no string attached relationships...
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wow. suddenly this whole thread has a whole new agenda-love.
seems like there are ppl here who are still very pro "commitment and love" relationships.
it's not that i disagree with that. absolutely not. in fact sometimes i wish i could have more desirable qualities and character to enable myself to be in such a relationship and make it last.
i was in a relationship with someone really great. the thing is there's this part of me which just loves excitement/thrills/meeting new ppl.. and being somebody's gf is gonna hold me back real bad.plus i think since i'm a pretty sensual and sexual human being i should have gone for a more sensual and sexual guy. u know what i mean?there's a lot of guilt and frustration involved when you don't feel physically ( or rather sexually) attracted to your partner and yet feel the emotional responsibility to carry on the relationship coz u know he loves u /cares for u .. blah .. etc etc.
that's how i felt.i mean now i still regard my ex as someone whom i care for but i guess i have different needs.maybe i still feel this way toawrds him partly because i made a decision to love him in the first place.
it's hard to judge no string attached relationships coz ppl who go into them are simply satisfying there own needs. be it $$$ or lust. -
I guess it's because people loosely use the words "making love"... when they are actually gratifying their lust.. it's a totally different thing to the romantics and those who are serious about their partners... emotional love must be the sole driving force of the physical love... without love, it's just f-ing... and that's not an option
From your words, I am not judging, but I'm going to flip into my analysis mode...
seems like you will probably head towards something instantly physically gratifying... this may affect your ability to have a stable relationship with anyone at all... the moment that person stops becoming physically attractive to you, you are going to ditch him although you say you care for him... for someone who can gratify you physically.. or worse, you may cheat on him... breaking his heart and you will feel lots and lots of guilt
this may result in some kind of vicious cycle where you are going to feel a lot of guilt each time you ditch a man you tired of...
guilt, when not resolved, turns people into emotional and physical basket-cases.
flips back to normal mode.....
I guess what may throw a spanner into the cogs of your NSA r/s is the fact that you feel guilt and frustration...Originally posted by StudQueen:wow. suddenly this whole thread has a whole new agenda-love.
seems like there are ppl here who are still very pro "commitment and love" relationships.
it's not that i disagree with that. absolutely not. in fact sometimes i wish i could have more desirable qualities and character to enable myself to be in such a relationship and make it last.
i was in a relationship with someone really great. the thing is there's this part of me which just loves excitement/thrills/meeting new ppl.. and being somebody's gf is gonna hold me back real bad.plus i think since i'm a pretty sensual and sexual human being i should have gone for a more sensual and sexual guy. u know what i mean?there's a lot of guilt and frustration involved when you don't feel physically ( or rather sexually) attracted to your partner and yet feel the emotional responsibility to carry on the relationship coz u know he loves u /cares for u .. blah .. etc etc.
that's how i felt.i mean now i still regard my ex as someone whom i care for but i guess i have different needs.maybe i still feel this way toawrds him partly because i made a decision to love him in the first place.
it's hard to judge no string attached relationships coz ppl who go into them are simply satisfying there own needs. be it $$$ or lust. -
Hi Stud Queen,Originally posted by StudQueen:wow. suddenly this whole thread has a whole new agenda-love.
seems like there are ppl here who are still very pro "commitment and love" relationships.
it's not that i disagree with that. absolutely not. in fact sometimes i wish i could have more desirable qualities and character to enable myself to be in such a relationship and make it last.
i was in a relationship with someone really great. the thing is there's this part of me which just loves excitement/thrills/meeting new ppl.. and being somebody's gf is gonna hold me back real bad.plus i think since i'm a pretty sensual and sexual human being i should have gone for a more sensual and sexual guy. u know what i mean?there's a lot of guilt and frustration involved when you don't feel physically ( or rather sexually) attracted to your partner and yet feel the emotional responsibility to carry on the relationship coz u know he loves u /cares for u .. blah .. etc etc.
that's how i felt.i mean now i still regard my ex as someone whom i care for but i guess i have different needs.maybe i still feel this way toawrds him partly because i made a decision to love him in the first place.
it's hard to judge no string attached relationships coz ppl who go into them are simply satisfying there own needs. be it $$$ or lust.
You are right about NSA r/s. Its more for personal and self gains.
But, I am sure of this, being in love, will make the impossible possible. The taste of love...I will never be able to resist it.
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actually your "analysis" is pretty true to an extent.and what u've said , esp the part abt"seems like you will probably head towards something instantly physically gratifying... this may affect your ability to have a stable relationship with anyone at all... " that is the exact TRUTH which i've come to terms with with myself.Originally posted by the Bear:I guess it's because people loosely use the words "making love"... when they are actually gratifying their lust.. it's a totally different thing to the romantics and those who are serious about their partners... emotional love must be the sole driving force of the physical love... without love, it's just f-ing... and that's not an option
From your words, I am not judging, but I'm going to flip into my analysis mode...
seems like you will probably head towards something instantly physically gratifying... this may affect your ability to have a stable relationship with anyone at all... the moment that person stops becoming physically attractive to you, you are going to ditch him although you say you care for him... for someone who can gratify you physically.. or worse, you may cheat on him... breaking his heart and you will feel lots and lots of guilt
this may result in some kind of vicious cycle where you are going to feel a lot of guilt each time you ditch a man you tired of...
guilt, when not resolved, turns people into emotional and physical basket-cases.
flips back to normal mode.....
