no string attached relationships...
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anyone here has a no string attached relationship with the opp sex? ie sex without any commitment... ?
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had one b4....started off with mutual needs
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actually had ... but i don wish to ....cos i had already had alot of scandal...Originally posted by StudQueen:anyone here has a no string attached relationship with the opp sex? ie sex without any commitment... ? what i'm asking here is different from one night stands...
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are such relationships that scandalous and problematic.. well , i dunno if i've been in one.it was a fling which lasted a few occasions.(and it was kind of scandalous already
)i kind of want sumone who would give me more "priority" than a fling.. in terms of time , spending money ... 
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what i realy want to know is how do such relationships start out? and with whom...between long time good friends, classmates , aquaintances, colleagues? what is the age gap like?Originally posted by tr11112001:had one b4....started off with mutual needs
how long does the relationship last? etc etc...maybe u could share more on ur experience? 
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i did but have great regrets now.... stuff happened n i think we might not even be able to be frens in future.... too bad....
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began as fren in a pub, kind of admire each other for abt 3mths,but without telling each other. Thru conversionsations over the period, get to know each other's 'pattern of living', and then slowly habits.. worries.. and aspirations. Conversations seems to gel better as time goes by. After some nites out & some home-dinner, one thing leads to another.But she has her commitment in her home c'try and thats the balance where i/her need to strike. (be it $ or time). we r still frens now since we met a yr ago.Originally posted by StudQueen:what i realy want to know is how do such relationships start out? and with whom...between long time good friends, classmates , aquaintances, colleagues? what is the age gap like? how long does the relationship last? etc etc...maybe u could share more on ur experience? -
had one b4... it was kind of a mutual thingy.... she's my ex GF and when we were together.. we didn't had any XXX jus some stuffs....... some time after we broke off.... she started contacting me... and well... we found some excuses to meet up.... at my home.... and.... things started to happen.... but we didn;t haf any strings attach.... and this incident happens a few times..... and well.... we are still frens.... very close frens, that she can share all her sadness wif me~
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never try before...................
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i like to try
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how did things end up this way since it was supposed to have no strings attached?like u know from the start things should have been made clear and the line drawn..Originally posted by harryryan:i did but have great regrets now.... stuff happened n i think we might not even be able to be frens in future.... too bad....
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Well.. my experience is in some way similar but not quite too. i don't even know if it can be classified as a no strings attached Relationship, and i don't quite think so .. i mean it wasn't very relationship like. i just had sex with this guy on the three consecutive occasions i met up with him... the first time , i went to his place and things just happened. or perhaps both of us wanted things to happen. anyway now , i just found out my best friend wants to screw him as well. i don't feel betrayed or anything but i can't help but feel weird about it. none of us here ( the guy , my best friend and i) are doing it for love , we're all just plain horny , sex crazed and hence deprived ppl but i would rather her screw sumone else since its for fun anyway.well the point here i'm tryin to make is what is the line drawn in NSA relationships? would u let ur partner screw sumone else ?but then again ur partner is not exactly ur gf/bf ( such as my case ) so there's no good reason to be so uptight anyway...Originally posted by Ray of faith:had one b4... it was kind of a mutual thingy.... she's my ex GF and when we were together.. we didn't had any XXX jus some stuffs....... some time after we broke off.... she started contacting me... and well... we found some excuses to meet up.... at my home.... and.... things started to happen.... but we didn;t haf any strings attach.... and this incident happens a few times..... and well.... we are still frens.... very close frens, that she can share all her sadness wif me~ 
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was "she" married or attached?Originally posted by tr11112001:began as fren in a pub, kind of admire each other for abt 3mths,but without telling each other. Thru conversionsations over the period, get to know each other's 'pattern of living', and then slowly habits.. worries.. and aspirations. Conversations seems to gel better as time goes by. After some nites out & some home-dinner, one thing leads to another.But she has her commitment in her home c'try and thats the balance where i/her need to strike. (be it $ or time). we r still frens now since we met a yr ago.
ideally , i feel that in a NSA rltship both parties should be single..
actually what i want is kind of in between a sugar daddy , f*** buddy and a boyfriend( of course with the cash too) minus the headache of commitment
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Hi, I haven't been on this forum for a while, so this is my first post after a long while.
Stud Queen, regarding on your NSA r/s, I think things just start off with two hands clapping. I had been in one before and I am considering to get into another.
Just like anybody else, I had a bad experience in a previous relationships. I am pretty sceptical to commit in another now. It is probably going to be a short term mindset, but noone knows for sure. Even I don't know myself being involved without commitment will last for how long? But one thing I am sure of, it won't last forever. Someone is bound to jump out or be hurt if feelings start to develop. (You can't deny the fact that it might just happen)
Here is my two cents worth. I haven't made my mind if I should 'get involved but stay not committed'. I am still sorting out the battles in my mind.
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off topic, but after reading chocomousse's post.. no offense to everyone.. just a personal view.. here goes...
I've been reading stuff inside sgforums for some time.
It is sad to see that people are giving up on love.
I know no one can force this on anyone, but is that really love people are giving up on? Do they really know love?
Yes.. I know first hand, how a breakup or when things do not go as smoothly as planned can hurt. But only when you are open and vulnerable can you care for someone and let that someone care for you. And if you really love, that person can hurt you, badly. But love... love would allow you to pick yourself up, say to the person who hurt you, "that hurt, please don't do that again" and continue to love that person who hurt you... that is unconditional love... and no matter how wounded one is, the love continues.
As such, I can never understand how people can stop loving someone they claimed they loved.
