Do you mind your gf past?
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No man r perfect. that r human nature. There will forever a needle in your heart!Originally posted by soulness:then if u gf kena raped then u ask her go and die loh -
1) His gf lost her virginity at a young age
how young? under 21, I'll look at her and say something like what were you thinking, but then I would'nt really mind. just that I'll be quite disappointed. If 21 or above, I would say that it's ok... in either case I would have prefered if it was her ex-boyfriend(s). If not then I also cannot do anything but I will be quite disappointed too. Wont look at her differently.
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
if she were to have a sexual relationship with me then why not with her ex? if she were NOT to have a sexual relationship with me then I would ask her why... if she gives an honest good reason then I would be very happy. If she gives a disappointing reason then I would be disappointed lah... but at least she's being honest. I might look at her differently (depends on the situation I guess) but I dont think I would leave her for that. see how the realtionship progresses.
3) His gf had ONS before
If she says so then ok but again I would be quite disappointed, I'll need some time to think about it but I dont think I'll look at her differently after a while, maybe I'd be more possesive.... if she deny and then I know from another source... wah piang! I'll be very angry... could lead to a break up.
4) His gf was molested or raped
Sad... take care of her more and not bring this up ever again.... but if she told me that she liked it... whoa! I think I'll stay away from her for a while and think about it.
Does he mind all these? I wouldnt really mind if she were to tell me in advance.
Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past? I would treat her the same... if she didnt tell me/in denial and I happen to find out from another source then I would treat her a bit differently.
Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose? I dont understand... I would have a sexual relationship with her if she wants to, not because she is loose.
In all cases I would want to know... cuz I think her history (sex, dating and all) can (I'm not saying that it would but there is a possibility, so it's better to clear things out) affect the present.... like the present can affect the future. But I'll want to know from her and not from any other source(s). So it'll be better if she told it to me in advance. i would be willing to accept even the most absurd cases. -
Dun mond at al...as long as after together she is no longer like that and be hornest to me all the while..is it ok for me.
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Common ppl... if you are mature adults, it does not matter what kind of past your GF has ( let alone your own history ).
What is important is being honest and sincere about your feelings towards your partner....
Love conquers all
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well..majority of u do not mind abt yr gf's past..hmm..keke..good..good..but..somehow..i believe tt somehow..sometime..when u hv nothing to do..or rather..sometime u too free liao..den..all of the sudden..u'll think abt yr gf doing tt to her ex..u will somehow feel a little jealous..i believe some of u will..(not all lah..)..it depends on yrself..how u handle yr emotion..sometime..u will juz said some hurtful words..which u noe tt u shouldn't be saying tt..but still..it came out frm yr mouth..hmm..but anyway..remember..there's no perfection..flawless in every human beings..u may say u will not mind..but after they've told u the truth..somehow..there's something in yr heart telling tt u do mind..a little..kekeke..
*p.s:..this refers to case(s) 1..2..3..as for case 4..hmm..dun hold it against them..dun think they wanna tt to happen too..* -
How about if his GF lost her virginity to her very own brother?
Or how about if she was still involved with him? -
Look like guys can go ONS but does not like ladies doing that.
Seems to me that guys really mind if their girlfiend is being molested or raped. -
i love her
not her past -
do u expect her to mind ur past then... hmm... enuff said...
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Don't have that 'past' for which you are refering to, hence would mind her past. I think one should get into relationships with the hope that it will lead to marriage one day and not just for kicks. In that view that person with whom you are going out with would one day become your wife. There's no way I can tolerate the thought of her with other men for a lifetime.Originally posted by Xander:do u expect her to mind ur past then... hmm... enuff said... -
well.. if we do mind... its either we carry on da relationship n spend da rest of da lifetime tryin to get over with it.. or we move on.. n stil spend da rest of our life lookin for 1 without a past...
so best thing is.. keep ur lips tight.. if ur other party is a not-so-forgivable type
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But wouldn't that contradict the fact that a relationship should be based on trust. If a person were to lie about his/her past and the other party were to find out about it, wouldn't that make things worse? If such a situation were to befall me one day (cross my fingers and pray real hard that it won't), I would appreciate it if the girl just tell me and let me decide whether to continue the relationship or not.Originally posted by Xander:well.. if we do mind... its either we carry on da relationship n spend da rest of da lifetime tryin to get over with it.. or we move on.. n stil spend da rest of our life lookin for 1 without a past...
so best thing is.. keep ur lips tight.. if ur other party is a not-so-forgivable type -
well..there's no perfection in tis mother earth..~
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Only yes to 2 & 3... how loose can she get?! If she can any how have sex wif a guy, how can I trust her? Be realistic ppl, if U have a stead (guy OR gal) who can have sex wif any1 B4 meeting U, can U guarantee he/she/it WONT have it when U 2 r together? Theres no trust or faith in dis R/S!!!Originally posted by Christy:If a guy find out his gf past, like the following:
1) His gf lost her virgin at a young age
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
3) His gf had ONS before
4) His gf was molested or raped
Does he mind all these? Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past? Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose? -
i dun tink i will mind.. cos its all in the past already.. my "gf" recently just asked me if i mind that shes not a virgin.. i replied with a no..
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Originally posted by Christy:If a guy find out his gf past, like the following:
1) His gf lost her virgin at a young age
2) His gf had sexual relationships with all her past bfs
3) His gf had ONS before
4) His gf was molested or raped
Does he mind all these? Will he treat her the same as before he knows her past? Will he have a sexual relationship with her just because he thinks she is loose?
1) no problem..still young..dunno things.
2) loose..wun b my GF in da 1st place at all.
3) depends on her age wen she did it.
4) i would love her even more..if that is even possible..might even be paranoid when she leaves my side or my sight..but the molester/rapist would be out of jail already. -
I think it all depends on how u knew it... if she tells me herself... i can accept it... if it is being rumoured and its e fact... i will have to listen to her explanation... mutual respect is very important in a relationship... trust too...if u accept her as a whole... accept her past too
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Looks liket to that guys wants to have sex with their gfs yet want their gf to be virgins.
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Cut us some slacks......not all guys mind their gf not being *V*
It just small part of the guys population giving their view here only. I believe there are some open-minded guys like me, accept their beloved one as what they are.
Dun one hit and overturn the whole boat -
Agree with Christy. guys want to sleep with as many girls as possible and yet want a virgin wife. what a laugh!
unless he has a clean record himself, who is he to mind? then all the girls should also reject him! -
How about:
If a girl find out his bf past, like the following:
1) His bf lost his virgin at a young age
2) His bf had sexual relationships with all his past gfs OR bfs *LOL
3) His bf had ONS before
4) His bf was molested or raped
Does she mind all these? Will she treat him the same as before she knows his past? Will she have a sexual relationship with himjust because she thinks he is loose? -
hmm i think the norm is guys wan to have sex with their gfs yet want a virgin wife sighzzOriginally posted by Christy:Looks liket to that guys wants to have sex with their gfs yet want their gf to be virgins.
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Agree! Ask the guys to dreamzzz on then...Originally posted by Berlinda:hmm i think the norm is guys wan to have sex with their gfs yet want a virgin wife sighzz -
Well, I totally agree. Guys out there, if you're expecting your wife to be a virgin, stop screwing around and you just might get lucky