sigh wat to do? to go on or to give up
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Yang Guo...
It does make a diff...if she sleep when shes not wif u yet..
and if she sleeps when u r wif her..
it make alot of hell diff...
tat means she doesnt care abt u n let other ppl have her body instead....dun u think shes not respecting u?I mean...HOW CAN U ACCEPT TAT?Yr name reali suit u well...and even xiaolongnu has a reason to sleep wif the guy cos she thought its yang guo...but this case is not same...she sleep knowing tat its wrong and all....
sigh..guys nowadays treat sex so easily...or is it tat im very oldfashioned? -
imagine one of the guy she sleep wif is ur friend how?
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let her go
u deserve better...
i feel that u shld start loving urself -
hey fellas... i read all ur replies
i just didn't really know myself well enough to give a confirmed reply about what i would do
its been one week already since the incident. yeah, she slept with someone else while she was with me.
she's remorseful, and begged me to forgive her
i can forgive her, but up till now, i can't erase that hurt i feel inside
we are still together, yes, i tried to give her another chance. people make mistakes.
she wasn't drunk, she was sober. but she didn't really want to have sex with the guy
YET, i just can't understand WHY THE HELL she must put herself in that sort of situation
ALONE WITH HIM AT NIGHT IN THE HOUSE, she must have known something like that would happen, but yet she still went ahead and walked right into that
we are still together, but everything's changed. maybe we won't be together for long -
i could never just have a sexual relationship with her and just move on.
frankly i think i respect her more than she respects herself...
i feel so cheated of everything, i can't help but think that all that she told me, all that she promised me was all just a lie
right now, we're more together bcoz i'm still undecided rather than becoz i've accepted what has happened and forgave her. -
i know the guy whom she slept with
not friends, but i've seen him, talked to him once
that guy is a pervert, taking advantage of a girl 10 years younger than him
even b4 we got together she already wasn't a virgin, but i could accept that, i really didn't mind coz everybody has a past
but this is really a stab in the back, a slap in the face -
Yea give her a chance.
But if you still feel something has changed after awhile
you shld dump her
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Sleeping with another person during a r/ship with YOU = Betrayal
As I was reading the replies of many pple, I got really confused abt how pple think nowadays....
Coz how one may perceive things is based on the analytical ability together with one's beliefs & values *shake head*
This issue isnt abt whole-heartedly loving the person's or juz after her body (a regular sex partner) though it may seem to be. That's confusion. It's abt the ACTION (having sex) of his gf a desirable move? Of coz, many may rebute that if he loves her alot, then he shld forgive her. Guess it's not that simple, a BETRAYAL is as good as destroying the trust btwn the 2 pple.
However, that's juz my opinion. Wo you jin sheng jie pi, theefore I can never accept. You maybe able to do so BUT if you are ready to do so, find out the REAL reason of why she still went ahead with bedding the guy. Izzit bcoz of U (problems existed btwn U2, this is an escapism for her?) or purely LUST (to me, unforgivable
) Find out the reason whether to move on with her or to move on in a NEW direction 
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This feeling really sucks ass big time man.....I can imagine goin thru that, must have been pretty hurt huh..
I know this is hard but erm..if I were you, I would cool things off between you n her for the moment. I'm a bit pessimistic over such thingys, so I would think to myself, if she did it to me once..will she do it again?
Take this time to see her reactions, what she is doin to make it up to you, is it for real that she is repenting? Or is it just goin to be temporary....
If she's really turning over a new leaf, I say forgive her man...
Meantime, just cool off a lil'
Jo.
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go and break up with her.. she slept with someone else while she was with you.. why do u still wanna be with her... Besides, u dun even noe if it was the first time she is doing this behind ur back.
Been there, done that... -
the question of 'why did she do it'?
sigh... i can't really understand her explanation either. she said she didn't want to do it, and it was the guy who made the move. but if she really didn't want to, she could have rejected him! and she shouldn't even have put herself in that kind of situation in the first place...
i think she went out with that guy and ended up going to his place bcoz she wanted to flirt... she knew she might end up having sex with him but still continued doing what she did coz she didn't want to 'spoil the fun' of flirting around
we weren't even exactly going thru a rough patch then
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Since im a woman, i can tell you that's LUST. An urge to try new things. You've said that this guy is a pervert, perhaps he did sweet talk to your gal BUT.....the decision was still with herOriginally posted by iloveprettygirls:the question of 'why did she do it'?
sigh... i can't really understand her explanation either. she said she didn't want to do it, and it was the guy who made the move. but if she really didn't want to, she could have rejected him! and she shouldn't even have put herself in that kind of situation in the first place...
i think she went out with that guy and ended up going to his place bcoz she wanted to flirt... she knew she might end up having sex with him but still continued doing what she did coz she didn't want to 'spoil the fun' of flirting around
we weren't even exactly going thru a rough patch then
but NOW we are...
That was it. U decide.
