Regrets.... Pls advise....
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Hi guys. I'm a newbie here, currently servin NS. Couple of months to ORD. I really need some advice here.I got to know this girl thru my penpal at her birthday bash. We got together and that was the time I enlisted to the army. Although we only met up on the weekends,we never felt any gap between the 2 of us. Just 3 weeks b4 my POP, she left back to Jak to visit her family.I saw her off with tears in my eyes at the airport, in my smart 4, jus b4 I booked in. I told her to call me when she reached home. The call never came. I spent the whole sun nite waitin for her call and whole wk of riskin confinement carryin my hp where ever i go. Still no call yet. When i booked out, somethin jus snapped n I went to GL, together wif my friends. A wk later, my friend told me that she wanted to break off wif me cos of parents' objection. I was truly devasted. Jus recently tt I found out that she knew abt the GL thing. That's why she broke off wif me. Futhermore all this while I've been thinkin that she like my friend cos she did call me up to ask me wat r the chances of she n my friend gettin together after we broke off. It was jus a cover-up. To make me blame her and hate her. Jus cos of she didn't wan me 2 know that she knows abt the GL visit.
To me, I can't face her now. Too shameful to do so. Deep inside somewhere, I know that I still love her very much n wan to spend my life wif her. Wat should I do. I've betrayed her trust.
Seriously speakin, I never have sex that nite at GL. All in my mind was her. After that I bulls*** my friend and told him sex was great. She called my friend n someone beside his hp blurted out that i with a pro now. He did try to cover up but... I deserved to get dumped.
So guys, I really need yr advice. U can call me a s***head, d***head, a p***y, a w**p, an a**hole and all sorts of names but I really need some advuce now. Should I face up to reality n 4get abt her or do wat I can do to win her back? To this friend of mine who i miscuely hated wif my ex, Sorry Bro. It was afterall me that I should hate... -
It is sad to hear what happen... i really dunno what i should advise... as long as u still have feelings for her.. go for it.. because going to GL..n being misunderstood by your gf... i guess its not easy to explain to her..even though if u really didn't 'do' with a pros.. i guess gals will not believe u. Maybe when she cooled down, try calling her..talk to her.. n see if e relationship can be salvaged..
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Wat can I do abt it? I've no guts to face her, let alone call her. I wrote to her explainin abt the GL thing a month ago. She knows but she ain't comin back. I really dun know wat to do...
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wat can i say pal. you made the decision and took the wrong path.
it is very hard to change the mindset of the girl since you have betrayed her trust, and only you will know how screwed up the current situation is.
try calling her out to talk over this issue. try giving her flower on her way back home.
if those methods are still not effective, i reckon you respect her decision for not wanting to be with you. after all, you did made the wrong move and you know that. -
Well, how to get this working? I can't even dare to face her now...
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hahaha. thats a psychological barrier you gotta overcome yourself. nobody can help you with that.
we can come up with all sorta techniques and methods, but it is how you execute it.
give it a shot, dude. you got nothing to lose. -
if u really love her and want her to come back to u.. u have to do what u should do... u have to face her... if she is not coming back n u really cherish her so much... u might wanna try flying over n look for her.. to show her how serious u are into talking things out.. it all depends on u now.. u have to overcome your fears..Originally posted by axl_rose:Well, how to get this working? I can't even dare to face her now... -
To GIJOE n WWW: ANy ways to overcome this barrier? I'm at my wits n have no idea wat to do next. Goin to ORD n still not happy at all.... Miserable is the word to use...
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errr.. i guess the key point u should note here is you got nothing to lose.
if you do what you should do, at least your regrets in the later part of your life will be lightened, given that things dont turn out right. -
Come on get ur fucking bum moving and get her back...
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Originally posted by www:
Maybe u r rite. Need to do wat a guy needs to do. Well, I've been thru Tekong. Wat's can be worse than that? It's been almost 2 years n I can't 4get her.
errr.. i guess the key point u should note here is [b]you got nothing to lose.
if you do what you should do, at least your regrets in the later part of your life will be lightened, given that things dont turn out right.[/b]
May I find my courage back to face her again
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this is one uphill road u're taking.
remember it's not wat she knows... it's wat she BELIEVES. -
Where on Earth can I find my courage back?
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I really dun know she bought tt story of mine. Maybe she never get to read my letter and tore it up. No one in his or her rite mind will buy my story rite? Go to a rm and paid 40 bucks to a GL pro and never had sex wif her? I dun believe myself either...Originally posted by jOhO:this is one uphill road u're taking.
remember it's not wat she knows... it's wat she BELIEVES. -
Look guys.. I loggin off now. Need to be in camp by 6 tomolo. Pls keep those advices comin. I really need to say a big THANK YOU to those that have posted their msg here. Hopefully I can have a better view of wat I'm gonna do at the end of the day. Once again, Thanks....
