treat my ex as a FB??
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just broke up with her 2 months back, actually ditch by her cos she complains tat i got no time for her...
i wanted to keep the relationship but she insist the break up..
no choice lor...
went out 2 weeks ago for a drinking session, me and her only.
drank quite a lot, almost a bottle of martell.
when was about to leave the pub, she asked me if i wants to go H81 with her cos she dun wants to let her mom see how drunk she is. so i just bring her go H81 lor.
when we get inside the room, i took off her clothings and help her wash up... ( always did this when we were together)
after towel dried her then lay her on the bed and cover her with the blanket..
wanted to leave then she stopped me... ask me to stay around saying she scared..
then i ll took away my t-shirt and just lay beside her ( drink a bit too much then head giddy )...
then she started fonder me.......
the rest i won't say cos i know there's alot of underage kids around...
after the "whole" thing i felt guilty and ask her wats tat for...
she say she just miss doing it with me... and hope the next time we can do it again.
shall i carry on this relationship??
some more background to update
- was with her 4-5 month plus
- she is studying pt and not earning money
- i got to give her mom 250 a month
- i have to give her allowance some more...
i dun wish to see crap msgs in my post.. thanks alot
take care and good luck -
jus ask urself lor....whether u still love her or nt...if yes! then u shd carry on wif the relationship....think she still care abt u....
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Wow, that's something that I would love to....you know, to slp with an ex. Well, actually I had such experience too. But not drunk kind. We broke off and still miss each others. After that, I felt the same as you too!
My advise is to stop doing that. Remind yourself that you are not her b/f anymore and it's not right that this is happening. If you really still love her, then let her know that you should not be doing this as a "Friend".
In case, next time both of you get back again. This thing will not be a "Dark Side".
Worst....If somehow things turn ugly between the two of you in future and maybe, (I say maybe as I really dun know how she is as a person!) what you did with her became a "weapon" against you.
Nobody has the right to say what you did was right or wrong. What you really want determines your actions. And your actions will have consequences. So think properly. Wish you luck! -
why u got to give her mother 250 ?
why u got to give her allowances too ? -
quite speechless, but search ur heart...that's the only advice i can give u 
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not worth it la
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ur carry on the rship means wat?
the fark and bye rship or get back together as a couple? -
$250 a month is cheap.
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This is complicated... hmmm...
The question is, do u still love her? and is tad the love u wan? hmm..
U go figure.. -
Y should u give her more worst her mum money every mth? It is as though u 2 are married le. IF married le, then give money every mth, i got nth to say. But u 2 are not.
Somehow i got a feeling she love ur money more than u. Duno leh. Depend on ur pwn feeling towards her -
if u stil love her, then talk things over n patch up. if not, dun toy her feeling n make use of her body.
tats so bad... -
if u love her then go for it
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poor girl.... i think she suddenly lost her pillar of support mah...
Financially and emotionally down....
TS, you damn bad. please leave her and tell her to find a more responsible man who can look after her. Giving that little of amount of money and allowance is no big deal even if you are her boyfriend at that time. you don't need to state it here. She is just feeling a sudden lost thats all. It's you who lost interest in her. Please make you stand clear.
Even placing the topic here show little respect you have for her and the problem now... you know BAR topics are irrelevant. Don't make yourself look bad anymore. post in Aunt Agony if you need help. -
I don't understand why you gonna give her mom money and if you give her gf some pocket money, still okay...
First Q - she came from what kind of family?
Second Q - Are you working and do you think u can support her? -
financially you can handle it rite?? if not, maybe you shld not carry on....
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wat's ur current status with her?
why have to give her and her mum money? -
TS, you can find a better woman out there -
sure or not ? .....
you know there's this thing called a whiskey d.ick .................
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thanks all for the replys...
first thing first.. its was her ex's idea to give her mother allowance. we quarrel over this in the first place becos i not yet her mother's son in law and i have no right to do so... but she keep insist tat her ex do so, and i have to apply..
so i just carry on the " tradition" .... dun wants her to get more upset.
at tat time she was studying pvt and has no ways of income ( her ex ask her not to work and he can support her... but end up ask her find job 2-3 months into the relationship) but after their break up she never find a job for 3-4 months.
her family not really well to do..
mom got health problem - never work
father - retiring soon
sister - still can support her own self
brother - barely....
yes i am working. but i onli get 1000 - 1200 per month...
during tat time i gave her most of my earnings...
seldom i got the chance to pamper myself during the day we were together
its like whatever she "wants" i will buy for her...
what ever her needs i also supply her ..
hai~! wat to do i was deeply in love with her tat time... tot she will be the 1....
actually after this incident i would rather love myself more then loving her back.. cos i always got the feeling of treated for granted....
oh.. the relationship means the "hi fark bye" thingy
thanks for all the advice...
think that my heart completely broken into parts by her.... -
by the way bro RonDaGuy..
she's the 1 who ditch me...
as all guys know time + work = money
i see her 7 days a week for 3 month plus when we were together... do it still consider no time for her ??
the time i spent is like 50% work 40% for her and 10% sleeping.
how much she wants???
and to brother dc+
pls read carefully 250 + around 700 for her to pay bills, expenses... u still thinks its cheap???
u try urself -
is she a china woman or a mistress?
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then you should stop having sex with her what.
cut a clean line ba.
we generally have to side ladies as they should be the ones at disadvantages.
Tell her to be independent as well.
So conclusion is don't treat her like "HFB" r/s.
Should make your stand clear. -
if u like her then see if can salvage the r/s anot lo... else its better to stop it cos it wun hv positive effect in the future...
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sorry then partially my fault.
btw we only have done it once. that's way i'm guilty after doing it with her...~!
sorry.. .this could be very ugly.. not all the gals should be sided... y can't guys being the one who is played by gals?? -
cause your topic title is really bad as in the way you reference your ex.
It's actually up to you. Such private stuffs and as an adult you should know how you want this r/s to work out. If she don't mind and you feel that there's nothing wrong with having regular ONS with her then it's perfectly fine.
However, all our advices are on the safer side. have a clear cut so it won't get you into further dilema or trouble.
good luck lah.