Regrets.... Pls advise....
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Originally posted by M©+square:
There are times i heard rumours bout my ex gettin ROM too.. my heart really sank.... i know she still hav a bit of feelings for me.. thru e conversations.. when we go out... still very much like old times... i guess coz she's attached now... mayb she's afraid that we might break up again... i dunno... but i really L--E her... (sorry not for your ears..lol
Mine didn't work out like yours. Her boyfriend dislike the idea of us getting back together as [b]friend. After 3 years of not contacting one another...me met again, our friendship ended in three weeks time. Cos her boyfriend bought her a ring and ask her to go into engagement. Too bad...we ended cos i'm seen as a third party. 
I'm okie now! 
Rose_Axl: Pls act ok? Don't talk so much liaoz.
Waste time ah! Got to go and cheong liaoz
Regret is a cut, a huge wound in the heart....Don't let it happen time and again Gambate neh?
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Same same...she asked me if i'm affected by what her boyfriend did when he bought her a ring.Originally posted by GIJOE:There are times i heard rumours bout my ex gettin ROM too.. my heart really sank.... i know she still hav a bit of feelings for me.. thru e conversations.. when we go out... still very much like old times... i guess coz she's attached now... mayb she's afraid that we might break up again... i dunno... but i really L--E her... (sorry not for your ears..lol )
I was silent...what to say. She not mine anyway...
She shot a heartbreakng question "if all this werent have happened...would we still be together?"
Then i know that's it, i couldn't cause a break up between my ex and her engineer(highly paid, steady job) boyfriend.... I have to bless them and leave her.
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I'm ok wif that. Well, at first I did try o send her emails and letters when we were in the first few months of the breakup (or should I put it - being dumped) but all my e-mails to her various account are rejected and all the letters r all unreplied. I've no hope at all, rite?Originally posted by GIJOE:There are times i heard rumours bout my ex gettin ROM too.. my heart really sank.... i know she still hav a bit of feelings for me.. thru e conversations.. when we go out... still very much like old times... i guess coz she's attached now... mayb she's afraid that we might break up again... i dunno... but i really L--E her... (sorry not for your ears..lol ) -
Go and look for her...meet up and talk. Don't give up just like that can or not? Otherwise really regret man.Originally posted by axl_rose:I've no hope at all, rite? -
In that case... just go n look for her if u can... that's e best..mayb she has already forgiven u... but its been a long time liao n u 2 never keep in touch.. i don't think she will take e initiative to call u... so just look for her.. n see how its goes...Originally posted by axl_rose:I'm ok wif that. Well, at first I did try o send her emails and letters when we were in the first few months of the breakup (or should I put it - being dumped) but all my e-mails to her various account are rejected and all the letters r all unreplied. I've no hope at all, rite?
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I support ah JOE! o/Originally posted by GIJOE:In that case... just go n look for her if u can... that's e best..mayb she has already forgiven u... but its been a long time liao n u 2 never keep in touch.. i don't think she will take e initiative to call u... so just look for her.. n see how its goes... 
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Guys, thanks for the encoragement. U think is there still a chance for me after all this s*** that has happened between the both of us?
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hallo. you same name as me har... we both gnr fans... don't say I never help you...Originally posted by axl_rose:Guys, thanks for the encoragement. U think is there still a chance for me after all this s*** that has happened between the both of us?
as an insurance man... I spend my lifetime convincing people... like what you need to do now...
First rule of convincing: Nothing is ever achieved over the phone, email or SMS...
Your first job is not to think of how to get her back but to get her out to meet you!! by hook or crook!
Only when you meet face to face can your expression and feelings be effectively transmitted to her and convince her. Convincing is 90% emotions and 10% logic.
wait for her downstairs... whole day... afterall army sibeh eng one lah... best is AWOL for her.... then when she finally see you... you'll be carried off by Military Police... then you struggle.... drama sia... haha.... -
Bro, drama part out of the question cos I ORD soon. The last thing I want to do is extend my ORD date. Nevertheless, if all things fail, I may try yr idea. No pain, no gain and no regrets......Originally posted by Axl:hallo. you same name as me har... we both gnr fans... don't say I never help you...
as an insurance man... I spend my lifetime convincing people... like what you need to do now...
First rule of convincing: Nothing is ever achieved over the phone, email or SMS...
Your first job is not to think of how to get her back but to get her out to meet you!! by hook or crook!
Only when you meet face to face can your expression and feelings be effectively transmitted to her and convince her. Convincing is 90% emotions and 10% logic.
wait for her downstairs... whole day... afterall army sibeh eng one lah... best is AWOL for her.... then when she finally see you... you'll be carried off by Military Police... then you struggle.... drama sia... haha....
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axl_rose, i understand what u r going thru now. let me paraphrase your situation.. Both of you were very happy together (MEMORIES) until both broke up. After a year or so, & out of sudden, u finally understood & knew the underlying cause/ reason for separation. Yr heart breaks, regret & blame yrself for being silly that u should have realise it earlier.
