Infidelity?
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Dear Perky,
Being cheated on is one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. But there is something thatÂ’s worse. And that is not knowing for sure whether or not itÂ’s happening to you. ....You feel sick to your stomach. You spend all of your time thinking about it. You probably eat even less than you sleep. The stress of it all can take over your life! You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on.
Getting cheated on is miserable and one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. IÂ’ve been there and I know. And not knowing for sure if itÂ’s actually happening makes it worse. YouÂ’re sick to your stomach, you feel emotionally exhausted, sexually neglected and your self-esteem is in the pits. You probably eat even less than you sleep. It is one of the worse feelings you will ever experience in your life.
IÂ’ve been there and I know. But I can tell you it doesnÂ’t have to be that way.
2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
The fact is that human beings are not monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.
Do you know what your partner is doing when youÂ’re not with them?
They could be having sex with someone else in the parking lot at work.
They could be in your own home, in bed, lying next to one of your friends that theyÂ’ve just made love to.
They could be talking on the phone to their lover or sending them a sexy email while your kids are playing in the back yard.
If you suspect infidelity in your relationship, youÂ’re half way there. Intuition is one of the most powerful gifts weÂ’ve been given. But itÂ’s not enough by itself.
You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on. Just take everyday by its stride..
Cheers
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*respeCt*Originally posted by Master -_-:Dear Perky,
Being cheated on is one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. But there is something thatÂ’s worse. And that is not knowing for sure whether or not itÂ’s happening to you. ....You feel sick to your stomach. You spend all of your time thinking about it. You probably eat even less than you sleep. The stress of it all can take over your life! You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on.
Getting cheated on is miserable and one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. IÂ’ve been there and I know. And not knowing for sure if itÂ’s actually happening makes it worse. YouÂ’re sick to your stomach, you feel emotionally exhausted, sexually neglected and your self-esteem is in the pits. You probably eat even less than you sleep. It is one of the worse feelings you will ever experience in your life.
IÂ’ve been there and I know. But I can tell you it doesnÂ’t have to be that way.
2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
The fact is that human beings are not monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.
Do you know what your partner is doing when youÂ’re not with them?
They could be having sex with someone else in the parking lot at work.
They could be in your own home, in bed, lying next to one of your friends that theyÂ’ve just made love to.
They could be talking on the phone to their lover or sending them a sexy email while your kids are playing in the back yard.
If you suspect infidelity in your relationship, youÂ’re half way there. Intuition is one of the most powerful gifts weÂ’ve been given. But itÂ’s not enough by itself.
You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on. Just take everyday by its stride..
Cheers
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??Originally posted by smurfieee:*respeCt* -
i salute you....Originally posted by Master -_-:?? -
Originally posted by smurfieee:i salute you....
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i noe it hurts my bf if he suspects or he finds out which is y i have not done anything since the last time which was very very long time ago.... cos i feel guilty abt it...Originally posted by Master -_-:Dear Perky,
Being cheated on is one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. But there is something thatÂ’s worse. And that is not knowing for sure whether or not itÂ’s happening to you. ....You feel sick to your stomach. You spend all of your time thinking about it. You probably eat even less than you sleep. The stress of it all can take over your life! You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on.
Getting cheated on is miserable and one of the most devastating events that can happen in anyoneÂ’s personal life. IÂ’ve been there and I know. And not knowing for sure if itÂ’s actually happening makes it worse. YouÂ’re sick to your stomach, you feel emotionally exhausted, sexually neglected and your self-esteem is in the pits. You probably eat even less than you sleep. It is one of the worse feelings you will ever experience in your life.
IÂ’ve been there and I know. But I can tell you it doesnÂ’t have to be that way.
2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
The fact is that human beings are not monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.
Do you know what your partner is doing when youÂ’re not with them?
They could be having sex with someone else in the parking lot at work.
They could be in your own home, in bed, lying next to one of your friends that theyÂ’ve just made love to.
They could be talking on the phone to their lover or sending them a sexy email while your kids are playing in the back yard.
If you suspect infidelity in your relationship, youÂ’re half way there. Intuition is one of the most powerful gifts weÂ’ve been given. But itÂ’s not enough by itself.
You can continue living your life day to day on the brink of an emotional breakdown, being physically neglected and emotionally abuse by your partner. Or you can put an end to the hell youÂ’ve been living in by finding out for sure whether or not youÂ’re being cheated on. Just take everyday by its stride..
Cheers
but yet i still think bt them (i dun do anything with them now) which i noe i shouldn't.... i noe i'm wrong, i never said i wasn't........
but i dun want to feel this way, i dunno y is it that i feel guilty bt it yet i can't stop myself from thinking bt them especially when i quarrel with my bf......
i noe i'm contradicting myself but my mind is complicated, has always been.........
i'm not using it as n excuse but jus stating a fact.........
i dun like the way i m, the way i think cos like i've said earlier, i've always thought i m a bitch.......
but i can't help it............
