Secret of a good marriage - but can women accept it?

• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 12:24

  The one eye dragon's wife reportedly said that as long as he came home and doted on her and loved her, well he had done his husbandly duties and what he did outside is none of her concern.
  
  Sounds like a good principle.
  
  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?
• huiz

  14 Mar 06, 12:27

  no. how can you be happy knowing your other half is fooling around outside? what if it is the wife doing this?
• vas

  14 Mar 06, 12:33

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  The one eye dragon' wife reportedly said that as long as he came home and doted on her and loved her, well he had done his husbandly duties and what he did outside is none of her concern.
  
  Sounds like a good principle.
  
  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?

  Can i date ur wife?? I'll send her back home b4 midnite de.
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 12:37

  You think that my wife will go out with you because I command her? If she wants to date you and she does not tell, me why should I care?
  
  Of course it must work both ways, the women must be allowed to do whatever they want outside as long as they do not come home and brag about it just as the men do not come home and give a blow by blow account. Both parties just close one eye and do not try to find out.
• larrenV2.003

  14 Mar 06, 12:43

  Even now the wife knows that he fools around it is too late for her to hate her hubby & feel disappointed but at most feels sad on both sides.
  
  This speech is only applied to the widow but when her hubby is alive its a diff story cum scenario.
• stellazio

  14 Mar 06, 12:43

  sounds good..
• choco B

  14 Mar 06, 12:43

  This defines an "open marriage" but not necessarily a happy one
  

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?

• InnoHippo

  14 Mar 06, 13:07

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  The one eye dragon' wife reportedly said that as long as he came home and doted on her and loved her, well he had done his husbandly duties and what he did outside is none of her concern.
  
  Sounds like a good principle.
  
  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?

  that is acceptable if the woman cannot control her husband even if she tries
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 13:16

  Originally posted by choco B:

  This defines an "open marriage" but not necessarily a happy one
  

  That is the whole point isn't it? It is only unhappy if both sides do it but does not believe in it. If both sides believed that it is a good thing, I do not see how it is not a happy one.
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 13:17

  Originally posted by InnoHippo:

  that is acceptable if the woman cannot control her husband even if she tries

  Why try to control in the first place? Just accept the principle and both sides will live happily ever after.
• choco B

  14 Mar 06, 13:24

  Er, yah and then there is the fundamental assumption that the couple believes a happy marriage is an open one.
  It wouldn't work if the couple believed in a monogamous relationship.
  

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  That is the whole point isn't it? It is only unhappy if both sides do it but does not believe in it. If both sides believed that it is a good thing, I do not see how it is not a happy one.

• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 13:27

  Originally posted by choco B:

  Er, yah and then there is the fundamental assumption that the couple believes a happy marriage is an open one.
  It wouldn't work if the couple believed in a monogamous relationship.
  

  So the question really is whether an open or monogamous relationship is "happier."
• zheshi

  14 Mar 06, 13:54

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  The one eye dragon' wife reportedly said that as long as he came home and doted on her and loved her, well he had done his husbandly duties and what he did outside is none of her concern.
  
  Sounds like a good principle.
  
  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?

  How about your Wife do all her duties? cook for u, help u take care of your kids.. and than on weekend go outside fooling around while u are fooling too? if u yourself could take that. why not?
• choco B

  14 Mar 06, 13:57

  Admittedly, this question is a toughie
  To each couple their own, I guess
  

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  So the question really is whether an open or monogamous relationship is "happier."

• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 13:59

  Originally posted by zheshi:

  How about your Wife do all her duties? cook for u, help u take care of your kids.. and than on weekend go outside fooling around while u are fooling too? if u yourself could take that. why not?

  You must be a guy? I think most guys after being married for a long time, do not see it as a problem. I see many married men fooling around.
  
  You agree that it would make marriage happier if this sort of arragment goes on?
  
  Not so much as fooling around openly since friends and relatives will certainly kay poh.
  
  But quietly and both sides just pretend that nothing is happening?
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 14:12

  Originally posted by choco B:

  Admittedly, this question is a toughie
  To each couple their own, I guess
  

  This is what a forum is for right? To solicit and exchange views. If so many people cannot come up with an answer then the individual is left standing alone?
• browniebaobao

  14 Mar 06, 14:15

  can both have an affair outside but still come home everyday to play their roles as husband and wife? can any man tolerate that? which man like to be made a cuckold? maybe some women can tolerate, for the sake of the family and kids, if there's any.. but for me, I can't.
• zheshi

  14 Mar 06, 14:20

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  You must be a guy? I think most guys after being married for a long time, do not see it as a problem. I see many married men fooling around.
  
  You agree that it would make marriage happier if this sort of arragment goes on?
  
  Not so much as fooling around openly since friends and relatives will certainly kay poh.
  
  But quietly and both sides just pretend that nothing is happening?

  Nah i dun agree on the arrangement, i'm just giving the treadstarter a example, if u always expect the women to accept this. But in the first place if u can accept it or not..if u can't than dun expect the women to accept.
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 14:22

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  can both have an affair outside but still come home everyday to play their roles as husband and wife? can any man tolerate that? which man like to be made a cuckold? maybe some women can tolerate, for the sake of the family and kids, if there's any.. but for me, I can't.

  Of course if it is done openly, you can't. But if you sort of don't know, don't need to know, don't want to know and he continues to dote on you and loved you? Can?
• casino_king

  14 Mar 06, 14:25

  Originally posted by zheshi:

  Nah i dun agree on the arrangement, i'm just giving the treadstarter a example, if u always expect the women to accept this. But in the first place if u can accept it or not..if u can't than dun expect the women to accept.

  Nothing to accept or don't accept. I don't want to know, I will never try to find out and I will always give the benefit of the doubt. As long as she comes home and dotes on me and love me. What is the point of having a faithful wife that is out to pick a fight with you day in and day out?
• browniebaobao

  14 Mar 06, 15:46

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  Of course if it is done openly, you can't. But if you sort of don't know, don't need to know, don't want to know and he continues to dote on you and loved you? Can?

  cannot. it's deceiving.
• InnoHippo

  14 Mar 06, 15:47

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  Why try to control in the first place? Just accept the principle and both sides will live happily ever after.

  never try never know
• casino_king

  15 Mar 06, 11:14

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  cannot. it's deceiving.

  deceiving, true... but but but...
• elindra

  15 Mar 06, 11:18

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  The one eye dragon's wife reportedly said that as long as he came home and doted on her and loved her, well he had done his husbandly duties and what he did outside is none of her concern.
  
  Sounds like a good principle.
  
  The man can fool around outside for all she care as long as he comes home to her. I am sure the guys will agree that it is the secret to a happy marriage but can the women accept that?

  I would agree if the couple decides on an open marriage but that means it applies to the woman as well.
  
  The woman accepts that he fools around and likewise the guy accepts she fools around.
• casino_king

  15 Mar 06, 11:21

  Originally posted by elindra:

  I would agree if the couple decides on an open marriage but that means it applies to the woman as well.
  
  The woman accepts that he fools around and likewise the guy accepts she fools around.

  Nobody need to accept anything, they just do it and the other side just keep one eye close and always accept any stupid excuse... as long as he/she does his/her spousal duties... dote and love when come home.
  
  I don't think in our society, couples will actually sit down and discuss it. More like, you know I know but let's pretend nothing is happening.