Do you mind your gf past?
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If a guy find out his gf past, like the following:
1) His gf lost her virgin at a young age
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
3) His gf had ONS before
4) His gf was molested or raped
Does he mind all these? Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past? Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose? -
Originally posted by Christy:
[b]If a guy find out his gf past, like the following:
1) His gf lost her virgin at a young age
wont mind.
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
wont mind.
3) His gf had ONS before
wont mind
4) His gf was molested or raped
wont mind.
Does he mind all these? Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past? Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose?
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yes i mind.............
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i will say no to all...but i now no gf so of course no lah..... but seriously.... at least if truthful i can still accept...hate to be e last guy on earth to know.
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Wun mind ... but at least would like to hear the truth from her
so next time at least in these matters can be more sensitive to her feelings !
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if have sexual relationships with a few ok lah...with all her past relationships...abit loose rite
rape/molest such things not she wan one mah so...dun forgive oso cannot -
no, encountered 1st 3 cases with my ex...
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wah lau.....her life so miserable ah??
if i were the girl i sure go die liao...... -
ah? if what ah san said is true, why shld his gf seek death?
by the way if my gf is molested or raped and she is honest with me, i will love her and protect her even more...Originally posted by lurve:wah lau.....her life so miserable ah??
if i were the girl i sure go die liao...... -
anyway, hope u wun mind n put these behind u.
reason? she is ur gf afterall. the fact tt she is willing to be frank with u shows tt she is serious abt u.Originally posted by ah san:no, encountered 1st 3 cases with my ex... -
Can't answer for 3 & 4 but for 1 & 2...
When I was much younger I do mind~
But as I grow older, no longer...
Maybe coz I begin to understand the fact that when she was with somebody, she did love him just like I myself do love my exs when I was with them...
Though things may not work out in later stages and love fades away but I did truly love them when I was with them. Its not like if things dun work out in the long run, It means that I didn't "truly" love them back when we were together or did I lie even if I said things like I wish I could be with them forever. I did feel so back then. Somehow life is not always so smooth sailing. She loved her ex so she did it with them, just like I did it with mine. So, what is there to mind?
Of coz Idealistically, each person can hv their 'tian chang di jiu' but how often is life so ideal? Like it or not, its not gonna change the fact tt 'it' happened. The only thing one can choose is to let the past pass or dwell on it and affect the r/s. Mind so much then better dun be together.
Cheerz... -
Love her for what she is not who she is~~~~
We love and walked towards the future, we dun look back at the past~~ -
i din mind her past at all...in fact her past is much more complicated ...but we broke up cos she decided that she still loved her ex- bf more...and went back to him...Originally posted by 10cm:anyway, hope u wun mind n put these behind u.
reason? she is ur gf afterall. the fact tt she is willing to be frank with u shows tt she is serious abt u.
reason for?...not minding?
if u really love someone shouldn't u be more concerned abt the present and future of ur relationship?
juz gonna understand that everyone and anyone can make stupid mistakes when they r young, everyone deserves a chance to love and be loved...
i still haf feelings for her even after 2 yrs and still wish her the best in life
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no offense but if that's the case lots of gers r gonna be suicidal...Originally posted by lurve:wah lau.....her life so miserable ah??
if i were the girl i sure go die liao......
if u haf seen the going-ons of life...everything is not all that rosy...m not against anyone cos everyone haf their own choice of lifestlye but the difference lies in the ability to face the consequences of ur actions upfront and truthfully.. -
Yes I would mind.
I'm no Saint.
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lets see.....
1) His gf lost her virgin at a young age
i've given up hopes on finding a virgin...
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
as for having sex with all her ex. well... cant blame her rite? she have sex with u as well and both of u cant be 100% sure that u will be together forever...
3) His gf had ONS before
slut!!!!
4) His gf was molested or raped
poor thing but den again, if she falls prey due to being in a pub drinking wif ppl she dont knows well... serve her rite for wanting free drinks!!
Does he mind all these?
i would and i dont pretend to be a saint.
Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past?
i wont, i will be extremely caring yet, protective and sceptical about her... so dont blame me if i freak her out...
Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose?
even if i thinks that she's decent, i'll still wanna bed her... no choice, hormones are controlling me... human nature? -
I will not mind 1,2,or 4 but 3 is a big no-no to me.
1. losing it at early age is because she is young and wanted to try
2. She through that she love those guys and wanted to develop a better union with them.
4. Those bas***d rapist, would be "cut" off from their manhood. Prevent future this type of act from them.
3. Imagine, she is so free to get ONs, who know when she will Ons other guys if you are not with her.
Been there and felt that, too painful to bear. 
3 is only apply to those "loose" ladies, that prefer lust to serious relationship. Poor us.
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Is she some kinda "goods" or what? She's human!
If you love her, that is her past, what does it matter? Neither you nor her can change that.
It does not matter what she has done in the past, and if you love her, and are planning the future together, as long as she's faithful to you and you alone, what does it matter? If you both commit to the future together, the past ceases to matter. -
Dun you know that past is like a B***, it will come back to haunt you.
Yes, if both parties is devoted to each other, no past does matter. Cause they have each other.
No, if one party is unwilling to give more. Past will creep back into their life, relationship and F*** them up.
Trust me, those guys saying not minding their gf past are typical liars. We do mind, but we learn to accept them as who they are now and before.
In relationship, both parties have to accept each other and not just avoiding their past. Express out your past and let the other party decide if they can accept it or not. That is call Trust -
2 and 3 i will irritated abit
4 i will sad -
everyone has a past..
it's now that matters.. -
The fact that she was willing to tell me about it shows that she is willing to trust me and that is something i would really respect. A relationship has to be based on trust.
If she was raped or molested in the past .. it was not by her choice and instead of putting her down i would try and be more sensitive towards her knowing that she has been thru alot.
It would be alot diff if i found out that she is sleeping with others when with me...but thats a whole new topic -
wah....u so generous ah??Originally posted by 10cm:ah? if what ah san said is true, why shld his gf seek death?
by the way if my gf is molested or raped and she is honest with me, i will love her and protect her even more...
den let ur gf haf sex wif other guys lor.... -
im glad ur a saintOriginally posted by the Bear:Is she some kinda "goods" or what? She's human!
If you love her, that is her past, what does it matter? Neither you nor her can change that.
It does not matter what she has done in the past, and if you love her, and are planning the future together, as long as she's faithful to you and you alone, what does it matter? If you both commit to the future together, the past ceases to matter. -
then if u gf kena raped then u ask her go and die lohOriginally posted by lurve:wah....u so generous ah??
den let ur gf haf sex wif other guys lor....