She managed to 'wake up' from her mistake by admitting her fault showed that she was sincere with going out with you. Guess juz too late that the mishap took place. You need not doubt her feelings for you coz she cld have kept quiet abt the whole thing yet she din. It's now for you to decide if you can ignore the whole thing & rebuild the trust btwn U2 again of otherwise. -
IF ONLY that were true.Originally posted by reallieRAW:You need not doubt her feelings for you coz she cld have kept quiet abt the whole thing yet she din. It's now for you to decide if you can ignore the whole thing & rebuild the trust btwn U2 again of otherwise.
i had to find out about it myself, or else i think she would never have told me.
u see, she tells everything to this best friend of hers. and i happen to talk to her best friend a lot too.
i overheard that she stayed overnight outside this once, and i grew suspicious coz she told me nothing about it before, so i asked her best friend about it and she told me everything
but according to her friend, she really regretted the whole thing and was feeling guilty about it even before she told me -
Oopppsss..... :XOriginally posted by iloveprettygirls:IF ONLY that were true.
i had to find out about it myself, or else i think she would never have told me.
u see, she tells everything to this best friend of hers. and i happen to talk to her best friend a lot too.
i overheard that she stayed overnight outside this once, and i grew suspicious coz she told me nothing about it before, so i asked her best friend about it and she told me everything
but according to her friend, she really regretted the whole thing and was feeling guilty about it even before she told me
Then i dunno wat to say liao.....u know yourself better, so make your own decision. Are you able to identify your dilemma? Abt her feelings for you or juz whether you shld forgive her? Or...??? Simplify..... -
If thats the case...then I say forget it bud, its time to move on...Originally posted by iloveprettygirls:IF ONLY that were true.
i had to find out about it myself, or else i think she would never have told me.
u see, she tells everything to this best friend of hers. and i happen to talk to her best friend a lot too.
i overheard that she stayed overnight outside this once, and i grew suspicious coz she told me nothing about it before, so i asked her best friend about it and she told me everything
but according to her friend, she really regretted the whole thing and was feeling guilty about it even before she told me
There are some pretty nice gals around in this forum, maybe you should get to know them..eg. Wendy81, Floppy_Zee, Baby1983...Wes Brown..
Cheer up manz...
Jo.
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it all depends on ur heart n mind.... if u reali mind it alot n feel uncomfortable abt it.... better don b 2gether.... cos the feeling has oredi change... like a crack in the mirror.... no matter hoe good u hide it... there's a crack liao.....Originally posted by iloveprettygirls:long story cut short
gal slpt wif someone else
now pleading for 4giveness
hoW?
would u go on like this?
right now i just feel its just too much to ask
but if u reali still like her alot.... u think ur love for her can overcome all this.... then be 2gether loh.... cos when u love her.... u can 4give her.... -
if u can accept, dun force urself...u will suffer only...
y having a stressful r/s if life is already stressful enuff??... -
Sigh.... it's so obvious... let uncle educate you. Remove the fluff and cut to the pure and simple facts:
1. this girl had sex with other people before having sex with you.
2. this girl had sex with another person when you are together and nothing is wrong with your relationship.
3. If you did not find out yourself about the situation, she would probably not tell you.
4. She "repented" only after you found out
5. She decided to stay overnight at another guy's house with nobody around... you think she expected to play monopoly?
This is a gone case ....
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Feel Sorry For You Bro...
It's time to move on... did you really love her? Do you think you could live without her?
But i think... you should ask her why? Dont keep it to yourself ... ask her WHY she had to do that and put herself into that kind of situation.
Ask her to be HONEST and confess everything.. Ask her if she enjoyed it? Ask her How long it was... ask her was it better than when you did it... ask her what positions she did...EVERY DETAILS... get the whole thing out of her... and ASK YOURSELF....
Ask her once and for all.... so that if you decide to stay together...u dont pop out the question again. But never take revenge... there's no point.
And if you decide to leave her...at least you know everything about it.
I just watched Boston Public lastnite on StarWorld... they had an episode on one of the teacher's fiance being caught in bed with another guy... -
if i didn't love her at all i wouldn't be in the dilemma i'm in now
if i didn't love her at all i'll just go on using her for sex
she's pretty hot and all
but no, that's not why i'm with her.
she's totally special to me, altho yeah i knew about her flirty nature all along, but she's still really unique and dearly beloved
i don't really know how things will go on from here, i'm afraid to trust her or believe anything she says anymore
if i asked her about everything, whether or not she enjoyed it and all, what's the point? she might just tell me a lie to comfort me.
i don't need that, really
i don't know where i'm going to find trust in her again
i talked to her yesterday and told her all that i felt
she listened silently
and at the end she told me
"i don't blame u for what u're feeling now. its really all my fault. i know guilt is the last thing u want, but i really do feel very guilty for putting u thru all this. i really want you to forgive me but i guess its really hard to ask" -
You should ask her all what ive asked you to ask her...
Itll help in the long run... cause one day... u'll want the answers to all this question... and its better you get the answers now than later when all is forgotten...if she lies, she aint worth it. Tell her to be honest be with ya... because, what you need is all the facts to make a decision. Dont just go with feelings alone...
Well, if she really felt sorry about all that and she wants you back.. tell her not to be flirty anymore. As a man, i think you should have more control of her. Tell her you dont want history to repeat itself...
By taking her back.. you prove that you love her and willing to put history behind. JUST PRAY and HOPE she reads and knows your feeling.
If you love her bro... stay with her..swallow your pride and forgive her.
Good Luck Bro...