had taken place), and the relationship can move forward from maturity to maturity.
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Let me suggest a combination that worked:
Communication + being non-judgmental, Compromise + patience
Communications + non-judgmental
Communicate how you want to be loved to the other party. Contrary to what you think, your partner may not know actually how you want to be loved. Ask your partner how he/she wants to be loved. You maybe loving your partner the way you want loved, not the way he/she wanted to be loved.
In your communications, do not judge nor draw conclusions.
Compromise + patience
Through your communications, you will discover differences between the ideal situation and the actual situation. Let's call this "tension". The best way to reduce this tension is to lower the ideal, and raise the actual at the same time. This is call compromise.
Compromise will mean change, and changes sometimes takes place very slowly. Do not rush things and expect things to go your way at the blink of an eye. In fact, some difference will never be entirely resolved. Couples who lasted a life-time found their way to "agreed to disagree".
Just contributing my two cents worth, and I wish all couples have long-lasting relationship.
To dulex: glad that you have gotten the help you need. Wish you resolve this episode soon and may it become an milestone in your relationship.
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I apologise if my post and language was unclear and caused mis-understanding. I was speaking generally, had not intended to attribute respect and being treasure to the act of fellatio per se.Originally posted by sleepycat:via blowjobs, do men get respected and women get to feel treasured?
It is how the partner responded to each other that differentiates whether one is respected or treasured.
Taking the case in issue as example, the slap might have hurt his sense of "respect", while ejaculating in her mouth despite her expressed disagreement to it might have hurt her sense of being "treasured" and "loved".
Relationship is a complex enterprise. Fortunately there are books in market that can help you along. Some recommeded books are "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray and "Why Men Lie and Woman Cry" by Allen & Barbara Pease. -
Well. I guess U already have in mind what u plan to do abt it. Hopefully, things will turn out just fine for both of you.
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he say never go geylang u believe him? think perhaps u too young for a relation ship. try workin for a yr or so. if u worried that he will leave u then go and haf sex wif him. and then see if he wil leave u a not aft that. go go go .. can handle urself then stop bothering us. ppl gif u advice u ask them to fark off.. then dnt ask for advice bloody kidOriginally posted by dulex:im really afraid he would leave me.
he is my prob solver whenever im in need of help.
he said he never go geyland b4 ok. so dun accuse him.
to the guy who msg me earlier on, dun worry, i will handle myself, i just need some advice.
to the guy who said u can help me beat him up, pls phark off. -
I must agree with you somewhat, that there are some who had already decided to break-up. Some of these people post their "problems" or speak to their friends about it to look for someone to agree with them. Whereas some needed an affirmation that they are really doing the correct thing.Originally posted by sleepycat:plssssssssssss.... the so-called advices to break up only reveal their real hearts' intention lah.. if they're determined to stay on in it, even a LOADED gun pointed at their head won't change their minds.
There are also some who has no intention of ending relationship, but needed to be told firmly and in no uncertain terms that the relationship needs to end.
However, I also recognised that people have different emotional states when they asked for "help" or "advises" for example:
1) Encountering a problem and needed help to solve it, and not destroy the relationship (throwing baby away with the dirty water)
2) Under emotional stress, and needed a space to vent
3) Emotional disturbed and needed comforting voice
4) Doubtful about certain issues and looking for more experienced opinion
5*) etc etc etc
(*the list is not, and not intended to be, exhaustive)
While a doctor do not prescribe surgical removal for each and every ailment but dish out proper medication and explore alternatives, so we should not prescribe discontinuance for each and every emotional distress but share appropriate opinions for the person's consideration and aid in his/her thought process.
I only respectfully submit my opinion for consideration, with appreciation that the person needs to make the final decision. He/she is ultimately responsible for his/her own life. -
There are condoms specially for blow jobs.
Flavoured ones.
Pick your favourite flavour and he can cum in your mouth, no problem.
Hygenic too, you don't have to swallow that yellow muck under his cock head. -
he was angry wif u not becos u slapped him. but it was becos u nv swallow his cum...Originally posted by dulex:a few days back, i did a blow for my bf and he cum into my mouth. i was so disgusted and my immediate reaction was to gif him 1 tight slap on his left cheek(im a right hander). the thing is, he have not cum into my mouth b4 after so many times of blowing. but y tis time? im really disgusted. last time he he force me to blow for him. i rejected many times. only when he promised he wouldnt come into me.
he got so angry and went into the toilet wifout a word. i stood outside cleaning up and got dressed up. i den tot to myself, did i over react just now?
after tat, he came out without a word again and looked really angry. i regretted wat i did just now and went to him and said sorry. but he dint accept my apologies and turned aroudn with his back facing me.
i really regretted slapping him. and knowing his stuborness, i left his house. it was abt 2am plus in the morning, ususally he would drive me home but not tat nite. i took a cab home instead. the next day i msg him and said sorry but he dint reply. i cant bring myself to face him, dare not call him.
i consulted my best fren. she told me is common for guys to come into our mouth becoz sometimes its not easy to control. den she also said i over reacted. did i?
pls help me
btw, wats is cum ???