what if u find out u r e 3rd party?
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Please dun break up a relationship cos it will only bring pain to all 3 person...speaking from experience here...not tat I'm the 3rd party, but in the end, there's 3 scenerios...
1. The both of them manages to stay together in the end, and you'll be the one who gets hurt..
2. You manages to grab the girl/guy over, but u will think will this person leave u for someone else again...and also, wad abt the other party who suddenly is all alone now because of you...wun u feel guilty?
3. All 3 parties becomes single..meaning tat your presence had caused the couple to break up..but isn't this a lose-lose scenario here? wad's the point?
jus my pt of view la...
Unless the couple breaks up on their own reason, otherwise, even if there may be problems in their relationship, why should u try to do anything to break them up? Cos obviously, even with their problems, the fact is tat they are still together and trying to work things out themselves...shows they still hav hope in their own relationship.. Please dun be the cause of another tradegy.. -
i'd sae follow ur heart... but also must see if she's interested in u anot lah... if she's not... u're probably fighting a losing battle... btw i'm in e same boat too so... just my personal opinion...
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totally agree!Originally posted by browniebaobao:Give up..that's my personal opinion..
If you are thinking of going steay with this person who is attached, think of the consequences first...It will evenutally hurt 3 persons if there is really true feelings involved..
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hmm....nice analysis....me think me really like her for who she is n wants her to be happy too...too bad if i am not e one to give her that happiness but i will stay by her side n be there if n when she needs me....Originally posted by ~GaL~:Please dun break up a relationship cos it will only bring pain to all 3 person...speaking from experience here...not tat I'm the 3rd party, but in the end, there's 3 scenerios...
1. The both of them manages to stay together in the end, and you'll be the one who gets hurt..
2. You manages to grab the girl/guy over, but u will think will this person leave u for someone else again...and also, wad abt the other party who suddenly is all alone now because of you...wun u feel guilty?
3. All 3 parties becomes single..meaning tat your presence had caused the couple to break up..but isn't this a lose-lose scenario here? wad's the point?
jus my pt of view la...
Unless the couple breaks up on their own reason, otherwise, even if there may be problems in their relationship, why should u try to do anything to break them up? Cos obviously, even with their problems, the fact is tat they are still together and trying to work things out themselves...shows they still hav hope in their own relationship.. Please dun be the cause of another tradegy..
it's an inborn characteristic in me....don't give up that easily.... -
I will leave....
I don't like to be no.3... bottomline is if I know the gal is attached, I won't even bother to develop feelings. -
easy to say tuff like give her up n stuff n it really suxs to be e third party but if u r in e situation urself than u really throw all those moralisitic views out e windows.....when ya like someone.....it's hard to deny that feeling...at least that's it for me.....
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How's it going, y'all?
I'll probably be one staunch case against most of y'all. Unless the dude is a friend of mine or even a colleague, I won't step onto his turf. That just ain't kosher. But if I don't know the dude at all, I'm going to do what I think is best for me. I may be generalising here but (hell...) women often don't know what they want. They're not married, I'm single, the rules are fair and square.
To me, all women (except me mum) are replaceable. If a woman cheats on me, she can eat my shyte for all her meals and I still won't take her back. It's up to the girl (for my case) to decide and to stand firm on her loyalty to her man because at the end of the day, it has to be her decision to take the walk on the wild side if she wants. Besides, who ever said anything about having a relationship? If I play my cards right, the lady and I will be seeing more action than the guy. Chuckle...
I know, I know, you're going to call me a pig, a heart breaker, a jackass, whatever. But don't forget, whatever a guy can do, a woman can do better especially for things like this because 1) women are the sexual predators of our race, and 2) they're better manipulators.
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AGREE WITH U ON E PART THAT AS LONG AS E GUY IS NOT SOMEONE I KNOW,I SHOULD GIVE IT MY BEST SHOT......REALLY A CASE OF LET E BEST MAN WIN LOH.....ONLI DIFF IS THAT I WILL TREASURE HER IF SHE CHOOSES ME IN THE END.Originally posted by Possum:How's it going, y'all?
I'll probably be one staunch case against most of y'all. Unless the dude is a friend of mine or even a colleague, I won't step onto his turf. That just ain't kosher. But if I don't know the dude at all, I'm going to do what I think is best for me. I may be generalising here but (hell...) women often don't know what they want. They're not married, I'm single, the rules are fair and square.
To me, all women (except me mum) are replaceable. If a woman cheats on me, she can eat my shyte for all her meals and I still won't take her back. It's up to the girl (for my case) to decide and to stand firm on her loyalty to her man because at the end of the day, it has to be her decision to take the walk on the wild side if she wants. Besides, who ever said anything about having a relationship? If I play my cards right, the lady and I will be seeing more action than the guy. Chuckle...
I know, I know, you're going to call me a pig, a heart breaker, a jackass, whatever. But don't forget, whatever a guy can do, a woman can do better especially for things like this because 1) women are the sexual predators of our race, and 2) they're better manipulators.
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Well, I wouldn't go as far as to treasure or to keep her simply 'cause she's a cheater. If she can cheat on her man with me, I don't think I'd like to start a deep relationship with a cheater. And she's got to know that if she wants to have something with me whilst being with her man. But who knows, right?Originally posted by harryryan:AGREE WITH U ON E PART THAT AS LONG AS E GUY IS NOT SOMEONE I KNOW,I SHOULD GIVE IT MY BEST SHOT......REALLY A CASE OF LET E BEST MAN WIN LOH.....ONLI DIFF IS THAT I WILL TREASURE HER IF SHE CHOOSES ME IN THE END.
Besides, there're heaps of single women (and men for the women) out there. They're the ones that you should start afresh with. You only want to play on someone else's turf because it's human nature to want what you can't have. Isn't it true that women are more attracted to married or attached men and vice versa?