Maybe I'm a sucker and a hopeless romantic at heart? Even if I'm to be rent asunder by love, I'll pick myself back up, and continue to love that person... and never give up on love...
Else the other route is to give up on my humanity... to have loveless relationships, to lust without love, to go through the motions of "lovemaking" without the tenderness of love that makes physical sharing of love special...
oh well... I rant on... I guess this type of no-strings relationship will never be for me. -
i started to feel something for her..... bad decision .....Originally posted by StudQueen:how did things end up this way since it was supposed to have no strings attached?like u know from the start things should have been made clear and the line drawn.. -
WANNA TRY...?? ~WAHAHAHahahahaha...Originally posted by BoYisHbOy:never try before................... " -
Hi bear,Originally posted by the Bear:off topic, but after reading chocomousse's post.. no offense to everyone.. just a personal view.. here goes...
I've been reading stuff inside sgforums for some time.
It is sad to see that people are giving up on love.
I know no one can force this on anyone, but is that really love people are giving up on? Do they really know love?
Yes.. I know first hand, how a breakup or when things do not go as smoothly as planned can hurt. But only when you are open and vulnerable can you care for someone and let that someone care for you. And if you really love, that person can hurt you, badly. But love... love would allow you to pick yourself up, say to the person who hurt you, "that hurt, please don't do that again" and continue to love that person who hurt you... that is unconditional love... and no matter how wounded one is, the love continues.
As such, I can never understand how people can stop loving someone they claimed they loved.
Maybe I'm a sucker and a hopeless romantic at heart? Even if I'm to be rent asunder by love, I'll pick myself back up, and continue to love that person... and never give up on love...
Else the other route is to give up on my humanity... to have loveless relationships, to lust without love, to go through the motions of "lovemaking" without the tenderness of love that makes physical sharing of love special...
oh well... I rant on... I guess this type of no-strings relationship will never be for me.
I wish I had the chance to love the person that I truly love again. Things have been different, she avoids me. I do still love her and I will always do. Its hard to explain my situation but I do know she is with another guy and are happy with the ways things are. Commitment means something to me, I had said lots of nasty things to her in the heat of anger, guess she is not willing to forgive that. Not just yet. I wouldn't know. I had hurt her feelings.
What had hurt me the most is the last day that I have met her and 'I don't love you anymore' is what she said. 'I still care about you, the times we had been together is because you are so nice to me, its hard to say no to you, you 're a good company.'
That had made up my mind and I had decided to let her go. (after a long mental struggle) She is the one for me, but I am not to her.
I have phobias now in commitment, and I am still trying to heal myself from that. Commitment or not, depends on the both of you.
Someday, I hope once again, I will be able to have a touch of true love.
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Commitment's tough... sometimes, we do need to take a few days to think.. do i really love her? am i good for her? all these questions.. and honesty is a must...
sometimes, even all of these are not enough...
we all have our regrets.. it's what reminds us of our humanity in a way... our flaws, our faults...
myself, i hurt my ex-gf with my sheer ignorance.. things that i had no idea.. things when i analyse, remind me that we're all human.. and sometimes, some things others take for granted, may not be.. things may not be as they seem...
i'd give my right arm, my right leg and my right eye.. just to not have hurt her...
hope you will be well i wish you peace, contentment and happinessOriginally posted by Chocomousse:Hi bear,
I wish I had the chance to love the person that I truly love again. Things have been different, she avoids me. I do still love her and I will always do. Its hard to explain my situation but I do know she is with another guy and are happy with the ways things are. Commitment means something to me, I had said lots of nasty things to her in the heat of anger, guess she is not willing to forgive that. Not just yet. I wouldn't know. I had hurt her feelings.
What had hurt me the most is the last day that I have met her and 'I don't love you anymore' is what she said. 'I still care about you, the times we had been together is because you are so nice to me, its hard to say no to you, you 're a good company.'
That had made up my mind and I had decided to let her go. (after a long mental struggle) She is the one for me, but I am not to her.
I have phobias now in commitment, and I am still trying to heal myself from that. Commitment or not, depends on the both of you.
Someday, I hope once again, I will be able to have a touch of true love.
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She's attached backed in her home ctry.Originally posted by StudQueen:was "she" married or attached?
ideally , i feel that in a NSA rltship both parties should be single..
actually what i want is kind of in between a sugar daddy , f*** buddy and a boyfriend( of course with the cash too) minus the headache of commitment
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Sometimes lust overwhelms everything. Sex only relationships exist because people think a pure sexual experience is just as valuable and legitimate as love.
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some do... and i cannot judge them.. it's their choice...
it is not and never will be for me tho...
am i weird?Originally posted by choco B:Sometimes lust overwhelms everything. Sex only relationships exist because people think a pure sexual experience is just as valuable and legitimate as love. -
No.
A person who deliberately & repeatedly gets into hurtful and destructive relationships feels the repurcussions later on, even if he/she enjoys short term gratification. IMO they tend to find it harder & harder to trust, to feel, to recognise what is real and valuable, from what is ultimately a charade.Originally posted by the Bear:some do... and i cannot judge them.. it's their choice...
it is not and never will be for me tho...
am i weird? -
well... i dont know... but these kind of relationshits dont do for me... if u wanna relationship, must be of full commitment type or whatever...
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interestin stories.. but guys/gals y ask so much ques... u al did it alreadi n y then now ask tis kind of ques.. everythin get e first time ... first time kiss first time have tis kind of relationship... wat is done is done.. now is e time 2 think.. wil u do it again?? did u like it?? do u wan 2 hold on 2 tis kind of stort terms luv makin/ juz sex??