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Now it doesn't matter whether she believes u anot.. u hafta have confidence in yourself if u wanna get her back... one thing.. its been 2 years.. do u still have contact with her? cause 2 years is not a short time.. do u know if she still got feelings for u? i mean not because she still hates u for that incident.. what i meant is she still likes u? u hafta know that... if not no point wasting your time going there to explain things when she already has forgotten about it n move on with her life..
e truth always hurts.. just be prepared yourself for e worst..thats what i can advise u. Do what u think u should do n go all out.. but think before u do..don't be rush over such things..
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Hey u a man u think the fucking letter is useful? What u need to do is find her and tell her... Dun regret cos u miss once u lose it forever...Originally posted by axl_rose:Look guys.. I loggin off now. Need to be in camp by 6 tomolo. Pls keep those advices comin. I really need to say a big THANK YOU to those that have posted their msg here. Hopefully I can have a better view of wat I'm gonna do at the end of the day. Once again, Thanks.... -
Sorry to hear what had happened but it's ok doing something wrong is ok , to realize you have done wrong is the most important.
Good for you man.
OK, for now the situation is you gotta find out whether if she still had heart for you, do all you can re-woo her again. Dun say you dun have courage la, duno how to face her la , just stop that, those are excuses you are giving yourself. Ask yourself, do you really want her, if you want, fight for it, call her, talk things over, discuss, understand the situation and your chances.
Let fate leads the way la, do what you can, what you can think of, if things still can't get back to what it use to be, my friend, it's ok man, Life goes on ............. BUT dun , dun ever regret too badly on the thing u done in GL that it changes your original personality and live in regrets ........... dun live in regrets man, ppl make mistakes it's ok one ..... for a girl u need to re-woo her again, that means start all over again as a brand new you, let her know that, and ask her, can we start all over again ? That now you have realize you are wrong to do such a thing and see what did she say lor .......
Talk things out, no point delaying things regretting and feel sad rite ? Steady man ~~~~~ you can do it one !!
Good luck !!
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I felt alot for your situation.
My advise is, get real in life. Have you done pharachute jumping before? I think you did....it's just like - you know you got to jump but scared of many things. FEAR... i believe you've got to do what you've got to do. You may not know what she's thinking right? She might be thinking the same way as you are doing now... Listen...if you're going to continue doing this...you won't be free.
But you got to set her free, do whatever you want, tell her how you feel. But if you think there's no hope for the both of you and if you love her, wish her well...all her life.
Think about it...true love waits...it hurts but it does not harm.
Just like what
Rick Price sung "If you really love her, you've got to set her free"
Jay Zhou's Kai Bu Liao Kuo - is for you my friend.
I wish you well. Sigh -
How to overcome the fear n the sh** feeling in me rite now? I'm not givin myself excuses to face this fact. The thing is that cos of not wantin me to know that she knew abt the GL visit and broke off wif me, she came up wif this idea of lettin me blame her for havin a likin towards my friend which is bot the case. U know how bad does that feel? A girl, jus to hide yr wrongdoin', broke up wif u and made u think that's it's all her fault all along. I feel like a pile of s***, u know? How to face her? It's not that I lack the guts or balls if u wanna call it;it's that I still love her but after I found out abt the truth after a year plus for the real reason of breakin up, U know how bad I was hit by the damn thing? All this while I'm been blamin her and now I know I have no one else to blame but me. Well, change that blame to hate is the rite word to use...Originally posted by Mike Kezowski:Sorry to hear what had happened but it's ok doing something wrong is ok , to realize you have done wrong is the most important.
Good for you man.
OK, for now the situation is you gotta find out whether if she still had heart for you, do all you can re-woo her again. Dun say you dun have courage la, duno how to face her la , just stop that, those are excuses you are giving yourself. Ask yourself, do you really want her, if you want, fight for it, call her, talk things over, discuss, understand the situation and your chances.
Let fate leads the way la, do what you can, what you can think of, if things still can't get back to what it use to be, my friend, it's ok man, Life goes on ............. BUT dun , dun ever regret too badly on the thing u done in GL that it changes your original personality and live in regrets ........... dun live in regrets man, ppl make mistakes it's ok one ..... for a girl u need to re-woo her again, that means start all over again as a brand new you, let her know that, and ask her, can we start all over again ? That now you have realize you are wrong to do such a thing and see what did she say lor .......
Talk things out, no point delaying things regretting and feel sad rite ? Steady man ~~~~~ you can do it one !!