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dun "disrupt" their relationship.....
there might be a day she realise u are a better choice for her...
reallie fate plays an impt part... stay put dun do anything....
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I disagree. A player who knows the rules will know when a woman says no, he backs off. But a player always tries. I believe it is up to the individuals in the relationship to prevent their relationship from being disrupted. It is his decision to get with the other girl or the her decision to get with another guy. The player is simply looking out for himself, nothing more.Originally posted by Lynette80:dun "disrupt" their relationship.....
there might be a day she realise u are a better choice for her...
reallie fate plays an impt part... stay put dun do anything....
remember "if its urs den it will forever be urs, no matter how many obstacles are there"
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Is there no more honour, chivalry and gentlemanly behaviour left in the world?Originally posted by Possum:I disagree. A player who knows the rules will know when a woman says no, he backs off. But a player always tries. I believe it is up to the individuals in the relationship to prevent their relationship from being disrupted. It is his decision to get with the other girl or the her decision to get with another guy. The player is simply looking out for himself, nothing more.
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Whoa there, the Bear...Originally posted by the Bear:Is there no more honour, chivalry and gentlemanly behaviour left in the world?
No one ever said that a player moves in with brute force, bashes the woman over the head and pulls her by her hair back to his cave. Chivalry and gentlemanly ways are tools of any single guy. t's just how well he uses it. And he has a sense of honour as well. He will honour his word when he backs away from the lady.
However, it won't be an honourable act if he's attached or was married and decides to play for he dishonours the trust that his woman has given him.
But what about a woman who tries to lure an attched guy with her charms and sensuality? How many women even know the extent of the word 'honour'? To most women, their honour is just about them., and them only. Do they even think about honour when they try to get their best friend's boyfriend?
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player???me no player lah...me serious about her one or u will not see me post this thread if i was kidding.
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Player... Single guy... Guy with no commitments... Guy out to have fun... Same diff, mate. The point is you're not attached, and you're out searching. Single guy just sounds more... safe, would I dare say?Originally posted by harryryan:player???me no player lah...me serious about her one or u will not see me post this thread if i was kidding.
Players never admit to their ladies that they're player. Maybe some so that the women they get with know what they are getting themselves into. a player is really a guy who's out to have fun, nothing less, nothing more.
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i lnow e language ;ah...it's hip hop lingo....guys =playa ....gals =honey or dollOriginally posted by Possum:Player... Single guy... Guy with no commitments... Guy out to have fun... Same diff, mate. The point is you're not attached, and you're out searching. Single guy just sounds more... safe, would I dare say?
Players never admit to their ladies that they're player. Maybe some so that the women they get with know what they are getting themselves into. a player is really a guy who's out to have fun, nothing less, nothing more.
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Bro harryryan, love is blind or rather selfish....I would not encourage you to continue or discontinue the relationship. Foremost, if you really love her, give her some time n let her make her own decision. Tat will make u feel better tis way n if she choses u, good enough...but if she's not dun bother so much coz it's a saga tat never be achieved in tis such scenario.Originally posted by harryryan:let's say u love this guy or gal alot but u found out he or she is already attached?what will u do?give up or fight on to win his or her heart....it's e sitauation i', im rite now....need so advice...
I was lost once but was found now...I've hardened n pick up the pieces n realised tat everyone's got a life n destiny to lead. At least, she does has wat I dun....emotional consolation.
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i nobody at e moment cos we just gotta know each other n onli started going out last thursday.....but we meet very often......n i really enjoy her company......
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if the gal or guy u chasing is ur fren's gal or guy than how?that one very headache....me think we can dump e gal together n go lim kopi....
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Dude, take it from me. Why spend your entire time proving your worth to one woman when there're heaps out there who will accept you more easily for what you already are. Fight battles that you know you can win, not ones that you reckon you might lose.Originally posted by harryryan:if the gal or guy u chasing is ur fren's gal or guy than how?that one very headache....me think we can dump e gal together n go lim kopi....
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To those who go after gers who are attached....
burn in hell
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Originally posted by TaDA:To those who go after gers who are attached....
burn in hell 
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Whoa there, TaDA (and to everyone actually), don't mean to bust your chops there but I think we all need to read the title heaps better in the first place.Originally posted by TaDA:To those who go after gers who are attached....
burn in hell
It reads 'what if you find out you're the third party.' That literally means 1) you didn't know she was attached in the first place, 2) she's been getting it on with you for some time, and 3) she's being the player here (if you're a person like, say... harryryan, who is serious about it).
I'd amend your statement to something like 'To those who cheat on their partners, burn in hell...' No?
On the other hand, if you just got to know her, she told you she was attached, but you still went ahead with it... then I'd reckon that'd be a wee bit dangerous. Not wrong, just dangerous.
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agree with u...make peace not war man...Originally posted by Possum:Whoa there, TaDA (and to everyone actually), don't mean to bust your chops there but I think we all need to read the title heaps better in the first place.
It reads 'what if you find out you're the third party.' That literally means 1) you didn't know she was attached in the first place, 2) she's been getting it on with you for some time, and 3) she's being the player here (if you're a person like, say... harryryan, who is serious about it).
I'd amend your statement to something like 'To those who cheat on their partners, burn in hell...' No?
On the other hand, if you just got to know her, she told you she was attached, but you still went ahead with it... then I'd reckon that'd be a wee bit dangerous. Not wrong, just dangerous.
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It's dead wrong.
Chivalry is dead.... alas...Originally posted by Possum:On the other hand, if you just got to know her, she told you she was attached, but you still went ahead with it... then I'd reckon that'd be a wee bit dangerous. Not wrong, just dangerous.
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