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After all this talk i suddenly get the idea that you do not wish to resolve this issue on your own. Feeling guilty abt what u've done is not gonna solve anything. I say u'd better admit everything to your bf and see what's his reaction. If he decides to preserve this r/s then jolly well, if he thinks he can't stand your Ãnfidelity' then i guess you havta call it quits and move on. Saves all the trouble asking ard what to do, and you're not the one who's breaking up the whole thing
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Originally posted by ^PerKy^:i noe it hurts my bf if he suspects or he finds out which is y i have not done anything since the last time which was very very long time ago.... cos i feel guilty abt it...
but yet i still think bt them (i dun do anything with them now) which i noe i shouldn't.... i noe i'm wrong, i never said i wasn't........
but i dun want to feel this way, i dunno y is it that i feel guilty bt it yet i can't stop myself from thinking bt them especially when i quarrel with my bf......
i noe i'm contradicting myself but my mind is complicated, has always been.........
i'm not using it as n excuse but jus stating a fact.........
i dun like the way i m, the way i think cos like i've said earlier, i've always thought i m a bitch.......
but i can't help it............
argh...............
are u sure? -
Watever it is: dun take it TOO hard... & do consider all "factors" ard U & yr BF... do wat U tink is right & best for U & yr BF.Originally posted by ^PerKy^:u have been very nice actualli, i think u did try to think from my point of view....
i'm not saying that NSGT is absolutely wrong, cos there are such cases ard but i m not so....
guess he does not now me that's y he says so...
mayb he went through such an experience that's y he feel so strongly bt it?
i dunno....
anyway thanks for ur advice....
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jus keep thinking i'm a b***h, i've always thought i'm one anyway.......[/b][/quote]
oh come on... you not in the wrong...anyway ppl here r very "add blur"...they never in your shoe they never know la.... talk only mah....everyone oso know..so stop blaming yourself.. just do what you think you r happy to do.... right n wrong just one thin line difference....
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oh come on... you not in the wrong...anyway ppl here r very "add blur"...they never in your shoe they never know la... talk only mah....everyone oso know..so stop blaming yourself.. just do what you think you r happy to do.... right n wrong just one thin line difference....Originally posted by abner:jus keep thinking i'm a b***h, i've always thought i'm one anyway....... [/b][/quote]
Wat he/she/it said is quite true... we never in yr shoes... dats y cannot much understand from yr pt of view. -
I don;t think so. Think alot of girls are like that.Originally posted by ^PerKy^:would u consider liking others guys while being attached as being unfaithful? -
Yeah...finally someone speak the true.... girl and guy r all the same.. so.... just do what you think is right..."YOU NOT LIVING FOR OTHER".....Originally posted by Christy:I don;t think so. Think alot of girls are like that.
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I think.. enough is enough. Perky should know what is right and wrong. The fact that everybody is trying to hand her advice is shows that it is only common sense. If you two-time, for what ever the reason, there is only one outcome. I am not trying to throw dagger @ you but in fact you are already disapproving of yourself in the first place by creating this "help" thread.
There is no right or wrong steps, just kind ones. Just remember whatever steps you take, it will affect you and the people around you, not only your current bf or the 2 guys. People in here can only advise what they think is going on in your life right now, but the best one to handle it is you.
Pls go decide a path and not ask us to advise anymore, it is like getting our approval and giving us responsilities for your actions. Regardless of your age, the fact that you can already distinguish what is right and wrong prove that you are mature enough.
Your current bf sounds fantastic, a gentleman in everyway, and yet you think you are not worthy of him. If he feels that way, you two won't be together in the first place! Most gals would die to have such a bf, what's wrong with u?!
I will not pity you nor am I flaming you even though it sounds that way, but I just don't see what is wrong in your relationship other than what is in your head. Let him love you. Don't reject his love otherwise you will never find peace in any relationship. Let his love heal your past wounds. It's that simple.
I will not comment anymore. People have given you too much respect by trying to help you, not me. Period. -
I think you already have an answer in mind. Don't have to carry on further message. Just purely beating round n round your bushes.
If you like it, just do it loh. Eventually, it's you who's facing and answering to your decisions, not us.
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well, i guess i have not been wanting to face up to my own problem n try to solve it myself.... i'm an escapist..... true n true....
i have to dare to face my own problem n solve it by myself, no one can trully understand wat i want but myself.....
moderator, u can close this topic already..... think there is no longer a need for this...
thanks all, b it for the encouraging or hurting comments, they've all helped in one way or another.......
at least i've learnt............... -
All the best Perky! Difficult choices are what life is all about.. They make it interesting..Originally posted by ^PerKy^:well, i guess i have not been wanting to face up to my own problem n try to solve it myself.... i'm an escapist..... true n true....
i have to dare to face my own problem n solve it by myself, no one can trully understand wat i want but myself.....
moderator, u can close this topic already..... think there is no longer a need for this...
thanks all, b it for the encouraging or hurting comments, they've all helped in one way or another.......
at least i've learnt...............