I guess what may throw a spanner into the cogs of your NSA r/s is the fact that you feel guilt and frustration...
one reason why i want a NSA relationship is because i don't want to have the burden of feeling guilty and frustrated, esp since i'm not into it for love there's no big deal if anything crops up.
at least i admit i'm a selfish being... and i simply can't live without physical gratification. in fact i live for it..
( i think lots of ppl here can identify with that too)
okay anyway back on track here.... i really appreciate all you ppl here who have posted your comments here and none of it is crap or corny statements..
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You Owe Me Nothing in Return
Its one of my favourtie songs by Alanis Morissettte.
It's about a NSA relationship, and I think it's cool.
NookieNookieNookie.
I'm trying to catch a guy for a monogamous sexual relationship and nothing else.
I think making out with a good looking friend with a nice personality and all is a great deal.
Monogamy is important in a NSA relationship (to me) so yeah, there's ONE string attached in that case. -
ha....hey ya.... think u will attract alot of attention to urself this way.... if u post ur pic here...even more pple will start to pm u.... careful k...btw...how's e works for our graphic novel coming along?Originally posted by Alice in Underpants:You Owe Me Nothing in Return
Its one of my favourtie songs by Alanis Morissettte.
It's about a NSA relationship, and I think it's cool.
NookieNookieNookie.
I'm trying to catch a guy for a monogamous sexual relationship and nothing else.
I think making out with a good looking friend with a nice personality and all is a great deal.
Monogamy is important in a NSA relationship (to me) so yeah, there's ONE string attached in that case. -
I think people have different needs at times and there's nothing wrong in getting it fulfilled. As long as they stay clear headed, honest to themselves and to their partners and act responsibly.
To me lust comes before love in any relationship, like you I cannot imagine being with someone I don't find attractive. But it was possible in several cases to grow to love a person after I was with him, it grew from a strong liking & lust. I guess you just never know what'll turn out till you try it.Originally posted by StudQueen:that's how i felt.i mean now i still regard my ex as someone whom i care for but i guess i have different needs.maybe i still feel this way toawrds him partly because i made a decision to love him in the first place.
it's hard to judge no string attached relationships coz ppl who go into them are simply satisfying there own needs. be it $$$ or lust. -
Originally posted by StudQueen:i really appreciate all you ppl here who have posted your comments here and none of it is crap or corny statements..
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i actually have a relationship like that...
i met up with a friend on icq. She's my friend that i never meet since form 1. One day she start asking me and chatting about XXX stuff with me...and suddenly we feel hot. Then we start to plan our meet and hv some small action.
And afterschool (we from same school) we meet at school gate.
We start to walk to my house since my house is near..
and one damm lucky thing happen that day is that my parents wasn't around...
We start to hug each other on my sofa...
and we start up with some french and i start to act 'unnormal'
we went into my parents' bedroom and have sex...
after sex...we turn into a more close friend...and when we meet each other we just smile...haha...can't forget about such a steam experience -
i guess i'll never want to feel this way, not make anyone feel this way...
personal preference...
Ordinary Morning
I left a man
Asleep in the nude
My name in my pocket
With lipstick and rouge
Everything I ever wanted, what a lovely pie you've baked, is anybody listening?
Don't painted birds ever fly away?
It's just an ordinary morning
It's just an ordinary day
And I'm just an ordinary woman
Slipping away
The walls have been talking
About me again
I'm good for a joke but when I awoke
The dream didn't end
Now everytime I turn around I'm only sleeping, John is anybody out there?
Don't the wounded birds still sing
It's just an ordinary morning
It's just an ordinary day
And I'm just an ordinary woman
Slipping away -
I had always wanted to try and after trying it a few years back, I think it is really fun and cool... especially the part where you know you will not get hurt when she goes out with someone else, that she may sleep with someone else.... and all the crap that if she is your gf you will go crazy and kill both of them.... hahahaha
Have not done it for a long time and actually getting quite horny these days so if anyone interested, please contact me ya....
I am actually quite cute so if you are not that cute please don't bother.... -
my dog's pretty cute and she's damn bloody horny these few days too... wanna try her????Originally posted by zwever:I had always wanted to try and after trying it a few years back, I think it is really fun and cool... especially the part where you know you will not get hurt when she goes out with someone else, that she may sleep with someone else.... and all the crap that if she is your gf you will go crazy and kill both of them.... hahahaha
Have not done it for a long time and actually getting quite horny these days so if anyone interested, please contact me ya....
I am actually quite cute so if you are not that cute please don't bother.... 
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Sometimes people lose their way in life for a bit but rest assure they'll come back to the right track, it's just a matter of time. But what IS the right track?
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my dog's pretty cute and she's damn bloody horny these few days too...
Must admit leh, your dog not bad, got big tits not?
Hahahaha.... arrange a time and place, preferably a park, so I can bang your dog lah..... hahahahaha
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Originally posted by zwever:Must admit leh, your dog not bad, got big tits not? Hahahaha.... arrange a time and place, preferably a park, so I can bang your dog lah..... hahahahaha
Cheers mate -
haha.. my doggie has NINE nipples... but sorry lar.. they are really small.. but nice to pinch though... heh
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Good stuff... me into small nipples... somemore got 9 of them to play with.... hahahaha...
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haha .. btw my dog is till a virgin leh... so i don't think its a good idea for you to deflower her....
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my dog's pretty cute and she's damn bloody horny these few days too... wanna try her????
Walau, you offered your dog to me leh, now retract your offer.... steady......
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haa... if ur cock small okay lar... my dog very tiny leh...