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If thats e case.. from what i see is that she is hurt..she doesnt hate u..thats y she lied n cover your wrong doings.. so if u are still thinking about her.. go get her.. if u don't, then u are really a piece of shit.. miracles will not happen... do what u should do.. if u miss it..... u might regret for your life.. at least do have a good talk with her.. clarify things... if it works again..then congrats but if it doesn't work..then u gotta face e fact.. but at least u did your best...rather then just thinking about e whole thing n doing nothing... u are just wasting time... your time or mayb your happiness..Originally posted by axl_rose:How to overcome the fear n the sh** feeling in me rite now? I'm not givin myself excuses to face this fact. The thing is that cos of not wantin me to know that she knew abt the GL visit and broke off wif me, she came up wif this idea of lettin me blame her for havin a likin towards my friend which is bot the case. U know how bad does that feel? A girl, jus to hide yr wrongdoin', broke up wif u and made u think that's it's all her fault all along. I feel like a pile of s***, u know? How to face her? It's not that I lack the guts or balls if u wanna call it;it's that I still love her but after I found out abt the truth after a year plus for the real reason of breakin up, U know how bad I was hit by the damn thing? All this while I'm been blamin her and now I know I have no one else to blame but me. Well, change that blame to hate is the rite word to use...
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Any way I can start this going?Originally posted by GIJOE:If thats e case.. from what i see is that she is hurt..she doesnt hate u..thats y she lied n cover your wrong doings.. so if u are still thinking about her.. go get her.. if u don't, then u are really a piece of shit.. miracles will not happen... do what u should do.. if u miss it..... u might regret for your life.. at least do have a good talk with her.. clarify things... if it works again..then congrats but if it doesn't work..then u gotta face e fact.. but at least u did your best...rather then just thinking about e whole thing n doing nothing... u are just wasting time... your time or mayb your happiness.. -
Thanks to all that have lend me their ears...
The main prob now is that after all this, I really wan to woo her back. The main prob is that I really dun know how I gonna face her. I know that if I dun do anythin abt it, I'll have this regret till the day I cease to exist. I dun wanna live a life of regrets but I really have no bloody idea wat to do next; how to face her; how to stop feeling that i'm a total d***head to let a girl like her drift out of my life. Pls guys... Do help me. I know I'm a sissy to air my problem here and act like a p***y but this is the last resort. Pls.... -
Since its been so long.. is she overseas? or in SG? if she is overseas.. mayb u can write her an e-mail or letter 'test water' 1st. If she is in SG, then mayb u can give her a call.. if u don't dare then mayb u can write a letter/e-mail too... sms also can..just to see how she react... u must overcome your fear of facing her...Originally posted by axl_rose:Thanks to all that have lend me their ears...
The main prob now is that after all this, I really wan to woo her back. The main prob is that I really dun know how I gonna face her. I know that if I dun do anythin abt it, I'll have this regret till the day I cease to exist. I dun wanna live a life of regrets but I really have no bloody idea wat to do next; how to face her; how to stop feeling that i'm a total d***head to let a girl like her drift out of my life. Pls guys... Do help me. I know I'm a sissy to air my problem here and act like a p***y but this is the last resort. Pls....
i used to be like u... dunno how to face my ex after we broke off... there is this fear within me... i don't even dare to go places that she frequent... we lost contact for about 1 year plus.. then she contact me again.. i was reluctant to meet her at first..dunno how to react or what to do ( she's attached now ).. after e 1st meeting, we kinda keep in touch again... i feel that at least u keep in touch with her... u can be there for her whenever she needs u... rather than avoid each other..
So u should contact her at least..find out how she's doing.. if u don't wanna be too hush.. stay as friends... as long as u still keep in touch with her... your chance is there.. don't give up hope..face your fears...overcome them...move on..don't stop yourself from progressing...Good luck pal
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Originally posted by GIJOE:Since its been so long.. is she overseas? or in SG? if she is overseas.. mayb u can write her an e-mail or letter 'test water' 1st. If she is in SG, then mayb u can give her a call.. if u don't dare then mayb u can write a letter/e-mail too... sms also can..just to see how she react... u must overcome your fear of facing her...
i used to be like u... dunno how to face my ex after we broke off... there is this fear within me... i don't even dare to go places that she frequent... we lost contact for about 1 year plus.. then she contact me again.. i was reluctant to meet her at first..dunno how to react or what to do ( she's attached now ).. after e 1st meeting, we kinda keep in touch again... i feel that at least u keep in touch with her... u can be there for her whenever she needs u... rather than avoid each other..
So u should contact her at least..find out how she's doing.. if u don't wanna be too hush.. stay as friends... as long as u still keep in touch with her... your chance is there.. don't give up hope..face your fears...overcome them...move on..don't stop yourself from progressing...Good luck pal 
Mine didn't work out like yours. Her boyfriend dislike the idea of us getting back together as friend. After 3 years of not contacting one another...me met again, our friendship ended in three weeks time. Cos her boyfriend bought her a ring and ask her to go into engagement. Too bad...we ended cos i'm seen as a third party. I'm okie now!
Rose_Axl: Pls act ok? Don't talk so much liaoz.
Waste time ah! Got to go and cheong liaoz
Regret is a cut, a huge wound in the heart....Don't let it happen time and again Gambate neh?