treat my ex as a FB??
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Why the hell do you have to pay her?!?!?
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wah!
dun say until so disgusting lei..
i never pay her... -
she how old? n how come u give her mum $$$ also?Originally posted by trainman:wah!
dun say until so disgusting lei..
i never pay her... -
Dun really see a prob.
The lady needs company...
The guy doesnt mind a FB...
Moral guys may call this wrong...
but casting that aside...
there's nothing very wrong as long as both are willing partners... -
if u feel like helping her financially but expect s3x
pls go to geylang.
u still have change. -
no matter wat i say, its like all my fault...
hai~!
i never expect to have sex with her even after break up...
btw..
i rather diy at home rather then go geylang...
so fireice, sorry to tell u i rather be faithful to my partner.....
and pls I NEVER PAY HER~!~!~! -
if your ex broke up..so be it..
at least breaking up doesn't mean no-longer frens or something..
i have had frens who broke up, than didn't speak about each other nor keep in contact already..
in your case, you both at least handle the relationship like what adults should and still remain as frens..
as for you meeting her in h81, it's up to you and her decision at the end of the day ya..
as for the R21 part..
if she wants it, i would say, just give it; would you rather her finding other guys who treat her like toy or rather she comes back to you (at least you' still have her interest at heart) but don't treat her like a FB, but rather a soul-mate, one who she feels comfortable with and telling all the secrets to..
you get what i mean?
in some cases, even divorced couples are still meeting up etc, but in status, they don't want the title to be married due to the limited freedom and the stigma that comes in a package..
if you still love her..just treat her well..but Not as a FB..
since it's a mutual agreement on both sides, thus there's no need to feel guilty at all.. come on man, you gotta handle it like an adult since you're already working right.
but for the monthly allowance of $250, I would say perhaps you might want to re-consider it..
Real frens don't ask for money, but rather understanding and accompany..
although i don't meet up with my secondary sch frens often; in fact just once a yr, but the bonding is still there you see..
so it depends on how you actually handle the relationship well enough or not..
i hope my comments help you in some way.. -
not that i meet her at H81... it's she say she was too drunk to go home and get scolding next day by her mom.
it happens after our drinking session.
anyway since we broke up.. she has be going out with a lot of new friends she know online.
maybe i'm just too kapoh. hoping tat she will find someone who truthfully loves her. but from wat i'm seeing... i can say that she's going out with guys younger then her.... really feel sad tat way...
really afraid tat those friends she know are out to "eat" her up....
hai~!
i'm too kpo -
Why meet her up in the first place?Originally posted by trainman:just broke up with her 2 months back, actually ditch by her cos she complains tat i got no time for her...
i wanted to keep the relationship but she insist the break up..
no choice lor...
went out 2 weeks ago for a drinking session, me and her only.
drank quite a lot, almost a bottle of martell.
when was about to leave the pub, she asked me if i wants to go H81 with her cos she dun wants to let her mom see how drunk she is. so i just bring her go H81 lor.
when we get inside the room, i took off her clothings and help her wash up... ( always did this when we were together)
after towel dried her then lay her on the bed and cover her with the blanket..
wanted to leave then she stopped me... ask me to stay around saying she scared..
then i ll took away my t-shirt and just lay beside her ( drink a bit too much then head giddy )...
then she started fonder me.......
the rest i won't say cos i know there's alot of underage kids around...
after the "whole" thing i felt guilty and ask her wats tat for...
she say she just miss doing it with me... and hope the next time we can do it again.
shall i carry on this relationship??
some more background to update
- was with her 4-5 month plus
- she is studying pt and not earning money
- i got to give her mom 250 a month
- i have to give her allowance some more...
i dun wish to see crap msgs in my post.. thanks alot
take care and good luck
Why is there a need to give her n her mum monthly allowance?
Why must you feel guilty after you do it?
Also why don't you reject in the first place?
IT TAKES TWO HANDS TO CLAP! -
Obviously, It's your fault too.Originally posted by trainman:no matter wat i say, its like all my fault...
hai~!
i never expect to have sex with her even after break up...
btw..
i rather diy at home rather then go geylang...
so fireice, sorry to tell u i rather be faithful to my partner.....
and pls I NEVER PAY HER~!~!~!
You may say that, you never expected to have sex with her even after break up and rather die at home then going to geylang...
The way you says it, is just like you are pushing all the blame on others, and you are becoming the almighty angel who came to heal her from her sexual desire and helping her family financial needs... -
Just treat it like a fuckbuddy relationship then.
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U are paying her? ......... omg sounds more like a sugar daddy to me .....
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u have tried ur best already..Originally posted by trainman:not that i meet her at H81... it's she say she was too drunk to go home and get scolding next day by her mom.
it happens after our drinking session.
anyway since we broke up.. she has be going out with a lot of new friends she know online.
maybe i'm just too kapoh. hoping tat she will find someone who truthfully loves her. but from wat i'm seeing... i can say that she's going out with guys younger then her.... really feel sad tat way...
really afraid tat those friends she know are out to "eat" her up....
hai~!
i'm too kpo
since she wants it that way, so be it..
for you, just keep in contact as a fren, not for FB anymore..since you can be sure that she's safe..
based on your describition, perhaps she's in her prime right?
18-23...
when she becomes much older, than good luck, her sex appeal will drop by than..
i wish that you find your other half..
Good Luck -
i not some almighty angel..
put urself in my shoe...
the gal/guy u deeply in love in in financal problem.. would u just dun care about it?
just wanted to tell u all... there are still good guys out there.... -
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I would care about it if I could afford it...Originally posted by trainman:i not some almighty angel..
put urself in my shoe...
the gal/guy u deeply in love in in financal problem.. would u just dun care about it?
just wanted to tell u all... there are still good guys out there....
As u mentioned, u also feel a bit taken for granted and u can barely afford it...
Relationship is not charity... Both parties have to work together to solve problems.
Flip the equation around. If u broke now, do u expect her to give u money??? -
hai...
what is love...
charity?? haha -
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Nice one.Originally posted by CX:I would care about it if I could afford it...
As u mentioned, u also feel a bit taken for granted and u can barely afford it...
Relationship is not charity... Both parties have to work together to solve problems.
Flip the equation around. If u broke now, do u expect her to give u money???
That's what a lot of people committed as one of the mistakes..
TS: you really need to consider about your situation. -
how long u had been with her?
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haha... finally realise on of the friend she going out with is my so call "brother "for 8-9 years..
really make me wonder why she has to say she go out with her friend instead of she going out with my "brother"... hmm ... clever tat i found out about tat ... nah.. i feel like a completely fool.... -
bro, jus get on and start anew again. yes, her family is having finiacial problem, but are u that welloff to support her n her family? with ur 1.2k pay? i doubt so, 700 of expenses for her + 250 for her mom, that left u mayb ur transport expenses?
think, issit worth it all this while? is there a better way out, mayb u will feel better. sex is not everythin, i believe u will get sick of it 1 day. gdluck and take care
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ask he buzz off..
break liao still give her allowance for wat? -
it's not about the sex now....
just found out that my "brother" has been going with with her whereas she label him as "her friend"... think i really got to give upon her or better... forget about her..
btw i still lend her money since the break up... should i be a bastard and ask her return me or.. be a stupid asshole and tell her don't have to return me?? -
no body wants to say anything now??
haha
poor me...
stupid and a fool