Ok now the reason behind everything seems to be your fault. If she really left u for the other guy(your fren), or it might just be an excuse for the GL thing, either two she had all reasons to "breakup" so that she wouldn't feel guilty herself. Becoz of these 2 excuses she gave herself, she could let go everything without any regrets or hope in the relationship. Whats worst now is that u accidentally realised the truth. At this pt u would feel that u r not good enough for her becoz of the things u have done in the past( but in fact it was a misunderstanding).
So what can u do now? U might want to start all over again. If u try & managed to contact her, try not to dwell at and explain those things that had happened in the past( keep it later). pretend that nth has happened 1st & start all over, start fresh.
If she's still reluctant to listen yr calls or talk to u for long..or u think u have really tried your best but she's just not interested, then u really have to end there and put a full stop to everything. Just tell yrself this, it's not that u aren't good for her, it's the opposite, she's just not for you. sometimes girls can let go and forget everything easier than guys do..we guys just hang on to the thought that there's still hope. So her feelings aren't as strong as what u r feeling now. sumtimes it is also not wise to look back..just let it be, those past memories..time has changed, things might not be the same if both of u are together again..
Hope that u read the things mentioned above carefully and also the decisions u make. All the best.. -
U really did read my mind... Wat u have jus said is very true. Sometimes, it's really hard to do some things that u know u got to do. I have lots of very good memories back then... How we shared our first kiss, how she said I Love u to me, wat she told me abt she stayin in singapore and not goin to aus for me... endless memory flashback keeps on comin back to me every now and then... It's really hard to let go.Originally posted by highflyer:axl_rose, i understand what u r going thru now. let me paraphrase your situation.. Both of you were very happy together (MEMORIES) until both broke up. After a year or so, & out of sudden, u finally understood & knew the underlying cause/ reason for separation. Yr heart breaks, regret & blame yrself for being silly that u should have realise it earlier.
Ok now the reason behind everything seems to be your fault. If she really left u for the other guy(your fren), or it might just be an excuse for the GL thing, either two she had all reasons to "breakup" so that she wouldn't feel guilty herself. Becoz of these 2 excuses she gave herself, she could let go everything without any regrets or hope in the relationship. Whats worst now is that u accidentally realised the truth. At this pt u would feel that u r not good enough for her becoz of the things u have done in the past( but in fact it was a misunderstanding).
So what can u do now? U might want to start all over again. If u try & managed to contact her, try not to dwell at and explain those things that had happened in the past( keep it later). pretend that nth has happened 1st & start all over, start fresh.
If she's still reluctant to listen yr calls or talk to u for long..or u think u have really tried your best but she's just not interested, then u really have to end there and put a full stop to everything. Just tell yrself this, it's not that u aren't good for her, it's the opposite, she's just not for you. sometimes girls can let go and forget everything easier than guys do..we guys just hang on to the thought that there's still hope. So her feelings aren't as strong as what u r feeling now. sumtimes it is also not wise to look back..just let it be, those past memories..time has changed, things might not be the same if both of u are together again..
Hope that u read the things mentioned above carefully and also the decisions u make. All the best.. -
poor guy....
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Thoughts
Don't find love, let love find you.
That's why it's called falling in love
because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall.
Once you accept someone for who and what
they really are, they will surprise you
by being better than you ever expected.
LOVE is loving/accepting a person with all
his/her strength and weaknesses.
Lucky is the man who is the first love of a
woman but luckier is the woman who
is the last love of a man.
When two friends fall in love they learn they
are meant for each other.
When they fall out of love they
realize they want to keep each other forever.
Find time to realize that there is one person
who mean so much to you,for you might wake up
one morning losing that person who you
thought meant nothing to you.
Love is seeing yourself through someone's eyes
and finding yourself in somebody's heart.
Once you have loved,you will always love.
For what's in your mind may escape but
what's in your heart will remain forever.
A ball is a circle,no beginning,no end. It
keeps us together like your circle of friends.
But the treasure inside, for you to see,
is the treasure of friendship you've given to me.
Letting go has never been easy and holding on
can be as difficult. Yet strengths measured
not by holding on but by letting go.
True LOVE doesn't have a happy ending, that's
because true love doesn't have an ending.
Men vs. women: Men would rather sacrifice
love to conquer the world. Women would
rather give up the world just to be with
someone worth the sacrifice.
Decision should not be the choice of your heart
or mind but a sensible balancing of both.
Some thoughts are better left unsaid, some
feelings are better left kept to yourself, but
love has it's way of expressing
itself despite the silence.
The happier the memory, the deeper it hurts.
There are so many stars in the sky only some
are radiant enough to be noticed. Among those you
choose to ignore is the one which was willing to shine
for you forever even if your glance remained elsewhere.
It breaks your heart to see the one you love is
happy with someone else... but it's more painful to know
that the one you love is unhappy with you. -
Spending another night alone
Wondering when I'm ever gonna see you again
Thinking what I would give to get you back baby
I should have told you how I felt then
Instead I kept it to myself
I let my love go unexpressed
'Til it was too late, and you walked away
Always assumed that you'd be there
Couldn't foresee the day that you'd ever be leaving me
How could I let my world slip through my hands baby
I took for granted that you knew
All the love I had for you
I guess you never had a clue
'Til it was too late, you walked away
Was it something I didn't say
When I didn't say I love you
Was it words that you've never heard
All those words I should have told you
All those times, all those nights
When I had the chance to
Was it something I didn't say
All the words were in my heart, they went unspoken
Baby now my silent heart, is a heart that's broken
Shoulda let you know you're the one I needed near me
But I never let you hear me -
Wat can I do...
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Originally posted by axl_rose:Wat can I do...
Please do something. After so many people's advice and opinion. They all have encourage you liao. I know it's hard but you got to do what you've got to do. Cannot let it slip liao, don't wallow in self pity, every second every day counts. It's your happiness my friend. I wish you the best. Now please go and do something about it. No more time to cry liao. -
axl_rose, not that i've read yr mind, most guys might at some pt of their live encountered this, including me.. but i could put it down quite quickly..i think guys must have backbone and not always look back as i've elaborated in previous post.Originally posted by axl_rose:U really did read my mind... Wat u have jus said is very true. Sometimes, it's really hard to do some things that u know u got to do. I have lots of very good memories back then... How we shared our first kiss, how she said I Love u to me, wat she told me abt she stayin in singapore and not goin to aus for me... endless memory flashback keeps on comin back to me every now and then... It's really hard to let go.
My case was almost same to yours. after a year i happened to tidy my desk 1day..at one corner was all the letters, diarys & photos that i always afraid to touch coz it will remind me of the past..somehow 1 letter which looked so ordinary in the past suddenly made so much sense to me and showed me the answer to what happened that day..i felt the same as u do..i wanted to call her again. it took me a few days to look 4 her contact number..but when i called, it wasnt the same anymore..
Even after we broke up 4 few months, she was still waiting and she tried all ways to pass me her hp number but i was then not interested anymore..somehow wasn't serious when i called, that was the 2nd chance but....haiz i juz threw it away
today there's no more 3rd chance ..since she's happy, i'll juz let it be..she lives 26 mrt stations away from me, almost impossible to meet her on the street ..calling her doesnt help at all..if i were to be given the 3rd chance 1 day, i'll cherish it, coz it's really fate.. -
Thanks a lot. It's so much clearer now.Originally posted by highflyer:axl_rose, not that i've read yr mind, most guys might at some pt of their live encountered this, including me.. but i could put it down quite quickly..i think guys must have backbone and not always look back as i've elaborated in previous post.
My case was almost same to yours. after a year i happened to tidy my desk 1day..at one corner was all the letters, diarys & photos that i always afraid to touch coz it will remind me of the past..somehow 1 letter which looked so ordinary in the past suddenly made so much sense to me and showed me the answer to what happened that day..i felt the same as u do..i wanted to call her again. it took me a few days to look 4 her contact number..but when i called, it wasnt the same anymore..
Even after we broke up 4 few months, she was still waiting and she tried all ways to pass me her hp number but i was then not interested anymore..somehow wasn't serious when i called, that was the 2nd chance but....haiz i juz threw it away
today there's no more 3rd chance ..since she's happy, i'll juz let it be..she lives 26 mrt stations away from me, almost impossible to meet her on the street ..calling her doesnt help at all..if i were to be given the 3rd chance 1 day, i'll cherish it, coz it's really fate.. -
rite..where is she? singapore or australia?
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singaporeOriginally posted by crokz22:rite..where is she? singapore or australia? -
Hi... I'm back. Well, I did managed to try to call her. Then I found out that the no. I dialed is not in use. Great! Wat to do... Wat to do... God don't even want to give me a helpin hand.
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nv c u giv mi flowers b4 leh. . .Originally posted by www:wat can i say pal. you made the decision and took the wrong path.
it is very hard to change the mindset of the girl since you have betrayed her trust, and only you will know how screwed up the current situation is.
try calling her out to talk over this issue. try giving her flower on her way back home.
if those methods are still not effective, i reckon you respect her decision for not wanting to be with you. after all, you did made the wrong move and you know that.
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but actually u got do sex wif the ger in GL ant? if u dun hv den no ned to fear juz explain to her lor
but i knw it going to b v hard coz no ger like their bf go tis type of plc i think she muz b v disappointed. . .
but duno lar mayb u can try to win her back true sincerity & persistence. . . -
hahaha. you like simi flowers? roses?Originally posted by Si|verGer:nv c u giv mi flowers b4 leh. . . -
Hopefully...Originally posted by Si|verGer:but actually u got do sex wif the ger in GL ant? if u dun hv den no ned to fear juz explain to her lor
but i knw it going to b v hard coz no ger like their bf go tis type of plc i think she muz b v disappointed. . .
but duno lar mayb u can try to win her back true sincerity & persistence. . .